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Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 5:35pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
simdam500: Not really I just empathize with the op's situation to a certain level..... |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by ronald4lif(m): 5:35pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
martineverest: Is gay an orientation? Is there a new meaning to the term orientation? |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Depressedguy: 5:36pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
ronald4lif: You are right bro, in all my research, the only remedy is abstinence and suppression. Gays in medical rehabs are only taught how to suppress there feelings for same sex and avoid those who turn them on. And most especially, pray about it. 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by simdam500(m): 5:38pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
missclasssy: Hmm diff stroke for diff folks... he'll pass if he make up his mind ![]() |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by martineverest(m): 5:38pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
A kind of sexual orientation. ronald4lif: |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by ronald4lif(m): 6:02pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
martineverest: Baba, you win biko. I don't have the strength for this gayish argument again. Na amebo push me to this one again. ![]() |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by martineverest(m): 6:10pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Ok,my oga.....but nxt time no support gay ronald4lif: |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by ronald4lif(m): 6:11pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
martineverest: Okay boss, noted. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by rockshandy(f): 6:13pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
OP, I applaud you for coming here and sharing your story and knowing that not everyone will be kind to you. It takes courage, but please don't be discouraged, there IS hope. Firstly, you have a good job and you seem like an intelligent guy. I can't tell you whether to choose abstinence or suppression (I am not in your shoes), but whatever you choose, it doesn't mean that your life ends there. And don't be a recluse. Get out more, hang out with friends, get a hobby or maybe study towards something. Set some personal goals, like traveling to a new country and work towards it. Try to take your mind off the negative thoughts. I know it won't be easy, but please don't see your sexual orientation as a death sentence, it is not that. I know that perhaps living in a country that is not that liberal brings more anxiety, but at the moment you are your own worst enemy because of all the negativity. Please shake it off, count your blessings and know that tomorrow the sun will shine again. Be strong beautiful soul... 7 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Dexnuel(m): 6:18pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
I feel ur pain..prayer n strng determination is wot u nid broda.. But first of al,thk God u r xtian,u nid 2 go 4 a confession if truly u ready 2 giv dz habit up n strt a new lyf..Doin dz on social media wnt really b effective.. Nt mandatory u go meet ur pastor 4 dz..Go 2 a far away church where dey wnt recognize u 4 confessn,meet their snr pastor n confess 2 him,by doin dz,u takin a bold step of kissin dz habit a gud bye n ask 4 Forgiveness... Once u've done that,pray 2 God 4 a life partner..do as if u aint battlin wit diz kinda weakness n ask any lady u think suite ur taste out..4get abt ur sexual fantasy n concentrate on knwin her more..Itz actually a gradual process,wen u get closer,u gonna strt developin feelins 4 her wit tym bt pls endeavour 2 stay away 4rm anytin dt may lure u back 2 ur weakness. Al d best.. 3 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by daben1(m): 7:25pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
alberto2k:childish!!! 2 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by nobilis: 7:33pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
OP, first and foremost, thanks for being so frank. Very few people can summon such courage. Being gay is not evil. Yes. You read me right. Being gay is not evil. Even the bible never condemned being gay. What the bible talked about was having sex with someone of the same gender. But that will be talk for another day. Secondly, you have prayed and prayed and nothing seems to work. Does it mean God doesn't answer your prayers? No. It means that there is nothing wrong with you. If you keep feeling you need to change, then you will always be depressed and in the end, you might end up committing suicide. And that will be a loss to you, your family and society. Do not mind people who tell you that homosexuality can be corrected. It cannot. Because it is not a disorder nor an aberration. The American Psychiatric Association wasn't foolish when they removed it from their catalogue of diseases. All those people who are quoted to have escaped homosexuality, try and trace their lives afterwards. And you will see things for yourself. And all those people who are overtly homophobic, follow their lives nd you'll see things for yourself. Getting married will not make you straight. Having sex with women will not make you straight. Even if you have as many women as Solomon had, it cannot make you straight. It cannot drown that same-sex attraction. It is a part of who you are. Inasmuch as it is a part of who you are, dont make your life to be centered around your sexuality. That you're gay doesn't mean you can't be successful in your life nd career. Learn how to balance your life with your sexuality. That is the only way you can battle this depression you're talking about. Getting married will not make u overcome this depression. Rather it will make it worse (unless you're bisexual). What you need in your life now is a close friend and confidante. Someone who can understand you. Someone who cn be there for you and also keep an eye on you and ur depressive tendencies. Whether man or woman, it doesnt matter. But that is the first step to healing yourself. Then as time goes on, other steps will be made available to you. 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Depressedguy: 8:38pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
nobilis: Wow, the best advice so far. Thanks bro 4 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 9:04pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
That awkward moment when you read a thread and you are truly blank and have no idea what to advice the poster. Because A you are against homosexuality. B you actually feel the OP pain. I am 100% against homosexuality but then again your post moved me deeply. I feel terribly sorry for you. Theres nothing more painful then trying to deny your heart desire. 4 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Baddestguyp(m): 9:11pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
14 years ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by deskossy(m): 9:13pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Sorry bro don't know what to say...26 but haven't seen a girls pant?.jeez...try fk a woman and see how it feels! 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Dexnuel(m): 10:05pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Depressedguy: So sorry if my intuition was wrong abt ur response regardin dz comment nt sayin it wrong.. 4rm wot av noticed tru ur comments,my opinion tho!!dnt think u ready 2 chng despites al d epistle u've written,al u want is public sympathy n u gettin it already..Though,d oda side of u wanna giv up bt d oda half stil wanna explore n if u happen 2 find urself where dz acts is legalized,believe me u won't b bothered abt chngin at al.. Not sayin u yield 2 my advice neither applaudin u 2 go along wit other pple's opinion.. As an adult in ur late 20's,u shd knw d differences btw right n wrong..Jst knw if u chose d rite path,d reward is engraved wit apy endin n if otherwise,vice versa.. Aint perfect,also av my own dirty closet m tryin 2 tidy up..Sit urself down n av a deep tot abt u wanna do abt dz subject instead of being stucked in d middle. 9 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by KevinBrown: 10:09pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Depressedguy: OP, If being gay is what makes you happy then be gay. But since u said u really want to change due to ur religious belief, then its possible. Don't mind all the people that said its not possible. Even though human's sexuality is hard coded into his genetic make up, with the right mixture of environmental, social, and psychological factors, its possible to be attracted to ANYTHING (male, female, children, animals, dead bodies e.t.c). That's Gross, but u get what I'm trying to say. So before I will tell u what u can do, what type of guys are u attracted to? (It will help in determining what approach to take.) 2 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:19pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
You were born this way and you cannot change that. Why would God make you this way if it wasn't his will? You can't force yourself to love women and to be faithful to one for the rest of your life.. I don't think this is possible for you or fair to her. I live in Canada and here we accept gays. They love, they marry and they have kids! If I were you and it was possible I would move somewhere more accepting of gay people, where I could accept myself and live a happy life. 11 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by KevinBrown: 10:37pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Rainess: I don't have a problem with someone being Gay, but God didn't make him Gay. Environmental and Psychological factors did. And its possible for him to change. 13 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:38pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
KevinBrown:I completely disagree with you. You say it's possible for him to change from gay to straight. So do you think you to change from straight to gay? I know I couldn't. 6 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by stevecantrell: 10:40pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
The OP is confusing a dislike for women for being gay. You have high standards, don't lower them. Meet girls you think you might like and invite them home, get to know the kind of woman that appeals to you intellectually, emotionally and sexually. Eventually, you'll find the right one. You're NOT gay ! Keep telling yourself that. 8 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by KevinBrown: 10:50pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Rainess: Whatever I say is from experience. It's totally possible for someone to change from being straight to gay, and vice versa. 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:53pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
KevinBrown: Well you are now officially the only straight person I've ever talked to who thinks he/she could become gay. 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by chimerase2: 10:53pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Op do u hv feelings 4 ua soap? 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by KevinBrown: 11:00pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Rainess: Lol. I've been straight-gay-straight |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by KevinBrown: 11:01pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
chimerase2: What does it mean nah? |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by chimerase2: 11:03pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
KevinBrown:somtims after a hectic day u need to type rubbish just to calm ua brain 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 11:04pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
KevinBrown: Unlikely. You're just bi. 3 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by KevinBrown: 11:12pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Rainess: Nope. I don't find guys attractive. I can't believe I once did. (But I was also pretty wild. There was a time i thought one particular cat was cute). So, yeah, sexuality can be flexible, given the right environmental and psychological conditions. 2 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by ireneony(f): 11:12pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
Depressedguy: |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by KevinBrown: 11:15pm On Mar 28, 2015 |
chimerase2: Its that ua that got me confused. WTF why didn't u just type ur. Or is that d latest way of saying YOUR? 1 Like 1 Share |
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