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| Honest Advice by prettymiss4433(f): 8:19pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
I've bin dating my BF for about 5yrs now, he hasn't proposed, yet he tells me he loves me,and says he wants to spend d rest of his life with me yet I haven't seen any action as in him taking a bold step. Recently my Ex BF before I met my current BF just proposed nd he is ready to meet my pple, though we've bin chatting on phone for sometime now but met recently. Shud I leave my current BF since he is not ready yet? |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:21pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
So you don't love your boyfriend, you're just after being a "Mrs?"  2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Honest Advice by prettymiss4433(f): 8:24pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
MzNelly:I love him so much just dat I dnt want to be heart broken again. |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:25pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
| Re: Honest Advice by Ephemmm: 8:25pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
prettymiss4433: You met your current boyfriend(e-husband) and he proposed with immediate effect? Your eyes will soon clear. |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:25pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
5years is a long time for someone who is serious not to make a concrete move as little as introduction... @OP the question you should ask yourself is why did your ex become your ex in the first place and what has changed about him,since you left/or he left you.... Is he baiting you ? Cos dating is one thing ,marriage is another... Those things that made him EX in the first place can make you a divorcee in the 2nd place.......so watch carefully as for the 5year current boyfriend unless you guys started dating as students,and he possibly needs to get on his feet, you are on a loooooong thing prettymiss4433: |
| Re: Honest Advice by ronald4lif(m): 8:27pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Marriage, marriage and marriage the only word some of you understand and what guys will keep using as a subterfuge to achieve what they want. Someone you haven't been with for 5years just says he want to meet your people and then you're thinking of dumping a loyal boyfriend?. One don't need to look further to understand why many marriages crumbles nowadays. A lot of people just marry for the wrong reasons. By the way why should you be chatting up an ex of over 5years ago? If not to cheat with him. |
| Re: Honest Advice by prettyjo(f): 8:27pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
the most important thing is who your heart loves.Dont do what you will regret later. why not sit your current bf down and ask him where the reship is headed cos he might have different views on it.his reply will determine your next time. remember the most important thing is who you love .Dont just jump into marrying your ex cause all your mates are married.Think properly 1 Like |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:28pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
so you dont know weda to follow your ex just because he has proposed and thats exactly what you are after........ have sat down with your BF and talk abt what you want with him... he may have his own reasons for not yet proposing. you know.. 1 Like |
| Re: Honest Advice by chigoizie7(m): 8:28pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Stories for AMADIOHA. Well, it all depends on how old u were when u guys started dating,(15yrs for u and him 17) if that is the case,I don't see any reason why he should propose yet. |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:30pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
The "Mrs" is very important, irrespective of who the "Mr" is, I guess. By the way why did u break up with your ex? Do you feel the reason(s) for breaking up won't resurface. Anyway you've got ur life to live. You've got your dreams and aspirations to achieve (which I believe marriage is part of). You determine how u prioritize you dreams. But I feel you should let your partner know how u feel and what ur wishes are. If he can't help u to achieve it, then u determine ur next line of action. 1 Like |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:31pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
5 years is too long now .... If a guy really loves u he will marry u straight away to make sure ur off the market .. Dunno sha me personally if his not ready .. I swerve go elsewhere  Chai guys r wicked 5 years his still deciding. |
| Re: Honest Advice by akugbemike(m): 8:33pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Welcome. |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:33pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Lala247: Supposing the guy started dating at 23? 5yrs takes him to 28. Is he still wicked? |
| Re: Honest Advice by DuchessLily(f): 8:33pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Na waooo.. Cases of boyfriends for many yrs not making any moves to walk down d aisle just full romance section 2day. Guys start making moves ooo babes r impatient now as clock dey tick..  . Make Una for no vex if d babes make anoda choice |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:34pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
vfactor: Hmm not really sha .. But if his a good guy then she should keep waiting  |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:36pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Lmao @ leaving a 5 year old relationship with the excuse of "not wanting to be heart broken again" and then running back to the person who broke your heart prior to now. . . Are you discombobulated or lopsided, or you're discombobulated AND lopsided? |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:38pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Lala247: We can't really say much. Cos we don't know the circumstances. The op may just be pressuring herself to marry cos a few friends of her's are getting married. Then add that to an ex who is 'proposing', the total is pressure unlimited. She should just chill and talk to her boyfriend about the direction of the relationship. She should know where it is heading to after such discussion and what's best for her. |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:41pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
vfactor: Yh its true .. Only her can decide what to do but .. And we dont know the full story bet if the guys here it would b different story he will give ... Yea if his been faithful good to her yh she should chill .. Grass aint always greener on the other side sha. 1 Like |
| Re: Honest Advice by 1one: 8:42pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Leaving a relationship of 5years for an ex-boyfriend?....Seriously?  |
| Re: Honest Advice by ronald4lif(m): 8:42pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Lala247: True, 5years might be too long but let's establish some possibilities. They may have started off dating at uni or high school. I'm not sure but if that is the case then 5years is not that far. How about if the guy is still trying to put his sh*t together. How much does he earn and how ready is he, financially, to start up a family is another factor. People don't just marry for the sake of it, they have to be prepared. Okay now let's talk about this term called "love" and the much emphasis placed on it. Don't you think if love (or true love) exist this issue of her thinking of dumping this loyal boyfriend should never arise. Or maybe love is all about interest and convenience after all. When it suit us it's love but when we can't tolerate or be considerate like in this OP case we walk away. Simply put, this guy should lose the love of his life just because life hasn't been all nice to him to be able to start up a family. Someone should lecture me about love biko 1 Like |
| Re: Honest Advice by prettymiss4433(f): 8:43pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
MzNelly:he isn't broke, he is comfortable . |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:45pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
ronald4lif: Yh but she didnt state their age or when the relationship started so we can only assume . My response was if she was like 35 or so ething lol then his wicked .. Ave seen ppl met within one month they are married if you love someone what are u waiting for ? 1 Like |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:45pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
| Re: Honest Advice by prettymiss4433(f): 8:46pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Blackett:for your info my Ex didn't break my heart, we dated in school and lost contact after University days. |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:47pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:49pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Mayb the guy wants to dump u but feels bad so his just stringing u along |
| Re: Honest Advice by Cutehector(m): 8:49pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Shezhawt:I always keep tryn to remember ur moniker... Maybe i guess I'd follow your posts.. Hw u doin |
| Re: Honest Advice by ronald4lif(m): 8:50pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Lala247: Well love alone is not enough to get married. There are a whole lot of issues to be considered sha. 1 Like |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:52pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
ronald4lif: Yh she said they are comfortable its not money .. U cnt love someone u dont trust either .. Wt other reason? He didnt cheat she didnt either ..cnt understand |
| Re: Honest Advice by baralatie(m): 8:54pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
vfactor:5 years bros!time has fly! |
| Re: Honest Advice by Nobody: 8:55pm On Apr 16, 2015 |
Cutehector: Lol... Is it complicated |
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