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Why You Should Dump Your Girlfriend/fiancee If She Insists On A Big Wedding by leonardxystus(m): 3:13pm On Apr 04, 2015 |
Fancy weddings are the ultimate exercise of narcissism and commercialism in modern society. It’s been observed countless times that women all over the world want to get married, but they do not want to be married. They want the year-long attention of being in “wedding planning mode,” culminating in the ultimate party where they are the supreme princess for the day. When it comes to fulfilling a role as a wife and mother, though, they will suddenly balk at any mention of tradition. Her unilateral insistence upon a large wedding reflects especially poorly on her character in these ways 1. Financial Irresponsibility The average naija wedding costs 3 to 4 million naira, now en For anyone besides the super-rich, how can throwing a big party to commemorate your financial castration be considered anything but irresponsible? Your sweetie would rather squander money (often much of it yours) on a lavish celebration rather than investments such as buying a house, saving for retirement, or traveling the world to educate yourselves. An expensive, pointless wedding is the ultimate display of low future-time orientation, a bad trait for someone to whom you’re pledging half your future earnings in a legally binding contract. 2. Selfishness Have you ever seen a dead-eyed man dutifully trying to choose between yellow and goldenrod for his wedding’s place settings? Men don’t enjoy planning weddings. Though they make up half of a marriage partnership (and usually more financially-speaking), a preference for a courthouse or a small ceremony is almost always ignored because it’s “her day.” This sets a poor precedent for future decisions you will make as a couple. If you give a mouse a cookie… 3. Herd mentality Though the silliness of the modern wedding ceremony are fairly easy to elucidate, women are more susceptible to the whims and opinions of those around them. Bella naija have taught her from her teenage years that she deserves a grand storybook wedding. Her friends goad her into one-upsmanship by showing off their expensive engagement rings on Facebook and Instagram. Her parents want to bring the entire extended family to the ceremony to show off their success at raising a well-adjusted little girl. And the aforementioned popular media normalizes the extravagance and consumerism of the experience by suggesting she is somehow abnormal or deficient if she doesn’t keep up with the joneses. If you’ve committed yourself to getting married in grandeur you’ve already made a tremendously risky move. If your babe insists that you dump a bunch of your hard-earned money into what amounts to a one-sided victory party, you know unequivocally that she will not make a good partner in the long run. Get out while you still can.: |
Re: Why You Should Dump Your Girlfriend/fiancee If She Insists On A Big Wedding by missbehave247(m): 3:15pm On Apr 04, 2015 |
Nawa ooo0 |
Re: Why You Should Dump Your Girlfriend/fiancee If She Insists On A Big Wedding by leonardxystus(m): 3:23pm On Apr 04, 2015 |
missbehave247:Wetin wa you |
Re: Why You Should Dump Your Girlfriend/fiancee If She Insists On A Big Wedding by realdee44(f): 3:34pm On Apr 04, 2015 |
leonardxystus:so what amount do u thing should b enough for an average wedding, 3 to 4 million? |
Re: Why You Should Dump Your Girlfriend/fiancee If She Insists On A Big Wedding by leonardxystus(m): 3:40pm On Apr 04, 2015 |
realdee44:yes na, 3-4 million can serve for an average wedding[color=][/color][quote][/quote] ![]() |
Re: Why You Should Dump Your Girlfriend/fiancee If She Insists On A Big Wedding by realdee44(f): 3:46pm On Apr 04, 2015 |
leonardxystus:good to no someone agree with me on this. I once said this on nairaland & no one seems to agree with me a lot of persons said 3m is too much some said 1m & some said 1.5m. |
Re: Why You Should Dump Your Girlfriend/fiancee If She Insists On A Big Wedding by Nobody: 3:50pm On Apr 04, 2015 |
Million ko, million ni! Na 4 bush, me n am go marry. If we no fit marry 4 bush, den iz not luv. |
Re: Why You Should Dump Your Girlfriend/fiancee If She Insists On A Big Wedding by missbehave247(m): 4:25pm On Apr 04, 2015 |
You no see 3 to 5m leonardxystus:run outta thread |
Re: Why You Should Dump Your Girlfriend/fiancee If She Insists On A Big Wedding by jmoore(m): 4:28pm On Apr 04, 2015 |
3-4 million for an average wedding, huh? Do you even have one plot of land? Do you have a house of your own? smh |
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