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Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by koyyess: 4:23pm On Apr 06, 2015
PAGAN9JA:



fvck u and ur dead jew god bastard slave born from the gutter. dirty sewage rat. who dint kniw ur lineage. fvcking dyckhead.
A so called traditionalist using ghetto words common with uncouth, illiterate negros. If your ancestors were alive, they would have sold you to the whites a long time ago for a cheap brand of whiskey. Keep deceiving yourself. Frustrated,mad oaf.

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Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by Nobody: 4:29pm On Apr 06, 2015
Whatever floats, lol. More power to you.
Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by Iaz93: 4:40pm On Apr 06, 2015
Joavid:

I mostly don't speak out, but its nauseating, an eyesore, having to read your nonsense on every post I come across in this section.
Maybe the spirit is leading me to speak to you, so here ;

You are the most clueless and confused pseudo-feminist I have ever come across on this forum!

[size=25pt]The time you spend on this forum trying to string together all those bulllsh1t in an effort to sound intelligent, you could use that time in actually learning to be intelligent.[/size]

And yes, you can do it. You know why? Cos you are not that bad. The 1diots liking your posts are way dumber.



JISOS!!! Jo, you killed me! cry cry

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Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by cococandy(f): 5:17pm On Apr 06, 2015
Number 1) I said "for me". So dear don't tell me what is wrong or right for me. you can have an arranged marriage if you feel it is right for you.
End of...

Your argument is against love but all through your post you were describing infatuation.
Are they the same thing? Well maybe you think they are. Sigh undecided

pussyphilia:
This is wrong Coco, the op is right! The so called love fades with time and most times people are blinded by it to see the real person.
I will give you two examples, a woman I know got married to a man who is too lazy to work and provide for his family and her reason was "love", now the "love" has cleared from her eyes and she has seen the lazy man she married. Instead of keeping quiet and carrying the cross of winning bread for the family, she now goes about telling people how lazy her husband is.
In another instance, a woman I know who married for "love" recently died out complication resulting from childbirth because the so called husband could not take the responsibility of running around to borrow money and pay for her CS until she gave up the ghost.
Most times people make the wrong choices out of infatuation and call it marrying for love.
But arranged marriages give room for other people to access the potential partners and make a better pick for the man/woman. So I agree with the Op.
Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by Sanguine(f): 5:26pm On Apr 06, 2015
5minsmadness:

Dear, I honestly don't know. I'm liking a lot of features she posesses but I don't know if they are real or fake. Is she pretending cos of the financial stuff, can she stand the test of time? Should I pretend to be a pauper and see her response? I just don't know.

The 5mins is about to start.. Stay tuned wink




#smiles. You just keep calm, be yourself and then see how things turn out. Whatever will be will sure be. Nobody is perfect.

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Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by pussyphilia(m): 5:29pm On Apr 06, 2015
cococandy:
Number 1) I said "for me". So dear don't tell me what is wrong or right for me. you can have an arranged marriage if you feel it is right for you.
End of...

Your argument is against love but all through your post you were describing infatuation.
Are they the same thing? Well maybe you think they are. Sigh undecided

OK bae. I get ur point. But what many people think is love is actually infatuation.
Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by Nobody: 6:05pm On Apr 06, 2015
Joavid:


Why won't they? When Nigerian women go there for prostitution!

All these gay men disguising as women on Nairaland claiming anti-feminism.

Cococandy
Bukatyne
Sophyrocks
Fellis etc beware of Joavid.

See her nauseating and demeaning post about Nigerian women and she claim to be one.

Oniranu!
Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by obowunmi(m): 6:58pm On Apr 06, 2015
ayobase:


this your moniker aligns not with your personality.

I have been seeing your comments on threads, mostly commendable I must say.


Thank you sir. I've matured.

I'm an old member and was out to have fun so I came up with the name. I don dey old but I like my moniker sha...

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Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by 5minsmadness: 7:36pm On Apr 06, 2015
Sanguine:




#smiles. You just keep calm, be yourself and then see how things turn out. Whatever will be will sure be. Nobody is perfect.
Thanks.
I must say you are very easy on the eyes smiley
Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by Sanguine(f): 7:53pm On Apr 06, 2015
5minsmadness:

Thanks.
I must say you are very easy on the eyes smiley



#smiles. I'd take that as a compliment. *bows* Gracias. #bigGrin.
And eeerrrm, that look...really deep (those eyes though). What's on your mind? You wanna share? Don' worry I won't tell anyone...

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Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by NobleG1(m): 8:08pm On Apr 06, 2015
This is c*ock and b*ullshit!!

Old parents lasted in marriage because women at their time didn't have rights like women of today.

At that time, society made it the woman's fault if the marriage breaks up. Leaving your marriage was a no no for women and family would ostracize them if they eventually leave.

It was extremely tough for a divorcee to re-marry unlike her male counterpart. So women were stuck in their abusive marriages for the rest of their lives.

Today's woman has better rights. She can choose to marry or not, without being forced into one. And if she decides to marry, she marries a man of her choice and can leave an abusive marriage if she wishes, without fear.

So for you to advocate for the return of the barbaric period shows there are i*diots in 21st century who still believe women are second class humans.

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Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by Nobody: 8:08pm On Apr 06, 2015
Vickybee:


All these gay men disguising as women on Nairaland claiming anti-feminism.

Cococandy
Bukatyne
Sophyrocks
Fellis etc beware of Joavid.

See her nauseating and demeaning post about Nigerian women and she claim to be one.

Oniranu!

Lmao!!! grin
Did you say gay?? Bwhahahahahahahahaha
Rotfl grin grin


Wallahi, you are very very stupiiid! grin

I did my service to humanity, so you would stop fooling yourself around this forum and now am your biggest nightmare?
sad

Keep digging through my posts and spamming NL with my "joavid". I don't have time dumbos like you.

Goodluck cos you'll need it.
wink

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Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by Nobody: 8:10pm On Apr 06, 2015
Iaz93:


JISOS!!! Jo, you killed me! cry cry

grin
Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by koyyess: 9:26pm On Apr 06, 2015
PAGAN9JA:


he'goat! yve already sold your soul to the dead god of your white slave masters. face your own jarre

my ancestors never bowed to the foreigners. which is why im still on the track unlyk urs.
You must be high on some cheap drugs. I've already said it that you know nothing about your history. You are just a deluded, angry ,mad illiterate seeking relevance on NL. Even your gods can't remove the shackles on your miserable callous feet. Mumu negro.
Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by bukatyne(f): 9:42pm On Apr 06, 2015
Vickybee:


All these gay men disguising as women on Nairaland claiming anti-feminism.

Cococandy
Bukatyne
Sophyrocks
Fellis etc beware of Joavid.

See her nauseating and demeaning post about Nigerian women and she claim to be one.

Oniranu!

Hi Vicky,

Thanks for the mention.

There are a diverse group of people here just like in real life and not everyone will believe in your ideals.

I will say define yourself and values and try to stick by them, improving when nnecessary

You do not have to convince anyone to believe in you or your ideals neither do you have to believe in what others believe in.

The most important thing is to grow daily, learn from people you can and respect everyone 's opinion.

Have a great day/night.

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Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by Ewuro4: 11:24pm On Apr 06, 2015
hurricaneindia:

If Your own marriage was not arranged, you better not interfere in your children's lives.

Are they your children? Learn to Stop poking your unsolicited nose into strangers' family affairs. Ciao.

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Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by Ewuro4: 11:40pm On Apr 06, 2015
5minsmadness:

Someone said something about Indians in the UK who still practice arranged marriages and it works out well. Two of my cousins are essentially in arranged marriages. They studied and work abroad and their mums came to naija to look for wife for them (no joke grin). They went to we'll known 'good families' and investigated the girls as throughly as they could before coming back with their results. The guys didn't even see the girls more than 2times before marriage. And nobody has heard pem from them since the wedding.
Funny enough it is my cousins that rebelled and chose wives for themselves that are having it hot in their marriages. One of them just divorced a few days ago.
Me I don dey consider the thing seriously oh grin

Oga, Most East Indians practice arranged marriage accross the globe till date. I'm talking top professionals like Physicians & Members of Parliament (MP). Young, hale and hearty 20s & up.

No story, confirm.
Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by 5minsmadness: 11:49pm On Apr 06, 2015
NobleG1:
This is c*ock and b*ullshit!!

Old parents lasted in marriage because women at that time didn't have rights like women of today.

At that time, society made it the woman's fault if the marraige breaks up. Leaving your marraige was a no no for women and family would ostracize them if they eventually leave.

It was extremely tough for a divorcee to re-marry unlike her male counterpart. So women were stuck in their abusive marraiges for the rest of their lives.

Today's woman has better rights. She can choose to marry or not, without being forced into one. And if she decides to marry, she marries a man of her choice and can leave an abusive marraige if she wishes, without fear.

So for you to advocate for the return of the barbaric period shows there are i*diots in 21st century who still believe women are second class humans.

You were doing so well marshalling out your points, and then you ended it stupidly.

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Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by SenatorJames(m): 12:30am On Apr 07, 2015
I agreed with the op to some great extent
Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by NobleG1(m): 1:35am On Apr 07, 2015
5minsmadness:

You were doing so well marshalling out your points, and then you ended it stupidly.

What you think about my post is totally irrelevant to me.

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Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by hurricaneindia(f): 1:42am On Apr 07, 2015
Ewuro4:


Are they your children? Learn to Stop poking your unsolicited nose into strangers' family affairs. Ciao.
My opinion. No vex
Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by hurricaneindia(f): 1:42am On Apr 07, 2015
Ewuro4:


Are they your children? Learn to Stop poking your unsolicited nose into strangers' family affairs. Ciao.
Its just an opinion. Calm down. Ciao
Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by CAMNEWTON4PRES: 3:30am On Apr 07, 2015
Arranged marriages are definitely better

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Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by obowunmi(m): 4:42am On Apr 07, 2015
Sophyrocks:
Now inspite of the higher morals we had back amongst our forefathers, some of them still married wrongly. Some homes back then had all manners of abuse. Its not everyone that would be enlightened when it comes to marriage and morals. But divorce wasnt the culture, women were always advised to endure as long as their husbands still cared for the kids. Most women were just homemakers, housewives with nothing going for their lives. There are also some exceptional households with women as breadwinners. Yes, women being breadwinners didnt start from this modern age. There were men who did nthing but drink while their wives went to farm and sell their produce.

In this modern age, most people do not find arranged marriages desirable because it could involve forcing a person to accept someone they dnt like at all. Modern age must come with a lot of changes. Economic changes have changed everything. women now work and earn money. A lot of enlightenment and education is going on now. Things of old have passed away. The bad change is our morals have gone down. Nowadays, a lot of s.ex is going on before marriage which has introduced unwanted pregnancies, stds, abortions and single motherhood. Gross infidelity is everywhere because of our fallen morals. There are too many vices going on that would disrupt marriages. also many people now marry for flimsy reasons, to show off, to please society. women could tolerate then but not now. the vices are too prevalent to do any tolerating.

Truth be told, if marriages of now are to survive, they must revive their dying morals. High morals〓 better marriages. Since we all know what destroys marriages, we have to avoid all these vices to make marriages work. The same bible that talked about love also talked about adultery. we know all these but because of our fallen morals, we ignore them. Too bad.

You must live in a perfect world.

Look woman, life happens to many people.
Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by obowunmi(m): 4:42am On Apr 07, 2015
CAMNEWTON4PRES:
Arranged marriages are definitely better

God's will is the best option.
Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by 5minsmadness: 7:34am On Apr 07, 2015
NobleG1:


What you think about my post is totally irrelevant to me.
Not now maybe as you are probably still in secondary school, but it might become important later when you graduate and become involved in human resources. Anyone can bring up an argument. Sometimes they just want to access your reasoning faculty, your courtesy, your politeness and your patience.

In getting a job, attracting and maintaining clients or even marrying a responsible wife, politeness is a key ingredient. It will get you far in this life or it will impede your progress, it's all up to you.

I wouldn't waste this time giving you this small lecture as there are a lot of prepubescent individuals on this site and throwing insults is a regular here. However I saw the way your thought process flowed and the way you arranged your points only to end it with an insult. I strongly feel this is a reflection of who you are in real life and it would be a pity if you constantly sabotage your intelligence potential with this underlying scurrilous behavior.

Take it or leave it. It's your life.
Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by pickabeau1: 8:13am On Apr 07, 2015
Interesting...


So you can talk like this without typing in CAPS and exclamations shocked

More of this

Sophyrocks:
Now inspite of the higher morals we had back amongst our forefathers, some of them still married wrongly. Some homes back then had all manners of abuse. Its not everyone that would be enlightened when it comes to marriage and morals. But divorce wasnt the culture, women were always advised to endure as long as their husbands still cared for the kids. Most women were just homemakers, housewives with nothing going for their lives. There are also some exceptional households with women as breadwinners. Yes, women being breadwinners didnt start from this modern age. There were men who did nthing but drink while their wives went to farm and sell their produce.

In this modern age, most people do not find arranged marriages desirable because it could involve forcing a person to accept someone they dnt like at all. Modern age must come with a lot of changes. Economic changes have changed everything. women now work and earn money. A lot of enlightenment and education is going on now. Things of old have passed away. The bad change is our morals have gone down. Nowadays, a lot of s.ex is going on before marriage which has introduced unwanted pregnancies, stds, abortions and single motherhood. Gross infidelity is everywhere because of our fallen morals. There are too many vices going on that would disrupt marriages. also many people now marry for flimsy reasons, to show off, to please society. women could tolerate then but not now. the vices are too prevalent to do any tolerating.

Truth be told, if marriages of now are to survive, they must revive their dying morals. High morals〓 better marriages. Since we all know what destroys marriages, we have to avoid all these vices to make marriages work. The same bible that talked about love also talked about adultery. we know all these but because of our fallen morals, we ignore them. Too bad.
Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by Nobody: 8:23am On Apr 07, 2015
obowunmi:


You must live in a perfect world.

Look woman, life happens to many people.

And that is why you must do your best to make marriage work. You talked about including God in marriage. How can you include God in your marriage when you dnt live a good life? If your moral values are low, your marriage will suffer.
Re: Arranged Marriages Were Better Than Modern Marriages. by NobleG1(m): 1:37pm On Apr 07, 2015
5minsmadness:

Not now maybe as you are probably still in secondary school, but it might become important later when you graduate and become involved in human resources. Anyone can bring up an argument. Sometimes they just want to access your reasoning faculty, your courtesy, your politeness and your patience.

In getting a job, attracting and maintaining clients or even marrying a responsible wife, politeness is a key ingredient. It will get you far in this life or it will impede your progress, it's all up to you.

I wouldn't waste this time giving you this small lecture as there are a lot of prepubescent individuals on this site and throwing insults is a regular here. However I saw the way your thought process flowed and the way you arranged your points only to end it with an insult. I strongly feel this is a reflection of who you are in real life and it would be a pity if you constantly sabotage your intelligence potential with this underlying scurrilous behavior.

Take it or leave it. It's your life.

The say silence is the best answer to an i*mbecile like you but I'm tempted to enlighten you. It doesn't matter how you choose to live your pathetic life. As my previous response entails, your opinion of my posts is totally irrelevant. I'm not interested to know you exist.

It’s pretty simplistic to think that you can know the measure of a man through internet posts. I’m surprised at how you seem to be so agitated by all of this. Actually, I’m not surprised really. It is you who have taken the time to read and reply to my post, so you should really ask yourself why you deem it necessary and worth your time.

You are amongst a few people who have been following me that I’ve come to call “hater-flatterers.”
They have a big problem with me, yet seem to find me thrilling. I really bother these a*ssholes. They so quickly dismiss virtually everything I have to say as bullshit or some type of crazed, angry rant, however, they are the very ones who love to indulge it.

If what I have to say is so beneath you, then why bother to reply anyway? Is it that you care enough to "educate" what you believe to be a poor misguided soul? Is it that you don’t have a life? Maybe it upsets you that you were brought up so poorly and no one could care less about what you have to say? Or perhaps what I have to say really rattles the core of your belief system so you feel the need to be defensive? If what I have to say is so silly, then ask yourself why it strikes such a nerve?

Whatever the reason may be, I will not continue stooping so low in giving you the attention you desperately needs. All the hater-flattery in the world will not prompt me to change. You will only serve to make me stronger. You may not agree with what I have to say, but intelligent people do.

I am not always right, nor do I profess to be (as you i*diot think you're), but I do always speak what I feel and that obviously resonates with a lot of people. And as much as you may not like what I say, you cannot deny that it resonates with you.

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