aknopic:
My name is akinwunmi am a student studying
law.
I ave a huge problem relating with people
especially girls
This is how the problem goes
when a girl talks to me, I feel difficulty replying, I
just mumble words like I don't know how to
speak good eng.
When i talk I just feel sth restraining my vocal
cord
My movement is also not leftout, I just feel like I
am not the one moving and thereby becoming
absent minded.
Also when am about to talk to someone I feel like
sth is in my head, my eyes will get dry, I get a
feeling of mouth of odour all these block me from
passing info thereby leading to BLACKOUT.
My public speaking is not also leftout. I feel
pressured all arnd my body wen I am about to
speak
I don't know if there's any one here that can help
please I don't want my life and
career to be ruined just because of this.

aknopic:
My name is akinwunmi am a student studying
law.
I ave a huge problem relating with people
especially girls
This is how the problem goes
when a girl talks to me, I feel difficulty replying, I
just mumble words like I don't know how to
speak good eng.
When i talk I just feel sth restraining my vocal
cord
My movement is also not leftout, I just feel like I
am not the one moving and thereby becoming
absent minded.
Also when am about to talk to someone I feel like
sth is in my head, my eyes will get dry, I get a
feeling of mouth of odour all these block me from
passing info thereby leading to BLACKOUT.
My public speaking is not also leftout. I feel
pressured all arnd my body wen I am about to
speak
I don't know if there's any one here that can help
please I don't want my life and
career to be ruined just because of this.

obailala:

What you are suffering from is simply a case of shyness and stage fright. If you are determined to end this, you can with a little bit of determination.

You tend to be a perfectionist and you are scared of making even a single mistake because you think you would be laughed at. Even though you speak and write English very fluently, you harbour a fear that you would either say rubbish or commit a grammatical blunder especially when talking to girls. But you need to realise that most times, you are the only one who notices your blunders, others dont!

The truth is that all your problems are just psychological and are created only in your head. The best way to tackle this monster is to get into the boxing ring with it and battle it head to head. You need to take the bull by its horn.

Practice will only make you perfect. Being shy or unable to talk to girls is like a habit and the best way to stop a habit is to replace it with another habit; Yes! You need to force yourself to start talking with people, you need to become a talkative. Henceforth, you need to set a DAILY target for yourself to start talking to people who you would rather not talk to on a normal day. You can start by talking to the less intimidating girls but you must work yourself up the ladder. Now is the time to start executing your daily target.

Will people laugh at you if you make a mistake? YES they would. But it wouldnt be all the time and the laugh would only probably last a second. Also you need to understand that as you are intimidated by her presence, she is also intimidated by your presence and for this reason, she would most probably not even notice your blunder (that's if you even commit any). Just like i mentioned earlier, shy people are mostly the only ones who notice their blunders, others dont!

In summary you need to inconvenience yourself daily by talking randomly to girls... Practice makes perfect; just get yourslef to keep talking to every girl around you. Be a talkative, even if you think in your head that you aren't making sense, dont worry you are.

aknopic:

Sometimes I try talkingto girls by asking questions
they get turned off and will just give an excuse to leave

aknopic:
u might wanna think there is enough comment
here but most of the comments here are mine.
I ve heard a lot of stories that nairaland is a
place for solutions.
This is a career threatening problem and I need
advise for those who have been in my shoes out
there or professionals in this course.
I appreciate some of the comments I be seen but
pls I need more or the best.
We are in our first semester break in my skul and
I ave enough time to read the comments that
could change my life forever.
Cc: seun, isilove, lalastical
THANKS IN ADVANCE FOR MOVING THIS TO THE
FRONT PAGE

Teempakguy:
HAVE NO FEAR!!!
I HAD THE SAME PROBLEM A FEW YEARS AGO!
AND I SOLVED IT.
SIMPLE SOLUTION.
In a nutshell.
Just embarrass yourself in front of people. After this, you will never fear any human again,

Girltee1:
Embarrass himself ke?

Boxer007:



Females are horrible, disgusting, ugly, unwanted, not good and terrible. Turn gay and u will be loved

Teempakguy:
yes of course. Then he'll realize how impossible it is to embarrass one's self, and that should give him some confidence.

*sips bobo while playing candy crush*

aknopic:
u might wanna think there is enough comment
here but most of the comments here are mine.
I ve heard a lot of stories that nairaland is a
place for solutions.
This is a career threatening problem and I need
advise from those who have been in my shoes out
there or professionals in this course.
I appreciate some of the comments I have seen but
PLEASE I need more or the best.
We are in our first semester break in my skul and
I ave enough time to read the comments that
could change my life forever.
Cc: seun, isilove, lalastical
THANKS IN ADVANCE FOR MOVING THIS TO
THE
FRONT PAGE