OnyeEgo1:
Lemme comment on MEN helping with house chores...

In my family, there is dis gender reversed role we are trained with...
The boys does virtually everytin why d girls look on or pata pata dem go just try help u..

The boys cook, do d laundry, cleans d house, washes d plate e.t.c

U can't iron 4 my dad, he still do some cooking till date, we still dey do competition btw ourselves gan who cook pass...

U can't wash my clothes 4 me no matter how hardworking u claim to b, y shud i bother u with my clothe when i av hands n d machine is working properly??

No matter how u cook 4 my bro, he will still find fault with it, we call him food sadist, person wey dey formulate he own cooking style...

When was d last we ate mom food self, d woman no get ur time self, she dey busy with her business...

So no excuses 4 d guy who is just deliberately Lazy claiming trado man, i av a roomie like dat, thank God i av dose training in hand already {like my dad, Just seeing things scattered can make me run crazy, serious oh!}

Hei! Is a lie ooo...so your type still dey market? Kai! *screams* Veave o!!!!! Grab it! noooooooooooooow!!!

Evina:



Lol.
Well, you have a great personality.

Well thanks
I have my crazy side too
My husband says I have a seducing spirit
lol

OnyeEgo1:
Phew!, i came dis far, started 4rm d bottom now i am here, been one hell of a ghost reader...

I have loads of question, but will take it gradually:-

i've a close course mate <very close>, she tells me virtually everytin buh keeps me telling me abt one aristo of hers little did i know dat d aristo she meant all dis while was one very lecturer i use to admire, I'm equally close to d lecturer too, but i got d shock of my life when i caught them...

Pants down when i decided to pay my unsuspecting course mate visit, i am d course rep....

I was literally dumbfounded, kept my cool n distanced myself 4 a while, cos d lecturer i know even she knows, is happily married n often talks abt his spouse in class 2 d extent we will b daydreaming abt how perfect his wife is....

Dis relationship has been going 4 long as she my course mate had no choice but 2 open up to me..

How do i approach dis situation n come out unscathed?

I have dis eagerness to tell my friend d truth regardless of it hurting our relationship, how do i go abt it?

Should i keep mute n let it slide, regarding d fact dat dis said lecturer is highly connected in dis sku?

Already me n my once favourite lecturer are experiencing a kind of tensed relationship, tho i am trying 2 pretend as if notin apuned....

Cc babyosisi, efemenaXY( i love ur brutality lol), thorpid, forexmartins, moca, herzumpther, evina, GoldenDr et al

n.b:- Dis thread has help shapen me 4 d better, i had to do a record of dat CHAKAM CHAKAM eating to see if exhibit such chewing disorder.

Chakam chakam
It is very common o

Someone wrote about how she helped her man achieve worthwhile goals and that's equal to molding him into a nervous wreck?

Na wa for you sha.

BoboYekini:
I think I may have a headache, from the sheer volume of niggling and haranguing on this thread. And I only just read the last page. Women can complain sha. If it's not this, it's that.
Me, I would trade all the career woman power couple for a simple woman that won't nag me under the pretext of 'driving' me. Making me develop HBP trying to keep up with the Joneses. And we're not even married yet? Fhuck that.
I mean really, is that the new imperative? If you can't/won't get a ready-made man, pick some amenable and distinctly ok physical specimen, then proceed to mould him into a nervous wreck with no life outside of furthering your hypergamous objective.
The horror.

blessedqueen:



I must say nmeri17 is so lucky to av u, so patient and dedicated not all women can do dis I really commend u. May d Lord bless ur union.

Ami o

odabo

Floodgater:
The sister said that because thats the fact, her brother is not serious with you. As it is now you are a pest to them because they have given you the signs that you have overstayed your welcome. Even though you know the brother is pretending, you are looking for a reason as overreacting to stay and waste your time till ten years later when he will be man enough to tell you he was never interested in you. Girl walk and in the direction that him and his family will always be behind.

"Girl walk" u say..? Do u know what's going on behind? She saw a picx and went mad, told his sister even after he had apologised and taken the picx down.. Do u know home many times she has 'gone mad' over petty issues and how she always report him to everyone who cares to listen?. I she's insecure. NB, i didn't have this her kind of issue.... but i once told wify to take a walk if she likes when we were dating not cos i want her to, but she has to understand that she can go if she want to. Love is not by force so if i loves someone but can't make her happy, then i will let her go and find her happiness.

GoldenDr:
#WiseWordsWithWives

I think the biggest issue in marriage is boundary problems.
Spouses so often try to change each other in the name of 'helpfulness'.… My truth is I think the only person you can change is you. You married them the way they are... As a wife Why would you want to 'change' your husband 'in marriage'?..Is there an advisable approach to this?… How do you think wives can solve 'boundary problems'..Shar e your thoughts.

I think it's madness to expect another person to change while we remain ourselvs. Love and family building demands a lotta compromise...

thorpido:
Look for the one that practices Ebube's law na.
On a serious note,there are.Most girls just want the made men and incidentally,the made men want to play.
An average girl won't give a corper a chance for instance.

Mind u am married with two lovely kids am telling u from d experience of odas

babyosisi:


Haba
There are still many good ones o
The problem with many of our girls is that they are looking for made men
The good man may not be a made man when you meet him
I have seen many girls pass up men because they didn't measure up pocket wise and a few years down the line,the man is chopping berra

If u say so but I av seen d ones dat wen dey will be in a relationship(he is not rich ooo) dey talked abt marriage n family bla bla he slept with her and told her see I don't think I can marry u and all dat n d chick 3 months later he is married to anoda girl even impregnated her wot will u call dat and many oda stories like dat. Women av deir faults n men too. Am pregnant with my ugly face now men still dey look me no be my face dem dey look oh na my body how dis chick go sweet for bed,dats men for u any man here shud quote me wrong

Floodgater:
You dont just move on from people with the ease with which you stated up there or you will always give room for wrong thoughts and prolly blame yourself as you are doing now. Always know what went wrong and be sure before leaving. Now this was what went wrong, you prolly have a bad taste not only in dressing but in choice of man (pls permit my lol). It is obvious you are the first girl that did not find anything with all his "challenged features" yet you went ahead to advise him about his bald, dont you see he thought you were trying to be politically correct or patronise him which automatically makes you a liar/pretender in his eyes. He definitely has inferiority complex and i wish at this point i can effortlessly like you say move on but to what extent or how bad is what i cant infer since you dont know and have much to provide about him. If you dont mind his physical features, go get in touch with him, reassure him it is to you the way you said it. Then find out how bad the complex thing is, if he desire help or can be helped. When you say nothing, understand the meaning he is grasping, not the one you start asking him to mind his pot belly tommorrow, you can tell him you are not bothered by his features but would like him to watch his stomach and be confident with his bald the way he does with your dressing. Btw, but for his complexity, you did not say anything wrong.

I dress real nice oooooOoo...it's just that he prefers sexy and likes a little skin to be visible...

I wore a sleeveless gown and I put a light jacket on it and he said I don't need the jacket...I said I just don't like exposing my armpit's and he called me "Sister Mary"...

I've tried to contact him but I believe he has made his decision already...

At the young age of 15, I hated my physical looks...I was a giant in the midst of my friends..- hated myself but with much help from my sister and family, I love myself again...it took about 3years though....I believe this is why I really don't care about physical looks...

Thanks for your words..

babyosisi:


What has he said to you about his looks?
Secondly I want you to search your heart about other things you may said in this conversation and in past conversations

There is definitely something you said maybe innocently that has affirmed what others have said and how he feels about himself

You see here on nairaland,whenever Someone wants to make fun of another,they talk about their body
I have my picture on my profile without my face for privacy
There are posters here especially a female that calls me fat whenever we fight hoping that will upset me,
Doesn't bother me a single bit
If IQ was measured on nairaland I know she couldn't come close for sure


We don't have to be perfect in our looks but not accepting oneself or loving oneself for what one is must be horrible
One doesn't have to be a size 6 to look fabulous
You can be a big girl or short man and rock and the most important is what you think of yourself

This man doesn't think much of himself
You don't know what he has heard from childhood from friends,family,enemies etc
I feel for him because this will affect him in many ways
He needs to change that mindset and carry himself well
If Denrele can post his pictures online and talk confidently,anyone can
The thing between a man's skull is the most important,not his looks
If only some men knew that fact too lol

Lols, I asked him and that's what he said...he has serious issues with his physical looks and he is always complaining about them.

I also told him about his addiction (alcohol)...he does not drink when I'm around but I noticed his bar always have different bottles of wine and spirit whenever I visit...I told him to watch it because of kidney/liver disease...

Thanks for your words.

There is one thing common, most singles seems not to get what they want rather they get the opposite of what they want, you use your hand to mold him/her to what you want.

Most girl I have known are either lazy, not ambitious and dependent. I would want a situation where I give you a little kick from behind and you give me a huge kick making us be on our toes.

@babyosisi, Respect is one of the many ways to a man's hearts. Most single girls(especially those in their late twenties) do not realise this fact. Xone3, you man seems not be serious with life. His drinking habit would put a huge hole in his pocket. One of my uncle worked with a blue chip company his smoking and drinking habits did not allow him to buy a car or even build a house. Why don't you have a heart to heart talk with him highlighting the dangers or health, finance and emotional implications of his habits, if after few weeks or months he still persist.....baby make use of the door, Maturity is admiting you are wrong and accepting correction.
@poster that is the class rep., mind your business. Move on like nothing never happened.
There are many young men out there looking for girls that are independent in thought, actions and deed.

blessedqueen:


Mind u am married with two lovely kids am telling u from d experience of odas

blessedqueen:


If u say so but I av seen d ones dat wen dey will be in a relationship(he is not rich ooo) dey talked abt marriage n family bla bla he slept with her and told her see I don't think I can marry u and all dat n d chick 3 months later he is married to anoda girl even impregnated her wot will u call dat and many oda stories like dat. Women av deir faults n men too. Am pregnant with my ugly face now men still dey look me no be my face dem dey look oh na my body how dis chick go sweet for bed,dats men for u any man here shud quote me wrong

There are quite a no of men out there who do not think commitment but just want to play around.However,it's still wong to generalise.There are good guys who want to marry but have financial challenges-unemployed or underemployed.
Girls ought to be SMART.Fall in love with your heart but think well with your head.I don't know if it's cos I'm a guy,but I can tell what you are about within a short time of knowing you.
The phrase,'I'll marry you' is like a password for men who meet ladies who are ripe for marriage.It's open sesame and the girl begins to get under the sheets.If a man marries another woman in less than 3months of dumping a lady,does that not tell that he never took her serious in the first place and that he was in another relationship and using her as a side chick?

@bolded,yes there are men who want to sleep with anything in skirt-some men.Many men however stay on their lane.If I may ask,what is your impression of your husband?

babyosisi:


Well thanks
I have my crazy side too
My husband says I have a seducing spirit
lol

Lol. Mammy water tinz.

Who said there is no marriage material guys out there?
Then how did we get our own?

Them flenty flenty abeg.

Do u have a discerning eyes?
If not ask for one. Then wisdom. These r the two tool u need and viola, u r there.

But how can we see them when we r looking out for dangote's son?
Even to become his babymama is more of our focus than looking at that graduate or non graduate that always wear one shoe one trouser.
That reminds me of one pastor(enenche) he said he used to be one shoe one trouser one briefcase kind of man even after marriage.

Our role models r Annie idibia and wizkid's babymama.
So how can we see cool and good men?
If push come to shove we will go for pa buhari as 3rd wife,now is a president.

The thing is this. Majority of us live in fantasy world,always day dreaming. By the time we know it, age is no longer on our side and the good guys have all moved forward.

Also, I noticed that our materialistic nature is depriving us of good guys.
Big girl as underG is never the same as big gal after school. Go figure.
I still know like 6 of those big gals ii graduated with. Still single and searching.

keppyy:



I dress real nice oooooOoo...it's just that he prefers sexy and likes a little skin to be visible...

I wore a sleeveless gown and I put a light jacket on it and he said I don't need the jacket...I said I just don't like exposing my armpit's and he called me "Sister Mary"...

I've tried to contact him but I believe he has made his decision already...

At the young age of 15, I hated my physical looks...I was a giant in the midst of my friends..- hated myself but with much help from my sister and family, I love myself again...it took about 3years though....I believe this is why I really don't care about physical looks...

Thanks for your words..

Alright then. You once stated you really liked him, also having gone through a similar howbeit a lighter esteem issue you could'v been able to help a little. If you will, do this to be at peace and not hoping to turn him back. Send a mail or something explaining what you went through at 15, how you overcame and as a result dont bother much about physics, he might relate with it and understand you better. He is taken to the bottles for solace. Obviously, exes, friends and family committed the crimes he made you pay.

Opiosko:
"Girl walk" u say..? Do u know what's going on behind? She saw a picx and went mad, told his sister even after he had apologised and taken the picx down.. Do u know home many times she has 'gone mad' over petty issues and how she always report him to everyone who cares to listen?. I she's insecure. NB, i didn't have this her kind of issue.... but i once told wify to take a walk if she likes when we were dating not cos i want her to, but she has to understand that she can go if she want to. Love is not by force so if i loves someone but can't make her happy, then i will let her go and find her happiness.

Okay let me explain in clear terms what you may not understand as a man from what the sister said; she said something in the line of men are not serious, meaning her brother is not serious with her from sayings and acts in the sister's presence. Now the manner with which she said it says she does not care much about her like her brother. Would you not have question your now wify's love if she had thrown the quit lines everytime you had argument? You said you used it once, but this guy used it everytime there was a fight.

[quote author=thorpido post=32295817]There are quite a no of men out there who do not think commitment but just want to play around.However,it's still wong to generalise.There are good guys who want to marry but have financial challenges-unemployed or underemployed.
Girls ought to be SMART.Fall in love with your heart but think well with your head.I don't know if it's cos I'm a guy,but I can tell what you are about within a short time of knowing you.
The phrase,'I'll marry you' is like a password f OKor men who meet ladies who are ripe for marriage.It's open sesame and the girl begins to get under the sheets.If a man marries another woman in less than 3months of dumping a lady,does that not tell that he never took her serious in the first place and that he was in another relationship and using her as a side chick?

@bolded,yes there are men who want to sleep with anything in skirt-some men.Many men however stay on their lane.If I may ask,what is your impression of your husband?[/quot

Dis has nuffin to do wit my husband(he is wot I call God sent) am trynna tell u d stuff men r made off not all men some. See dis thing we call marriage cnt be done on our own if u don't seek d face of God wen u searching u end up getting d wrong partner. I av seen a girl who spent on a guy ready to do everything for him but afterwards he left her. U r a man so u myt not understand from d ladies view dey r at d receiving end.

blessedqueen:
Dis has nuffin to do wit my husband(he is wot I call God sent) am trynna tell u d stuff men r made off not all men some. See dis thing we call marriage cnt be done on our own if u don't seek d face of God wen u searching u end up getting d wrong partner. I av seen a girl who spent on a guy ready to do everything for him but afterwards he left her. U r a man so u myt not understand from d ladies view dey r at d receiving end

.@bolded.This is the key.You seek the face of God and while doing that you also watch.How do you watch?By paying attention to the things you need to pay attention to-the character,personality,temperament, etc.That is why I always discourage the idea of jumping into bed as soon as you start dating.It messes up your head and does not allow you pay attention to more important things.

If you say your hubby is God sent,I want to say to you that many others have that same report.So why the conclusion on men being bad and not marriageable?

The issue of women being at the receiving end is not correct.Who does the spending more?You have not heard of men who sponsored a girl in school only for the girl to graduate and say the man is not up to standard?He has money but not educated.Some men have really suffered 'loss' with some women they dated.
I discourage ladies from expending their resources on a man.You can motivate,encourage and buy him gifts but don't turn into his cash cow.

Floodgater:
Okay let me explain in clear terms what you may not understand as a man from what the sister said; she said something in the line of men are not serious, meaning her brother is not serious with her from sayings and acts in the sister's presence. Now the manner with which she said it says she does not care much about her like her brother. Would you not have question your now wify's love if she had thrown the quit lines everytime you had argument? You said you used it once, but this guy used it everytime there was a fight.

Any thing is posible but u ar seeing only one angle. Now, it's posible that it's the guy's sis is jealous and does not want her. She's probably playing boths sides that why she can tell someone that her brother is not serious. Look at how she acted when she called her to ask abt her preparation, she pretended not to know she's the one calling. If that guy does not want her, he will tell her cos She (the poster) is still too young for any man to hold to ramsom cos she expected to have many admirers at this age. She should stop reporting and seeking advise from people around them. I and my wife have never for one day reported anything to any soul from day one till today. She should try and work out her own salvation.

thorpido:
.@bolded.This is the key.You seek the face of God and while doing that you also watch.How do you watch?By paying attention to the things you need to pay attention to-the character,personality,temperament, etc.That is why I always discourage the idea of jumping into bed as soon as you start dating.It messes up your head and does not allow you pay attention to more important things.

If you say your hubby is God sent,I want to say to you that many others have that same report.So why the conclusion on men being bad and not marriageable?

The issue of women being at the receiving end is not correct.Who does the spending more?You have not heard of men who sponsored a girl in school only for the girl to graduate and say the man is not up to standard?He has money but not educated.Some men have really suffered 'loss' with some women they dated.
I discourage ladies from expending their resources on a man.You can motivate,encourage and buy him gifts but don't turn into his cash cow.

Yes av heard stories like dat I wrote earlier it's in both men n women dey both av deir shortcomings. U know women easily fall in love some men take advantage of DAT....

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Xone3:

Thanks a lot for the advice. according to him, he has savings, some assets but my main concern is the how he spends. some will say it is his money nd not myn. Wants the latest car, phone etc. I can't talk to him about it cos he will tell me it's because I don't have the money to spend. well, that's true because I'm still under my parents nd can't work till I finish serving. Do you think it will be wise to settle down if at all with him without a job. what's your say? I have handiwork sha o. I make bead and sew but not on a business level yet and am very good in trading.

It is shallow people who are not wise enough to build their home on the right foundation that make ignorant statements like, "you are not yet married to him, therefore you don't have a stake in his life".

If you and a man have decided to be man and wife, you enter into courtship. Courtship is the time you decide the kind of marriage you want and then proceed to lay the required foundation for that type of marriage. You do NOT wait to enter into marriage before you start putting the bricks that lays the foundation in place.

I decided from when I started earning a living that I WANTED to submit to a man wholly. With my finances too. I didn't want to be that woman that had a secret bank account or secret asset. The bible says, " a man shall leave his mum and dad and cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.

Therefore, if the two of us have become one flesh, there should be no selfish agenda instigated by distrust. This understanding helped me choose a man that shared the same values. I couldn't trust the first guy with money. If I give him some money to keep for me, he would squander on frivolous things. He wasn't open about his finances.

My current and I are very open and transparent with our finances. I know every detail of his earnings, he knows about mine. We have one joint account for projects and individual accounts, to which we both have access to the ATM cards. It has been a very peaceful and mutually beneficial arrangement. The key to pulling such, is absolute trust. When each party trusts the other, transparency will come naturally.

If the man can trust that the woman is not out to take advantage of his financial status, but actually there to help and improve things, he will be open.

Also, I believe a godly woman MUST earn a living. It is ungodly to be slothful and you will be falling short as a woman, to not have your own earnings. The virtuous woman is a perfect guide.

So please, develop that skill to commercial level, strive to stay successful at it, you will see that he will respect you more.

All the best.

Xone3:

I have tried talking to him but he just dismisses it as no issue. He doesn't drink more than two bottles but it's too frequent. Almost everyday after work as long as he closes early. He doesn't act matured and rarely calls expect I call, ping or flash. lives life carefree and moneybag to friends.

You are seeing so many wrongs/faults in this man,what is now the good left?
You alone knows what you want. Make your decision now before it is late.

prissyluv:

You are seeing so many wrongs/faults in this man,what is now the good left?
You alone knows what you want. Make your decision now before it is late.

Xone3 dear, please take the highlighted really seriously.

You know, to each his own. What one can cope with, another can't stand. So just be sure to be with that man who shares the same values as you.

Evina:


It is shallow people who are not wise enough to build their home on the right foundation that make ignorant statements like, "you are not yet married to him, therefore you don't have a stake in his life".

If you and a man have decided to be man and wife, you enter into courtship. Courtship is the time you decide the kind of marriage you want and then proceed to lay the required foundation for that type of marriage. You do NOT wait to enter into marriage before you start putting the bricks that lays the foundation in place.

I decided from when I started earning a living that I WANTED to submit to a man wholly. With my finances too. I didn't want to be that woman that had a secret bank account or secret asset. The bible says, " a man shall leave his mum and dad and cleave to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.

Therefore, if the two of us have become one flesh, there should be no selfish agenda instigated by distrust. This understanding helped me choose a man that shared the same values. I couldn't trust the first guy with money. If I give him some money to keep for me, he would squander on frivolous things. He wasn't open about his finances.

My current and I are very open and transparent with our finances. I know every detail of his earnings, he knows about mine. We have one joint account for projects and individual accounts, to which we both have access to the ATM cards. It has been a very peaceful and mutually beneficial arrangement. The key to pulling such, is absolute trust. When each party trusts the other, transparency will come naturally.

If the man can trust that the woman is not out to take advantage of his financial status, but actually there to help and improve things, he will be open.

Also, I believe a godly woman MUST earn a living. It is ungodly to be slothful and you will be falling short as a woman, to not have your own earnings. The virtuous woman is a perfect guide.

So please, develop that skill to commercial level, strive to stay successful at it, you will see that he will respect you more.

All the best.

You've got a good head on your shoulders,Evina.Your fiance is a blessed man.

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prissyluv:

You are seeing so many wrongs/faults in this man,what is now the good left?
You alone knows what you want. Make your decision now before it is late.

I really appreciate your words of advice, it was timely and well spoken. Your words kept me thinking on what I really appreciate in him. Also, Considering the fact that there are still other things left unsaid I have to think about why am with him. Make adjustments and take Evina's advice to strive to get something tangible doing. Thanks a lot

gudday my aunties & uncles in d house sorry 2 bored u al wit my story again bt first & foremost I return al praises & adoration 2 most high God who sees d end from d beginning my supposed husband just called off d wedding barely 3 months 2 d date cos d wedding was scheduled 4 july 31 I was indeed frustrated bt God has sent peace 2 my hrt even though I have nt told my parents about it still praying 4 courage after my plans & preparation telling al my frnds & relatives just 4 him 2 disappoint me on no concrete reason bt I knw God have a greater plan 4 me pls u al should join me in prayer thanks alot

blessedqueen:


If u say so but I av seen d ones dat wen dey will be in a relationship(he is not rich ooo) dey talked abt marriage n family bla bla he slept with her and told her see I don't think I can marry u and all dat n d chick 3 months later he is married to anoda girl even impregnated her wot will u call dat and many oda stories like dat. Women av deir faults n men too. Am pregnant with my ugly face now men still dey look me no be my face dem dey look oh na my body how dis chick go sweet for bed,dats men for u any man here shud quote me wrong

It's up to us females to define the relationship
We shouldn't jump in bed with Tom dick and Harry expecting marriage to come out of it
That's where many miss it
If I show him what I can do in bed,I will keep him
Says who?
Do you know what the other person can do ?
There is always someone with a better rounded boobs out there and cuter face
You can't keep an intelligent man with bedmatics.
Man wey don chop over 25 girls and you expect him to be thrilled with your bedmatics
He has seen better performances
If he said baby you're the best,he has said it perhaps 10 times that week alone to other people.
Girls don't know men gossip like crazy
Just being on nairaland tells you men can carry vicious gossips,make up stories and circulate it
So when you also sleep with one he will tell his friends and also urge the friends to go and try their luck
I grew up amongst boys so I know these things.
And some girls wonder why suitors are not coming,their stories and their abortions have been widely circulated.
Some may need to change city to get a chance


The most foolish thing a girl can do IMHO is get into fist fight or altercations with a fellow girl over a man
That is descending to the lowest of the low,how can anyone degrade themselves that way
That is the greatest insult you can give to yourself
A man you call your own has belittled you by stepping out on you and you carry your skanky self to fight the other woman
That is a double insult
I have no business with any girl
If my man steps out its between me and him and I have enough pride in myself to tell you to stay there
If you found someone better,stay there
If any fights should break out it has to be between me and the man I have a covenant with
Why fight another girl
How many girls will I fight over a man for that matter
How low

ladynice:
gudday my aunties & uncles in d house sorry 2 bored u al wit my story again bt first & foremost I return al praises & adoration 2 most high God who sees d end from d beginning my supposed husband just called off d wedding barely 3 months 2 d date cos d wedding was scheduled 4 july 31 I was indeed frustrated bt God has sent peace 2 my hrt even though I have nt told my parents about it still praying 4 courage after my plans & preparation telling al my frnds & relatives just 4 him 2 disappoint me on no concrete reason bt I knw God have a greater plan 4 me pls u al should join me in prayer thanks alot

Everything happens for a reason
Please don't beg him to change his mind, you don't beg for love,he may throw that in your face constantly when the challenges of marriage come,let him go and wish him well.
Many years down the road ,you will look back and thank God for the disappointment
I understand how embarrassed you may feel having told everyone
Don't despair,you can be sad for a while but don't get bitter,something good will come out of this
Yes God has a better plan for you,I declare that with you