Stats: 3,191,320 members, 7,943,795 topics. Date: Monday, 09 September 2024 at 02:25 AM |
Nairaland Forum / Nairaland / General / Romance / How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship (46854 Views)
This Lady Says She's A 'semi Virgin' & Wants To Know If She Should Give Her Man / My 3years Healthy Relationship Is About To End!! (please I Need Advice)... / 11 Signs To Know If Your Girl Friend Is A Good Girl (2) (3) (4)
(1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (Reply) (Go Down)
How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 8:21pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Relationships are a necessary part of our existence. However, relationships can be healthy or unhealthy. Healthy relationships contribute to our overall well-being while an unhealthy relationship does the exact opposite. There are different things that point to whether a relationship is healthy or not. To tell if your relationship is healthy or not ask yourself these questions: 1. What does he/she bring out of me? The quality of your relationship revolves around what you become by it. How is the relationship impacting you? Note this is not about the other person forcing you to change who you already are. In a healthy relationship, you don’t feel forced to change who you are but rather inspired to make needed changes. In other words, it does not try to fix you but rather help you fix yourself. A true partner knows your weakness but shows you your strengths. Feels your fears, but fortifies your faith. Sees your anxieties, but frees your spirit. Recognizes your disability, but emphasizes your possibilities. 2. What does he/ she think of me? What your partner thinks of you really matters. It tells or determines the value he or she places in such a relationship. And we usually give quality attention and care to whatever we value. Does he/she see you as a plus in his/her life? Relationship works when it involves mutual contribution. If your partner does not see you as a value or at least a potential value in his life, the intimacy and closeness will likely diminish with time. Also, people tend to become what the most important person in their lives believes they can be. That’s why people in abusive relationships are usually self-critical and timid. 3.What does he/she think of my future? Every true relationship invests in your future one way or the other. Your relationship should contribute to your dreams and aspirations. Does your partner support and consider God’s plan for you. Does he/she help it or hinder it? This emphasizes the need for you to determine the direction of your life. If you know what you want in life and where you are going, it is easy enough to figure out who fits into the picture. 4. How does he/she behave towards me in difficult times? The real test on the quality of your relationship comes during difficult times not when the goings are smooth. If he/she turns abusive or one way or the other makes it look like you are the cause of his/her problems, that’s a negative signal. 5. What does he/she thinks about my values and beliefs? If you are in a relationship where you have to sacrifice your core values, beliefs and things that really matter to you, you may need to re-consider that relationship. It is true that we are to adjust and sacrifice certain things in a relationship. However, when it involves relegating things that really matter to you; you are likely to end up unhappy in such relationship. One thing peculiar with couples in healthy relationships is the fact that they have similar values, beliefs and focus. 6. How does he/she reacts when issues arise? Disagreement occurs every in any relationship. What matters is how it is handled? If he/she holds grudges for days and drags every little issue or disagreement to the extent that a third party need to be involved before it can be resolved, it does not tell well about that relationship. 7. How much do I trust him/her? A relationship without trust breeds insecurity, heart breaks and emotional instability. It is impossible to have a relationship if there is no trust in such relationship. Couples in a healthy relationship are quite open to each other. That’s why communication is very important in relationships. If he/she allows you to wonder or try to guess what he/she has in mind; If you constantly sense insincerity from him/her, then there’s bound to be trust issues in such relationship. Have a lovely night rest. ![]() 74 Likes 15 Shares
|
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by falconey(m): 8:23pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
wonderful. Guys: I know this already. Girls : he should do it first he is the man. 30 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Fabdedon(m): 8:24pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
what plans does he/she have for our future kids.. How de we tackle financial problem how does he/she solve each other problem.. Very necessary 19 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 8:24pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
It will be incomplete if I neglect to add this: But there are times the best option is to let go. This is not usually easy especially if you have been in such relationship for long. However, it is usually better to acknowledge that it is not working and do the needful – walk away. You will be glad you did in the long run. But just before you put all the blame on your partner, remember that it takes two to tango. Relationships need the contribution of the two people involved to work. You need to look away from your partner and check in with yourself too. 27 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by buygala(m): 8:33pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
All the above-listed facts are true but secondary to one chief but hardly admitted fact ![]() - IF THE SEX IS BAD, YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS NOT MERELY UNHEALTHY, BUT ON LIFE SUPPORT...IT MAY LOG OUT AT ANY FUCCKING TIME, FOR EVEN THE FLIMSIEST OF REASONS ![]() Also - IF your parents or relations have the habit of constantly and needlessly meddling in your relationship business, please do this world a favor and marry that busybody ![]() ![]() - IF you frequently have to sacrifice your dignity and aspirations in order to hold the relationship in place, then that relationship is no longer 'healthy' but toxic for you ![]() .... - IF you don't give bae the time he\she deserves, someone else will ![]() .... And when that happens, bae might just mentally detach herself/himself from you and attach himself/herself to the 'caring' 'assistant bae' ![]() ![]() ![]() - IF you can't say 'I AM SORRY' as frequently as possible, be ready for long-drawn arguments, periods of malicious silence, and all other catalysts of a dead relationship. ... Saying 'sorry' detracts nothing from you, even if you say it one billion types in a day.... Just say it like you mean it, even if you don't ![]() ![]() 53 Likes 8 Shares |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Cutehector(m): 8:34pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
True that. Most relationships need help. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by kingstylo01(m): 8:42pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Op, make i book space first ![]() |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by cutieberie1(f): 8:44pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
noted... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by kingstylo01(m): 8:45pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
After booking space, i'll like to drop this: Although i agree with your points, i'll like to say that love is the most important factor in a relationship.. If your relationship is unhealthy, love is the medicine.. It will heal everything.. Love is important because it is very difficult to find a relationship slightly unhealthy.. In as much as i agree with your last point "let it go", i'll like to state this: if you would let every unhealthy relationship go, then on the long run you'll hardly stick to any healthy relationship because all relationship have an iota of unhealthiness, which needs love as its medicine.. #LOVE CONQUERS ALL 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Nickymezor(f): 8:47pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Nice write up Emusmith...ur damn rite ![]() 1 Like |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Maamin(m): 8:48pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Seriously thinking right now cause there is this.....! Wait! ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 8:55pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 8:58pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
falconey: That's where WISDOM beats KNOWLEDGE: Wisdom is the right application of knowledge. What I know is inept without application. 1 Like |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 10:40pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 10:43pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 10:48pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
emusmith: I'm okk oo,just hiding under my blanket...cold this night. Make i nor derail.... Nice thread |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 10:50pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Kizmarty: Hehehe Thanks. ![]() |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Heebucun(f): 11:02pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
Hmmmmnn 1 Like |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by SleekyP(m): 11:04pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
This is it!!! |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by prettyjo(f): 11:26pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
![]() |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by sinizia: 11:32pm On Apr 12, 2015 |
emusmith:www.nairaland.com/attachments/2227991_crea_gif8665a16c0c0a3896bf7250fa861b2dde 2 Likes |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by malonephill(m): 12:11am On Apr 13, 2015 |
In a relationship where both partner does all these, and their both really inlove, no one ready to take a walk.....what do they need? |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by LewisO: 12:19am On Apr 13, 2015 |
Nice one! But most ladies destroys relationship by themselves and blame it on guys 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by guente02(m): 12:25am On Apr 13, 2015 |
This is the reason why i dont even want to ask them girls out because i know that I haven't come across a lady that would add all these the op has stated. Just that the peer pressure from my folks is going all out to coercing me into the chase which is just to have sex and your life remain stuck at the same place it was when she came it or even worse. I want that babe that would tell me my strength and flaws and tell me what she thinks of it, where she feels needs work, that type that is not thinking about now alone but the future. She shouldn't even bother about hers coz I've got a doctorate in doing that. But where you go see such babe? Everybody eyes dey tear and dey shine like 200w halogen. 4 Likes |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 12:44am On Apr 13, 2015 |
kingstylo01: I agree love is important. But it's not the only factor in a relationship to make it healthy. It's not even the most important. There's others that are equally as important to have a healthy rl. 1 Like |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by ifyan(m): 1:40am On Apr 13, 2015 |
kolocat: I love this. Ni... 2 Likes |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 6:19am On Apr 13, 2015 |
guente02: I feel your point, bro. Stuck in same ol'...hmm |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Nobody: 9:10am On Apr 13, 2015 |
If I comment now............ |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by Sexykarma(m): 9:18am On Apr 13, 2015 |
LewisO:True man n wen dey end it dey blame it on us too dah we didn't hold dem back 1 Like |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by LewisO: 12:19pm On Apr 13, 2015 |
Sexykarma:Exactly! It baffles me too. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by kingstylo01(m): 3:09pm On Apr 14, 2015 |
kolocat:kindly highlight the factors here... We are all learning ![]() |
Re: How To Know If You Are In A Healthy Relationship by TheSonOfMark(m): 3:20pm On Apr 14, 2015 |
If she brings nothing to the table then it's a no-no. You want equality, right? Cheers to equal responsibilities. 1 Like |
Why Do Women Ask For Favours During/After Sex / Five Teenagers Underwent ‘special Spirit Bath’ After Sex Rounds With Alhaji / Prostitute Disgraces Man In Public Over Failure To Pay After Service (pics)
(Go Up)
Sections: politics (1) business autos (1) jobs (1) career education (1) romance computers phones travel sports fashion health religion celebs tv-movies music-radio literature webmasters programming techmarket Links: (1) (2) (3) (4) (5) (6) (7) (8) (9) (10) Nairaland - Copyright © 2005 - 2024 Oluwaseun Osewa. All rights reserved. See How To Advertise. 54 |