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Gay And Depressed. by Depressedguy: 5:03pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Being gay is my life regret, i have questioned God and myself how i got to this stage. I just feel like commiting suicide. Here is my story, my name is Frank, 26, a banker. I am the envy of most women, because am 6.2" tall, fair and very handsome. My nickname is Ramsey Noah, this is to tell you how good looking i am. But i have a very BIG problem, i am attracted to the same sex. This is a problem i have come to notice at teen, i love girls company more than guys, i play all the girl plays and hate football, am guessing that could be where my formation was transposed. I ended up liking what girls like when am not one. But i have come to change a few things becuase i went to a boarding house and was always ridiculed for that. So i changed so many things there, the way i talk, the way i walk, and my gestures, also i love football now more than anything, but my sexuality has refused to change. I have all it takes to get a woman, i have a good job, a car, and live alone. But at this age, i have not seen a womans pants not to talk of getting in between. But i have so many female friends, so many that the always take me for a player. Am jovial with them, buy them gifts and treat them well, but am not sexually attracted to any of them and have no feelings whatsoever. Am just a good guy, i know that, because that is the best i can do to cover up my little secret. And they(ladies) love me too and many are dying for my attention. I have been asked out so many times by ladies. One even offered to pay all the bills just for us to get intimate, but i declined, lying that i have a girlfriend i dont want to cheat on. To make matters worse, i hate being gay, sometimes i go celibate for as long as six(6) months simply because i hate my life and my sexuality. Am always alone, indoors all through the weekend, because going out with guys will result to girl talk and i have nothing to contribute, me of all persons, so hard to believe. I also hate gay companies, so many regrets afterwards as to why i am this way. I envy straight guys to the core, i so much wish i am one. When i see a guy and a girl holding hands and taking a walk, i have this feeling of giult amd hatred for myself that i quickly get depressed. Here is the problem, i want to marry early, at least before 28 or max 30. I need to connect to a woman and force myself into a relationship. I need to get attracted to a womans body, and get turned on by that. And finally, i need to learn how to tolerate a woman, and live with thier baggage. Am comfortable as a single man, i dont mind living alone till i die, i can cook well and am not a sex freak, i can live for years without it. But i want kids, i love them and cant wait to have a daughter. I have once told myself that once i get married and have kids, i will divoorce my wife and live alone then the kids can stay anywhere. But this idea is pure foolishness. I am very religious, as a matter if fact, this conditionn is the only sin i battle with, i know we all have one. I hardly commit any other sin. But i know that just this one is very mortal, but we are all strugglling because we are all flesh. It takes the grace of God to overcome sin generally.(Please dont come and critisize, we are all going to the same hell: homosexual, hetrosexual; and no sin is worse than the other.) This my condition is getting me more depressed by the day and sometimes i wish to end my life. But i like my life more than anything, so am thinking of patronising prostitutes at least to get feel of what it takes like. But am afriad of STIs. Please help a brother... 47 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by djeezy(m): 5:07pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Op your post is imbued with regrets which ofcourse is part of human frailty and clearly indicate that you are ready to change. From your story I inferred that you were not born gay. It was an act you nurtured while growing as a child to adulthood. Progress can be made to this effect if you are determined to change. However I have some few questions for you. 1. Do you feel guilty because you know and feel that such act is bad or you feel guilty because society abhors it? 2. Do you feel guilty because you may not be able to marry or maintain a successful marriage? Marriage target should not be your priority for now until you have fully worked on yourself. You wouldn't want a situation where you'd be married with kids and still have gay tendencies. This will subsequently lead to break down of the marriage and inter alia, viz divorce. What do you do to help yourself. *Seek counselling. *Find people who have successfully transformed from gay to straight and ask them how they did it. *Success stories could trigger the zeal to change. *Become close to God. Odds are God plays a pivotal role in such a situation. It's something you cannot do on your own. *Start hooking up with girls....It's time to start getting laid..Yes you need hot gals in your life. 62 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by alberto2k(m): 5:09pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
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Re: Gay And Depressed. by dopeboi142: 5:10pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
I feel your pain bro.maybe you should see a shrink(psychologist).keep praying to God his the great healer. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by harrysterol(m): 5:11pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
op am I to take you serious? for real ![]() simdam500 will Advise you better my 1 cent cut ur pepe because is of no use to you and the ladies 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by ronald4lif(m): 5:13pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Oh well. Can the religious propagandists now scroll downwards 30 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Vyolet(f): 5:13pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
I do not believe anyone was born gay. You are what you feel you are. The good thing is,you have a sense of guilt already,just try and mingle more with women. Pick one from the numerous around you,study her and get involved with her sexually if she is willing. You will get used to it with time. 26 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 5:19pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
In all seriousness, have you tried praying about it? Nothing is impossible. 24 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by martineverest(m): 5:19pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
U need a psychologist and a serious 'corrective sex'. 2 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Kkzy90(m): 5:19pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
This is the problem I have with most clueless NL guys,I guess common sense is hard to find these days.. A brother was brave enough to share his most secret problem probably to get a suitable advice,yet some stupid fellow above are abusing him..if you have nothing reasonable to say why not keep quiet and observe cos you might learn a thing or two from peeps that has reaonable advice to offer... Well,Op I think you should seek God's face in this matter..Cos with God,all things are possible... 103 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by ronald4lif(m): 5:21pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by martineverest(m): 5:22pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
D guys wants to change from his sexual orientation,he needs encouragement from ppl especially psychologist, and from ur statement,it seems u re trying to tell him to continue with his gayish orientation ronald4lif: 18 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 5:22pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Depressedguy: Your write-up brought me to tears, really! 16 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Eastherbunny(m): 5:25pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
@op you're not gay. For the fact that you hate being gay means collective you are normal but have a medical problem. Pls go and see a doctor. 4 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by ronald4lif(m): 5:26pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
martineverest: You still don't get it. People don't change their sexuality, it's a natural trait. Can a heterosexual change to gay, will you advise heterosexual to become gay? 23 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by simdam500(m): 5:28pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
harrysterol: how prayer of rigging take affect dis 1 na Oga mi... I don read the He's already going against any advice anybody can give him... If I advise him to visit a prostitute he'll say he's afraid of std'd. Avoid staying alone, he will say he loves been indoor. Avoid guys, he will say he find guys association welcoming. He even says he's scared of women baggages. I want to ask does he mean he hate ass and booBÿ... He has the solution to his prob jawe ![]() 9 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Mhizizzy(f): 5:29pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Pray about it 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Depressedguy: 5:30pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
ronald4lif: Thanks, but this is no life. For how long, apart from any other thing else, I want to make Heaven. So its either I go celibate, or I get used to women. and the former is easier. 11 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by simdam500(m): 5:30pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
martineverest: U need a psychologist and a serious ' I doubt he can do |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by martineverest(m): 5:31pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Says who?....orientation can be changed....y do we need psychologist?.....gayism is not natural,abeg ronald4lif: 26 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by harrysterol(m): 5:31pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
simdam500:borrow him ur gf for a night na ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by simdam500(m): 5:32pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
missclasssy: Does his write up remind u of something? ![]() 7 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by simdam500(m): 5:32pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
harrysterol: borrow him ur gf for a night na He go run!!! ![]() ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by jmoore(m): 5:33pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Some gays have turned around having seen the light. They rejected homosexuality and other immoral acts attached to it. Below is testimony from a former Gay advocate
If a former gay advocate can reject homosexuality, you can do it too. Don't swallow the lie that "You were born that way". Homosexuality is insanity, it is evil!!! Reject it and be set free!! In the words of Former gay activist, Michael Glatze "Homosexuality is death, and I choose life.” 75 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by ronald4lif(m): 5:34pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Depressedguy: Well, brother I wish you the best and I hope you find solution to your problem. 1 Like |
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