mooremedia:
Prayer doesn't dramatically change one's sex, there are steps he has to take.My bros it's not impossible. Very soon you'll admire a lady's bossom like we do IJN and even get attention sef.
Keep moving,God loves you.

Setaje:



In your words then people wiv paraphilia, sexual masochism, exhibitionist, murderers, cleptomaniacs, bestiality, incest etc don't need to change. Where do we draw the line on what is normal and abnormal? Do u realise that in d distance future, people wiv other disorders will begin to come out. Ask for recognition and weep up sentiments. This will ultimately destroy our very fabric of human existence. U cannot classify one as normal why others are abnormal. U cannot say others can change their behaviour while one cannot change.

You either stand for the truth or otherwise.

Depressedguy:
Being gay is my life regret, i have questioned God and myself how i got to this stage. I just feel like commiting suicide.

Here is my story, my name is Frank, 26, a banker. I am the envy of most women, because am 6.2" tall, fair and very handsome. My nickname is Ramsey Noah, this is to tell you how good looking i am. But i have a very BIG problem, i am attracted to the same sex.

This is a problem i have come to notice at teen, i love girls company more than guys, i play all the girl plays and hate football, am guessing that could be where my formation was transposed. I ended up liking what girls like when am not one. But i have come to change a few things becuase i went to a boarding house and was always ridiculed for that. So i changed so many things there, the way i talk, the way i walk, and my gestures, also i love football now more than anything, but my sexuality has refused to change.

I have all it takes to get a woman, i have a good job, a car, and live alone. But at this age, i have not seen a womans pants not to talk of getting in between. But i have so many female friends, so many that the always take me for a player. Am jovial with them, buy them gifts and treat them well, but am not sexually attracted to any of them and have no feelings whatsoever. Am just a good guy, i know that, because that is the best i can do to cover up my little secret. And they(ladies) love me too and many are dying for my attention. I have been asked out so many times by ladies. One even offered to pay all the bills just for us to get intimate, but i declined, lying that i have a girlfriend i dont want to cheat on.

To make matters worse, i hate being gay, sometimes i go celibate for as long as six(6) months simply because i hate my life and my sexuality. Am always alone, indoors all through the weekend, because going out with guys will result to girl talk and i have nothing to contribute, me of all persons, so hard to believe. I also hate gay companies, so many regrets afterwards as to why i am this way. I envy straight guys to the core, i so much wish i am one. When i see a guy and a girl holding hands and taking a walk, i have this feeling of giult amd hatred for myself that i quickly get depressed.

Here is the problem, i want to marry early, at least before 28 or max 30. I need to connect to a woman and force myself into a relationship. I need to get attracted to a womans body, and get turned on by that. And finally, i need to learn how to tolerate a woman, and live with thier baggage. Am comfortable as a single man, i dont mind living alone till i die, i can cook well and am not a sex freak, i can live for years without it. But i want kids, i love them and cant wait to have a daughter. I have once told myself that once i get married and have kids, i will divoorce my wife and live alone then the kids can stay anywhere. But this idea is pure foolishness.

I am very religious, as a matter if fact, this conditionn is the only sin i battle with, i know we all have one. I hardly commit any other sin. But i know that just this one is very mortal, but we are all strugglling because we are all flesh. It takes the grace of God to overcome sin generally.(Please dont come and critisize, we are all going to the same hell: homosexual, hetrosexual; and no sin is worse than the other.)

This my condition is getting me more depressed by the day and sometimes i wish to end my life. But i like my life more than anything, so am thinking of patronising prostitutes at least to get feel of what it takes like. But am afriad of STIs.

Please help a brother...

Sagamite:


As tough as it is, I suggest you don't get depressed.

You are what you can't stop yourself being. No stupid prayer or begging some imaginary superfly God will change that.

Accept this is what you are, you have not done anything wrong by being an homosexual and live your life as best as you can live it until, if it happens, a medical breakthrough occurs in your life time.

Homosexuality chose you, you did not choose it. You can't be blamed for being an homosexual.

No point getting depressed.

My advice about you "living your life as best as you can":

- Keep your homosexuality and homosexual activities in the privacy of your home when you are in Nigeria (and other similar countries).

- Don't marry any woman except she knows you are a homosexual before the marriage and she is happy with it.

- It might be best to park the idea of procreating (in the best interest of the child).

MizMyColi:



Okay.
Good for "them"

missclasssy:


I never stated that all these other forms of sexual deviation or paraphilia wasn't wrong

Homosexuality is consensual. It in no way involves the causing harm or intercourse with a non consenting partner.
......Please emphasis on "consent"
You can't compare it to Erotophonophilia, Necrophilia, Pedophilia or Masochisism like you mentioned.

I only used them to expatiate on the fact that its impossible for a homosexual just like any other person suffering from these paraphilia to just decide to change

You can't just expect a Necrophiliac who since puberty has derived immense sexual gratification from fantasizing on having sex with a corpse to just decide to "change" just because someone who prefers sex with living people demands it of him
That's exactly the same way a homosexual is wired

I am in no way justifying these other abnormal forms of sexual gratification, I am just using it to drive home my point

simsing:
FRIEND I NO HOW EXACTLY U FEEL. I SINCERELY HOPE U SEE MY MESSAGE.

I KNOW A GUY WHO WAS GAY, HERE IN NAIJA AND INFACT HAD A BOYFRIEND.

HE FELT GUILTY ABOUT HIS LIFESTYLE. WE ENCOURAGED HIM TO WATCH EMMANUEL TV. HE INSTANTLY NOTICED SOME CHANGES IN HIS LIFE.

THEN HE DECIDED TO GO TO THE SYNAGOGUE CHURCH WITH HIS BOYFRIEND. DURING THE SERVICE HE GOT DELIVERED. THAT FEELING LEFT AND NEVER RETURN. THAT FEELING IS A EVIL SPIRIT, HE CONFESSED DURING THE DELIVERANCE.

HE IS NOW MARRIED. GOD IS NOT AN AUTHOR OF CONFUSION.

FRIEND, U TOO CAN BE FREE FOREVER

ronald4lif:


You still don't get it. People don't change their sexuality, it's a natural trait. Can a heterosexual change to gay, will you advise heterosexual to become gay?

Setaje:



Ok I get,,,,,,,,,,,

wtfCode:

just mingle more with women,fantasize yourself doing it with the ladies(watch porn if possible) and believe me, once u had sex with a lady(especially the ones that wants to get intimate with u), that spirit of gay will leave u...now is the time,the time that u're willing to change.

missclasssy:


Why do you choose to evade any form of dialogue with me on this issue ?

missclasssy:


Thanks
~ Please may I ask what area of psychology you major in ?

MizMyColi:


Lol
That's because....
I really don't wanna be drawn into back and forths on a topic I'm highly indifferent about.

I saw this thread right after you commented, I saw it on FP too.

I entered this thread because of wiegraf.

I somehow found his submission that extroverts view introverts with this passive "what-is-wrong-with-this-one" kinda impression....faulty, at best.
Impressions are a by product of conditioning.

Because from where I'm sitting I appreciate extroverts and all the many stuff they do.

I like it when babes are bold.
Say bold stuff
Wear bold colors and styles.

When I see people doing stuff differently, but just can't bring myself to do, even when I perceive it as good or generally okay....
I don't see them as strange, or any less.

I even try to be like them sometimes.

It is simple....
You are you.
I am me.

Be you, do what makes you happy and fulfilled.

Allureoftheseas:


Pray to oshun, she is also the goddess of sexuality she can help you change it, father lucifer giveth, sjncerity in asking will make your prayers answered. Trust me, the supreme has never failed

missclasssy:


Wrong presumption....

Why don't you mingle more with members of your sex and see if you will become gay

Depressedguy: Your original story has been removed....

NoContract:


[size=13pt]You're reta.rded. This is 2015, not 1400.[/size]

MizMyColi:


I haven't said that.
I've only acquiesced to the capacity of the human mind to generate and debunk realities, subjectively based on conditioning.

A lot of things are not all conclusive.
There are traits we were born with which we deemed unpleasant.....how some of us dealt with it....well, that's another epistle on it's own.

We all have underlying reasons why we're the way we are.
If the OP thinks making a change to avert punishment from some god up there who is unrepentantly mad at him will make him a happier person.....
I shouldn't stop him per se....

Instead, I will, guide him, by my actions....
Into what I perceive to be the truth.
Which, of course, he can choose to adopt or reject.

I reckon that there is twice as much we don't know than we do know.

MizMyColi:


In this context....
There's no nature without nurture

It's a choice....
Life and living....as much as I'm permitted to know, is a choice.

Klinee:
you call him evil because he condemn evil? Are u not the evil?

Depressedguy:
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MizMyColi:



You sound intelligent, cool.

The emboldened doesn't make sense.
The fact that a person displays girlish/boyish traits doesn't make them gay, except of course....they choose to be by pursuing the life style.

It's all in the mind.
A very dire stronghold it is, the mind I mean.
Realities are created and debunked in the mind.

While I agree that there is bits of cognition in general human behavior, I submit that external influences matter a great deal.

There is nothing genetic about being gay.
It's a choice, and folks should stop giving a crass fvck what anyone thinks about their choice (as long as no one is put in apparent danger).

Your analogy, using the intro vs extro personality is somewhat faulty...especially in this context.

I'm ambiverted, with my introvert side always at the fore.
I'm not a top notch dresser, I would rather be alone than hang out with folks who discuss mostly shallow stuff.
In reality, except I have my A-game on, I'm perceived as timid (I laugh in Hispanic).

What's my point?
In all of this, I am cool with my self. I love me that way.
Does it mean I can't change, if I so direly want to?

The answer is before you.

This young man is not okay with his current state of being. Stop making him feel like he is stuck with it.
If he wants change, then change he'll get!

Question is, How badly, does he want it?

MizMyColi:



You sound intelligent, cool.

The emboldened doesn't make sense.
The fact that a person displays girlish/boyish traits doesn't make them gay, except of course....they choose to be by pursuing the life style.

It's all in the mind.
A very dire stronghold it is, the mind I mean.
Realities are created and debunked in the mind.

While I agree that there is bits of cognition in general human behavior, I submit that external influences matter a great deal.

There is nothing genetic about being gay.
It's a choice, and folks should stop giving a crass fvck what anyone thinks about their choice (as long as no one is put in apparent danger).

Your analogy, using the intro vs extro personality is somewhat faulty...especially in this context.

I'm ambiverted, with my introvert side always at the fore.
I'm not a top notch dresser, I would rather be alone than hang out with folks who discuss mostly shallow stuff.
In reality, except I have my A-game on, I'm perceived as timid (I laugh in Hispanic).

What's my point?
In all of this, I am cool with my self. I love me that way.
Does it mean I can't change, if I so direly want to?

The answer is before you.

This young man is not okay with his current state of being. Stop making him feel like he is stuck with it.
If he wants change, then change he'll get!

Question is, How badly, does he want it?

Setaje:


Not a major yet. Just have my bsc!.But am leaning towards parapsychology. We don't have it here in Nigeria. It's not common. But they have it at coventry university. Its quite expensive cus it's a relatively new major.

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