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Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by RoyalRoy(m): 9:34am On Mar 30, 2015 |
Whether she visits your Mum or not, she should not be forced. Whatever she wants to do should be by her own will and initiative. The moment when you have to tell her to visit is when you are both married and you have some right over her. A word of advice..... Why should you make her your next of Kin? Are you so in love that after sponsoring her to school, you still made her next of kin? And take her to your "sites" that even your Mum doesn't know about? Wake up dude....you seem puzzy-whipped already!!!! pickabeau1: Keg of gunpowderMy thoughts exactly!!!! |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by Nobody: 9:38am On Mar 30, 2015 |
cococandy: I concur. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by Nobody: 9:40am On Mar 30, 2015 |
By the way Op, Its damn too early to make her your next of kin. Retrace your steps now until marriage is certain and she has shown herself to be trustworthy! 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by pickabeau1: 12:26pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
RoyalRoy: Some whipping of life LOL 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by quivah(f): 1:12pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
pickabeau1:na wah how can you conveniently jump into such conclusion that she doesn't care about the mum?! I'm this kind of person that finds it HARD to call, I mean it just doesn't cross my mind ..except on rare occasions. I can't remember the last time I called my grandma or any old/younger relatives..it doesn't mean I don't care or love them when they come around I give them the utmost respect and care they deserve..but to call arrrggh (just an analogy to the op's case) how much more someone else's relatives! but people who dont understand might think i dont love them(so untrue).. the girl should just at least call if she cant visit and if she's the reserved type(not the type trying to milk the man's dry).. you just can't jump into such conclusion! but the op is too fast...and might regret his action! how can you place a fiancee in such position.. next of kin Bawo? love or stupidity! see, let the op treat his mum well I mean very well.. cause its obvious what the op himself have with his mum is just 'na you born me' relationship.. cause I don't see why an ONLY son who loves his mum will take his gf to the site his mum is unaware of common!!! let the op lead by e.g 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by Mintayo(m): 1:39pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
Op, What kinda son are you? Do you love your mum at all? You have a site and your mum is not aware, yet your gf who is aware? Your gf is your next of kin and your mum is not aware? Your gf doesn't like visiting your mum and you are her only child? Do you know that your mum is at your so called gf mercy if anything happen to you? Have you heard of "a curse with or without a cause? " Please, you need to be firm, there are something that cannot be undone after marriage, please make amendment, remove her as your next of kin until you are married! Is your Mum even aware that your gf is your next of kin? Please make amendment! Also you have to make her understand Why she must be visiting your Mum,once in a while, except your Mum means nothing to you! 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by quivah(f): 5:11pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
Mintayo: cool…… the emboldened is a bitter pill..so true! even if the fiancee is a reserved girl who necessarily doesn't see any wrong in her distant association with mil to be, chances that she would neglect the woman if her son is 'gone' is high.. as there will be lil or no bond/communication between them. I pity both mother And son, especially this son with all those stupid steps he's already taken! next of kin Bawo?! its not a matter of her reservation, she should make amends! even if its once in a while.. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by pickabeau1: 5:25pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
quivah: The bolded summarises your position.. "BUT" All before it na theory |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by quivah(f): 5:46pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
pickabeau1:whatever you say... just learn not to jump into conclusion as tho you were an invincible plane in the situation. |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by pickabeau1: 5:59pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
quivah: Na wa You say im jumping to conclusion yet managed to call the guy forward for making his girlfriend Next of Kin saying the same I said OK.. I give you one clap [img]http://cdn.meme.am/instances/500x/34718822.jpg[/img] Meanwhile, you've not been around How are you 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by Odunharry(m): 6:26pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
mistake men make |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by pickabeau1: 6:27pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
Odunharry: stories that touch |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by Odunharry(m): 7:16pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
pickabeau1:lol |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by Mintayo(m): 7:39pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
quivah:It's kinda strange to me, making someone you are not married to your next 'f kin? Op please don't let your mama's effort on you be in vain, atleast it can wait till u get married to her! |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by quivah(f): 7:43pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
pickabeau1: And moreover she does not care aboutwe both agreed the guy was too forward... but neither of us know if the girl in the op is exactly what you've painted her to be in the attached quote.. you only jumped into such conclusion... i don't agree with that I'm good, thank you sire 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by pickabeau1: 7:58pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by corisande: 10:26pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
RoyalRoy: my thoughts exactly |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by Nobody: 11:31pm On Mar 30, 2015 |
Chiefarian47, I'm more concerned about how much you have invested in this relationship in relation to how much you have benefited from said relationship. She knows everything about you, however, it seems you know next to nothing about this up-and-doing woman. You sound like someone who's going to bite his fingers in regret in the future. She might dump you after graduation or fvck your life up if you people eventually get married. She's probably very pretty and you're so smitten you can't reason straight. Hope you have health insurance? There's going to be a story after this one. Please feel free to come update us next year or in ten years. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by Nobody: 9:14am On Mar 31, 2015 |
True some people are not a fan of my boyfriends family and friends But on a second thought. Could it be that she is dating you because of your financial commitment or some other physical things? Is she actually seeing a future with you? Do you discuss the future with her and whats her own take on it? Could it be that she plans to slide away from the relationship without family interference? Again making her your next of kin is a no no.. Start by convincing yourself that she does not owe you anything for all you have done for her then invite her for a heart to heart discussion. |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by hurricaneindia(f): 4:31pm On Mar 31, 2015 |
Marry her 1st. |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by Stillfire: 9:40pm On Mar 31, 2015 |
I don't blame her. I avoid Nigerian elders like I avoid the flu. Before you know it now, they will say you are disrespectful. I just do the greeting thing when I see them and try to stay away. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by aduaba(f): 7:13am On Apr 01, 2015 |
Op do not be discouraged, not everyone is opened like that, me for instance I never went to my MIL's by myself and we have a very cordial relationship with respect now that I am married to her son. As for your reasons why you made her next of kin and sponsoring her education nobody knows that,you should have your own reasons. I believe she's a good girl for you to do that so please don't heed to certain advice here. Four years is quite a while to throw away just like that. Good luck 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by hidee20(m): 8:16am On Apr 01, 2015 |
Beamborla: May God bless u dear,well said.........OP now the ball is in ur court. P.S-U NEVER MARRY HER,SHE DON DEY UR NEXT OF KIN................THANK GOD AM NOT THE ONLY CHILD.IF U WANT TO LIVE LONG U GOT TO SOLVE THIS PROBLEM AND SEE THAT SHE HAD CHANGED FOR GOOD AND NOT PRETENDING....... MAY GOD HELP U BROTHER....................... SOME NAIJA GIRLS NAWA OOOOOOOOO. |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by CnCstore: 12:06pm On Apr 04, 2015 |
chiefarian47:There is nothing bad in she not visiting in as much as she communicates.Am sure some nairalanders visited their MIL to be and the guy didn't end up marrying them or the so called MIL didn't even like them after all. |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by hayorbaami: 4:47pm On Apr 04, 2015 |
aduaba: Exactly, some people just concluded that she is not a good person. You are the one in the relationship , not nairalanders. You alone knows the reason why you re sponsoring her education and you never asked anyone's opinion about that. I believe you should discuss with her before jumping into conclusion. I personally do not like the idea of going to a boyfriend's/fiancee's house alone and will only do that now since I am married. This is because I would not want to feel like part of the family and eventually things may not work out. The happened to someone very close to me. After six years of relationship. It didn't work out . The lady 's in-laws live here in uk and each time they go to Nigeria, she will leave her school, go to her fiance's house and do all the house chores. The fiancee travelled to the US and met another lady. They got married. The lady is not aware till this moment. I really felt bad for her because am related to the fiancee. When my aunty called yesterday disscussing the issue with me , I was really disappointed. She told me all the things the lady does for her each time she travels to Nigeria. I kept reminding her the lady has the right to know so that she can move on with her life but they re all scared on how to go about it. But you can judge every relationship with that. I just hope you handle the issue with care. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiancee Never Willingly Visit My Mother ....pls Advice Me. by SAMBARRY: 8:22pm On Apr 04, 2015 |
How convenient. I loff the excuse. I guess the girls mother too should be to old to live alone and live with her daughter. By the way op why are you paying the girls school fees when you are not sure of you guys being together. Nawa to you o.maga of the year omoseun: |
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