flimzy24:
get both arrested for electoral violence..

TheFilmmaker:


What the hell are you people saying? A woman slapped my mom? And you expect me to take it like it's Nescafé? Why is everybody so hypocritical in judging? My wife can not even have the effrontery to slap my junior sister, not to talk of my mother. WTF are you people talking self?

TheFilmmaker:


Yeah, if the OP can handle the post-argument depression, he should tell his mother no way. By the way, are you married? how would you feel if you're married to my sister, and one day you come home to find your mom being whoozed by my sis?

I can't believe there are moral jokers like this in real life.

aflyingbird:
why are some of y'all blaming the wife ?

ugwum007:


you na tout, what will you be looking for in your son's wife home?

onoja12:
So your wife fought with your mother over pictures,please ask your wife one question,would she stop her own mother from taking does pictures.if not then she is a disrespectful,arrogant idiot. definitely she should be kicked out of your house before she brings bigger trouble to you

perfectionist:
Nairalanders, I'm in a quagmire! About one week ago, my mother came to visit my family with her sister and a friend. After the preliminary greetings and felicitations, I proceeded to take leave of my guests in order to go and service my car, leaving them in the hands of my wife after having provided some refreshments for them.
Now, my wife and mother have no love lost between them and barely get along but the joviality they displayed together in my presence combined with the fact that my mother's sister and friend were also around made me to believe all will be well and nothing will go wrong.
No sooner had I left home than I received a frantic call from my wife to return quickly that all hell had broken loose.
Upon getting home, I found my mother and my wife on the 3-seater going at each other with both wailing. I managed to separate them and proceeded to find the cause of the fight. I was told by the two onlookers (mother's sister and a friend) that my wife prevented my mother from taking some photos of the child dedication we did a few weeks back from the photo album. This incensed my mother and led to my wife being slapped following which all hell was broken loose. My mother even sustained a deep scratch on her face.
Now, my family members have insisted that my wife must leave the house for committing this abomination (their words, not mine). Indeed, my mother has told me in no uncertain terms that mother and son relationship has ended as long as my wife continues to remain in the house.
I love my wife and has two young children with her but this whole issue has complicated things.
What should I do? Your candid advice and suggestions will be appreciated.

Osas001:



My advice stay and keep your family working. it's not right to send your wife out of the house on the grounds of family instruction.. this is 2015, not 1982 where families decide on whatever they feel like and then leave the pain to you and kids... No matter what, keep ur family intact... Mothers can be the sweetest and also can be the most annoying sometimes, but if she meant peace shld wouldn't have slapped ur wife or take such a decision while you were not at home... No matter what. your Mom will always remain your Mom, no family decision can change that, but as for your wife, it's ur happiness and kids happiness and ur Godly ordained blessings that they want to trample upon. May God give you a complete wisdom to handle the issue right... If it were me, I would scold my mom, my sistrr get friend and the family that said or gave the instruction... What they won't accept, they shld rub it off on u.. Simple!

TheFilmmaker:


If the relationship between the mom and the wife was good, I'm sure there won't be such a fuss. You people need an introduction to psychology. The wife is already painting an evil picture in the minds of the kids. Just imagine what she would have been telling the kids about her. I once experienced the siituation where hate was left to foster between a mother inlaw and wife and I know how dangerous it can be.

If the wife is not ready to make ammends to her fiery fingers (and tongue) you should return her to her parents. Love conquers all. If she truly loves you (and you want to make your mother/family happy) she should be ready to apologize.

Tell her to shut her ego, otherwise send her back to her family. Marriage is a privilege not a necessity.

By the way, I suspect this might have to do with the way the OP represents his parents in his own family. No offense, but if you don't respect your kin, you expect me to?

richyblink1:


Landlord, sending your wife away because your mother said so is not a solution to solving the issue.

Yes the wife is so so wrong for fighting her mother in law. But let me ask you, assuming it was her own daughter who refused letting her to have the pictures, would she have slapped her? I don't think so.

A man don't get to send his wife away just because his mother said so. Sending her away will not solve the issues between mother and wife, but tracing the root cause and getting the wife to apologize will go a long way to ensure peace and love reigns between them.

perfectionist:
Nairalanders, I'm in a quagmire! About one week ago, my mother came to visit my family with her sister and a friend. After the preliminary greetings and felicitations, I proceeded to take leave of my guests in order to go and service my car, leaving them in the hands of my wife after having provided some refreshments for them.
Now, my wife and mother have no love lost between them and barely get along but the joviality they displayed together in my presence combined with the fact that my mother's sister and friend were also around made me to believe all will be well and nothing will go wrong.
No sooner had I left home than I received a frantic call from my wife to return quickly that all hell had broken loose.
Upon getting home, I found my mother and my wife on the 3-seater going at each other with both wailing. I managed to separate them and proceeded to find the cause of the fight. I was told by the two onlookers (mother's sister and a friend) that my wife prevented my mother from taking some photos of the child dedication we did a few weeks back from the photo album. This incensed my mother and led to my wife being slapped following which all hell was broken loose. My mother even sustained a deep scratch on her face.
Now, my family members have insisted that my wife must leave the house for committing this abomination (their words, not mine). Indeed, my mother has told me in no uncertain terms that mother and son relationship has ended as long as my wife continues to remain in the house.
I love my wife and has two young children with her but this whole issue has complicated things.
What should I do? Your candid advice and suggestions will be appreciated.

aflyingbird:
no respectable elder ( man or woman ) will lay their hands on another person . no respectable elder will engage in violence . in the court of law , the person who hits first gets blamed . i don't stay in Nigeria so carry go with ur primitive ways of living . it's only in Nigeria that pple will blame the poor wife for something like this , no wonder the country is 200 yrs behind from the rest of the world

ugwum007:


there is no fire without smoke. that woman is your wife, while should the mum slap her in the first place. to tell u the truth, your mum is a visitor in your matrimony home and should abide by the norms and condition set be the wife. we nigerians are very sentimental about issues, the mum should be educated enough to know that you can't slap some people and go scot free especially if u re in the person's home.

Amybijou:


The last time I checked, I am STILL entitled to my opinions. Won't join u in insulting cos am not silly.
For ur question, am not crazy so I'll NEVER maltreat or slap my daughter cos mum does not treat hers in that manner. Neither will I fight my mother inlaw.
Be guided.

ZACHIE:
Yeah, kinda complicated considering Mother-Son bond but, a few things need to be got straight.

One, by what magic was your wife able to phone you while battling with your mother on the sofa?

Aside that however, if indeed your Mum asked to be given those pictures, your wife has no choice but to give her, after all, you call always reprint them.
EVEN If she didn`t demand for the pictures and took them, your wife still should sheathe her bad manners and for the sake of peace, give her the pictures.

Nonissue.

But, since she has no respect left whatsoever for your Mum and your Mum wouldn't trade her pride for peace, you may need to play the Devil,s advocacy here.

Talk to the both of them as candidly as possible. No stories.

Tell them how much you love them both. And how much you want them in your life.
But that if they continue to live like mutual enemies, YOU the MAN WILL BE GONE.

GONE FOR THE 2 OF THEM TO EAT THEMSELVES UP.