simdam500:


Does his write up remind u of something?

martineverest:
Says who?....orientation can be changed....y do we need psychologist?.....gayism is not natural,abeg

ronald4lif:


You still don't get it. People don't change their sexuality, it's a natural trait. Can a heterosexual change to gay, will you advise heterosexual to become gay?

missclasssy:

Not really
I just empathize with the op's situation to a certain level.....

ronald4lif:


Is gay an orientation? Is there a new meaning to the term orientation?

martineverest:
A kind of sexual orientation.

ronald4lif:


Baba, you win biko. I don't have the strength for this gayish argument again. Na amebo push me to this one again.

martineverest:
Ok,my oga.....but nxt time no support gay

alberto2k:
Taa! Goan cut that your abuna!

Or what other help do u need?

Oh oh.... sorry, you need a knife?
idiat!

nobilis:
OP, first and foremost, thanks for being so frank. Very few people can summon such courage.

Being gay is not evil. Yes. You read me right. Being gay is not evil. Even the bible never condemned being gay. What the bible talked about was having sex with someone of the same gender. But that will be talk for another day.

Secondly, you have prayed and prayed and nothing seems to work. Does it mean God doesn't answer your prayers? No. It means that there is nothing wrong with you.

If you keep feeling you need to change, then you will always be depressed and in the end, you might end up committing suicide. And that will be a loss to you, your family and society.

Do not mind people who tell you that homosexuality can be corrected. It cannot. Because it is not a disorder nor an aberration. The American Psychiatric Association wasn't foolish when they removed it from their catalogue of diseases.

All those people who are quoted to have escaped homosexuality, try and trace their lives afterwards. And you will see things for yourself.
And all those people who are overtly homophobic, follow their lives nd you'll see things for yourself.

Getting married will not make you straight. Having sex with women will not make you straight. Even if you have as many women as Solomon had, it cannot make you straight. It cannot drown that same-sex attraction. It is a part of who you are.

Inasmuch as it is a part of who you are, dont make your life to be centered around your sexuality. That you're gay doesn't mean you can't be successful in your life nd career. Learn how to balance your life with your sexuality. That is the only way you can battle this depression you're talking about. Getting married will not make u overcome this depression. Rather it will make it worse (unless you're bisexual).

What you need in your life now is a close friend and confidante. Someone who can understand you. Someone who cn be there for you and also keep an eye on you and ur depressive tendencies. Whether man or woman, it doesnt matter. But that is the first step to healing yourself.

Then as time goes on, other steps will be made available to you.

Depressedguy:



Wow, the best advice so far. Thanks bro

Depressedguy:
Being gay is my life regret, i have questioned God and myself how i got to this stage. I just feel like commiting suicide.

Here is my story, my name is Frank, 26, a banker. I am the envy of most women, because am 6.2" tall, fair and very handsome. My nickname is Ramsey Noah, this is to tell you how good looking i am. But i have a very BIG problem, i am attracted to the same sex.

This is a problem i have come to notice at teen, i love girls company more than guys, i play all the girl plays and hate football, am guessing that could be where my formation was transposed. I ended up liking what girls like when am not one. But i have come to change a few things becuase i went to a boarding house and was always ridiculed for that. So i changed so many things there, the way i talk, the way i walk, and my gestures, also i love football now more than anything, but my sexuality has refused to change.

I have all it takes to get a woman, i have a good job, a car, and live alone. But at this age, i have not seen a womans pants not to talk of getting in between. But i have so many female friends, so many that the always take me for a player. Am jovial with them, buy them gifts and treat them well, but am not sexually attracted to any of them and have no feelings whatsoever. Am just a good guy, i know that, because that is the best i can do to cover up my little secret. And they(ladies) love me too and many are dying for my attention. I have been asked out so many times by ladies. One even offered to pay all the bills just for us to get intimate, but i declined, lying that i have a girlfriend i dont want to cheat on.

To make matters worse, i hate being gay, sometimes i go celibate for as long as six(6) months simply because i hate my life and my sexuality. Am always alone, indoors all through the weekend, because going out with guys will result to girl talk and i have nothing to contribute, me of all persons, so hard to believe. I also hate gay companies, so many regrets afterwards as to why i am this way. I envy straight guys to the core, i so much wish i am one. When i see a guy and a girl holding hands and taking a walk, i have this feeling of giult amd hatred for myself that i quickly get depressed.

Here is the problem, i want to marry early, at least before 28 or max 30. I need to connect to a woman and force myself into a relationship. I need to get attracted to a womans body, and get turned on by that. And finally, i need to learn how to tolerate a woman, and live with thier baggage. Am comfortable as a single man, i dont mind living alone till i die, i can cook well and am not a sex freak, i can live for years without it. But i want kids, i love them and cant wait to have a daughter. I have once told myself that once i get married and have kids, i will divoorce my wife and live alone then the kids can stay anywhere. But this idea is pure foolishness.

I am very religious, as a matter if fact, this conditionn is the only sin i battle with, i know we all have one. I hardly commit any other sin. But i know that just this one is very mortal, but we are all strugglling because we are all flesh. It takes the grace of God to overcome sin generally.(Please dont come and critisize, we are all going to the same hell: homosexual, hetrosexual; and no sin is worse than the other.)

This my condition is getting me more depressed by the day and sometimes i wish to end my life. But i like my life more than anything, so am thinking of patronising prostitutes at least to get feel of what it takes like. But am afriad of STIs.

Please help a brother...

Rainess:
You were born this way and you cannot change that. Why would God make you this way if it wasn't his will? You can't force yourself to love women and to be faithful to one for the rest of your life.. I don't think this is possible for you or fair to her. I live in Canada and here we accept gays. They love, they marry and they have kids! If I were you and it was possible I would move somewhere more accepting of gay people, where I could accept myself and live a happy life.

KevinBrown:


I don't have a problem with someone being Gay, but God didn't make him Gay. Environmental and Psychological factors did. And its possible for him to change.

Rainess:

I completely disagree with you. You say it's possible for him to change from gay to straight. So do you think you to change from straight to gay? I know I couldn't.

KevinBrown:


Whatever I say is from experience. It's totally possible for someone to change from being straight to gay, and vice versa.

Rainess:


Well you are now officially the only straight person I've ever talked to who thinks he/she could become gay.

chimerase2:
Op do u hv feelings 4 ua soap?

KevinBrown:


What does it mean nah?

KevinBrown:


Lol.
I've been straight-gay-straight

Rainess:


Unlikely. You're just bi.

Depressedguy:
Being gay is my life regret, i have questioned God and myself how i got to this stage. I just feel like commiting suicide.

Here is my story, my name is Frank, 26, a banker. I am the envy of most women, because am 6.2" tall, fair and very handsome. My nickname is Ramsey Noah, this is to tell you how good looking i am. But i have a very BIG problem, i am attracted to the same sex.

This is a problem i have come to notice at teen, i love girls company more than guys, i play all the girl plays and hate football, am guessing that could be where my formation was transposed. I ended up liking what girls like when am not one. But i have come to change a few things becuase i went to a boarding house and was always ridiculed for that. So i changed so many things there, the way i talk, the way i walk, and my gestures, also i love football now more than anything, but my sexuality has refused to change.

I have all it takes to get a woman, i have a good job, a car, and live alone. But at this age, i have not seen a womans pants not to talk of getting in between. But i have so many female friends, so many that the always take me for a player. Am jovial with them, buy them gifts and treat them well, but am not sexually attracted to any of them and have no feelings whatsoever. Am just a good guy, i know that, because that is the best i can do to cover up my little secret. And they(ladies) love me too and many are dying for my attention. I have been asked out so many times by ladies. One even offered to pay all the bills just for us to get intimate, but i declined, lying that i have a girlfriend i dont want to cheat on.

To make matters worse, i hate being gay, sometimes i go celibate for as long as six(6) months simply because i hate my life and my sexuality. Am always alone, indoors all through the weekend, because going out with guys will result to girl talk and i have nothing to contribute, me of all persons, so hard to believe. I also hate gay companies, so many regrets afterwards as to why i am this way. I envy straight guys to the core, i so much wish i am one. When i see a guy and a girl holding hands and taking a walk, i have this feeling of giult amd hatred for myself that i quickly get depressed.

Here is the problem, i want to marry early, at least before 28 or max 30. I need to connect to a woman and force myself into a relationship. I need to get attracted to a womans body, and get turned on by that. And finally, i need to learn how to tolerate a woman, and live with thier baggage. Am comfortable as a single man, i dont mind living alone till i die, i can cook well and am not a sex freak, i can live for years without it. But i want kids, i love them and cant wait to have a daughter. I have once told myself that once i get married and have kids, i will divoorce my wife and live alone then the kids can stay anywhere. But this idea is pure foolishness.

I am very religious, as a matter if fact, this conditionn is the only sin i battle with, i know we all have one. I hardly commit any other sin. But i know that just this one is very mortal, but we are all strugglling because we are all flesh. It takes the grace of God to overcome sin generally.(Please dont come and critisize, we are all going to the same hell: homosexual, hetrosexual; and no sin is worse than the other.)

This my condition is getting me more depressed by the day and sometimes i wish to end my life. But i like my life more than anything, so am thinking of patronising prostitutes at least to get feel of what it takes like. But am afriad of STIs.

Please help a brother...

chimerase2:
somtims after a hectic day u need to type rubbish just to calm ua brain