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Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:00am On Mar 29, 2015 |
mooremedia: True! Need to add action to the mix. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:04am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Setaje: I never stated that all these other forms of sexual deviation or paraphilia wasn't wrong Homosexuality is consensual. It in no way involves the causing harm or intercourse with a non consenting partner. ......Please emphasis on "consent" You can't compare it to Erotophonophilia, Necrophilia, Pedophilia or Masochisism like you mentioned. I only used them to expatiate on the fact that its impossible for a homosexual just like any other person suffering from these paraphilia to just decide to change You can't just expect a Necrophiliac who since puberty has derived immense sexual gratification from fantasizing on having sex with a corpse to just decide to "change" just because someone who prefers sex with living people demands it of him That's exactly the same way a homosexual is wired I am in no way justifying these other abnormal forms of sexual gratification, I am just using it to drive home my point |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Sagamite(m): 10:05am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Depressedguy: As tough as it is, I suggest you don't get depressed. You are what you can't stop yourself being. No stupid prayer or begging some imaginary superfly God will change that. Accept this is what you are, you have not done anything wrong by being an homosexual and live your life as best as you can live it until, if it happens, a medical breakthrough occurs in your life time. Homosexuality chose you, you did not choose it. You can't be blamed for being an homosexual. No point getting depressed. My advice about you "living your life as best as you can": - Keep your homosexuality and homosexual activities in the privacy of your home when you are in Nigeria (and other similar countries). - Don't marry any woman except she knows you are a homosexual before the marriage and she is happy with it. - It might be best to park the idea of procreating (in the best interest of the child). 5 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by adora4u1: 10:06am On Mar 29, 2015 |
[b]At OP, first and foremost, you are a very brave man and God bless you! Yes, God bless you! There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you. Believe that! The only thing wrong here is the hypocritical society we call NIGERIA! If you were living in the western world, you would be comfortable with yourself. If you can find a way to get out of the country, then do so. If you can't, then you're have some options which are not guaranteed to be 100% ok. 1. If you're in doubt about your sexuality, confirm by having sex with a gay man. Don't know how you're going to go about that in Nigeria! And use a condom!!!! 2. If it turns out to be a disaster, then problem solved. If it turns out you enjoy being with a man and want to have kids, then....... 3. Find a way of impregnating a girl (that's an uphill task, I know). NEVER promise her marriage! If you marry her and she later finds out you're gay (and she will), she'll blackmail you and you're never getting divorced! Your best bet is still to get out of that country! Anyhow you can find a way and to a gay tolerant country. [/b] 2 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:06am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Sagamite: Yeaaaaaaa ma Sagamite is back ![]() ![]() Great words. 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:08am On Mar 29, 2015 |
MizMyColi: Why do you choose to evade any form of dialogue with me on this issue ? |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Setaje(f): 10:10am On Mar 29, 2015 |
missclasssy: Ok I get,,,,,,,,,,, |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:12am On Mar 29, 2015 |
simsing: pls take this advice serious 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Ethereal0110(f): 10:13am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Are you close to your pastor? Let me give you spiritual advice, because everthing in life is spiritual. -Put down all you want in a special note as *prayer points. -Plan to seclude yourself from the world, lock your door and have a complete 3days fasting(no food for 3days), this can be done when you are on leave from work. During the fast pour your heart out to God, he will visit you and give you messages. You must do whatever God tells you. *One thing i need you to know is that God loves you and it's not his plan for you to be this way, because the suffering is unnecessary, but the devil is out to destroy lives, God needs you to be closer so that he can heal and protect you. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by jony247(m): 10:15am On Mar 29, 2015 |
ronald4lif: Its obvious that you are an unrepentant gay. I pray for device intervention in the life of the op |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by wtfCode: 10:15am On Mar 29, 2015 |
just mingle more with women,fantasize yourself doing it with the ladies(watch porn if possible) and believe me, once u had sex with a lady(especially the ones that wants to get intimate with u), that spirit of gay will leave u...now is the time,the time that u're willing to change. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:17am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:19am On Mar 29, 2015 |
wtfCode: Wrong presumption.... Why don't you mingle more with members of your sex and see if you will become gay ![]() |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by MizMyColi(f): 10:19am On Mar 29, 2015 |
missclasssy: Lol That's because.... I really don't wanna be drawn into back and forths on a topic I'm highly indifferent about. I saw this thread right after you commented, I saw it on FP too. I entered this thread because of wiegraf. I somehow found his submission that extroverts view introverts with this passive "what-is-wrong-with-this-one" kinda impression....faulty, at best. Impressions are a by product of conditioning. Because from where I'm sitting I appreciate extroverts and all the many stuff they do. I like it when babes are bold. Say bold stuff Wear bold colors and styles. When I see people doing stuff differently, but just can't bring myself to do, even when I perceive it as good or generally okay.... I don't see them as strange, or any less. I even try to be like them sometimes. It is simple.... You are you. I am me. Be you, do what makes you happy and fulfilled. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Setaje(f): 10:23am On Mar 29, 2015 |
missclasssy: Not a major yet. Just have my bsc!.But am leaning towards parapsychology. We don't have it here in Nigeria. It's not common. But they have it at coventry university. Its quite expensive cus it's a relatively new major. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by pamela22(f): 10:23am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Just try an trust one Girl make her ur friend make sure u trust her first or if u can make her love u without sex first den tell her Ur pain tell her u want to change if She has feelings for u She will make u change just like I did with my bf Who Was gay Now He loves others girls an he Is sleeping with girls around bcus every girl want him. Plz keep praying too |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:24am On Mar 29, 2015 |
MizMyColi: Okay..... I won't agree with you on this statement ~ "Be you, do what makes you happy and fulfilled" I'd rather it be "Be you, do what makes you happy and fulfilled as far as its in no way harmful to others" Thanks, mizmycoli ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by NoContract(m): 10:29am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Allureoftheseas: You're reta.rded. This is 2015, not 1400. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by wtfCode: 10:32am On Mar 29, 2015 |
missclasssy:uhhm, i'm just suggesting,i aint gay psychiatric or whatever. U tellin' me i should try and mingle with the same sex bah?, had it been i know u in real life, i'll make sure my dick head chokes in ur throat. My 9 inch+ cock was designated for a wet-meaty tunnel...udugg? |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by ReubenAbati: 10:35am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Depressedguy: Your original story has been removed.... Nigga, you're gay. At most, BI. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it. That is the fact. More so, you're stuck in this quagmire because you are a religionist. I do believe your depression stems from the fact that you're experiencing cognitive dissonance. You been brought up as a god fearing christian and all only for you to question religion because of your sexuality. This is a very strong situation you're stuck up with. Living as a gay will mess up your mentality about God -this which you so much adore. You already said your goal is to make heaven. You're lonely, you see your colleagues with their girlfriends (wives and kids, probably) and you equate your life with their success. And since you can't (at least, sexually) measure up with them, you spiral into depression. It's understandable. There is however something you can do to make your life pleasurable. Live life to the fullest. Accept your uniqueness, or flaws (as you choose to call them in your post) Don't preach it to everyone's face. I know a ton and one over 30 men who are still single and yet they don't (at least) act depressed. Instead, they have fun, make friends, travel, indulge in their passions, and they don't whine about their lives. Know this however, before you can enjoy true peace, you have to forgive yourself, appreciate yourself, and enjoy your life. Either alone or with people who share the same openmindedness as you do. This is 2015 not, 1700s when homosexuality was outlawed. There is nothing perfectly wrong with you. I'm 26, and I speak from experience. ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by wtfCode: 10:36am On Mar 29, 2015 |
NoContract:tellem bro...i wonder where he learned to talk sh!t. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by freecocoa(f): 10:36am On Mar 29, 2015 |
MizMyColi:I agree with you, however, my view on the matter is based on the fact that he's tried to no avail. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by freecocoa(f): 10:39am On Mar 29, 2015 |
MizMyColi:Okay then. I'm into you bi curiously anyways, are you still available? ![]() |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Dindera(m): 10:42am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Klinee: Lol! It seems you don't understand English. Pls read what he said again and get back to me. ![]() If u still don't get it, then I think u need an English teacher! ![]() |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by DonX001: 10:44am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Depressedguy: Simple> OPTION 1- Relocate to another country where it is acceptable, and live your life freely without depression or oppression. If you really have to live in Nigeria, then this is your best bet below>>> OPTION 2>>>> Find a lesbian woman (there are many lesbian forums n whatsapp/BB chatgroups in Nigeria) who is also being pressured by her family to get married too. I'm sure there are many facing the same dilemma as you. Find one of them you like and can actually live together as mutual friends, or best friends. You both marry, and just live as friends. What you both do in your bedroom is nobody's business. You both just sleep on opposite sides of the bed. If you both want kids, you can find a way to 'endure' a few episodes of sex timed at her period of ovulation to get her pregnant. Or use IVF technology to get her pregnant if you both absolutely can't stand the thought of locking your genitals together. I can give you some other coded suggestions on how to get her pregnant. DISCLAIMER: I dont support gays, and absolutely detest the concept. However your story actually manages to evoke some empathy in me for the first time. Really dont know why i'm actually giving you real suggestions, its really unlike me. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by wiegraf: 10:46am On Mar 29, 2015 |
MizMyColi: What was it I was saying about people assuming that just because x works for them, it must be so for everybody else? You're an ambivert? Good for you (assuming that's true, ie, as what you describe there is a confident introvert. The fact you aren't shy does not automatically mean you're an extravert. There are shy extraverts as well, just as there are bold introverts), but this is one scenario where you are in the vast minority. Most of us are either extraverted or the reverse, fact, and there's nothing whatsoever we can do about it. We can put on masks, but that doesn't change who we are. To clarify though, I never said that aspect of personality is strictly modal. Another instance in which it is similar to sexuality; we have straight, homo or bi (other flavors may exist, but I'll keep it simple). There's no person that's 100% introvert or extrovert. As Jung put it, such a person would be in asylum. I'm pretty high level introvert, could go months without any proper conversation (and happily), but even I sometimes crave that sort of interaction. It's a scale. Again, just like with sexuality. There's no such thing as 100% straight either, look up alfa males in prison getting aroused at all that muscle for instance, but you can tilt so heavily to one side the other aspect becomes insignificant. And I already mentioned there are biological differences between introverts/extroverts and homos/straight. Follow this guy for research on personality, wiki for biological differences between hetero/straight (look up references if you aren't happy with just straight wiki). You'll probably find bi/ambiverts floating in between. Where you get the notion that biology plays no part is beyond me. It clearly is. The question has always been to what degree, nature vs nurture. And I still hold that nature plays a much more important role than nurture as, like I said, I cannot just think myself into becoming white. I cannot just become an extrovert, not unless you're willing to give me a brain transplant. And when one goes on and on insisting I change and become extraverted then well, considering my introversion isn't exactly impinging on their rights and really isn't their business, I clobber them over the head with glee (not literally, usually). And once again, I'm sure many gay people feel the same way... It is extremely selfish (and quite harmful to me, bordering on wicked sef) of them to assume that just because it works for them it would work for me. The young man is not ok with his situation because of similar folk, and I personally find that ridiculous. He should enjoy his life instead of pandering to bigotry 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by ReubenAbati: 10:47am On Mar 29, 2015 |
MizMyColi: Madam, you're smart, I know. Can I ask a question? Have you ever had a heartfelt discourse with a gay person before? At what age did you choose not to be a lezbian? |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:54am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Setaje: That's really nice, I am guessing parapsychology deals with paranormal phenomena and the likes. I have always had this love for psychology. I have books on psychology on my laptop, from behavioral psychology to cognitive psychology, even criminal psychology. I read them at my spare time. Thanks a lot ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Kevkain: 10:55am On Mar 29, 2015 |
DONT EVER MAKE THE MISTAKE OF LISTENING TO D GUY WHO POSTED THAT U SHOULD ACCEPT URSELF THAT WAY..THATS A DEMONIC LIE.... YOUR CHANGE IS 100% POSSIBLE.. 1ST U HAVE TO REPENT AND GIVE UR LIFE TO CHRIST..I MEAN GENUINELY BORN AGAIN... CUT OFF FROM EVERY MALE FRIENDS THAT U KNOW ARE INVOLVED IN SUCH SEXUALPERVVERSION.. STUDY D BIBLE ALWAYS. EXERCISE FAITH..YOUR ORIENTATION WILL BEGIN TO CHANGE...BECREFUM WITH D KNDS OF PEOPLE U MEET IN UR LIFE..AS THEY'RE EITHER TRANSFERING A negative OR POSITIVE SPIRIT..ALWAYS REMEMBER NO FREND LEAVE S U DSAME...YOU ARE NEVER BORN THAT WAY..GOD'S IS PERFECT AND ACCURATE IN all his creations...... connect to people that are deep spiritually so u can be prayed for....and personaly pray against demonic antichrist spirit of sexual perversion....u are deliverd in jesus name.. homosexuality is of d Antichrist spirit of bondage to destroy and keep u in bondage the more u are in this lifestyle d more curses u attract to yourself and urgeneration directly under u... if u have any questions and need some counseling feel free to reach me on. kelvcain@gmail.com. to every girl or boy out der in need of relationship advice u can write to me as well or my whatsapp. God bless u be free.. ALWAYS REMEMBER UR DESTINY IS MORE GREATER AND IMPORTANT THAN ANY NEGATIVE PERVERTED LIFESTYLE THE TRICK OF THE DEVIL IS TO PUT U IN BONDAGE HAVING SEEN THAT U HAVE GREATNESS ON UR INSIDE. STOP THEM BEFORE THEY STOP U..GOD WILL HELP U ALL IN JESUS NAME. PERMIT MY TYPING ERRORS . LOVE U ALL U ARE ALWAYS ENCOURAGE I' M KELVINKAIN U ARE FREE TO INVITE ME TO GIVE A MOTIVATINL TALK COACHING OR ADVICE FREE. ILOVE TO HELP AND IMPACT DESTINIES AND REVEAL TO U YOUR DIVINE PURPOSE AND DIRECTION BY THE HELP OF THE HOLY SPIRIT. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by MizMyColi(f): 10:56am On Mar 29, 2015 |
My Stand. I have stopped reading my bible for a while now. Else.....I would have quoted a passage or two, but even I, am in a process of detoxification. I am pointing this out for posterity's sake.....my stand on this matter, as much as I'm aware, has very little to do with religion and culture. Even though I am a theist (albeit, non conventional). I don't subscribe to demonizing people because of their life choices. As a matter of personal opinion, I don't subscribe to the idea of homosexuality. I consider it a perversion of sorts. Also, I have to point out that I am very indifferent on the topic because it is as much a case of nature, as it is of nurture, hence my mantra; "To each, his own path" Nonetheless, my submission above does not make me see the gay person as any less. Society hasn't made it easy for me to show undiluted acceptance....but that is what it is. If you are gay, I love you. I accept you....everything about you. I believe in the power of love alone to transform. Because, I believe that the spirit in man gets inspiration from the almighty as to what is good and what is bad. If you are my friend....I won't try to change you. I won't even so much as make your gayness a topic, except of course....you choose to talk about it. I will do my best to ensure, that while listening and interacting with you....I do not come off as judgemental (that would be plain selfish and myopic). No one knows it all....we can only affirm or reject a course of action based on our conditioning. We hope however.....to be guided into the truth, an absolute on this matter....whatever it is. But until then, let's just keep living, loving and learning. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by tartar9(m): 10:58am On Mar 29, 2015 |
see advice from xtians; abadone gayism and fornicate 2 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by ReubenAbati: 10:59am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Depressedguy: Your original story has been removed.... ![]() [img]http://1.bp..com/--ND6UOtdOI0/UCUFmN1EDbI/AAAAAAAAD-I/cq0yRVj4s-o/s1600/Diagram.jpg[/img] 2 Likes |
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