stephenqueen:
Follow your heart

stephenqueen:
Follow your heart

Ipledge:
Follow her heart

ronald4lif:
And you had to use the "Akata" slang to describe him? How does that even sound.

That blacks are referred to as Akata in the States doesn't mean one should call someone she claims to love such a demeaning name. I couldn't read this story coz of that blunder. Learn to address people you hold dear appropriately.

stephenqueen:

Ipledge:
You So on point.I wish to know where her akata comes from

ronald4lif:
And you had to use the "Akata" slang to describe him? How does that even sound.

That blacks are referred to as Akata in the States doesn't mean one should call someone she claims to love such a demeaning name. I couldn't read this story coz of that blunder. Learn to address people you hold dear appropriately.

ronald4lif:


Don't mind her, she can't address someone she intends to have a relationship with properly. So much for love. Akata ko apapa ni.

kinibigdeal:
And you call him "akata"

Ipledge:
At op,Please which city is ur akata from...

ronald4lif:


Don't mind her, she can't address someone she intends to have a relationship with properly. So much for love. Akata ko apapa ni.

TobiBabiOO:
I've been talking to this Akata guy for about 2 months now and we have allot in common, he's funny I really like him and he seems very serious about dating and getting married. He's been there for me when I had a death in my family, we talk everyday and we've talked almost 12 hours a couple of times. He's really sweet, I do feel I can tell him anything and not be afraid of judgment, so all in all I do see potential in him. My mother HATES the idea and she will have no part in it. I understand her reasons, she feels she will lose me if i marry out of our culture but I don't think that is fair or reasonable. The guy has developed strong feelings for me over a short period of time which I did express concerns over but I do believe that they are genuine, he said he wouldn't let me go so easily and has even considering moving closer to home for his masters so he can be closer to me. I just want the freedom to be happy with who I choose to be with not because I want to please my parents, I don't want to disappoint them but I also don't want my parents telling me who to be with. We've met in person he drove a few hours to come see me during spring break we spent an entire day together, we will also be attending summer classes at the same community college so this entire summer we should be able to get to know each other more. This situation is stressing me out and is completely unfair I understand Naija culture being raised in a Nigerian household but spending most of my life here in America has made me more open minded and I wish my parents would feel the same way. I don't want to disappoint or bring shame to my family but I dont want to jeopardize my happiness because of it, Advice??

TobiBabiOO:


I don't see it as demeaning unless it's used in a negative context, that's how everybody around me refers to them and I assumed not everyone here would understand me unless I used the word. Do not attack me for doing what I know, it's not nice.

Doortun:
From the description above he appears to be someone with direction in life.However, I have few questions.

What is his family dynamics? Single mom raised or stepfather raised?

Does he have any thug-like attitude like piercing, tattoo and sagging?

TobiBabiOO:


He's from Texas, USA

TobiBabiOO:


You're very aggressive.

TobiBabiOO:


His father was in the air force for many years and is now a correctional officer, his mother works for homeland security. His sister is a psychologist. He wants to be a counseling psychologist, he'll be graduating in December, and will do his masters shortly after than. He has no tattoos or piercings, he doesn't sag. He's very clean cut and a gentleman.

ronald4lif:


The context to which it's used is irrelevant. Akata is inappropriate and that's for a fact. How are they perceived and regarded in the U.S? Blacks are referred to as negros as well so how does that sound to you? Can there ever be a good context referring to someone as a negro.

That everybody around you refers to blacks as Akata is another baseless ground to tag an acquaintant with same brush.

This is a Nigerian forum. We would have understood "black guy" better than Akata.

TobiBabiOO:


His father was in the air force for many years and is now a correctional officer, his mother works for homeland security. His sister is a psychologist.

tpiadotcom:


take him to nigeria and see if he's still interested after that.


not set in stone though.

alternatively, take him to nigerian functions and see if he copes.

tpiadotcom:


oh geez.

what's your own field?

TobiBabiOO:


His father was in the air force for many years and is now a correctional officer, his mother works for homeland security. His sister is a psychologist. He wants to be a counseling psychologist, he'll be graduating in December, and will do his masters shortly after than. He has no tattoos or piercings, he doesn't sag. He's very clean cut and a gentleman.

TobiBabiOO:


Thankyou for the lecture and your passion, but I asked this question for advice on what to do about my situation