Linqsz:




So what happens when she discovers that you have 10million naira with 5% quality but the other guy has 100million with 10% quality?

She sure will leave for the highest bidder

Ephemmm:



Majority of women of today will prefer marrying a 55 years wealthy old Alhaji top marry a 30 years old young man who possess high futuristic qualities.

Linqsz:



ok...but what happens when she meets anothe Alhaji that's much more richer and other?
Will find a reason to stay in the relationship or move to the next?

propzncribz:


Don't you think a slap button will be better or maybe a drop-kick button lol

Voy:
sowi what happens whn u keep correcting a paticular mistake made by ur partner severally??

kingstylo01:
After booking space, i'll like to drop this:

Although i agree with your points, i'll like to say that love is the most important factor in a relationship..
If your relationship is unhealthy, love is the medicine.. It will heal everything..


Love is important because it is very difficult to find a relationship slightly unhealthy..

In as much as i agree with your last point "let it go", i'll like to state this:

if you would let every unhealthy relationship go, then on the long run you'll hardly stick to any healthy relationship because all relationship have an iota of unhealthiness, which needs love as its medicine..


#LOVE CONQUERS ALL

StealthIdeals:
How wil u be able to know the sex is bad if ur girl is a virgin and insists on keeping the virginity?

kolocat:


I agree love is important. But it's not the only factor in a relationship to make it healthy. It's not even the most important. There's others that are equally as important to have a healthy rl.

babyosisi:


The list of what one would expect is endless so for that reason,I disagree with almost everything you wrote as being tests of a healthy relationship even though I agree they are all good in themselves and expected.
The only singular test IMHO is to ask yourself
" How does he/ she make me feel"?
Not what he/she thinks or feels or does but how does it feel to me,the recipient.
No matter what the intentions of the other person is, if I am not getting it, it is worthless to me.

kolocat:


I agree love is important. But it's not the only factor in a relationship to make it healthy. It's not even the most important. There's others that are equally as important to have a healthy rl.

trapQ:
No, you're wrong... LOVE is the single most important factor in every relationship. Love is everything. If you think love isn't that important then you haven't really felt love. Three things exists , faith, hope and love, but of all the greatest is love. You know why its the greatest? Cause GOD is LOVE and GOD is the greatest. We are all alive today because of Love. If not devil for dey dance shoki for our head. LOVE covers all flaws, true love brings understanding and loyalty and many more

Linqsz:



What more can I tell you?

take a walk

Mistaarhlohki:
I am in pain.....

Been dating this lady for almost 3years now... Then she caught me cheating and we had a BIG fight.... I did her wrong, she said I broke her heart into pieces...and now she has no heart.

All these happened late last year...so this year we came back slightly and she made me have sex with her and I thought she has forgiven me..

But, sometimes wen I try to be nice to her, she makes me feel unwanted....my romantic advances and playfulness are usually cut short. I'm being treated like I'm chasing her for the first time and it hurts so so bad.

Every time I want us to talk she says she's not in the mood...or she's feeling sleepy or she's busy or some flimsy excuses that drives me insane.

The only thing I thank God for is that I have never ever raised my hands in beating her and I have never manhandled any lady before its not in my nature.... But she is really pushing me and the more she does the more I tell my self u are stronger than that, keep calm.

Recently, I borrowed her Fone to make a call and I saw her chats wif some guy... Reminding d guy dat she left her pant in his room and he should keep it for her...

Good lord, I asked her and she told me they went to the beach and sand got into her pant and she took it off to get cleaned..

You know the story was very shallow and untrue....I didn't take it lightly with her but still made her feel comfortable around me despite knowing she may be seeing different guys now cos I caught her again with another married man during the Presidential elections in a chat and via phone calls...I wan go mad when d bastard tell am after election make dem hook up for evening, and she deh with me....evening reach she dress up and tell me say she deh commot, I had to stop her and we quarreled till late at night.. Still d bastard deh call say where she deh?..Omo thunder begin spark for my brain my people...

I know maybe she is trying to get back at me for cheating on her....the pain is I love her too much and I feel awful I cheated Becos of some stupid lust for one chick who shouldn't have gotten my attention in the first place.

To be honest, this girlfriend of mine is tormenting me emotionally, I have asked her, begged her to let me know why she does what she does....if she's tired of us she should let me know so I can stop wasting my energy and time...her response is nothing is wrong with us I'm d problem I'm RUDE, FULL OF PRIDE AND A PRETENDER.

She sent me all these words in a chat... So I'm planning to see her and have her tell me all these in person....to be sure she meant it, cos whenever I'm with her she finds it very hard to talk and its very unhealthy for me or us.

Like I said from the top, I need your advice y'all....cos I'm really in PAIN.

Mistaarhlohki:
I am in pain.....



Good lord, I asked her and she told me they went to the beach and sand got into her pant and she took it off to get cleaned..



.

kolocat:


Sorry to hear that. You seem like a strong person. And good for you, you have the right attitude. You should never quit

kolocat:


No lol, no need for violence

emusmith:

Relationships are a necessary part of our existence. However, relationships can be healthy or unhealthy. Healthy relationships contribute to our overall well-being while an unhealthy relationship does the exact opposite. There are different things that point to whether a relationship is healthy or not. To tell if your relationship is healthy or not ask yourself these questions:

1. What does he/she bring out of me?

The quality of your relationship revolves around what you become by it. How is the relationship impacting you? Note this is not about the other person forcing you to change who you already are. In a healthy relationship, you don’t feel forced to change who you are but rather inspired to make needed changes. In other words, it does not try to fix you but rather help you fix yourself. A true partner knows your weakness but shows you your strengths. Feels your fears, but fortifies your faith. Sees your anxieties, but frees your spirit. Recognizes your disability, but emphasizes your possibilities.

2. What does he/ she think of me?

What your partner thinks of you really matters. It tells or determines the value he or she places in such a relationship. And we usually give quality attention and care to whatever we value. Does he/she see you as a plus in his/her life? Relationship works when it involves mutual contribution. If your partner does not see you as a value or at least a potential value in his life, the intimacy and closeness will likely diminish with time.
Also, people tend to become what the most important person in their lives believes they can be. That’s why people in abusive relationships are usually self-critical and timid.

3.What does he/she think of my future?

Every true relationship invests in your future one way or the other. Your relationship should contribute to your dreams and aspirations. Does your partner support and consider God’s plan for you. Does he/she help it or hinder it?
This emphasizes the need for you to determine the direction of your life. If you know what you want in life and where you are going, it is easy enough to figure out who fits into the picture.

4. How does he/she behave towards me in difficult times?

The real test on the quality of your relationship comes during difficult times not when the goings are smooth. If he/she turns abusive or one way or the other makes it look like you are the cause of his/her problems, that’s a negative signal.

5. What does he/she thinks about my values and beliefs?

If you are in a relationship where you have to sacrifice your core values, beliefs and things that really matter to you, you may need to re-consider that relationship. It is true that we are to adjust and sacrifice certain things in a relationship. However, when it involves relegating things that really matter to you; you are likely to end up unhappy in such relationship. One thing peculiar with couples in healthy relationships is the fact that they have similar values, beliefs and focus.

6. How does he/she reacts when issues arise?

Disagreement occurs every in any relationship. What matters is how it is handled? If he/she holds grudges for days and drags every little issue or disagreement to the extent that a third party need to be involved before it can be resolved, it does not tell well about that relationship.

7. How much do I trust him/her?

A relationship without trust breeds insecurity, heart breaks and emotional instability. It is impossible to have a relationship if there is no trust in such relationship. Couples in a healthy relationship are quite open to each other. That’s why communication is very important in relationships. If he/she allows you to wonder or try to guess what he/she has in mind; If you constantly sense insincerity from him/her, then there’s bound to be trust issues in such relationship.


Have a lovely night rest.

Hanibal:
I have gotten myself one such babe.. its all about getting close to babes that think d same way you think.
Not one of these babes that expect you to sing them love songs 24/7. its hard to find, but keep searching you will eventually find. Im a testimony.

chidyhels:


You met her
You still meet her
But shes probably not your class
You ignored her

falconey:
wonderful.

Guys: I know this already.

Girls : he should do it first he is the man.

ritzytbabs:

that part cracked me up tho.....lool

Goldenboy842:
[/quote][/b][quote author=emusmith post=32650906]
Relationships are a necessary part of our existence. However, relationships can be healthy or unhealthy. Healthy relationships contribute to our overall well-being while an unhealthy relationship does the exact opposite. There are different things that point to whether a relationship is healthy or not. To tell if your relationship is healthy or not ask yourself these questions:

[b]1. What does he/she bring out of me?

The quality of your relationship revolves around what you become by it. How is the relationship impacting you? Note this is not about the other person forcing you to change who you already are. In a healthy relationship, you don’t feel forced to change who you are but rather inspired to make needed changes. In other words, it does not try to fix you but rather help you fix yourself. A true partner knows your weakness but shows you your strengths. Feels your fears, but fortifies your faith. Sees your anxieties, but frees your spirit. Recognizes your disability, but emphasizes your possibilities.

2. What does he/ she think of me?

What your partner thinks of you really matters. It tells or determines the value he or she places in such a relationship. And we usually give quality attention and care to whatever we value. Does he/she see you as a plus in his/her life? Relationship works when it involves mutual contribution. If your partner does not see you as a value or at least a potential value in his life, the intimacy and closeness will likely diminish with time.
Also, people tend to become what the most important person in their lives believes they can be. That’s why people in abusive relationships are usually self-critical and timid.

3.What does he/she think of my future?

Every true relationship invests in your future one way or the other. Your relationship should contribute to your dreams and aspirations. Does your partner support and consider God’s plan for you. Does he/she help it or hinder it?
This emphasizes the need for you to determine the direction of your life. If you know what you want in life and where you are going, it is easy enough to figure out who fits into the picture.

4. How does he/she behave towards me in difficult times?

The real test on the quality of your relationship comes during difficult times not when the goings are smooth. If he/she turns abusive or one way or the other makes it look like you are the cause of his/her problems, that’s a negative signal.

5. What does he/she thinks about my values and beliefs?

If you are in a relationship where you have to sacrifice your core values, beliefs and things that really matter to you, you may need to re-consider that relationship. It is true that we are to adjust and sacrifice certain things in a relationship. However, when it involves relegating things that really matter to you; you are likely to end up unhappy in such relationship. One thing peculiar with couples in healthy relationships is the fact that they have similar values, beliefs and focus.

6. How does he/she reacts when issues arise?

Disagreement occurs every in any relationship. What matters is how it is handled? If he/she holds grudges for days and drags every little issue or disagreement to the extent that a third party need to be involved before it can be resolved, it does not tell well about that relationship.

7. How much do I trust him/her?

A relationship without trust breeds insecurity, heart breaks and emotional instability. It is impossible to have a relationship if there is no trust in such relationship. Couples in a healthy relationship are quite open to each other. That’s why communication is very important in relationships. If he/she allows you to wonder or try to guess what he/she has in mind; If you constantly sense insincerity from him/her, then there’s bound to be trust issues in such relationship.


Have a lovely night rest.

emusmith:

Relationships are a necessary part of our existence. However, relationships can be healthy or unhealthy. Healthy relationships contribute to our overall well-being while an unhealthy relationship does the exact opposite. There are different things that point to whether a relationship is healthy or not. To tell if your relationship is healthy or not ask yourself these questions:

[b]1. What does he/she bring out of me?

The quality of your relationship revolves around what you become by it. How is the relationship impacting you? Note this is not about the other person forcing you to change who you already are. In a healthy relationship, you don’t feel forced to change who you are but rather inspired to make needed changes. In other words, it does not try to fix you but rather help you fix yourself. A true partner knows your weakness but shows you your strengths. Feels your fears, but fortifies your faith. Sees your anxieties, but frees your spirit. Recognizes your disability, but emphasizes your possibilities.

2. What does he/ she think of me?

What your partner thinks of you really matters. It tells or determines the value he or she places in such a relationship. And we usually give quality attention and care to whatever we value. Does he/she see you as a plus in his/her life? Relationship works when it involves mutual contribution. If your partner does not see you as a value or at least a potential value in his life, the intimacy and closeness will likely diminish with time.
Also, people tend to become what the most important person in their lives believes they can be. That’s why people in abusive relationships are usually self-critical and timid.

3.What does he/she think of my future?

Every true relationship invests in your future one way or the other. Your relationship should contribute to your dreams and aspirations. Does your partner support and consider God’s plan for you. Does he/she help it or hinder it?
This emphasizes the need for you to determine the direction of your life. If you know what you want in life and where you are going, it is easy enough to figure out who fits into the picture.

4. How does he/she behave towards me in difficult times?

The real test on the quality of your relationship comes during difficult times not when the goings are smooth. If he/she turns abusive or one way or the other makes it look like you are the cause of his/her problems, that’s a negative signal.

5. What does he/she thinks about my values and beliefs?

If you are in a relationship where you have to sacrifice your core values, beliefs and things that really matter to you, you may need to re-consider that relationship. It is true that we are to adjust and sacrifice certain things in a relationship. However, when it involves relegating things that really matter to you; you are likely to end up unhappy in such relationship. One thing peculiar with couples in healthy relationships is the fact that they have similar values, beliefs and focus.

6. How does he/she reacts when issues arise?

Disagreement occurs every in any relationship. What matters is how it is handled? If he/she holds grudges for days and drags every little issue or disagreement to the extent that a third party need to be involved before it can be resolved, it does not tell well about that relationship.

7. How much do I trust him/her?

A relationship without trust breeds insecurity, heart breaks and emotional instability. It is impossible to have a relationship if there is no trust in such relationship. Couples in a healthy relationship are quite open to each other. That’s why communication is very important in relationships. If he/she allows you to wonder or try to guess what he/she has in mind; If you constantly sense insincerity from him/her, then there’s bound to be trust issues in such relationship.


Have a lovely night rest.

ritzytbabs:


that part cracked me up tho.....lool

uobimba:
I agree with u if this is before marriage because i have heard people say-i just love him/her even though he/she exhibits some characters not comfortable with.in this case try to consider some other compatibilty factors but if in marriage then its love all through and endurance

trapQ:
No, you're wrong... LOVE is the single most important factor in every relationship. Love is everything. If you think love isn't that important then you haven't really felt love. Three things exists , faith, hope and love, but of all the greatest is love. You know why its the greatest? Cause GOD is LOVE and GOD is the greatest. We are all alive today because of Love. If not devil for dey dance shoki for our head. LOVE covers all flaws, true love brings understanding and loyalty and many more

trapQ:
A bottle of shawarma for this nigga pls

Donpizzle:


did u jst say LOVE? Hmm, wat abt cash....

Ephemmm:



Love conquers all: but money and quality sexual life can make your wife to behave, submit and cooperate with you as if she is your creator in the long run. In fact, she would remain as loyal as dog

Guys, please make money
More money, I mean
Make more more and more money I say...

Hmmm.... 'My account has been credited' the only word that matters most in the hearing of every woman than 'I love you'.

God please bless me and the works of my hand too..

misreal:
d persons DAT liked this post needs to rethink.cos love is not the most important thing in relationship.