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Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 6:49pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
shadowgwalker: I am not homosexual, but I hate when little girls talk rubbish! I won't even go into any form of explanation because I would just be wasting my words.... 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 6:49pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Eziokwu,otolo ga gbagbu gi enwero part 2 Raymie: |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 6:53pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Klinee: You are a complete slowpoke |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 7:01pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
missclasssy:ok! please sound straight!stop trying to toast me. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Raymie(m): 7:23pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Peppyluv:Madam I'm being real here. Or dju honestly believe that many of the Fathers that serve yhu do so because they made up their minds to become celibate? O girl, many Catholic priests are closet homosexuals who upon realizing their weakness, have converted their energies towards God's service. That way, by virtue of priestly tradition, their secret remains, and by calling and grace, they refrain from delving into homosexual sin. Since OP is conscious of his religious life, I recommend that. Being gay does not imply that he shags every gay man he comes across. Or do yhu sleep around because yhu're straight. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by beryl04(m): 9:19pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
masonkz: can't believe those words from our dear ol' saga,people can really change! he even earned a like from me,just wow!it gets better as u age i guess. 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by kendological(m): 10:09pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
you are gay! your sexuality is not your problem, your religion is the problem. It is not compatible with your nature. My case is same with yours except that I don't wallow in self pity. If you must marry, let her know your real nature. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Ambassador1991(m): 10:16pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
[quote author=Depressedguy post=32103544]Being gay is my life regret, i have questioned God and myself how i got to this stage. I just feel like commiting suicide. Here is my story, my name is Frank, 26, a banker. I am the envy of most women, because am 6.2" tall, fair and very handsome. My nickname is Ramsey Noah, this is to tell you how good looking i am. But i have a very BIG problem, i am attracted to the same sex. This is a problem i have come to notice at teen, i love girls company more than guys, i play all the girl plays and hate football, am guessing that could be where my formation was transposed. I ended up liking what girls like when am not one. But i have come to change a few things becuase i went to a boarding house and was always ridiculed for that. So i changed so many things there, the way i talk, the way i walk, and my gestures, also i love football now more than anything, but my sexuality has refused to change. I have all it takes to get a woman, i have a good job, a car, and live alone. But at this age, i have not seen a womans pants not to talk of getting in between. But i have so many female friends, so many that the always take me for a player. Am jovial with them, buy them gifts and treat them well, but am not sexually attracted to any of them and have no feelings whatsoever. Am just a good guy, i know that, because that is the best i can do to cover up my little secret. And they(ladies) love me too and many are dying for my attention. I have been asked out so many times by ladies. One even offered to pay all the bills just for us to get intimate, but i declined, lying that i have a girlfriend i dont want to cheat on. To make matters worse, i hate being gay, sometimes i go celibate for as long as six(6) months simply because i hate my life and my sexuality. Am always alone, indoors all through the weekend, because going out with guys will result to girl talk and i have nothing to contribute, me of all persons, so hard to believe. I also hate gay companies, so many regrets afterwards as to why i am this way. I envy straight guys to the core, i so much wish i am one. When i see a guy and a girl holding hands and taking a walk, i have this feeling of giult amd hatred for myself that i quickly get depressed. Here is the problem, i want to marry early, at least before 28 or max 30. I need to connect to a woman and force myself into a relationship. I need to get attracted to a womans body, and get turned on by that. And finally, i need to learn how to tolerate a woman, and live with thier baggage. Am comfortable as a single man, i dont mind living alone till i die, i can cook well and am not a sex freak, i can live for years without it. But i want kids, i love them and cant wait to have a daughter. I have once told myself that once i get married and have kids, i will divoorce my wife and live alone then the kids can stay anywhere. But this idea is pure foolishness. I am very religious, as a matter if fact, this conditionn is the only sin i battle with, i know we all have one. I hardly commit any other sin. But i know that just this one is very mortal, but we are all strugglling because we are all flesh. It takes the grace of God to overcome sin generally.(Please dont come and critisize, we are all going to the same hell: homosexual, hetrosexual; and no sin is worse than the other.) This my condition is getting me more depressed by the day and sometimes i wish to end my life. But i like my life more than anything, so am thinking of patronising prostitutes at least to get feel of what it takes like. But am afriad of STIs. Please help a brother...[/quo Don't see it as a problem but as a challenge..... Can help... 08092304389. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:35pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Ekpenta gba gi there Raymie: 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Raymie(m): 11:10pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Peppyluv:No Madam Holier than thee, self serving, confession going, Rev. Father worshipping hypocrite. Yhur soul is already leprous. What remains is its manifestation on yhur already skank ass body. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 11:12pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
better dont stop ranting like the cursed fool you are Raymie: 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Raymie(m): 11:30pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Peppyluv:Nne, hapu m aka bikonu. Face yhur frustrations and don't release them on me. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by KevinBrown: 4:28am On Mar 30, 2015 |
shadowgwalker: See dis one.... Forming straight yet 90% of the people u follow on nairaland are females. B.itch! Lesbian! |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by sarmiie(m): 5:08am On Mar 30, 2015 |
i honestly thought the homophobes in nigeria are the older generation. i never knew even our generation has this many set of homophobes......... wow...... |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 9:32am On Mar 30, 2015 |
KevinBrown:nah man I wan follow before?why you dey support gayshit? guy,I luv CUNTinental districts only. I got no business with any long thing. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by itsMrIke(m): 9:52am On Mar 30, 2015 |
KevinBrown: Hahahahahahahahahahahaha!!! It has always been said that most homophobes are closeted homosexuals!!! 3 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by KevinBrown: 10:06am On Mar 30, 2015 |
shadowgwalker: Lesbian!!! |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Sagamite(m): 12:35pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
beryl04: You need to get your head checked? Change what? I rarely change my opinion except unexpectedly new information is provided. Before I form my opinion on any issue, I go through a thorough process that includes: - Studying the prevailing and existing information available. - Develop a best logic scenario/position from what I have read. - Evaluate and filter which parts of the prevailing and existing information available fits into my obviously perfect and superior logic. - Detail the gaps in logic and then decide what kind of information can cover the gaps that is not yet available. - Then I formulate my opinion. I am a Logical God! I don't follow rubbish because majority of people are following it or some "White Gods" have said that is what it should be. The world should learn from me, not the other way round. Your Peter Tatchell-like opinion of "we must force homosexuality on everyone and society" is what makes me give you an intellectual flogging. I have not changed nada. This has been my opinion for at least a decade. 1 Like |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by FEAO1985(m): 2:16pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
this isn't something that you can cure or something that anybody can, homosexuality isnt a choice. If you believe in miracles pray to God. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by FEAO1985(m): 2:17pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
you are a phucking slowpoke! pull your head out of your arse and read a book! |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 12:19am On Mar 31, 2015 |
KevinBrown:I swear, nah toto sure pass... I'm straight bro. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by GatJokez(f): 12:42am On Mar 31, 2015 |
balakbalam: Well said!! OP - listen to this one well. There is nothing wrong with you but lots wrong with those who judge you, mock you, make jokes of you, and tell you all the ridiculous comments. If you want to even look from biblical perspective, God loves all his children. Jesus would not condemn you either. We all are creations of God. So, hmmmmm, think about that one moment. Long story short, love yourself and enjoy your life. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 10:40am On Mar 31, 2015 |
I delayed my comment so it'd have an impact, no matter how little or big. It's a real pity how our very many 'Christians' are replying here. What a good way of evangelizing bros and sisz. I'm sure you're making God proud. Those that are telling him to get laid should reason thus: Does buying a dog make a lover of cats begin to like dogs? I doubt that. (Forgive the animal analogy if you may, I'm kinda an animal person myself). Please go and borrow some common sense. Dear Depressed, I feel you. I really do. In more ways than you know. I admire your resolve to not let this bring you down. Ask yourself these questions tho: Does it really go? How straight is straight? Why do we keep shortening our lifespans with worry? LoL What I do know is that no amount of praying, fasting, deliverance etc will suddenly clear it from one's system. It's a self work thing...along with the prayer etc. I know for a fact that most homophobes have suffered homosexual abuse at one point. How I overcame this was to realize that not everyone is the same, ever. My friend says I've just been meeting the creeps. I feel we all can do something for one another, not implementing stupid laws and lynching people who need our help. I sent a request to be able to send you e-mails. Please do accept, I'd like to talk. In the event you do find some magic drug that immediately turns one 'straight', please do alert my attention. XOXO minus the kisses 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by bigfrancis21: 3:52am On Apr 01, 2015 |
Ellimist: @bold...unfortunately...that magic drug does not exist. Sorry. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by RaeMystix: 10:02pm On Apr 01, 2015 |
iamord: Although, i can't agure with your analogy. I just never ruled out him seeking help from either a physiologist or a counselor. Thing is the power of prayers works wonders than any human or man powered help. He could pray and fast; Also seek delivarance from the sickness,( good pastors and minsters).whilst suplementing it with a human behavioral specialist. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Nobody: 1:34am On Apr 02, 2015 |
bigfrancis21:Lol...we all know that |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by lastnogood(f): 8:15am On Apr 03, 2015 |
@depressedguy Man, your post brought me to tears. I wanted to tell you something, from one believer to another. I encourage you to seek the love of Christ fully in your life. Christ did not call us to be depressed, but to have joy. That you have a something you are struggling with doesn't exempt you from his love, grace and forgiveness. You know, am not gay, but I struggle with fornication. It's hard because I know it's not right, but I constantly find myself engaging in relations outside of marriage. My sin isn't worse than yours. Our God is greater than both. Forget marriage for now, you need to focus on getting your self-esteem to the right level. What benefits a man if he has a house, good car, great job if his soul is burdened? What you need is a true experience with the savior. You need to experience the unfailing love of someone who is willing to ransom the world, give his life for you. What you struggle with, give it to him, ask him to have control in this area. You are still thinking that you are in control, but in reality maybe you should leave it at his feet. The enemy of your soul will let you to believe that you aren't ever going to gain salvation, but the devil is a lie. I wish I can tell you more, but remember that when we become Christians, we die to the old ways, and become new. Sometimes, we stand at the old dead self, and mourn and get stuck. We forget to nurture our new selves, by edifying ourselves in the word and by the encouragement of the saints. I'll never tell you to sin, rather, I'll pray that God leads you to a body, a mentor who can hear your struggles, yet won't judge. Who will be there to pray with you and make you see that you are more than a conqueror through Christ Jesus. Regardless of the sin, Christ died for it, you were forgiven, if only you ask. You might need to ask everyday, but if you put your faith in God, he'll develop you to where you're more than that gay guy who hates himself. I believe you're more than that. So, forget your sexuality for now. Honestly, just leave it alone. It may remain a thorn in your back forever, who knows? Seek Christ in all things, put his kingdom first and all things will be added unto you. Every desire of your heart, every purpose and design he has for you, everything that will truly make you a complete person. That's a promise, and God doesn't back away from his word. That's all. 2 Likes |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Scaredsilent2: 8:20am On Apr 12, 2015 |
Depressedguy: Its a dance with the devil on your back I would say in summary. I am gay and very religious too and celibate. My own reason of celibacy is not because i am afraid of stds but the actual implication of sex Everytime we sleep with another human whether male or female there is a connection that is made spiritually Sex is a knowledge that should be shared with only one person you love. Theres a bond that forms 2 I would advise you that God loves you even the way you are. If you feel strong you should stay celibate or if you want to get married you can but I would guarantee you you will still be gay or teh last option seek to break boundaries find the guy you think you can love and would love you back unconditionally Never language in random sexual encounters. Nothing Good would ever come from that. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by kenex4ever(m): 9:19am On Apr 12, 2015 |
Vyolet:dis is d problem with naija people. U don't believe people are born gay? How much of research have u done about gay people to come to dat ur hasty conclusion? I thank God am straight but sister, people are born gay. Sorry if I sounded harsh. . Back to d OP, Bro try to get help from people dat overcame being gay. And counseling too. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by kenex4ever(m): 10:16am On Apr 12, 2015 |
missclasssy:u are right on ur own right. U said it all, d guy dat talked about introverts and extroverts was perfectly right too. Natural homosexuality can't b changed by nurture. Like u said, forcing dem to change is an act of cruelty but if they feel like changing then there is no stopping them. |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Gramondhigh(m): 9:33pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Ekiseme:am still better than u fool |
Re: Gay And Depressed. by Ekiseme(m): 11:45pm On Apr 15, 2015 |
Gramondhigh:mr man,carry your vaseline move forward |
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