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Re: Gay And Depressed. by DonX001: 11:01am On Mar 29, 2015 |
tartar9: ![]() ![]() ![]() Lol, thought i was the only one who noticed that.... ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 11:02am On Mar 29, 2015 |
MizMyColi:@emboldened, no need to tell the world. Could be our own secret ![]() But seriously, how was it like before you made the choice? Was your sexual self in absentia? Wouldn't want to argue with you on your accertion that it was your choice as I know nothing about your story but you debunked the genetic connection with homosexuality without been a psycologist, psychiatrist or biologists. What happens when the professionals who have based their accertion not on one personal story but on many different stories from different individuals beg to differ? You might want to read what wikipedia has to say about homosexuality. 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by MizMyColi(f): 11:05am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Ekiseme(m): 11:06am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Gramondhigh:you're the real bastard, you use to be gay and now you're bisexual, i should clap for you abi? Thunder fire you there iraa nwoke iraa nwanyi...egbe igwe gbabgukwa gi there 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by MizMyColi(f): 11:12am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Ichiato: Ichiato The gay nature as we know it...cannot be without nurture. That, the scientists agree on. @ReubenAbati your question has no answer.... I was never at a cross road, hence....there was no decision to be made. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by venatus25(m): 11:15am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Op, i can only advise you relatively to this gay issue base on the fact that if you can tells us if you do what the gays really do (what I mean here is their activities). But if not, I will discourage you from having the feeling that you are a gay. You may mingles with many girls and fail to get intimate with them this is true because many girls that see you will assumed you are a player as you said with this experience, I will advise you to pick a new girl, I mean the one that both of you have not been playing with before. At times it may be useful not to be too gentle when with lady try your best to discuss in a flirty manner by doing so you have send your request across to her and what remains on your side is when you will ask her "baby, when will you make time to pay me a visit, you know I need you more than anything in the world........ Hahahahaha op mek I hold brake before the e-ladies start decending on me with serious e-slap Please note you are not a gay. Quote me for continuation |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 11:15am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Brother your story is touching,the first step to solve a problem is knowing the problem which you know.Accepting you have a problem is a bold step.My advice; Celibate and get closer to females, choose one who becomes your close friend, a female you can tell anything bothering including this Topic tell her how much you wan to be straight, because brother you need someone to go through all this and it won't be a guy, If she is a good woman she wouldn't run away from u, she will b there to help u heal up to the man you want to be and this would create an attraction for u, you would gradually feel for her because at that stage she is the only one who understands you, know u n still love u.Nothing is impossible pray to God to guide u, change u to fulfill dat what he created u for.You will overcome ur problem, Amen |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 11:18am On Mar 29, 2015 |
MizMyColi:Am sorry, if you agree that there is "gay nature", where exactly those the choice come in. Keep in mind that there is a gap between sexual intercourse and sexual attraction. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by freecocoa(f): 11:20am On Mar 29, 2015 |
MizMyColi:You just broke my heart, but it's fine. ![]() |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by MizMyColi(f): 11:20am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Ichiato: Same way it is intrinsic and a natural predisposition for humans to lie (not necessarily putting anyone in harm's way)..... There is also a nurturing part. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by MizMyColi(f): 11:21am On Mar 29, 2015 |
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Re: Gay And Depressed. by kandiikane(m): 11:24am On Mar 29, 2015 |
ronald4lif:why did you bother to argue sef? Those people that are saying it was a choice because he has regrets or was among girls most of the time are very very stup!d. of course many gays question God on why they were made that way, society ostracises people for being gay and make them feel less human so why would anyone choose to be gay even gays do not want to be gay. This man can decide to be "heterosexual" today but only his wife and children who do not know his past will suffer when he one day falls for one male colleague like that. Majority of them revert back to the real them, you can only pretend to be heterosexual for so long. Op, whatever you believe in, find faith in that and instead of asking why you are gay, ask him why he would harm you for how he has made you when you have been so good to him. If you are going to fake it make sure you do so until the day you die. 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 11:25am On Mar 29, 2015 |
My brother God bless yu for your self expository write up. I admire your courage and sincerity. Truly God loves yu so so much that He has plans for yu in His end time master plan. I urge yu, with dis same courage n a penitent heart, confess n cry unto God because your life depends on Him. Yu will see His grace and power flow through you to break that yoke. The act of immorality is d last bus stop before hell fire. Hebrews 4:16 says...let us therefore come boldly unto the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need. No psychologist can proffer solution to dis kind of bondage but d power of love in d blood of Jesus Christ dat is available to set yu free and give yu total liberty n hope for d future. My brother, I will be praying for yu. But be assured yu will be free from dis agent of eternal death. God bless yu. Glory to the Lamb of God forever n ever, Amen. 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by MizMyColi(f): 11:26am On Mar 29, 2015 |
@wiegraf I get all you said, but this. Methinks..... It is not largely nature. It is largely nurture. Again....there are stuff which we deem natural about us, that we try to change. Why won't the gay or bi person just accept that they are the way they are largely as a result of choice and stop giving 2 fvcks what others think as long as they're cool with it. Whatever happened to defense mechanisms? |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by instinctx: 11:29am On Mar 29, 2015 |
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Re: Gay And Depressed. by MizMyColi(f): 11:30am On Mar 29, 2015 |
cc: wiegraf MizMyColi: |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by clovislouis(m): 11:33am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Depressedguy:Bros there is nofin in women. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 11:37am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Depressedguy: You said you go celibate for about 6 months? You have had sex with the same sex? For me, I think it isn't easy. If you are attracted to the same sex, finding ways to attract to the opposite sex will take some time, a pretty long time. You have developed yourself into finding attraction to the same sex, when then do you want to start with the opposite? It doesn't happen just once. I have gay friends who are married, and to them they believe they are full time gays, while they have sex with their wives. According to one, he says ''he can only have sex with his wife, only when he has had sex with the same sex, the thought of such will enable him have sex with his wife''. Don't grow to that extent. Because some men are actually gays, they only get married for their image not to be tarnished. Some of these ladies know about their orientation, but because they want to stay married, they do what they want. In your case fighting such is really difficult. I would advice you watch opposite sex porn first, find some attraction in that. I know it is bad to watch porn, but this is one way you can fight it. And please, don't make it a habit of watching porn, but watch it, and learn the process. I also think it is more difficult kissing someone of the same sex than of a different sex, that is if you are actually a good guy. I also know for those who are gays, they have this level of confidence in them and they can actually do anything, so just get it done. It won't be easy, I could hook you up with my lesbian friend who always doesn't like to be a lesbian. You both could help each other. 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Raymie(m): 11:53am On Mar 29, 2015 |
Personally I feel all these questions about sexuality, orientations and stuff arise because this generation has placed undue attention to sex and sexuality. From toothpaste to car and home designs, most statements and ideas are schemed to arouse sexual fantasies. Not suggesting that these sexual variations have not existed, but our generation has elevated the ultimate quest to get laid to atmospheric proportions. And that's why @OP is depressed. Being gay is no sin. Just as being straight isn't. However, engaging in gay sex is, as well as engaging in straight fornication/adultery. The only difference between the two 'sins' is that society is more tolerant and condones one over the other. And this is for yhu so called Nairaland Christians that literally encourage OP to expunge one demon with another. OP,let's be frank in line with present realities. Its good yhu're religious so take yhur mind off sex completely. Prepare yhurself towards celibacy. Its not a crime to be celibate. Do not engage in gay sex. If yhu're currently in one, kindly desist. Also do not watch porn of any kind, gay or straight. Try to get an outdoor life. That stifles the urge to mastü®bate. Spend less idle time cocooned by yhurself, try to be in the company of at least 1 person. And get friendly. Hangout with yhur guys, be friendly with the ladies (go on dates but don't push intimacy) and if its God's plan for yhu, what yhu wish for will materialise. Like many before me have urged, don't beat yhurself up. And keep up the pretences. Who knows, yhu might just "trick" yhur brain into recognising that yhu're straight. 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by mcameo: 12:01pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Guys lets take this very serious, its not easy to "come out", ops, looks like you have to take this a day at a time, no rush, yes, do pray, but from your write up, it seems part of the problem, you did not mention if you are having issues with sexual emotions example premature erection or being impotent, and thinking that having gay tendencies as the result. Excuse my directness, you have to honest with this to fight it, go to God and definitely go for counseling, be good. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Raymie(m): 12:06pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
To add to that, kindly stay away from gay company (don't know how yhu guys seem to locate yhurselves, like yhu have some code the straights don't know of) don't go close to homophobes either, they won't help yhur situation. If yhu feel bored, drive to your mechanics. Trust me, better and more matured discussions occur in mechanic workshops over groundnuts and pure water than in many joints. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by RaeMystix: 12:08pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
iamord:You're counting on a behavioral/ physiology therapiist to handle that case?. First I think delivarance should be the first step to take, and then taking some counseling sessions ( with also prayers), to help guide him and be as a form of support System. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 12:08pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
MizMyColi:Ma'am, my arguments surrounds what choices we have as humans. If a man is predispositioned to lie, does he have a choice as to been in that predisposition? Will a man ever not be predispositioned to lie? The choices I think we have is the way we react to our predispositions. I don't believe we have a choice as to who or what we are sexually attracted to. We do have a choice on who we actually have sex with but that doesn't change our sexual predisposition. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by sbank: 12:09pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
This is just the same as my life's story too. The only difference is just that I am 24. Others are applicable. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by jbaby4u: 12:13pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
U said u have never had sex with a lady, have u had it with a guy or made advances to any guy or do guys make advances to you for you to conclude that you are gay? Have you tried all means to do what straight guys do? Or do u just conclude that you are gay and do whatever it takes to stay away from what straight guys do? Note, you are what you call yourself apart from what God calls you,and I strongly believe that all things are possible if only we are willing to accept it. You know yourself more than anyone here, you can depress yourself all you want but it will never bring the positive change which I think you want/need. Choose who you want to be ,ask God for help and be it, period. Depressedguy: |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Sagamite(m): 12:24pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
masonkz: My favourite kind of gay is Anderson Cooper. He does not flash his private life on people and I don't give a hoot what he does in the bedroom. I have no problem with such people. My worst kind of gay is Peter Tatchell, who wants to force everyone to accept homosexuality unquestioned. I have a whole lot of problems with such people. 3 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 12:30pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
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Re: Gay And Depressed. by wiegraf: 12:45pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
MizMyColi: They won't accept it for a simple reason; it isn't true. You may have chosen to be straight but for most of us, and it seems this has already been pointed out to you, we did not choose to be so. It was purely natural, no encouragement needed. And if by some miracle homosexuals became dominant on this rock and they vilified heteros I most certainly would not be able to magick myself into becoming gay. It just isn't natural to me, simple biology. By the way, can you also simply fall in love with anyone, just by willing yourself? That's impressive. Doesn't work for the most of us. Do you actually think living constantly using coping mechanisms is healthy?! And just because you try to change bits of yourself you deem natural, that doesn't mean you'll be necessarily successful. Introverts in extroverted worlds and the reverse alone would show this. Again, wear a mask does not change who you are. And if you're constantly under stress, using defense mechanisms, then there's only one path for you.... 2 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by ManuelRichard(m): 12:45pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Rainess: mtcheeww.........stupid ass comment....CHILDISH n AMATEUR |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Klinee: 12:54pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Depressedguy:Can u imagine! An evil madman refering normal reasonable human as being mad. God help us on this devilish earth. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by wiegraf: 12:56pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
MizMyColi: Ah, I've seen this before. It was a good laugh. IIRC even the doctors in the report had to backtrack and what not eventually. Regardless, that's Uganda's much hailed and certainly unbiased opinion (despite the fact the president was pushing for something drastic like death penalty or live improsonment - I forget the details - for homosexuals, and note; opinion, as there's certainly precious little science there) against that of the rest of the scientific world. Research that particular debacle well, as well as what other experts in the field have to say. It is well accepted that biology plays a vital role, the question remains to what degree. I have to go now.. 1 Like |
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