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10 Signs That You're In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 12:14am On Apr 04, 2015 |
A goal in life for many of us is to be in happy and healthy relationship but most of us can also agree that accomplishing that is easier said than done. The media constantly feeds us the notion that romance and sex are the key components to a relationship—at least initially, we're led to believe, being attractive, being attracted to, being desired, and being pursued are a huge part of the dating game. This makes some sense: Humans are instinctive creatures at our core, and although our mating practices are not as instinctively driven as those of other creatures, there's still there’s a lot that goes into choosing our mates that is simply, well, natural. Yes, we may be fundamentally logical and practical in our choices, but there’s something in our makeup that strives for the kind of genes we want to pass along to the next generation. Having said that, let’s turn to what really sustains a relationship over time, especially after the first blush of attraction has faded. Romance and sex are vital to any intimate relationship. But there’s no excuse to get lazy and just not bother being fully present as romance rolls into the routine of daily life. We all should know that there will be ups and downs, and ebbs and flows, within any relationship—made even more complex by our own personal ups and downs, and ebbs and flows. But being unhappy in any relationship, even if you love the person you’re with or have been together for a long time is a huge red flag. To avoid that, partners need to find ways to communicate so that their equilibrium is not disturbed on a long-term basis. (For example, one partner making constant adjustments at the expense of another throws off the balance of the relationship and may cause stress and dissatisfaction.) Let’s get to the heart of the matter: How do you know you’re in a strong and healthy relationship, or maybe better stated: How do you know you’re in a relationship that’s good for you? Considering these 10 factors can help you decide: 1.You and your partner are on the same page in terms of your basic values and life goals. You both know what you want out of life, what your common goals are, what you wish to accomplish in life, and are firmly committed to achieving these together. 2.There is a strong sense of trust between you. You openly discuss everything---the good, the bad, and the ugly. There is no hidden agenda and no secrets from your past. 3.You keep your own identity within the relationship and so does your partner. This is so vital. Marriage may be a large piece of the whole pie that identifies who you are. But above all, you’re still who you are as an individual beyond your various roles in life. 4.You spend quality time together doing things that are mutually fulfilling as well as quality time apart doing what is important to you individually. 5.You encourage each other to grow and change. In other words, you inspire each other to be a better person. 6.You and your partner feel safe communicating personal needs and wants. Time is set aside to discuss issues relevant to you as a couple or each of you individually. Listening carefully with undivided attention is essential to real understanding. 7.You respect each other's differences even if you disagree on important issues. And you are able to turn your differences into fair compromise. 8.You share realistic expectations for the relationship, not what you wish or fantasize it should be. Remember that you’re dealing with another extraordinarily complex individual in addition to yourself. There’s enough to work with without pursuing unrealistic ideals. 9.Each of you contributes your fair share to the relationship, whatever that happens to be. Each partner brings their best strengths and abilities for the benefit of the “team." 10.You and your partner honor each other’s family ties and friendships. While it’s important to set aside time for family and friends it’s also important to maintain healthy boundaries between you and your partner as a unit apart from other close relationships. Caring, kindness, support, encouragement, and empathy are the watchwords of a good and loving relationship. There is simply no room for rudeness, meanness, jealousy, insulting, degrading, blaming, guilting, criticizing, judging, or physically acting out, especially when the object is one's partner. Those boundaries cannot be crossed. Remember: When you decide to join your life with another person, it’s about embarking on a journey together, for years to come. You don’t give up who you are and neither does your partner. You each retain your individuality, joining the best of who you are for your common good, and if you so decide, for your family. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: 10 Signs That You're In A Healthy Relationship by Euphrosyne(m): 12:16am On Apr 04, 2015 |
Hmmm.......... when will i get to be in a healthy relationship |
Re: 10 Signs That You're In A Healthy Relationship by mizkeleke(f): 12:26am On Apr 04, 2015 |
So true |
Re: 10 Signs That You're In A Healthy Relationship by tobbyte(m): 12:32am On Apr 04, 2015 |
Now datz wat i call a relationship |
Re: 10 Signs That You're In A Healthy Relationship by mirexxx(f): 12:33am On Apr 04, 2015 |
Euphrosyne:Till thy kingdom come! ![]() |
Re: 10 Signs That You're In A Healthy Relationship by tobbyte(m): 12:33am On Apr 04, 2015 |
Now datz wat i call a relationship....lukin forward to dat day am gonna experience dat. |
Re: 10 Signs That You're In A Healthy Relationship by Euphrosyne(m): 12:42am On Apr 04, 2015 |
mirexxx:Not fair ooo......... i thought the bible said love ur neighbor as u love thyself |
Re: 10 Signs That You're In A Healthy Relationship by domopps(m): 12:49am On Apr 04, 2015 |
Hmmmmmmm! But wait what if you are doing all these and your Babe still wana leave you for another man all in the name of Material things? Because I no Naija Babe's ! Just saying though! Cheeers |
Re: 10 Signs That You're In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 12:55am On Apr 04, 2015 |
Nice one Op |
Re: 10 Signs That You're In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 1:05am On Apr 04, 2015 |
Time Apart When a relationship begins the couple usually spends as much time as possible together. As the relationship develops, it is healthy to want to spend time alone with friends. Over time the couple becomes comfortable with how much time they spend apart, and they incorporate their relationship in with their pre-existing relationships with friends and family. Trust Trust is important to a healthy relationship. Signs of trust are allowing your significant other the time to be alone or with her friends, avoiding the temptation to check Internet or cellular phone activity and trusting that they are not involved with someone else when you are not around. Comfortablewith intimacy: You are both comfortable with sharing your intimate thoughts and vulnerable feelings. In addition, you are comfortable with depending on each other (interdependence) and maintaining your separate personal needs and identities while simultaneously allowing each other in close as a support. Individual self-worth: You each have a sense of self-worth that is separate from, though supported by, your relationship. In a healthy, happy relationship, partners don’t have to choose between feeling close and being able to be themselves. Effective and caring management of conflicts: You talk about distressing events or aspects of your relationship in a mutually respectful way. You attend to each other’s distress, helping to ease it, and then move on to solving your problem as a team. #I can't trust nl beetches #YOLO |
Re: 10 Signs That You're In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 1:07am On Apr 04, 2015 |
I need to ship myself to a healthy relationship ![]() nice op.. |
Re: 10 Signs That You're In A Healthy Relationship by Vitalist(m): 1:29am On Apr 04, 2015 |
OP u are on point. |
Re: 10 Signs That You're In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 7:11am On Apr 04, 2015 |
We women are often guilty of number 8. Well I am anyway because in the past I've given douche bags qualities their own mothers wouldn't recognise and it was like a created a different man in my head. ![]() |
Re: 10 Signs That You're In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 10:22pm On Apr 04, 2015 |
domopps:u don judge all naija babe as the same |
Re: 10 Signs That You're In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 10:31pm On Apr 04, 2015 |
what's a relationship ![]() |
Re: 10 Signs That You're In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 12:35am On Apr 05, 2015 |
pcguru1:have you tried asking google |
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