Nickymezor:
Nice write up Emusmith...ur damn rite

falconey:
wonderful.

Guys: I know this already.

Girls : he should do it first he is the man.

emusmith:

Kizmarty:



The love doctor himself... I greet you boss.

emusmith:


I greet you too ...Sup?

Kizmarty:


I'm okk oo,just hiding under my blanket...cold this night.


Make i nor derail....

Nice thread

emusmith:

Relationships are a necessary part of our existence. However, relationships can be healthy or unhealthy. Healthy relationships contribute to our overall well-being while an unhealthy relationship does the exact opposite. There are different things that point to whether a relationship is healthy or not. To tell if your relationship is healthy or not ask yourself these questions:

1. What does he/she bring out of me?

The quality of your relationship revolves around what you become by it. How is the relationship impacting you? Note this is not about the other person forcing you to change who you already are. In a healthy relationship, you don’t feel forced to change who you are but rather inspired to make needed changes. In other words, it does not try to fix you but rather help you fix yourself. A true partner knows your weakness but shows you your strengths. Feels your fears, but fortifies your faith. Sees your anxieties, but frees your spirit. Recognizes your disability, but emphasizes your possibilities.

2. What does he/ she think of me?

What your partner thinks of you really matters. It tells or determines the value he or she places in such a relationship. And we usually give quality attention and care to whatever we value. Does he/she see you as a plus in his/her life? Relationship works when it involves mutual contribution. If your partner does not see you as a value or at least a potential value in his life, the intimacy and closeness will likely diminish with time.
Also, people tend to become what the most important person in their lives believes they can be. That’s why people in abusive relationships are usually self-critical and timid.

3.What does he/she think of my future?

Every true relationship invests in your future one way or the other. Your relationship should contribute to your dreams and aspirations. Does your partner support and consider God’s plan for you. Does he/she help it or hinder it?
This emphasizes the need for you to determine the direction of your life. If you know what you want in life and where you are going, it is easy enough to figure out who fits into the picture.

4. How does he/she behave towards me in difficult times?

The real test on the quality of your relationship comes during difficult times not when the goings are smooth. If he/she turns abusive or one way or the other makes it look like you are the cause of his/her problems, that’s a negative signal.

5. What does he/she thinks about my values and beliefs?

If you are in a relationship where you have to sacrifice your core values, beliefs and things that really matter to you, you may need to re-consider that relationship. It is true that we are to adjust and sacrifice certain things in a relationship. However, when it involves relegating things that really matter to you; you are likely to end up unhappy in such relationship. One thing peculiar with couples in healthy relationships is the fact that they have similar values, beliefs and focus.

6. How does he/she reacts when issues arise?

Disagreement occurs every in any relationship. What matters is how it is handled? If he/she holds grudges for days and drags every little issue or disagreement to the extent that a third party need to be involved before it can be resolved, it does not tell well about that relationship.

7. How much do I trust him/her?

A relationship without trust breeds insecurity, heart breaks and emotional instability. It is impossible to have a relationship if there is no trust in such relationship. Couples in a healthy relationship are quite open to each other. That’s why communication is very important in relationships. If he/she allows you to wonder or try to guess what he/she has in mind; If you constantly sense insincerity from him/her, then there’s bound to be trust issues in such relationship.


Have a lovely night rest.

kingstylo01:
After booking space, i'll like to drop this:

Although i agree with your points, i'll like to say that love is the most important factor in a relationship..
If your relationship is unhealthy, love is the medicine.. It will heal everything..


Love is important because it is very difficult to find a relationship slightly unhealthy..

In as much as i agree with your last point "let it go", i'll like to state this:

if you would let every unhealthy relationship go, then on the long run you'll hardly stick to any healthy relationship because all relationship have an iota of unhealthiness, which needs love as its medicine..


#LOVE CONQUERS ALL

kolocat:


I agree love is important. But it's not the only factor in a relationship to make it healthy. It's not even the most important. There's others that are equally as important to have a healthy rl.

guente02:
This is the reason why i dont even want to ask them girls out because i know that I haven't come across a lady that would add all these the op has stated. Just that the peer pressure from my folks is going all out to coercing me into the chase which is just to have sex and your life remain stuck at the same place it was when she came it or even worse.
I want that babe that would tell me my strength and flaws and tell me what she thinks of it, where she feels needs work, that type that is not thinking about now alone but the future. She shouldn't even bother about hers coz I've got a doctorate in doing that. But where you go see such babe? Everybody eyes dey tear and dey shine like 200w halogen.

LewisO:
Nice one!

But most ladies destroys relationship by themselves and blame it on guys

Sexykarma:

True man n wen dey end it dey blame it on us too dah we didn't hold dem back

kolocat:


I agree love is important. But it's not the only factor in a relationship to make it healthy. It's not even the most important. There's others that are equally as important to have a healthy rl.