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Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Sleekyshuga(f): 6:41pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
It's quite a lengthy topic but also, an eye opener ![]() ![]() What Is Marriage? It is a union between a man, and a woman who makes a permanent, and exclusive commitment.. It is otherwise called Matrimony or Wedlock.. What Is A Court Marriage? It is a legal back up union between a man, and a woman or the sealing of a marriage by Law.. *********************************** I got into a conversation with a friend this afternoon. He talked about his intentions to settle down when he comes back home (Nigeria, since he has been in Asia) by December. He literally asked for my assistance in helping him search for a lady he can settle down with. I vividly remember the last time we spoke (Sept. 2013). When I asked about his girlfriend, he said she was fine, and that got me a little confused. ************************************ Fast forward to today..... Jenny: You want to settle down? Agozie: Yes! Jenny: What happened to your girlfriend? Agozie: She is fine. Jenny: Why are you in search of another lady when you have a girlfriend? Agozie: Her problems are much. Jenny: *eager to know*.. What kind of problems? Agozie: She is constantly asking for a court marriage. Jenny: And what's wrong with that? Agozie: Hmmmm... Ladies, and your sense of reasoning. She wants to 'Reap where she did not sow'. Traditional and white wedding is OK for us.. It got me thinking, and I got interested.. I randomly asked few males on my list (25-32 years) range on their take on court marriage.. I'll try to quote them.. 1st guy: Why court marriage when I'll properly get married to her? Court marriage na for people wey get belle b4 marriage or people wey their parents no gree give approval.. 2nd guy: I've not really thought about it, maybe because I still see it as a Western type of marriage.. 3rd guy: Why should I? Na she buy me property? I continued in my quest to know/learn... 4th guy: Yes, I will. It's the best form of marriage. It protects the lady from any form of maltreatment.. 5th guy: Yes, I will. It gives the lady a right, and separation will follow due process.. 6th guy: Yes, but other people's opinion matter (such as my spouse family), etc.. My fellow Nairalanders, what's your opinion(s) on court marriage. 12 Likes |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by zeb04(f): 6:46pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Yes!I would only do two ceremonies,traditional and court marriage. 27 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Nobody: 6:48pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Hmm. I don't think I want a court marriage. Reason?- ill think about it later 2 Likes |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by ammyluv2002(f): 6:51pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
zeb04:I love you ![]() 9 Likes |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by zeb04(f): 6:55pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
ammyluv2002:I love you too babe ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Sleekyshuga(f): 6:59pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 7:21pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Court marriage also depends on the church you are getting wedded. If your church is licenced to wed, then you can get a license from the court and get joined in the church. Since the certificate is from the court, it is backed by legal jugunu same as doing court wedding. Some people don't also believe in court wedding; worldly things and preparing for divorce. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Nobody: 7:31pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Jenny u have abandon me ooo. For your question, i did traditional and court. Both couple should reach an agreement before saying i do. |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Nobody: 7:45pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
I had my trad and then church wedding. Guess what? The churches do work with courts now. The Methodist Cathedral issued us both church and court marriage certificates-signed and sealed. Make d babe carry the guy go Methodist Church, court marriage is inclusive...Hahahahaha 8 Likes |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Sleekyshuga(f): 7:49pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
MrsOJ:Awwww... I'll never forget you ![]() ![]() Nice response.. Thanks dear.. bukatyne:Yea.. This is typical of an average Nigerian man, and maybe, that was why I got the negative responses... *She may kill to inherit my wealth.. *She may seek a divorce, and get half of my properties, etc.. |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Nobody: 7:59pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Sleekyshuga:If u have my number, pls call me. |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Sleekyshuga(f): 8:01pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Amybijou: ![]() ![]() ![]() Churches are now seeing the usefulness.. |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by bukatyne(f): 8:03pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Sleekyshuga: Lol! Maybe they do not plan to live right ![]() |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by KanwuliaJara: 8:05pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
The ONLY form of marriage I have EVER agreed to. And a traditional marriage! ![]() I WILL NOT be caught DEAD or ALIVE in ANY Religious SHRINE! ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Sleekyshuga(f): 8:26pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara:Lol @ religious shrine.. Any reason(s) for going with the court marriage? |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Nobody: 8:31pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Amybijou: Very sharp ![]() |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by KanwuliaJara: 8:31pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Sleekyshuga: Less complicated, more economical and MOST PRIVATE! ![]() 6 Likes |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Nobody: 8:35pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
fem29: Yes o o ...am even suspecting my hubby hasn't noticed he paid for 2 certificates during counselling. |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Nobody: 8:39pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Sleekyshuga: Yeah, I think so. |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Sleekyshuga(f): 9:03pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
KanwuliaJara:I agree with you on these.. Someone talked about protecting the lady from any form of maltreatment.. Do you agree? |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Sleekyshuga(f): 9:04pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Amybijou: ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Twill be a shocker the day he'll know ![]() |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by KanwuliaJara: 9:09pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Sleekyshuga: Any "lady" that needs protection from her spouse or FROM HIS FAMILY MEMBERS IS A MEDIEVAL DUNCE! ![]() |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by TheSonOfMark(m): 9:16pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Sleekyshuga: Ma'am, our paranoia isn't exactly unjustified. A woman who knows she'll have a large percentage of a man's wealth for herself would blackmail him with DIVORCE into being under her leash every now and then. Females are manipulative. You know it, I know it. 12 Likes |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Sunnypar(m): 9:22pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
7 REASONS WHY YOU ARE NOT GOING TO GET MARRIED 1) You have TRUST ISSUES, you claim you have been hurt before, and so it's difficult for you trusting someone else again. Well unless you go for Counselling, just like you believe, IT WILL ALWAYS BE DIFFICULT FOR YOU TRUSTING ANYONE, and sincerely speaking, without trust a Relationship or Marriage can NEVER survive. 2) You grew up in the midst of FAMILY SECRETS, and had to tell a lot of lies to cover up perceived shame. And now you have become a Pathological liar. Even you are amazed at how you can't say anything without telling a lie. You want to tell the Truth, but it is foreign to you. Without Truth, you can't build a lasting Relationship or Marriage. Someday, EVERY LIE you have told will come to light, and you will be found out to be a STRANGER, anyone and everyone should run away from. Why don't you seek Counselling. 3) People say you are Proud, but don't know that it's because you have a Complex. You have done a good job exhibiting a Superiority Complex to keep people from coming closer to you, because if they do, you don't believe they will truly like you as you are. Even you don't like yourself, and that attitude may be tough in a Relationship or Marriage, because it takes a person who loves and accepts himself to love and accept others. So with the help of an expert, run a Personal Check on yourself to have a very good understanding of your Personality, and how to make it work for you. 4) You are NEVER wrong. As far as you are concerned, you believe you are the Seat Of Wisdom. And so everybody knows you are ready to argue about anything and everything, because you just have to be right, while everybody else is wrong. The way you get Angry is also alarming. Haven't you noticed that people are always eager to stay away from you? Now that won't work in a Relationship or Marriage, because it's only those who prefer someone else to themselves and are ready to make the other person take the shine, that relationship and marriage works for. 5) You are Self-Serving and Selfish. You always do things for YOURSELF, and have no one else in mind. So you cheat because even though you are getting 80% of what you need from your friend, you take it for granted and go in Search of the 20% you think you are not getting, but need from someone else, and eventually lose the Diamond in your possession while going after Glitter. Marriage only looks good on those who put the other person first and into consideration, before they consider themselves. 6) There is a hole in your heart, and no matter how many people try to love you, you cannot receive love. You drink, smoke, and have sex with anything and anyone. Commitment is difficult for you. You are not even committed to yourself, not to talk of another Person. Unfortunately for you, Marriage requires TOTAL COMMITMENT or nothing else. Get Counselling, find out the root cause and deal with it. 7) You have No Relationship with God. Really? So why do you want to get married? Don't you know Marriage was instituted by God. YOU NEED A RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD IF YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED AND STAY MARRIED! But Jerome, I don't agree with you, I have some of these flaws and I am married today. Really? Do you think having a Wedding is the same thing as Getting Married? I know you had a big wedding, but ARE YOU MARRIED? Consultation with Jerome is not free. Whatsapp +2348037194335 SOUNDmind 2AFF30BF jerome@jeromeis talking.org 08053JEROME. 11 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Sleekyshuga(f): 9:39pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
TheSonOfMark:True but still, it depends on the lady in question.. All ladies cannot be manipulative. What about those who are wealthier? So in all, you won't subscribe to a court marriage? 2 Likes |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by angelTI(f): 9:44pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Emaprince: 9:47pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Sleekyshuga:so why will you be interested in his wealth? |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by ammyluv2002(f): 9:49pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
angelTI:Awww! *blushing* |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by ammyluv2002(f): 9:49pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
zeb04: ![]() |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Sleekyshuga(f): 9:50pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
Emaprince:Did you read the post @ all or you just felt like quoting me ![]() I guess, not!! Please, read & understand.. Thanks ![]() |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by Sleekyshuga(f): 9:52pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
MrsOJ:Doubt if I do.. Please, I'm trying to remember you.. Can you help me out ![]() |
Re: Would You Agree To A Court Marriage? by chibwike(m): 10:15pm On Mar 29, 2015 |
i guess court marriage isn't rampant in our country like it is in other parts of the world.....i might not do a court marriage coz it'd look like am getting married under strict laws...tho marriage has its own laws....and my wife might decided to act funny...someday. 1 Like |
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