Teempakguy:
what does akata mean?:/

anyway, i suggest you get your parents to like him or at least acknowledge him. wait . . . are you white yourself?

TobiBabiOO:


Can you please let me know what your "Oh geez" means??

and I'm studying to become a Nurse Anesthetist

tpiadotcom:


what are his reason/s for wanting to date you?

what's his marital status?

any kids/baby mamas?


what's your own marital status?

any kids?




these are probably some of the reasons why your parents arent enthusiastic

Doortun:


My initial concern was poor family orientation and up-bringing. African Americans with sense of direction are rare to find. You have one right on your feet so what are you waiting for? Enjoy before he grows wings and fly away and be a good Ambassador to other Nigerian ladies.

Teempakguy:
just quote the above verbatim to your parents. meanwhile . . . i think they're concerned that introducing non nigerian genes into their bloodline might lead to undesirable traits.

LewisO:
Since he's AKATA why do wanna be in a relationship with him?

TobiBabiOO:


I don't understand you.

TobiBabiOO:


My parents are not enthusiastic simply because he's not Nigerian, that is the only reason I ever received. He's christian, he has a future, we're around the same age, he has good morals, strong family values, he's respectful, he treats me nice, none of these reasons are enough for them.

tpiadotcom:


what people mean is you should change your thread title to read "African American" or AA.

You could also say "Should I date my AA boyfriend or not?"

something like that.

tpiadotcom:



yes, a lot of nigerian parents want their female kids to marry nigerians.

tpiadotcom:


means heavy duty.





ok, i guess he's attracted to high achievers then.

TobiBabiOO:


Okay, I changed it.

TobiBabiOO:


Yes, I figured it had something to do with the fact that I'm a woman, men always have it easier when it comes to things like this... I was dating a Muslim who I really liked but my parents (ESPECIALLY my father who HATES the idea of marrying a muslim) didn't want me to convert and i was getting pressure from the other side to convert. If I was a man I would be able to date whoever I wanted, that's my rational on all this.

TobiBabiOO:


But I have said these things Undesirable traits, lol what, how ??

TobiBabiOO:




His reasons (His words)
1. I'm beautiful
2. I'm intelligent
3. I'm easy to talk to
4. I understand him
5. We have allot in common
6. I'm caring
7. I know what I want in a man
8. I always know what to say
9. He cares allot about me
10. He doesn't want to lose me
11. He loves me
we're both in our early 20s, no babies, never married, not attachments.

My parents are not enthusiastic simply because he's not Nigerian, that is the only reason I ever received. He's christian, he has a future, we're around the same age, he has good morals, strong family values, he's respectful, he treats me nice, none of these reasons are enough for them.

tpiadotcom:



seems you prefer dating outside your comfort zone, although being asked to convert as a condition for marriage is indeed a bit worrisome,

Chiam55:
It doesn't sound like you love this man. I think you should finish your studies and respect your parents. Not once have you spoke about how much you love him. I think you are not ready for this as far as marriag. If you want to date him then date him but marriage I think you're thinking about marriage too soon.

HEdeserves someone that love's him as much as he loves you. He can do better. Imo.

Teempakguy:
wow, you're funny. you think your parents would allow you to marry a muslim if you were a guy? no bloody way.
also, nigerian culture is awesome. nobody wants their children out of such.

TobiBabiOO:


We've been talking for 2 months, to me that's too soon to be confessing love but I respect how he feels. I'm not one to use that word so loosely because I dont want to say it and not mean it. I'm practical, he meets all the characteristics I want in a man and we get along very well so I want to date him, the decision for marriage will come later if it's meant to be... saying he can do better hurts my feelings because I know I'm a good catch and so does he.

Teempakguy:
do you realize what you just did? you just insulted nigerian culture on a nigerian forum. i'll let the basher's handle that.
and yes i'm saying you should totally marry a nigerian. but you won't listen. #fact.

Teempakguy:

sexual and moral perversions in your kids.
also, i think your parents want a nigerian wedding for you.

Chiam55:


So you open this thread to ask us if you should date him? Ok yes go and date him. I think he deserves a woman from a family who don't think he is bellow them. He sounds like a good catch. Igave you my oopinion if you took offence then it's yours to take.

TobiBabiOO:


I guess you dont understand that phrase, because there was no insult I was agreeing with the fact that Nigerian culture is awesome, why would I say otherwise, calm down and I heard you

TobiBabiOO:


I don't understand you.

all4naija:
I say don't marry him. Look for a primitive Nigerian from forest to do that with.

TobiBabiOO:



That's what I want to do but then I would be retaliating against them and bringing shame right? That's what it seems like I would be doing...