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| Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by lezz(m): 11:56am On Apr 12, 2015 |
Everyone wants the secret key to happiness, both men and women alike. Thus positive psychology seems to be the rage these days as everyone is searching for this elusive psychological land of Oz. So what can evolutionary psychology say about being happy? Humans are designed by God and evolution in a particular way for millions of years. No amount of debate, argument or denial can change our evolutionary legacy and heritage. One thing God has done through evolution is to make man and woman inherently different in many ways. One of the ways which men and women are different is what makes them HAPPY. Modern feminist movement has advocated that a better paying job, money and promotion and "equality" would promote women and consequently make them happy. These are lies fuelled by political and ideological leaning, and never on science or the bible. Promotions, money, political power and social status are unlikely to make a woman truly happy. Similarly, quitting their jobs, dropping out of the rat race and spending all their time with their children to become stay-at-home-dads is unlikely to make men happy. Money, power, respect, promotion, political power, social status and/plus/or a strong metaphysical belief is make makes a man happy. Can a woman be truly happy without children? It is very unlikely. Spending time with their Children and/or a strong metaphysical belief is what makes women truly happy. Women with wisdom look out for a clever way to combine career with motherhood and it is not the way the feminists tell us. Men and women are very different, because they are designed by millions of years of evolution to be very different. Women cannot become happy by pretending to be men, and men cannot become happy by pretending to be women. Swedes have already tried that, and they have failed massively and spectacularly. As Danielle Crittenden argues in her book,what our mothers didn't tell us: Why happiness eludes the modern woman women's TRUE happiness is in her reproductive and caring nature, both to her husband and children. Finally, modern feminism is evil because it ultimately makes women (and men) unhappy. In a forthcoming article in the American Economic Journal: Economic Policy, Betsey Stevenson and Justin Wolfers of the Wharton School of Business at the University of Pennsylvania show that American women over the last 35 years have steadily become less and less happy, as they have made more and more money relative to men. Women used to be a lot happier than men despite the fact that they made much less money than men. The sex gap in happiness (in women’s favor) has declined in the past 35 years as the sex gap in pay (in men’s favor) narrowed. Now women make as much as, sometimes even more than, men do. As a result, today women are just as unhappy, or even more unhappy than, men are. As I explained earlier, money does not make women happy. The feminist insistence that women behave like men and make as much money as men do may not be the sole reason for women’s rising levels of dissatisfaction with life; a greater incidence of divorce and single motherhood may also contribute to it. At any event, the culpability of modern feminism in making women steadily unhappy, because it is based on false assumptions about male and female human nature.. Surprising, Men’s happiness has not declined in the last 35 years, because there has not been masculinism. 6 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by swaggzo(m): 12:19pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
EVERY BODY IS IN CHARGE OF THEIR FEELINGS ITS A STONNER THAT MOST OF THE WOMEN CHOOSE TO FEEL SAD. 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by lezz(m): 12:23pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
swaggzo:surprisingly, I think it's an overdose/abuse of the feminism pill. 2 Likes |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 12:40pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Finally, modern feminism is evil because it ultimately makes women (and men) unhappy. In a forthcoming article in the American Economic Journal: Economic Policy, Betsey Stevenson and Justin Wolfers of the Wharton School of Business at the University of Pennsylvania show that American women over the last 35 years have steadily become less and less happy, as they have made more and more money relative to men.I'm a Nigerian woman. I'm a feminist. I'm happy So, anyone who did this silly reasearch should shove it into his/her hairy dirty ass.  17 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by TooNoisy(f): 12:43pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
[size=14pt]NIGERIA CELEBRATES THE EMERGENCE OF THE FIRST FEMALE GOVERNOR. SHE IS MARRIED, RELIGIOUS AND SHE IS NOT A FEMINIST![/size] 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by swaggzo(m): 12:44pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Vickybee: WHAT IS A FEMINIST? |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by lezz(m): 12:46pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Vickybee:Your heated, animated reaction says otherwise. 7 Likes |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by bukatyne(f): 12:48pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
I wonder how it was concluded that the 'modern' woman is not Happy  Can the OP pinpoint the time in life when women were Happy? If a person (male or female) is not content, the person cannot be Happy (I am guessing you mean joyous) 8 Likes |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by naturally: 12:48pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Eeya |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 12:56pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
u said what i wanted to say swaggzo: |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by lezz(m): 1:01pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
bukatyne:The research group says women where happier 35 years ago than they are today. Did you skip the lines. 1 Like |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 1:02pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
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| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by swaggzo(m): 1:05pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Vickybee: I WANTED YOUR ANSWER, NOT A LINK. I COULD SAY I'M A RICH MAN WHEN I'M NOT.. WHILE I SEND LINKS FROM WIKIPEDIA TO PEOPLE. AIN'T IT BULLSHIIT? ACTUALLY THE BIG DEAL IS THAT. . NOT EVERY FEMINIST REALLY KNOW WHAT FEMINISM IS ALL ABOUT. 12 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 1:06pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Nigerian award winning intelligent writer. She work for her money not milking our economy. She is a woman, She's married, She's a realist not blinded by religious hypocrisy, she's a feminist and she's Adichie.  8 Likes |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 1:11pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
swaggzo:I've given you what feminism means. Define it how it suits you at your own peril What's Science and Medicine? What will you give me as an answer? Textbook and its actual definition, ain't it? 2 Likes |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by lilmax(m): 1:11pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
How can you be happy when you are trying to be a man instead of a woman? Hatred for men=feminism=trying to be a man=hate yourself as a woman 9 Likes |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by bukatyne(f): 1:12pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
lezz: Women were happier 35yrs ago? What made them happier? Staying at home? Considering thefact that as at 35yrs ago, a lot of women were earning income, getting promoted etc. Can We know If the women 40yrs ago and up were happier? 3 Likes |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by bukatyne(f): 1:13pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
lilmax: Hatred for men is feminism? Interesting |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 1:13pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
lilmax: What makes you think feminist are trying to be a man? Calling a strong woman a man is even demeaning and insult. Gotcha? 7 Likes |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 1:20pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
do you mind posting the source of your article? lezz: |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by lezz(m): 1:23pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
bukatyne:By 1979, women could still balance the moderate demands of career and children. 35 to 40 years ago women were not pretending to be men. The earning power of women in 1979 is not the same today. The figures of single motherhood aren't the same as is the number of divorce. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 1:33pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
lezz:The emboldened doesn't mean women were happy, then. They were tolerant because of societal tag. We women of 21st century don't give a fùck. Only on internet will some men have the effrontery to insult single ladies. The fact still remain that society traumatize a single woman or divorcee. A woman can tolerate any shìt from her husband because if she file a divorce, society, family, friends etc will make mockery of her. Most divorced African/Nigerian ladies are independent ones that can cater for theirselves that's why female entertainers who are rich divorce easily. If Nigeria have an American law that husband and wife would share property if they divorce, you'll see sad wives that have endured brutal marriages divorcing. Only in Nigeria law that a man can take all the children from a woman or even send her out without divorcing. Mtcheew 9 Likes |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by bukatyne(f): 1:46pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
lezz: And you judge happiness by no of divorces? Does it occur to you that the divorce rates were lower because it was not widely accepted? Same with baby mamaism How many women have you personally come across that are sad because they want to be like men? What is ratio of women who alter themselves to be men to men who alter themselves to be women? 8 Likes |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by plaetton: 2:04pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Vickybee: The issue is happiness. Personal achievement is different from being happy. The op posits, and I concur, that a woman s true happiness and sense of fullfilment lies in the maximum exercise and utility of her feminine attributes of motherhood and homemaking. 4 Likes |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by freecocoa(f): 2:07pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Yea right, women were indeed happier 35 years ago, mschew. 3 Likes |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 2:08pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
plaetton:My post wasn't meant for OP. It was actually directed to the anti-feminism female on this thread that cited the religious, muslim woman as an example. |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by plaetton: 2:24pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
I think there is great deal of misunderstanding here. Anyone who is old or mature enough would agree that happiness does not mean the same for both men and women. A lot of the problems with modern women is this false idea or expectations that a man or husband can make a woman truly happy. No mam can give enduring happiness to a woman, simply because their happiness compass are hardly ever steady. Only a woman can make herself happy or find happiness in the exercise of her evolutionally honed feminine attributes. In simple language, only a woman 's children can give her unlimited and enduring happiness. This may sound sexist, old fashioned or chauvinistic, but it is the truth according to nature. Of course, I am not advocating that women must stay home and breed children all their lives. No. What I am saying is that a sincere recognition and appreciation of the differences between the masculine and feminine attributes, and the different, but very important roles each plays in the evolution of the human species would tend to ensure a more balanced, harmonious and self-fulfilling lives, especially for the females. 4 Likes |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 2:30pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
First, let's address the margins of this so-called 'happiness'. In 1972, the average woman rated her happiness as a 2.24; in 2006 she rated her happiness as a 2.17 on a scale from 1-3. Do the math, OP. That amounts to about a 3% decrease in elusive 'happiness' from 1972. 3%. Talk less of '35' yr span, if you were 3% less or more happy than last year, would you truly consider this a change worthy of an in-depth analysis? Secondly, it stands to reason that the more your opportunities/choices/expectations grow - the more your life expands. The more you'll juggle! More demands on your time & abilities, both personally and professionally = more responsibilities, and relationships. Inevitably, this means more room on things to be potentially 'unhappy' about than ever before, no? Furthermore, how ludicrous that you're actively blaming feminism for general female 'unhappiness', when the 1970's was the heyday of feminism - a time when women felt a real sense of feminist community, and were actively engaged in the movement. Which, ironically enough, implies that women were happier during the times when the feminist movement was at its strongest, and less happy during the times when the backlash rose to fore, or the tides of this *ism* waned, lol. Lezz, be real! 10 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Nobody: 2:34pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Modern woman is sad? Hian!!!! Everyone has the power over their feelings jare.....quit hating on feminists. You re just sad cos women are taking over :p 6 Likes |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by plaetton: 2:41pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Vickybee:Another misunderstanding. Women are already built strong by nature. Women excercise their strenghts in natural ways that ensures the survival of the species. The terms "strong woman" is a misnomer, a distortion of true feminine strenghts. How does a woman conquer a man? By comfrontation and competition, or by wile? If a woman is not controlling her man by the subtle use of her natural feminine wiles, then she is not a strong woman in the true sense of the word. Happy women are women who use their femininity to fine-tune their relationships and lives from time to time. Women who depend on men, boyfriends, husbands, careers, etc for happiness and self-fulfillment hardly ever find enduring happiness. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by Stillfire: 2:42pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Rubbish premise! Lazy women trying to look for a way to balance at home and get fat on the husband's sweat. Don't come here and pass off some silly western woman study and relate it with African women. Even your great grandmothers as africans were working women. The only difference was there were extended families to take care of the kids. Since we don't live in a village setting any more, men must make themselves useful with house chores and the children  . Bite me!If you women have an agenda not to develop a career, you better stop taking the space of genuine men and women from gaining admissions into Universities. Nonsense. If I'm a university administrator, every woman would be a damn suspect. 9 Likes |
| Re: Why The Modern Woman Is Sad by plaetton: 2:44pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
freecocoa:Why do you disagree? |
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