Uniquexty:
Thanks dear. I'm over him already

Really?

For a relationship of 6 years?

So fast?

coogar:


if you love her, get her pregnant.

if your parents refuse to budge, go to oshodi & rent parents. by the time you tell them they have a grandson, they would be begging you for forgiveness.

She's not Y.oruba

This kind of post dey vex me seriously because I know what I have been battling with my parents over similiar issue.
I have heard enough of what an elder sees lying down,we cant see even if we climb iroko tree. Being an elder doesnt make all their decisions right. Cases abound where parents have ruined their children's marital life all in the name of knowing better and deciding for them.

Op,like others said,talk to them and know about their fears and convince them to support you. Never lose hope.

prissyluv:
This kind of post dey vex me seriously because I know what I have been battling with my parents over similiar issue.
I have heard enough of what an elder sees lying down,we cant see even if we climb iroko tree. Being an elder doesnt make all their decisions right. Cases abound where parents have ruined their children's marital life all in the name of knowing better and deciding for them.

Op,like others said,talk to them and know about their fears and convince them to support you. Never lose hope.

tnx @prisyluv,i wil never say never until its over.Even though it wil take me housing her without paying her bride price then so be it.

Uniquexty:
Thanks dear. I'll bookmark this and read it anything the tears comes threatening

Awwww...It is well dear. I know how it feels, have been there before.
Stay Strong and don't stop praying, God never fails! Keep your hope in him alive, He is the Great Comforter! He will comfort you.

prissyluv:


You woke up to reality after six years? You realize the fight is not worth it? Hmmmm.
What parents are doing to their children all in the name of love,protection and knowing better dikwa egwu ooo

can u imagine?

six years for husband house i don born 3, nai person go frd

man six yrs con realise say dem no fit marry becos of tribe.

Op, jus go marry her for court, then give her belle.

once she born carry baby go surprise ur mama she go jus dey dance forget all the inter tribal wahala.

It's the girl that I'm even feeling sorry for.
If you marry her,She will be the strange woman who can't do anything right for a long time to come.
Inter tribal marriages are hard enough on their own. adding lack of parental consent can cripple it.

OP sorry. Just do your best to convince them.
But if at the end you see you will only be bringing the poor girl over to suffer, just let her be.
A broken relationship they say is better than a broken marriage.

But it is important you get your parents consent to marry her.

Uniquexty:
Parental consent is very necessary. Just like you, i had a six years inter-tribal/religious relationship. We finally woke up to reality last month.

Sometimes, Love is not just enough. You have to listen to the wisdom from your heart. One day, you'll wake up and ask yourself how you got to this point, and by that time, you've lost your family.

I suggest you hang on and try to comvince your parents. Make them understand that you need their support in this next phase in your life. And be fervent in prayers. Remember what God did for Mary when Joseph decided to put her away. God can still speak to your parents the way he spoke to Joseph. The heart of the king is in his hands.

I wish you all the best. And pray she stays strong throughout the fight. I wish mine had

Hello, can we talk?

Have always said it...everything in life is over-hype including marriage
No wonder they say where there is a law then there is slavery.I think we r like slave to our parents through laws and tradition which we r subject to against our will
When is come to marriage or bride price...I think the whole thing is over-hype again
Even the bible says..A man and a woman shall leave the father house and be join together....just one condition wc is leave your father house....Also...He that findeth a wife finds a good thing and obtain favor from the lord..in other word....is a man that find the wife,his choice,his will,his decisions and not the parents ,therefore is a man that will live the consequences of his choice,will and decision so why is our parents making our decisions?

Even in the legal frame....the law only stipulate a witness be there to witness(sign) the union and the witness can even be a friend
So our parent can even charge to court for infringing on our right to associate with other tribe in marriage wc I can say is tribalism or racism

Naturally,I have seen were both parents gave consent to a union and the union only stayed for 3months and everybody went there way...so y didn't d consent super glue them or stop the divorce...
Other cases when both parent blessed the union and there was no fruit of the womb.....hw come the parental blessing didn't bring children to d union
Another case after d the union the man lost his job and suffering began..feeding from hand to mouth...again how come the so called parental blessing didn't bring blessing to pay house rent

In my submission......marriage(bride price or no price,parental consent or not)..what will befall a man will always befall a man
So therefore everyone should live the consequences of his or her decision and not anyone including parents decision on our lives becos life itself is over-hype

kodozion:
Have always said it...everything in life is over-hype including marriage
No wonder they say where there is a law then there is slavery.I think we r like slave to our parents through laws and tradition which we r subject to against our will
When is come to marriage or bride price...I think the whole thing is over-hype again
Even the bible says..A man and a woman shall leave the father house and be join together....just one condition wc is leave your father house....Also...He that findeth a wife finds a good thing and obtain favor from the lord..in other word....is a man that find the wife,his choice,his will,his decisions and not the parents ,therefore is a man that will live the consequences of his choice,will and decision so why is our parents making our decisions?

Even in the legal frame....the law only stipulate a witness be there to witness(sign) the union and the witness can even be a friend
So our parent can even charge to court for infringing on our right to associate with other tribe in marriage wc I can say is tribalism or racism

Naturally,I have seen were both parents gave consent to a union and the union only stayed for 3months and everybody went there way...so y didn't d consent super glue them or stop the divorce...
Other cases when both parent blessed the union and there was no fruit of the womb.....hw come the parental blessing didn't bring children to d union
Another case after d the union the man lost his job and suffering began..feeding from hand to mouth...again how come the so called parental blessing didn't bring blessing to pay house rent

In my submission......marriage(bride price or no price,parental consent or not)..what will befall a man will always befall a man
So therefore everyone should live the consequences of his or her decision and not anyone including parents decision on our lives becos life itself is over-hype

God bless you for this piece.. my parents dare not go against my will or else?..

kingjooo:
tnx @prisyluv,i wil never say never until its over.Even though it wil take me housing her without paying her bride price then so be it.

You are welcome. But if you think of housing her till things are settled,I suggest you do statutory marriage first pending when your parents agrees,then the customary marriage.

bebe2:


can u imagine?

six years for husband house i don born 3, nai person go frd

man six yrs con realise say dem no fit marry becos of tribe.

Op, jus go marry her for court, then give her belle.

once she born carry baby go surprise ur mama she go jus dey dance forget all the inter tribal wahala.

Nne eeh,I tire ooo
But there are some kind of things parents will say with the necssary pressure that will reset someone's brain.lol

As a man, you don't need your parents to make that decision.

If you were a woman, I'd advice that you seek their blessings.If you can protect your woman from them, go for it.

kaboninc:


Really?

For a relationship of 6 years?

So fast?

Lolzzzxxx... Do i need to be buried before it gets better?

Cally14:


Awwww...It is well dear. I know how it feels, have been there before.
Stay Strong and don't stop praying, God never fails! Keep your hope in him alive, He is the Great Comforter! He will comfort you.

Tnx luv

Qualer:


Hello, can we talk?

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Uniquexty:
Lolzzzxxx... Do i need to be buried before it gets better?

No dear.

Just that you claim that it took about a month or so.

Well, the most important thing is for you to move on, and on time.

Cheers.

Uniquexty:
070*97750**

Serious

No time oh.

kaboninc:


Serious

No time oh.

I thought time had taken care of people like you. Swthrt, the rest of the world have moved on. You need to hurry

kaboninc:


No dear.

Just that you claim that it took about a month or so.

Well, the most important thing is for you to move on, and on time.

Cheers.

Ohkkk

Uniquexty:
I thought time had taken care of people like you. Swthrt, the rest of the world have moved on. You need to hurry

Am not going to hurry joor.

Am not just ready yet.

Somethings just need to be in place.

Otherwise, I would have applied to you!

kaboninc:


Am not going to hurry joor.

Am not just ready yet.

Somethings just need to be in place.

Otherwise, I would have applied to you!

You wish... We are not receiving applications. No vacancy yet

Uniquexty:
You wish... We are not receiving applications. No vacancy yet

You're not receiving applications yet you opened your window?

Haba....

Love is everywhere oh. Even on nairaland!

Uniquexty:
Tnx luv

You're welcome.

kaboninc:


You're not receiving applications yet you opened your window?

Haba....

Love is everywhere oh. Even on nairaland!

As if you've forgotten that narural fresh air comes in through the windows. And stop putting ideas into his head. Maybe he has a message from the Lord

Uniquexty:
As if you've forgotten that narural fresh air comes in through the windows. And stop putting ideas into his head. Maybe he has a message from the Lord

Lol @ fresh air!

Who's head?

I don't campaign for anyone especially in situations like this oohh. Its a contest nau and the wittiest wins. Ladies love the wittiest.

So is that you on your dp?

kaboninc:




So is that you on your dp?

Is there a bounty on my head? That's me

Uniquexty:
Is there a bounty on my head? That's me

Yeah.

Contemplating on taking a position...

Looks like someone I know though.

kaboninc:


Yeah.

Contemplating on taking a position...

Looks like someone I know though.

Know from where?

OP!
Why dun you tell us what is really bothering you?
Is she ya "sugar-momma"?

Uniquexty:
Know from where?

Lool. The face is not clear.

Viewing with my phone.

This world is a small one.

kaboninc:


Lool. The face is not clear.

Viewing with my phone.

This world is a small one.

Tell me how small it is