LewisO:

She deserve to be called that, coz she behave like one.

Her manner is irritating.

ireneidiva:

Remember you are reading a one-sided story.

LewisO:

Please just tell me who is at fault between the two?

ireneidiva:

He must be doing something to make her run. Even if it is her, I feel you shouldn't call her names. Bye

No offense!

KanwuliaJara:
Can't read this terribly-written narrative!
Reason?

NO PATIENCE!

LewisO:

She deserve to be called that, coz she behave like one.

Her manner is irritating.

LewisO:

Please just tell me who is at fault between the two?

ireneidiva:

He must be doing something to make her run. Even if it is her, I feel you shouldn't call her names. Bye

Timbuktou:


I agree. However, I posit that she must be doing something to make him do something to make her run. How about that?

ireneidiva:

Ask yourself

Timbuktou:
You shouldn't be commenting on threads if you can't think. No offence.

Herzumpther:
Strange.

You are reading a one-sided story and you are calling her names already. Hmmm. Didn't you read a particular thread a man opened and said a lot of things about his wife? He also accused her of so many things and later the wife in question opened hers and so many truth was revealed? The op of this thread is not the husband to this woman but a friend to her hubby. Let me ask you this, do you think couples open up everything that happens between them to strangers? Eve!n their friends? I'm not saying running is right, as a matter of fact, my own parent will never welcome her home but stop calling her names. I'm never quick to judge tho, all I see here is a one-sided story and there is more to it than you imagine. Easy when you pass judgment please.

You are asking ireneidiva whose fault it is, was she there?

5minsmadness:
Op, I know a similar couple, they live in asaba. Women runs away at the slightest inclination and leaves the man to cater for the kids. I have interacted with her a little and although it may not be enough but I feel she wasn't matured before entering into the marriage. She looked like she was still in the 'girlfriend' stage of the relationship.

During the naming ceremony (or was it thanksgiving) of the second child the mother of the woman was in the house. It was obvious there wa some sort of tension between them. The man is the jovial type, outgoing etc while the woman always appear sulking, sad, etc. I honestly feel most of the problem comes from her parents as they expected much more from the man when they married their daughter to him. So whenever their child runs back to them they welcome her with open arms with the hope that she will eventually leave him. They don't seem to want his children either.

Having said that, the woman in question is smaller than the man(she was on the thin side even during her pregnancy) and he admitted to slapping her the last time she ran away. Something to do with food and beating the kids. I don't know how her mouth is indoors but I felt a bit alarmed that he could hit her with that big palm of his. I felt it might have been better if he restrained her.



By and by the man appears to be the more caring of the two from my observations. He keeps going back to beg her. He doesn't abandon the children and there was even an occasion when she ran away leaving her still suckling child alone in the house. What kind of mother does that?

I feel a long separation from her parents will do this girl a lot of good. She needs to grow up in my opinion. But you can't kidnap a grown woman, even if they move she will find a way to return to her parents house at the slightest difficulty. The problem is the woman's parents.
.

obiksam:
As of yesterday I visited him he just told me that her wife has ran away again leaving her children with him since 9th of April.
When I asked he said that they exchanged words so he jokingly ask there 3yr duaghter to spike her wife which she did and her wife turned beat her and then slap him so he gave her back the following day she left.

obiksam:

5minsmadness Please kindly send me your email for me to be able to forward it to him. Or should I send my?

5minsmadness:
Op, I know a similar couple, they live in asaba. Women runs away at the slightest inclination and leaves the man to cater for the kids. I have interacted with her a little and although it may not be enough but I feel she wasn't matured before entering into the marriage. She looked like she was still in the 'girlfriend' stage of the relationship.

During the naming ceremony (or was it thanksgiving) of the second child the mother of the woman was in the house. It was obvious there wa some sort of tension between them. The man is the jovial type, outgoing etc while the woman always appear sulking, sad, etc. I honestly feel most of the problem comes from her parents as they expected much more from the man when they married their daughter to him. So whenever their child runs back to them they welcome her with open arms with the hope that she will eventually leave him. They don't seem to want his children either.

Having said that, the woman in question is smaller than the man(she was on the thin side even during her pregnancy) and he admitted to slapping her the last time she ran away. Something to do with food and beating the kids. I don't know how her mouth is indoors but I felt a bit alarmed that he could hit her with that big palm of his. I felt it might have been better if he restrained her.



By and by the man appears to be the more caring of the two from my observations. He keeps going back to beg her. He doesn't abandon the children and there was even an occasion when she ran away leaving her still suckling child alone in the house. What kind of mother does that?

I feel a long separation from her parents will do this girl a lot of good. She needs to grow up in my opinion. But you can't kidnap a grown woman, even if they move she will find a way to return to her parents house at the slightest difficulty. The problem is the woman's parents.
.

babyosisi:


The man slaps her you wonder why she runs away?
I wonder why she keeps going back

5minsmadness:

You won't see where she has been running away since and it was on the last occassion after possibly beating her child to stupor and not cooking food for the family before he slapped her o, madam feminist and champion of the slapped. At least i tabled both sides of the story and didnt try to paint the man a saint though i know the woman has not been trying at all. Am sure you have no qualms with her leaving her suckling child to run away from the house.

Abeg shift jo.

babyosisi:


How do you know that was the first time,do you live with them?
Possibly beating child to stupor,you are now adding pepper


For a woman to leave a suckling child to flee,something is seriously wrong in the marriage
He should tell the truth to you guys so you can advice him well

5minsmadness:


Of course, the baby was too heavy for her to carry so she locked it up in the house and fled before the man came home, not minding what can happen to the child as she left! What a poor defenseless victim! What a caring mother to leave her baby wailing in the house for the man to come and find.

You don't know this couple, I do. Try and read the opening post with unbiased spectacles and then read my post and put two and two together. The man is not always the monster as you are so adamant to believe.

babyosisi:


How do you know that was the first time,do you live with them?
Possibly beating child to stupor,you are now adding pepper
For a woman to leave a suckling child to flee,something is seriously wrong in the marriage
He should tell the truth to you guys so you can advice him well

Imagine beating her for not cooking
Do you know the reason she didn't cook might have been because of a previous beating
He won't tell you that

he came back from a renovational house that he is surpervising about 8pm and ask her to gave him garri she said that there is no soap he kept silent and sent there house boy to buy psoup in which he then boiled rice and still ask her to come and eat she refuse. Then her 3yr duaghter and his son where crying he ask her to prepare goldenmorn for them which she did and call her duaghter to come and eat she refused that that was when he said to her, "u see? when your husband talks to u u dnt listen that nor see ur children are doing the same thing to u, he said that she replied husband my foot that was when he jokingly tell his 3 yr gurl to spank her which she did and that she did not only beat her once and then slap him and carry bottel that was when he lose and gave her a man slap

babyosisi:


You already established he is physically abusive she may also has post partum depression in addition
He should stop impregnating her

obiksam:

My dear coupls do open up to at list a trusted friend when I mean friend a friend that will die for you