bukatyne:


Sorry you picked the wrong sista!

5minsmadness:

I know u don't believe this, but men are stronger than women. All he has to do is tell her to go nicely, if she refuses then he carries her out physically (without hurting her, don't worry), then he helps her pack her bags and sends it out. It's not only women that want a peaceful marriage. If she wants to go she should go. If she wants to stay then she should kindly explain why she would deliberately starve him. Marriage is not by force, if she doesn't want she should go.

5minsmadness:

Honestly I don't see the need to argue this.
Let me open a thread and ask nairaland girls if they would prefer romantically presented roses over material gifts. They will laugh me off the thread.

cococandy:


You know I don't believe men are stronger than women? Are kidding me?
Wherever did you get that idea from?

Plssssss.

Anyway that said, there are some women that you would want to carry out and they claw at you, scratch and tear your cloth or even hit you with stuff the moment you get close enough to try force them out of the house. You might end up in that fight you were trying to avoid.

Never mind. I was just trying to help you explore the various scenarios that may come with trying to get an unwilling woman out of a house.
Lifting her and carrying her out may or may not work as strengths differ from person to person.

Now to the appropriate question.
The house belongs to the man and his wife.
Why should the wife be the one to leave if they have unresolved issues? Seriously

cococandy:


You know I don't believe men are stronger than women? Are kidding me?
Wherever did you get that idea from?

Plssssss.

Anyway that said, there are some women that you would want to carry out and they claw at you, scratch and tear your cloth or even hit you with stuff the moment you get close enough to try force them out of the house. You might end up in that fight you were trying to avoid.

Never mind. I was just trying to help you explore the various scenarios that may come with trying to get an unwilling woman out of a house.
Lifting her and carrying her out may or may not work as strengths differ from person to person.

Now to the appropriate question.
The house belongs to the man and his wife.
Why should the wife be the one to leave if they have unresolved issues? Seriously

5minsmadness:

Apologies.
We dont differ in belief of who has greater strength.
We differ in belief of who has the house.
The man pays the rent.
The man brought her to HIS house.
If she misbehaves the man sends her out.
Ce finis.

kaboninc:


What if she pays the rent?

5minsmadness:

Apologies.
We dont differ in belief of who has greater strength.
We differ in belief of who has the house.
The man pays the rent.
The man brought her to HIS house.
If she misbehaves the man sends her out.
Ce finis.

5minsmadness:

Then the man is a fool.
He should do the honourable thing and leave the house.

5minsmadness:

Then the man is a fool.
He should do the honourable thing and leave the house.

5minsmadness:

Thank you for being realistic.
I try if na Facebook wall.
I dey write am for paper seal am inside envelope come spray the envelope with male perfume . When I could have simply pinged
The Roses were imported and cost a pretty penny. Sista jus laugh thank me with one fake voice troway the tin for corner.


Money talks far Iouder than foolish words.

cococandy:
really?
You have no idea what hard times mean.
So if a man is not able to meet up with financial needs of his family at some point, he's a fool?

Easy dude.

providing for a family is not easy and generally can't be achieved by one person.
Except he's a rich man, the average guy will always need financial help from his wife.
So even if his own money is used for rent/mortgage/building house and his wife uses hers to take care of the family, it is the same thing.
It doesn't make him the owner of the house.

5minsmadness:


I admit I hardy read what u posted up there. There should be no excuses.
If a man is so bankrupt he can't pay for his own house rent then he has failed in his duties and is worse than a pharisee.

There a certain things a man should do to make his wife secure. One of these is taking care of the house financially. I can understand wifey contributing some money to the rent, but not all of it or not for more than a year at a time. If he fails in his responsibilities then maybe that is why wifey isn't serving him food in the first place.

Chillisauce:


The money you use import the rose, nothing remain for necklace ni

Next time, put something inside the rose.

For edwife version, just tie up flowers and green grass. For chillisauce version, find something put inside the rose. The love will increase in exponential
No time for aka nchi.

5minsmadness:


I admit I hardy read what u posted up there. There should be no excuses.
If a man is so bankrupt he can't pay for his own house rent then he has failed in his duties and is worse than a pharisee.

There a certain things a man should do to make his wife secure. One of these is taking care of the house financially. I can understand wifey contributing some money to the rent, but not all of it or not for more than a year at a time. If he fails in his responsibilities then maybe that is why wifey isn't serving him food in the first place.

Chillisauce:


Which yr dem born you abeg? 1921? You are so old school

5minsmadness:

Shuo.
Babe na wa for u o.
No dulling again.
Now instead of roses na iPhone and Ipad.
Instead of poems na daily recharge card and money for human hair.

Women feel you are responsible when u take care of them.
I. Just bought "Cool waters" deodorant kit for a "friend". It's not costly but she'll prefer it to an "I love u" note, walahi

5minsmadness:

19)+7((@($
Yeah.
Old days were quality days.

cococandy:
Life happens.
Just pray to never be in such a situation.
And yes excuses can be made is such situations.

What if he was unfairly laid off his job for no fault of his than office politics or witch-hunt?
What if one big investment flopped?
What if? What if? So many scenaria come to mind.
He can go bankrupt in such cases and he won't be a failure for that.

Pls remember to be kind to yourself if ever life throws you one big curveball that requires you and the whole family having to depend on your wife until you can stand up again to support her and contribute too as you used to.

A man who doesn't try at all is not the same as one who does but can't meet up with all the demands.
And there millions of such men out there.

Chillisauce:


1975 you still never marry. Your sper.m mm will soon dry up. I hope you froze some.

go marry o.
crackhaus is about that age, him dey here dey answer young bobo for nairaland.
Una children for Don dey university by now.


.

Chillisauce:


There is nothing wrong buying gift for those you love. The problem is you guys like sampling different women. So instead of buying one correct gift plus rose to your loved ones, you buy 20 roses for different girls. Hoping to knack akpako from at least 10.

Nigerian women na him fit una.
go and buy the iPhone jare
. When your turn reach, she will get you a gift too.

Chillisauce:


1975 you still never marry. Your sper.m mm will soon dry up. I hope you froze some.

go marry o.
crackhaus is about that age, him dey here dey answer young bobo for nairaland.
Una children for Don dey university by now.

Chillisauce:


1975 you still never marry. Your sper.m mm will soon dry up. I hope you froze some.

go marry o.
crackhaus is about that age, him dey here dey answer young bobo for nairaland.
Una children for Don dey university by now.


.

5minsmadness:


Majority of menfolk who behave like the guy in my example live to regret it.
The women take them for granted.
They start bossing the men around. This isn't theory, this is what i have seen first hand.
you can even read it in the few men that come on nairaland to complain.
Women don't like men that treat them like queens all the time, fact.

If a guy makes the mistake of asking his wife "may i have sex with you?" as a routine , he will regret it.
Before you know it sex will only come at her behest, NEVER at his.

A man who cooks and cleans and washes and does the dishes will soon find himself doing it alllll the time, the woman just sits back and becomes lazy.

I had a girl once when i was naive, I bought her flowers for valentine (not that i didnt have money but i thought roses would have a more significant meaning than any material gift, silly me ), I would carry her books to class and all the romantic stuff. Women can't stand that behavior for long. They want a man to be in control, to tell them what to do, to OWN them. This doesnt necessarily mean the man should be wicked or a slave-master, simply that being a man he should be more assertive, more confident, more steadfast and determined in what his likes and dislikes are.

I ended up handing my first love to another guy on a silver platter. she went after him because he was more assertive. he slapped her on the second week of thier dating because she made the mistake of thinking she could behave with him the way she did with me. she came to me to report but they made up the next day. they are married now with three kids.

This is the truth of the world we live in, men should stop taking examples from telemundo. Women want heroes, men they can look up to, not men who will worship them.

5minsmadness:


Majority of menfolk who behave like the guy in my example live to regret it.
The women take them for granted.
They start bossing the men around. This isn't theory, this is what i have seen first hand.
you can even read it in the few men that come on nairaland to complain.
Women don't like men that treat them like queens all the time, fact.

If a guy makes the mistake of asking his wife "may i have sex with you?" as a routine , he will regret it.
Before you know it sex will only come at her behest, NEVER at his.

A man who cooks and cleans and washes and does the dishes will soon find himself doing it alllll the time, the woman just sits back and becomes lazy.

I had a girl once when i was naive, I bought her flowers for valentine (not that i didnt have money but i thought roses would have a more significant meaning than any material gift, silly me ), I would carry her books to class and all the romantic stuff. Women can't stand that behavior for long. They want a man to be in control, to tell them what to do, to OWN them. This doesnt necessarily mean the man should be wicked or a slave-master, simply that being a man he should be more assertive, more confident, more steadfast and determined in what his likes and dislikes are.

I ended up handing my first love to another guy on a silver platter. she went after him because he was more assertive. he slapped her on the second week of thier dating because she made the mistake of thinking she could behave with him the way she did with me. she came to me to report but they made up the next day. they are married now with three kids.

This is the truth of the world we live in, men should stop taking examples from telemundo. Women want heroes, men they can look up to, not men who will worship them.

cuteshantel39:
I appreciate all your comments and I wish he is on this forum to see for himself. I want to state here that the wife is a full house wife. Its the man that feeds,clothes,houses her and does every other thing. I spoke with him yesterday and he told me she was cooking because they had a visitor from another state. I have pressurized him to tell me everything that has transpired btw them but he keeps saying nothing happened that she has been like that. All the same thank you all for your contributions I will keep u updated

edwife:




He is looking for you ,he said he misses you.

crackhaus:

I missed you o, she's right

5minsmadness:

Girl we go derail this thread
Do you know how many girls I let slip by me cos I dey form gentleman? I was almost raped on two occasions

Just dat am not the kiss and tell type.

Those 20 girls want to be knacked, don't worry about them
The 10 that don't get the knacking begin to beef u for unknown reasons

Abeg I wan charge my phone.