Dear romancelanders, a close friend of mine called me this morning (8th) and was complaing bitterly about his girlfriend.
This is the summary of his complain:


"he loves her so much and she loves him too. he's been dating her for over six years but she doesn't allow him kiss her. Anytime he makes a move, she'll tell him to wait for the right time, (wedding day, which he doesn't know if he'll be her husband).
Fast foward to yesterday(7th), he was a lucky guy because she paid him a suprise visit and decided to pass the night with him.
Everything spoiled because she kept rejecting his moves. Although she allowed him kiss her on her forehead, arms, cheeks, and other parts, she fasten her lips together and wouldn't allow him kiss her lips, despite applying all his badt boi methods he could think of..
It even came to a point where it looked as if he was trying to rape her and she burst into tears which made him angry and made him quarrel with her."

(don't think he is a learner because he is a baddo!)

i asked him to calm down and take everything easy.

What advice should i give him? Should he comply with her or breakup?
(I don't want to jump into conclusion for fear of ruining his 6yr+ old relationship. At this point i know he will take any advice from me, that's why i decided to bring it up here).


NOTE: This is not a cooked up story. Matured response please.

OP nor vess o, im just here 4 1st to comment.

hehehehe @6yrs
Abeg OP what hve they been doing for 6yrs that he hasnt kissed ha?
Is it a long distance relationship?
I find it hard to believe that in 6yrs, u dont kiss a gal
Gal wey we no dey date sef don turn deakiness from all the deakins wey she dey recieve
I jus need to laff in swahili

Well, with all form of sincerity, I strongly believe that lady is seeing someone else. She is merely keeping him (your friend) as a 'distant' alternative. She has someone she is very serious with and she's just keeping your guy in case all other 'tangible' and 'viable' options fails.
Your friend is not really her type and she is not just [sexually or even physically] attracted to him in the least of ways.
And my advice? Let the bros call it quit and move on (except he's still hanging on and hoping to make sure he finally 'chop' her). And in order to save himself some pride, let him break up with her; in fact, let him make the break up so pronounced that the lady would feel (the heat) it.
Sincerely speaking, that lady doesn't have much respect for your friend. And that? is obvious enough, at least, from your narrations.
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Everytime, my friend, my friend. Una nor even dey ever admit sey na una. Na wa o.

6years!!!!!!!!!!!
This is not funny o
That ur friend needs deliverance
1. he's not a bad boi as u claim
2. Ow old is the guy and gal
3. Again, Dont never ever refer to him as a badoo
4. She doesnt love him as u claim cos if love shack gal finish, she no go wait 1year, i bleep up sef, 1day to kiss and enter the place
5. Dont advise him, let him continue in his Cinderella life
6. If u must advice him, tell him to DUMP HA SORRY A>SS

tosyne2much:
One has to be extra watchful and tactful when dealing with those kinds of ladies cos 99% of them have something up their sleeves

After 1,2,3,4,5,6+ years??
Do u know how many months that is, talkless of number of days.
What do they do? Midnite calls abi?
I find the story hard to believe

They have been friends not dating

walepinna:

After 1,2,3,4,5,6+ years??
Do u know how many months that is, talkless of number of days.
What do they do? Midnite calls abi?
I find the story hard to believe

I'm telling you bro

After 6 years of dating, r they planning on getting married soon? I just hope the guy os not been played sha. Cos one day he might wake up to see his beloved is getting married to another .

B!tch has mouth Odour;

Seriously,this is weird

There's no two way about it, I don't think the lady is in love with him.

kitnah:
Seriously,this is weird

Very weird

6 yrs iz enof to study Pharmacy + youth service! N ur frend waz expectin a kiss all this while?

He is in a beta position to answer dat. Ask him

This one is serious..But op,shei dem don bleep?

Lies OP you are lying..... Are you a pastor, is she the pastor's daughter.... Abeg stop posting sh¡t after smoking crack

Fairgodwin:
Well, with all form of sincerity, I strongly believe that lady is seeing someone else. She is merely keeping him (your friend) as a 'distant' alternative. She has someone she is very serious with and she's just keeping your guy in case all other 'tangible' and 'viable' options fails.
Your friend is not really her type and she is not just [sexually or even physically] attracted to him in the least of ways.
And my advice? Let the bros call it quit and move on (except he's still hanging on and hoping to make sure he finally 'chop' her). And in order to save himself some pride, let him break up with her; in fact, let him make the break up so pronounced that the lady would feel (the heat) it.
Sincerely speaking, that lady doesn't have much respect for your friend. And that? is obvious enough, at least, from your narrations.
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..
Everytime, my friend, my friend. Una nor even dey ever admit sey na una. Na wa o.

I swear he should break up with her well well preferably in a public place like shoprite on a weekend or public holiday stewpid girl does she want to kill the poor boy? 6Years ?
Az in ehn break up with her dat kain break up that when she hears or sees anything that reminds her of him she will hiss and swear for him...but nothing will do him. The girl na winch

FLAWLES:
B!tch has mouth Odour;

Tinubu tinz

Wetin! 6yrs? Even 6month sef I go don swerve go another lane, if I don scratch leg for ground 3 times like male hen and babe still dey strong body, na unto the next one o. @Op if ur friend is a true baddo he go don move on after at most 6months. Its not a must to strike every babe that comes ur way, so jst count this one as part of those babes.

A ha! 6yrs, the thing just dey pain me, ur guy is very stubborn and steewpeed.

This lie fit carry award,6years no kiss? if you have said the guy has not tasted the punany in 6years I might beleive but no kiss The devil is a learner

kingstylo01:
Dear romancelanders, a close friend of mine called me this morning (8th) and was complaing bitterly about his girlfriend.
This is the summary of his complain:


"he loves her so much and she loves him too. he's been dating her for over six years but she doesn't allow him kiss her. Anytime he makes a move, she'll tell him to wait for the right time, (wedding day, which he doesn't know if he'll be her husband).
Fast foward to yesterday(7th), he was a lucky guy because she paid him a suprise visit and decided to pass the night with him.
Everything spoiled because she kept rejecting his moves. Although she allowed him kiss her on her forehead, arms, cheeks, and other parts, she fasten her lips together and wouldn't allow him kiss her lips, despite applying all his badt boi methods he could think of..
It even came to a point where it looked as if he was trying to rape her and she burst into tears which made him angry and made him quarrel with her."

(don't think he is a learner because he is a baddo!)

i asked him to calm down and take everything easy.

What advice should i give him? Should he comply with her or breakup?
(I don't want to jump into conclusion for fear of ruining his 6yr+ old relationship. At this point i know he will take any advice from me, that's why i decided to bring it up here).


NOTE: This is not a cooked up story. Matured response please.

If he knows he doesn't want to marry her, he should let her go.

Imagine!!! He wants to kiss her but not sure if he wants to marry her.

One man's mary is another man's jazzebel

refreshrate:


I swear he should break up with her well well preferably in a public place like shoprite on a weekend or public holiday stewpid girl does she want to kill the poor boy? 6Years ?
Az in ehn break up with her dat kain break up that when she hears or sees anything that reminds her of him she will hiss and swear for him...but nothing will do him. The girl na winch

hahahahahahahahahaha........... this guy bad ooo

This one is STRONG....Eleyii gidii gaannnn...

@ Tallesty1 walepinna , tosyne2much , this is no joking matter.

1. According to him, they started dating since 2009, buh he asked her out about 6 months later (i guess 2010)
2. Initially, they've been together until the 2nd half of 2011 when she relocated with her family, and their relationship automatically became a distant one.
3. He really loves her, and so she does.
4. She's this church type. To me, hers is honest
5. He's around 23-24 and she's around 20-21yrs

The simple truth.... They are not dating!

Fairgodwin:
Well, with all form of sincerity, I strongly believe that lady is seeing someone else. She is merely keeping him (your friend) as a 'distant' alternative. She has someone she is very serious with and she's just keeping your guy in case all other 'tangible' and 'viable' options fails.
Your friend is not really her type and she is not just [sexually or even physically] attracted to him in the least of ways.
And my advice? Let the bros call it quit and move on (except he's still hanging on and hoping to make sure he finally 'chop' her). And in order to save himself some pride, let him break up with her; in fact, let him make the break up so pronounced that the lady would feel (the heat) it.
Sincerely speaking, that lady doesn't have much respect for your friend. And that? is obvious enough, at least, from your narrations.
..
..
Everytime, my friend, my friend. Una nor even dey ever admit sey na una. Na wa o.

i see no big deal in admiting that it's me, buh the truth remains that its not me, buh a friend of mine...


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I see sense in your post, buh am afraid of asking him to quite and later on, if they eventually get back together, they'll see me as an enemy..

Chanchit:
Wetin! 6yrs? Even 6month sef I go don swerve go another lane, if I don scratch leg for ground 3 times like male hen and babe still dey strong body, na unto the next one o. @Op if ur friend is a true baddo he go don move on after at most 6months. Its not a must to strike every babe that comes ur way, so jst count this one as part of those babes.

A ha! 6yrs, the thing just dey pain me, ur guy is very stubborn and steewpeed.

that's what am thinking, buh he claims he found true love in her.. I'll try and calm him down for now sha.. Then talk senseses in his head

kingstylo01:
i see no big deal in admiting that it's me, buh the truth remains that its not me, buh a friend of mine...


...
I see sense in your post, buh am afraid of asking him to quite and later on, if they eventually get back together, they'll see me as an enemy..

All right bro, just play neutral and an observer then.
Sorry if I offended you with the last part of my comment. It was meant to be a joke, though.

See plp suffering them selves to advice. If the story aint cooked as u claimed, then its fried.