Ipledge:
oo,Nothing really

Cherlene:


I supposed any non-native nigerian female, NOT non-african. Not directing entirely to causasion/white as you sensed.

Cherlene

MrsChima:


Then you should have made that clear originally then I wouldn't have sensed that.

Carry on.

Cherlene:


I believe I wrote the term [foreign] without categorizing.

Anyway, I apologize. Have modified it due to possible misreading.

Cherlene

MrsChima:


Thanks sugar.

empathy for the less privileged

tpiadotcom:



do you yourself have empathy for anybody including the less privileged?

everybody wants to form holy now.

Juvante:


I wish that you know how many times that we have quarrelled and argued her habit of sending money to guys that ask her for money.

tpiadotcom:


girls nko?

or dont girls also need money?

where's the empathy now?


I just don't know why women do not like showing empathy to themselves.

tpiadotcom:


girls nko?

or dont girls also need money?

where's the empathy now?


I just don't know why women do not like showing empathy to themselves.

tpiadotcom:
if so, why don't men follow this rule when it comes to showing empathy to themselves

Cherlene:


Super, you're welcome.
Oh congratulations on being number 100 to comment.

Cherlene

Juvante:
Personally,I actually didn't fancy foreign ladies, though, I have met a lot of them( in the dark, all dogs may bark different, but they look alike!) until I met one on August 2nd,2014,On Nairaland of all places! I can assure you that my life has been one happy whirlpool . She is the best thing that ever happened to me since I started dating! She has her issues ( everyone does), but the way that she handles it, that's what knocks my feet off! I will say she is actually different from other girls that I have dated because her simplicity , honesty, compassion , open mindedness , empathy for the less privileged, is scary! She is best friends with my Sisters and their kids,my grand mom and actually takes time to call my grand mom, which is actually shocking because I have never introd
uced any girl to my grand mom because she have her own ideas about marriage and might reject my girls for one reason or the other! My grandma actually loves her and threatened to deal with me if I breaks her heart!
I will say that deep down in Nigerian guys, though, we don't actually admit it to the ladies, we love ladies that offer something different, and skin colour is not definitely a barrier. The foreign ladies have a different mentality and approach to their relationship. Though they have their own issues e.g the need for regular communication, constant expression of your feelings, full disclosure of your past, family planning, relocation if you are in different time zones...., they are different to most modern Naija babes, and I repeat most, because there are still good girls in Nigeria, even, better than most foreign girls. They don't ask for regular Blackberry subscription , they don't bother u for Indian or Brazilian weavon, etc! My advice is this- be careful o because some foreign girls nor good o! Dem go use child support take dabaru your life! It's not always about obtaining a passport or having kids with exotic looks (those are just
bonus), just follow your heart! Auf wiedersehen !

esosuo:

If the father does not support his child who will? only those planning to recreat the world anew with different women get scared of child support,all actions comes with responsibilities dats why b4 one tinks of leaping looking well is considered

MrsChima:


why wouldn't a father not support his child? I know some women personally who are on child support with African baby daddies.

Some of them ended the relationship because of issues but some African baby daddies refuses to support their children and those women were forced to take them to court.

I am not saying all American women are innocent but not all African men are truthful nor supportive. It is bad either way.

The best solution is not to breed babies.

MrsChima:


You made a mistake of asking me such question because I am going to give it to you salty truth.

The reason why that lady coming to see you is because it is easier and cheaper for her to enter Naija than you enter America or Europe.

She has googled several links of how to cook Naija food because she doesn't want to look stupid and that you have been stressing her how important Naija food is to you and your culture.

If she is not Nigerian then she can't be a Nigerian wife. IF she doing all these extra steps to please and impress you...it is a bit desperate especially if you are not reciprocating as well.

You are not the only Nigerian man that snagged a Western and some made it past 5 years and some died in 5 years.

Good luck.

luvablesam:
I wish I could address this....

Is it a case of not valuing what u have? or a case of pretense towards the foreigners just to appear Good.

Yes Naija Men say the ladies here(Nigerian)use a lot of foul words against the men(I agree).
But a Nigerian Man who isn't even ready to boil water for tea by himself when he dates a Naija babe, cud actually serve his foreign babe breakfast in bed.

Isn't that double standards?....

Seems its in our blood not be nice to ourselves(that I observed).

What really lures the Nigerian Man away is simple.
Thrills, Adventure,money and Some love.



A Nigerian Man would be ready to

Dreambeat:
@op,I think the foreign women are less hypocritical about their feelings compared to Nigerian women.

Juvante:


I will have to correct some of your impression which I think is wrong
1. I don't need her to go to Europe or America because I got several offers of admission to study for Masters in Ivy League universities in the US and also to conduct research in some of the best engineering departments in the UK, but I turned them down, due to strings attached! If I wanted to visit any country on earth, the worst they will ask of me, is to provide a bank statement with the equivalent of 11,000 Euros! That's what is required to visit Oslo, the most expensive city in the world, not to talk of hungry Portugal and other broke ass European countries! It's not about documentation! If I wanted paper, I can get an arrangee marriage this week in Stuttgart , Germany or any broke ass countries in the Schengen zone, without paying a dime. My friends have got my back on that!
2. From the first day that I met her, she told me about her fascination for the Nigerian culture, especially our food and clothes. She reeled off websites showcasing weddings and other info from Nigeria . So she is not trying to impress me. Her oldest friend is a Nigerian guy from the East! She was already "Nigerian" before I met her .
3. She was born and raised in Africa, Cape Town to be precise! So the African culture is not alien to her. She has been schooling in Europe since high school but I can assure you that she is 100% African.
4. We have already discussed issues about relocation back to Africa. We are already planning her first visit to Nigeria later in the year, whether I am around in Nigeria or not, my family has already agreed to welcome her! And I assure you that they will spoil her silly if given the slightest opportunity. You already know how strangers are taken care of in Nigeria, not to talk of a daughter inlaw!
5. She has already read your post and I can assure you that she is livid with some of your assumptions, which is understandable, because , you inferred that she was trying to impress me that's why she was trying her hand on cooking Nigerian dishes!

leanfarmer:
There's no one size fits all for this.I think foreign ladies are more open-minded.They tell you what they want up front.

leanfarmer:
There's no one size fits all for this.I think foreign ladies are more open-minded.They tell you what they want up front.

Cherlene:
Good evening each and everyone,

Why do YOU think most Nigerian men esteem in FOREIGN ladies, and why do Nigerian men find them exotic?

JUST TO CLARIFY: Foreign as in explicit a non-native/non nigerian female.

NOTE: Only SENSIBLE responses, THANK YOU!

Regards,
Cherlene.

esosuo:

I support the no breeding tins expecially the ones that don't have plans on marrying ,any one who makes mistake as an excuse shud always be ready to raise the child with support