coogar:


for any young woman coming to the UK to study, accommodation is the biggest problem. they cannot work more than 20 hrs per week with jobs that won't pay more than £10/hour - that is even if the job is available.

from that £200/week, she would be taxed & given crumbs that can barely pay for a room. meanwhile, there are big boys like sirshymexx & nihilist on the sidelines whispering to the girl that they are ready to accommodate her in their luxurious smart flats if she says yes. how many girls would refuse such offer?

Now I see the kinds of girls shymexx spends his money on. They'v formed his idea of money, love and relationships

Lucky you got to know you are not good for each other or maybe she was just not ready.

Sorry, stuffs happen.

My subjective take

I never fail to advise single young men who are still struggling and trying to create a path for their future which seems uncertain, "DONT EVER COMMIT YOURSELF TO ANY WOMAN PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY WHOLEHEARTEDLY", leave some space for sudden changes that are bound to occur, as it's not certain where life would take you.

Secondly, if possible, steer clear of young inexperienced ladies who especially are still undergraduates and yet to complete NYSC, do not deny ladies the luxury of experience and developing their personalities themselves, experience shapes thoughts and brings forth maturity, doing otherwise would make you a father rather than a partner and trust me gradual alienation would follow.

I don't know why most people find it difficult to UNDERSTAND that relationships and marriages in AFRICA have nothing to do with LOVE, but to escape POVERTY and BOREDOM.

If MOST NIGERIAN WOMEN had the opportunity to leave the jungles of Nigeria, marriage would be the LAST thing on their minds!

OP!
Please, read the "memo"!

Thanks!

@op, Its gonna hurt but you may have to move on. I am amazed how our ladies behave this way once they come here. I think its foundational. Moulding and grounding issues. A few years from now, she will bitterly regret her actions but you are likely to have moved on. I've seen it over and over in the 14 years I've been here. My appeal to any of our young people coming over here new: please don't dump your values. Have a mentor. Keep focused. The novelty does wear off. Then you find its the anchor of your foundation that keeps you.
I can only pray this lady retraces her step quick. Good men are extremely hard to come by here, even for the natives.

Interesting...

For Nigerian ladies, its unfortunately always about options, winner or loser, always in a competition with themselves that they cannot see clearly anymore. A game of what they can get and not what they can give. Brother, if you want peace of mind just get yourself a white lady. They're exciting, loyal, honest, and most of all give you PEACE! Thank me later

I can relate with being 'in love' but I think you also were projecting your biases on the lady and not seeing her for who she is.

This epistle shows you how not gotten over her. #Hehehehe

Op, you tried and did what you could. Many pple are fooled into marrying the wrong person.

Yea right.

Sounding like you were doing her a favor being with her, narcissism sha.

Why won't she leave you when you act like you are perfect, abegi.

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what did ya write?

JeromeK:
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freecocoa:
Yea right.

Sounding like you were doing her a favor being with her, narcissism sha.

Why won't she leave you when you act like you are perfect, abegi.

You women want men that will embrace your flaws and tantrums. However, would it not be better if you didn't throw tantrums and be like almost perfect so that when you make mistakes, the guy understands that you are human?

All-too-often women do things that will drive a sane man mad.

maclatunji:


You women want men that will embrace your flaws and tantrums. However, would it not be better if you didn't throw tantrums and be like almost perfect so that when you make mistakes, the guy understands that you are human?

All-too-often women do things that will drive a sane man mad.

Yes ofcourse, it's all the woman's fault, did you expect me to argue that?

There are three sides to a story.
OP's side, babes side, the truth.






How come you never did anything wrong all through? Not even a single mistake in the relationship?

All I see is a man who likes to be in control . . .

Domineering and dictatorial!!!

Women also hate to be chooked, just like men.

You are right to walk away from the relationship. You are not doing her much good either . . . Let her find her path while you follow yours.

It doesn't always have to be about YOU!

freecocoa:
Yes ofcourse, it's all the woman's fault, did you expect me to argue that?

Wedon:
All I see is a man who likes to be in control . . .

Domineering and dictatorial!!!

Women also hate to be chooked, just like men.

You are right to walk away from the relationship. You are not doing her much good either . . . Let her find her path while you follow yours.

It doesn't always have to be about YOU!

shut up, wedon
were your boyfriends in uni not in control? pray tell, would you even date a man that doesn't like to be in control? what is wrong in being a man that is in control?

freecocoa:
Yea right.

Sounding like you were doing her a favor being with her, narcissism sha.

Why won't she leave you when you act like you are perfect, abegi.

Wedon:
All I see is a man who likes to be in control . . .
Domineering and dictatorial!!!
Women also hate to be chooked, just like men.
You are right to walk away from the relationship. You are not doing her much good either . . . Let her find her path while you follow yours.
It doesn't always have to be about YOU!

Iv known/dated quite a few 'feminists' in my life time. Notice I used a quote on the word feminist, its because I dont believe they exist. One thing they all have in common is misleading their fellow women and breaking other people's homes/relationships with poisonous advice while their's remain intact. Pretending to be tough and in control of their men, but in truth are worse than fools, servants and slaves to the men they end up with, willing to do anything to keep their own relationship intact. Women been feeble minded since creation. Just ask Eve (or serpent) if you disagree.

coogar:


shut up, wedon
were your boyfriends in uni not in control? pray tell, would you even date a man that doesn't like to be in control? what is wrong in being a man that is in control?

Shut up . .

Was I talking to you? Amebo!

DaMayor1:



Iv known quite a few 'feminists' in my life time. Notice I used a quote on the word feminist, its because I dont believe they exist. One thing they all have in common is misleading their fellow women and breaking other people's homes with poisonous advice while their homes remain intact. Pretending to be tough and in control of their men, but in truth are worse than fools, servants and slaves to the men they end up with, willing to do anything to keep their own relationship intact. Women been feeble minded since creation. Just ask Eve (or serpent) if you disagree.

Okay, blame it on feminism (even though there's nothing feminist about my comment) . . If it will make you feel better!

Marriage is not by force. Not every relationship is meant to end in marriage . .

Maybe she will regret letting him go, maybe she will not.

That's left for her to deal with and certainly not any of our business.

Wedon:


Okay, blame it on feminism (even though there's nothing feminist about my comment) . . If it will make you feel better!

Marriage is not by force. Not every relationship is meant to end in marriage . .

Maybe she will regret letting him go, maybe she will not.

That's left for her to deal with and certainly not any of our business.

Your reply only serves to buttress my point. Is that really the advice you would give yourself in such a scenario for a guy you know without a shadow of doubt loves you? "Marriage is not by force...etc". You know you wouldn't accept that, unfortunately that's what you give your fellow women. Instead of encouraging them to persevere, to endure, to love and honour their man, etc. I wouldn't want my wife hanging around dangerous women like you.

Wedon:

Shut up . .
Was I talking to you? Amebo!

you are high on groundnuts!

coogar:


you are high on groundnuts!

High on groundnuts?

Coogar, you're damn hilarious!

kaboninc:




High on groundnuts?

Coogar, you're damn hilarious!

don't mind that wedon with her brainless advice. when everyone sees legs, she sees hands.

coogar:


don't mind that wedon with her brainless advice. when everyone sees legs, she sees hands.

Lool. Seeing hands when everyone sees legs.

You guys are funny.

Well, everyone has the freedom to type. Just that it exposes our thoughts.

kaboninc:


Lool. Seeing hands when everyone sees legs.

You guys are funny.

Well, everyone has the freedom to type. Just that it exposes our thoughts.

and it has also exposed wedon's single-digit IQ.

coogar:


and it has also exposed wedon's single-digit IQ.

Chai!

Single digit IQ?

What's the range? 0 - 1?

kaboninc:


Chai!

Single digit IQ?

What's the range? 0 - 1?

5!

coogar:


5!

Hahahaha

You're generous.

I thought between 0 - 1.

Maybe something like 0.09 or so.

coogar:


and it has also exposed wedon's single-digit IQ.

Singing . . "Some people jealous me . . . "

princesssusan:
Freedom!Freedom!!Freedom!!! If not thoroughly utilized can bring one to doom.

Omo.. You have to be a cultured, home trained, tamed and courteous to NOT get carried away by all the downtown lights.

Some were lost and never found

Obodo oyinbo is a free land with ENDLESS opportunities. The only place to freely tell a maga to go to blazes.