Blebleswag:
Hypocrites everywhere.

Blebleswag:
Same they wil do to ur sisters, cos she's bn jumpin 4rm peter2james, fryingpan2pot etc.
Or if u dnt hav sisters, then to ur girl child/children

Rapmoney:
Thanks! I am glad people like you are still on this forum

pretty050:
Why should the woman take all the blame. They are both living a sin. "Wall mongers and adulterous (fornicators in this case)God will judge "

martyns303:
I wanted to open a topic to discuss similar issue but since there is one already, I would like to talk about it here.

OP please don't be angry, let me use this opportunity.

Am in this situation right now. My GF of 4yrs is in her final year, she stays off campus and pays N150,000 annually. I paid for the place and help set it up as in furnitures to electronics, she practically have everything.

I also have my own place, a self contain, very big and spacious, am also paying N150,000 annually, I am a graduate, I don't have a job yet but I make do on the side, am currently on a course and I know once am done a job is not far fetched.

The problem now is my rents had expired, mine expires 3 months before hers, instead of digging out N300,000 to pay for both of us, one of us had to move in with the other as we have other things that will require expenses. She can't move in with me because my place is far from her school and will require around N500 everyday for transport, so I decided to move in with her. It wasn't an easy move, beside overcoming the social thoughts from people like the OP, we also incured a lot of bills doing the actual moving, as she had to move her stuffs to her family home, while I moved my stuffs into her place.

We both know it is inappropriate to be living together when we are not married, but we just had to make do. This is her second semester in final and I am most likely to leave the country in 3 months too.

Now here is where I need advice from matured NLs, by matured I mean people who actually take responsibility for themselves and maybe others. I am in my late 20's and I intend marrying this beautiful woman of mine, but a few things have changed on our financial expenses since I moved in. Prior me moving in, I give her around N7,000 per week, I know the next question will be what of her parents, she was raised by a single parent (mom) dad is late and the mom really tried. Now I am spending close to N3500 per day, I asked her how we can cut down on expenses, and we came up with a plan, we bought all the food items we need, filled the gas and every corner where money may go in, then I gave her N30,000 as our feeding for the month, but am still making expenses that are fast draining my pocket.

She is very disciplined, I think we just both don't know how to manage ourselves yet, I would really appreciate advice from married and single NLs who have been in my shoes to please help me with advice, because I believe we may soon be having financial issues, and once there are financial issues in a relationship other things may follow.

Rapmoney:
I often wonder where Nigerian youths copied this nonsense from because even students in universities in America, Asia and Europe do not engage in this trashy act as we do over here!!! Yet, we still call them agents of immorality?

I just feel, deep within my heart, that girls who cohabit or cohabited in the university do not desrve any dime as bride price paid on them! They should just follow their would-be husband to his house, free of charge and continue where they stopped in school!

A girl cohabits with a guy for 4 to 5 years in school; this means the dude would bleep her through out those years (free of charge o!), she would perform wifely duties for him...cooking, cleaning, washing, providing emotional wifely support, etc (free of charge too o!). Now, what's still left in such a body? If she can bleep a dude for years without any dime paid on her, coupled with the numerous wifely duties, then what's the need of paying a dime on her as diary or bride price? If that bloke that bleeped her for years didn't pay a dime on her where families would meet, eat and drink and pray, why should I pay a dime on her head? Worse of it is that this dude enjoyed all what he enjoyed free of charge! Now, why should I be requested to pay for same? Common, that's not fair! What's sauce for the goose is also sauce for the gander!!!

From Delsu to Lasu, from Uniben to OOU, from Uniport to Unical, from UniAbuja to Esut...it is the same story! Any girl who cohabits with a dude in school who has never paid a dime on her has lost her feminine value! She doesn't deserve anything paid on her!!!

esonuu:
Chai,i feel ur pain man,dat gul u were hoping could be at least ur platonic gal fwend jst ended up cohabiting with a guy dat didnt even woo her despite u taking her out on countles occasion,u evn bought a galaxy for her yet she kept rejecting u,nw she bleeps dis guy free of charge and even pays most of his bills with d cash she got 4rm u wen u were avishing dat dough on her jst to make ha say yes to u..try get ova it bro,ehmm gimme ur contact,i can hook u up wit one fine babe 4rm owerri free of charge

PLEXPLEX:


Do u understand the post at all or u re guilty of same?

SeverusSnape:

Yes, of course. That's why they will never comment on a thread such as this, The few that will comment will defend the act. I can't and will never cohabit with my girlfriend, Never!!

swaggzo:


YOU SHOULDN'T EVEN BE POSTING SUCH A THING AT THIS STAGE OF YOUR LIFE.

POINT ME ONE OF YOUR FAM MEMBER OR SIBLING WHO'S A SAINT. . AND I POINT OUT 50 ANIMALS THAT ARE.


SOME LADIES COHABIT WITH THEIR GUY UNTIL THEY EVEN GET MARRIED.

ITS THEIR BUSINESS. NOBODY SHOULD BE BOTHERED WHERE ITS TAKING THEM TO AS LONG AS THEY ARE ADULTS AND ARE OLD ENOUGH TO DECIDE WHAT THEY WANT WITH THEIR LIVES!

quivah:

my brother, na those damaged goods most of una go still marry.. why the headache na.
just start to dey warm up to become fu.cker no 10 the probability that your wife to be is a 'wh.ore, used toy' is 1.. just manage u hear.. una go Still do wedding..in fact big one

I'm loving this.. never knew guys could be this pained!

takoi:


What right do you have to judge anybody? What's your business with any woman's bride price. My good guess is that you are gay and you will never ever have to pay anybody's bride price.

martyns303:


Thanks for your comment, I have no doubt about her love for me, and even if there where I have no regrets. She had been there for me during my uni days since I got in before her and she had really helped me build 2 successful career. So am not being stupid, I owe her a lot.

About the moving, am moving out in 2-3 months, we just need to find a way to really cut down on expenses

martyns303:



Thanks for your comment, about my expenses on her, I have no regrets whatsoever. We have both made sacrifices for each other. I have found that, either way people will talk, if I were not doing the things am doing, the story would have been. " look at a girl that was there for him, and today he doesn't care about her".

About her starting a business, we have talked about it, she wanted to buy shoes and be selling to her course mates and other people, which will be easier for her kind of person, as she is very very lively and really likeable. She have a friend who goes to a neighboring country to buy stuffs like that and wants to go with her. The problem is my GF is not that kind of strong person to bear active stresses, she appears to be agile on the outside but at the end of the day she falls really sick and I have to baby sit her or she goes home to her mom.

bros, from all you ve said, you have gone far with her and you have also made huge financial invstment on her. she s in her final year, meet her people and pay her dowry, that way you are sure she is yours for real, you can now plan as husband and wife.

She really wants to do this business to help, am just concerned for her.

takoi:
There is no doubt that you are sex starved and that no girl will ever agree to visit talk less of cohabiting with you.
Rubbish!!!!

takoi:
There is no doubt that you are sex starved and that no girl will ever agree to visit talk less of cohabiting with you.
Rubbish!!!!

Blebleswag:
Same they wil do to ur sisters, cos she's bn jumpin 4rm peter2james, fryingpan2pot etc.
Or if u dnt hav sisters, then to ur girl child/children

Rapmoney:
I often wonder where Nigerian youths copied this nonsense from because even students in universities in America, Asia and Europe do not engage in this trashy act as we do over here!!! Yet, we still call them agents of immorality?

I just feel, deep within my heart, that girls who cohabit or cohabited in the university do not desrve any dime as bride price paid on them! They should just follow their would-be husband to his house, free of charge and continue where they stopped in school!

A girl cohabits with a guy for 4 to 5 years in school; this means the dude would bleep her through out those years (free of charge o!), she would perform wifely duties for him...cooking, cleaning, washing, providing emotional wifely support, etc (free of charge too o!). Now, what's still left in such a body? If she can bleep a dude for years without any dime paid on her, coupled with the numerous wifely duties, then what's the need of paying a dime on her as diary or bride price? If that bloke that bleeped her for years didn't pay a dime on her where families would meet, eat and drink and pray, why should I pay a dime on her head? Worse of it is that this dude enjoyed all what he enjoyed free of charge! Now, why should I be requested to pay for same? Common, that's not fair! What's sauce for the goose is also sauce for the gander!!!

From Delsu to Lasu, from Uniben to OOU, from Uniport to Unical, from UniAbuja to Esut...it is the same story! Any girl who cohabits with a dude in school who has never paid a dime on her has lost her feminine value! She doesn't deserve anything paid on her!!!

wallflower:
Only miserable people like the OP are so concerned with the way other people choose to live their lives.

The trouble with the world is that the stupid are cocksure and the intelligent are full of doubt-Bertrand Russell

Anaskie:
I wish I had a million likes to give you.

Very well said bro.

Edusouls:
of course is a mans world,before nko, are you equal to the man,well i dont blame una women deceived by modern world,education and feminism.una own worse, una eye go open by force, when it's too late, when most of u women have condenmed ur selfs to useless beings.

slap1:
Sleeping with a guy is different from living with him in school. It shows a dearth of morality in both the boy and the girl.

aflyingbird:
Which of my posts did you read? You might want to reread them again because you didn't comprehend a damn thing. I said I am against cohabitation but I don't believe the value of those who are not or those who practice it decreases simply because they do. That is my argument. Get it? Mor0n, you're going off about shiiit that has nothing to do with what I said and I'm the one forming educated? Get outta here!

swaggzo:


YOU SHOULDN'T EVEN BE POSTING SUCH A THING AT THIS STAGE OF YOUR LIFE.

POINT ME ONE OF YOUR FAM MEMBER OR SIBLING WHO'S A SAINT. . AND I POINT OUT 50 ANIMALS THAT ARE.


SOME LADIES COHABIT WITH THEIR GUY UNTIL THEY EVEN GET MARRIED.

ITS THEIR BUSINESS. NOBODY SHOULD BE BOTHERED WHERE ITS TAKING THEM TO AS LONG AS THEY ARE ADULTS AND ARE OLD ENOUGH TO DECIDE WHAT THEY WANT WITH THEIR LIVES!

martyns303:


On a proper day, u can't come anything close to where I am, less of talking to me. But then this a public forum so u can whatever you want.

classicB:
That's nonsense of the highest order. You leave your parents house to school only to go and start actin like a wife to a guy your parents don't know, you eventually get pregnant and start aborting your babies for someone not mentally ready for anything in life
After the guy must have used you left right and center, he dumps your sorry ass after school then you will come and start shouting guys are bad? No! It's you that is foolish

takoi:
There is no doubt that you are sex starved and that no girl will ever agree to visit talk less of cohabiting with you.
Rubbish!!!!

PLEXPLEX:


Y r u talking about pride price?

The important issue here to me is y should any lady behave like that & still want to get married at the end of the day? For me, such a lady should not even get a husband