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When And How Should You Tell A Child He/she Was Adopted? by christofa1: 2:57pm On Apr 03, 2015
As the topic says, please what is the appropriate age to tell a child he/she was adopted. And how should you tell such child.
Re: When And How Should You Tell A Child He/she Was Adopted? by waleyp(m): 3:01pm On Apr 03, 2015
18years
Re: When And How Should You Tell A Child He/she Was Adopted? by emmysoftyou: 3:07pm On Apr 03, 2015
Let him know from small btw 12years
Re: When And How Should You Tell A Child He/she Was Adopted? by Dyt(f): 3:16pm On Apr 03, 2015
But do u have to say?
Re: When And How Should You Tell A Child He/she Was Adopted? by christofa1: 3:18pm On Apr 03, 2015
waleyp:
18years

Won't it be devastating if all his life he thought his parents were truly his parents. Only to be told he was adopted later on?
Re: When And How Should You Tell A Child He/she Was Adopted? by christofa1: 3:19pm On Apr 03, 2015
Dyt:
But do u have to say?

What if he finds out later on?
Re: When And How Should You Tell A Child He/she Was Adopted? by christofa1: 3:20pm On Apr 03, 2015
emmysoftyou:
Let him know from small btw 12years

It seems reasonable. But how do you say it? 12year olds too can feel emotions
Re: When And How Should You Tell A Child He/she Was Adopted? by Vivly(f): 3:23pm On Apr 03, 2015
When he's 20 and above.
A family friend didn't tell their son he was adopted till he had graduated and started working. When he was told, he changed his surname to his biological dad's. Aside that, everything turned out well.
If you tell them when they are younger, they might misinterprete a reprimand to mean maltreatment.
Re: When And How Should You Tell A Child He/she Was Adopted? by Dyt(f): 3:27pm On Apr 03, 2015
christofa1:


What if he finds out later on?

I feel a child is a child
Adopted
Abandoned
Nurtured

The child bears ur name, everything
So what's the essence of creating that gap after so much

Well, I dunno
I jst felt its not really needed
My own opinion sha
Re: When And How Should You Tell A Child He/she Was Adopted? by beegurl(f): 3:33pm On Apr 03, 2015
Dyt:


I feel a child is a child
Adopted
Abandoned
Nurtured

The child bears ur name, everything
So what's the essence of creating that gap after so much

Well, I dunno
I jst felt its not really needed
My own opinion sha
.




God bless u, my thoughts exactly. I believe he/she doesn't have to know, a child is a child. When he's told often times d r/ship goes sour.
Re: When And How Should You Tell A Child He/she Was Adopted? by christofa1: 3:53pm On Apr 03, 2015
Dyt:


I feel a child is a child
Adopted
Abandoned
Nurtured

The child bears ur name, everything
So what's the essence of creating that gap after so much

Well, I dunno
I jst felt its not really needed
My own opinion sha

beegurl:
.
God bless u, my thoughts exactly. I believe he/she doesn't have to know, a child is a child. When he's told often times d r/ship goes sour.

Won't the child feel betrayed once he finds out the persons he has been calling mom/dad aren't actually his parents? Its going to be like a shock to the child.
Re: When And How Should You Tell A Child He/she Was Adopted? by Dyt(f): 4:01pm On Apr 03, 2015
christofa1:




Won't the child feel betrayed once he finds out the persons he has been calling mom/dad aren't actually his parents? Its going to be like a shock to the child.

Why wld I even let the child know I adopted him/her?

See, u don't have to take on my own piece of advice, I just said it how I feel it
Mt child is my child, either adopted or abandoned
Kapish
Re: When And How Should You Tell A Child He/she Was Adopted? by teemy(m): 7:25am On Apr 04, 2015
Dyt:


Why wld I even let the child know I adopted him/her?

See, u don't have to take on my own piece of advice, I just said it how I feel it
Mt child is my child, either adopted or abandoned
Kapish

I believe it is necessary as health issues do abound as well as family health history might need to be known. Not looking for blood/help in the wrong direction.
Re: When And How Should You Tell A Child He/she Was Adopted? by waleyp(m): 3:04pm On Apr 05, 2015
He has right to know so you can tell him when he is 18.

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