Mprex:



all those guys shouting ladies and abortions on this thread, thunder fire you JTs


whether those ladies took in through sachet water

Thanks Honey
You took those words from me.

cocokiller1:
is it also true that using condom is a sin?some say its kidnapping

fornication is a sin before God...
So don't attempt sex at all

nwachivis:
Please nairalanders help me out.I am not an expert when it comes to writing,but i will still manage to drive home my point to the best of my capacity.

I proposed marriage just of recent to my spouse and went ahead with the family introduction.I have ever since been making preparations for the wedding.

I had told her in our previous interactions that i cancelled the marriage preparations with my ex when she told me she had once aborted a baby for her ex,which made her bleed for days.she told me back then that she was scared her womb was damaged because the pregnancy was 3 months old when she carried out the abortion.she pleaded with me to still marry her,reminding me of God's ability to perform miracles,even though she admitted that it was a difficult thing for any african man to do.I immediately called it quit between the both of us and moved on to my current spouse.

Just yesterday in one of our outings,my fiancée opened up to me that she once had an abortion in the past.she begged me not to call it "quit” with her,assuring me that no damage was done.

Am confused here because i can't handle the trauma of childlessness and a lot has been going through my mind. I love her and she loves me too.

Please advice me.

Do i continue with the marriage ?
Do i accept that it is my destiny to settle down with
a lady that has done abortion in the past ?
Do i insist she get pregnant for me before our wedding ?
Do i just go ahead and marry her with a positive
mindset ?

Please help me out of this quagmire..

marry her before its too late. She took a bold decision and came clean before you married her is a keeper. Some have done it a hundred times and still lie to their husbands that they are virgins. She is ready for a clean start with you. A relationship built on trust and honesty is the best believe you me, and this is what she's offering you. If you forgive her this, you have a loyal babe for life.

Mprex:
Op prolly that lady is just trying you. What lady in her right mind would tell you that after hearing your story.


Maybe she is just bieng sincere


all thesame, i will advice you to go on with the marriage


all those guys shouting ladies and abortions on this thread, thunder fire you JTs


whether those ladies took in through sachet water

Them no sabi use contraceptive abi? How much is postinor?

in my opinion the right thing to do would be to not dump her but continue the relationship.
Weigh your odds and assess the situation, billions of women still have numerous kids post an abortion.
For your satisfaction you could take her for a complete check to a gynaec.

Apply wisdom, She did d right thing by telling u so don't hold it against Her, just ensure dat she is still Fertile & can still Reproduce & do d Needful Guy. Note: Nobody is Perfect & there's no Perfect Woman Anywhere!!!!!!!!!

passionate88:
Na wa o... The rate at which girls carry out abortions these days is just heart wrenching

I think a thread should b created to address abortion nd who is to blame for abortion
I don't knw y it's jst d girlss people blame
or na becos na d girl dy carry d pikin?
I think most times it's joint effort 4rm d boy nd girl to abort
nd most times pressure 4rm d boy dat makes d girls abort
nd most times d society at large
u cnt completely blame d girls

It's true what they say "only good girls get pregnant, the others take it to the cleaners"

ammyluv2002:
Guys sha *smh*

Tell them the truth before marriage ......problem
Hide the truth till after marriage ......problem


Most Guys are so difficult to please ie guys like the poster

Dude, pls stop looking for excuses and settle down with somebody. Most ladies pretend and lie a lot and you're lucky to have met a lady who isn't a liar

God is the giver of children! I'm not saying kudos to the lady but you shouldn't judge her from her past/mistakes. We are all human so why not just forgive her and tell her to ask God for Mercy and move on with your wedding plans

Wait o! If the guy was your brother would you ask him to go ahead with the wedding? I am just asking o.

ammyluv2002:
Guys sha *smh*

Tell them the truth before marriage ......problem
Hide the truth till after marriage ......problem


Most Guys are so difficult to please ie guys like the poster

Dude, pls stop looking for excuses and settle down with somebody. Most ladies pretend and lie a lot and you're lucky to have met a lady who isn't a liar

God is the giver of children! I'm not saying kudos to the lady but you shouldn't judge her from her past/mistakes. We are all human so why not just forgive her and tell her to ask God for Mercy and move on with your wedding plans

its always easy for women to say "we are just human", he is a guy and unfortunately God did not give us that grace to overlook issues of the "past" so easily......

@ op run a fertility test, and marry her still.... its however almost evident you will eventually make her feel bad about this action of hers simply from how much you take abortion.... Gud luck though

Abeg na who dey give dem belle?
I can only spare u from this statement if u have never had premarital sex. Like the girls impregnate themselves, right?

agarawu23:
she knows about your past relationship and she still open up to you ,then I give her 3 gbosa!!!

1. her story might be false to know how much you care because her boldness for telling you such is what's strange to me

2. Guys are adviced dis days to make sure your wife to be is at least 1month pregnant before you start marriage arrangement(that's if you are financially ready to settle down)


ladies and abortion these days

Afterall she's not your first girl. She opened up to you I think you should appreciate that. I have a cousin you got married as a virgin, she has been married for like 14years and till now she has not conceived and I knoe someone who has lost count of abortion and within a space of 5years of marriage she has had 4 children. Pregnancy is not a matter of she has aborted before or not as long as no damage is done to her womb.

Bonapart:
fornication is a sin before God...
So don't attempt sex at all

yh
so d op should jst take his bride 4 checkup nd den go ahead with d marriage
him no go tell me say him never bleep b4

The issue of abortion shouldn't be a strange thing in this our generation....many of our girls now see it as a normal way of getting rid of the unwanted baby & and i can say 60-70% of them are guity of this ungodly act...i wil advice u run a fertility and other necessary test on her before taking her to d altar...move on wit ur plans once her fertility is confirmed..
BEST OF LUCK .

Rubbish behave urself man! Bleep this babe and wait after too or more weeks she didn't conceive, run for ur unborn tomboy

nwachivis:
Please nairalanders help me out.I am not an expert when it comes to writing,but i will still manage to drive home my point to the best of my capacity.

I proposed marriage just of recent to my spouse and went ahead with the family introduction.I have ever since been making preparations for the wedding.

I had told her in our previous interactions that i cancelled the marriage preparations with my ex when she told me she had once aborted a baby for her ex,which made her bleed for days.she told me back then that she was scared her womb was damaged because the pregnancy was 3 months old when she carried out the abortion.she pleaded with me to still marry her,reminding me of God's ability to perform miracles,even though she admitted that it was a difficult thing for any african man to do.I immediately called it quit between the both of us and moved on to my current spouse.

Just yesterday in one of our outings,my fiancée opened up to me that she once had an abortion in the past.she begged me not to call it "quit” with her,assuring me that no damage was done.

Am confused here because i can't handle the trauma of childlessness and a lot has been going through my mind. I love her and she loves me too.

Please advice me.

Do i continue with the marriage ?
Do i accept that it is my destiny to settle down with
a lady that has done abortion in the past ?
Do i insist she get pregnant for me before our wedding ?
Do i just go ahead and marry her with a positive
mindset ?

Please help me out of this quagmire..

If having kids is so important to you then you need to focus on a woman that can have kids but here is the thing....children are a blessing from God and God will not give you kids if you are not ready or destined to have kids.

You can get a virgin that has never been infected and still not have children. You need to be spiritually ready to receive children and be it the will of God.

You want the love foremost...why have children with someone you truly are not compatible or in love with? You will divorce and drag tour children from women to women as you finally find your rib.

People focus on things that are not important and neglected what is important . Once you do that everything else will fall in place.

What I'd more important to you? Children or true love and companionship?

Over to you searching4love. What can you say about this?

Ignorance is bliss..... And a lot of immature minds abound

There is hardly any negative impact on the number of abortions a lady has! Infact a lady that has aborted is proven fertile than a woman that hasnt despite unprotected sex.

There is actual proven research too on increased fertility of sexually active women compared to virgins or secondary Virgins ( abstinence).

For ur rest of mind n assurance, you may wish to have a fertility test..... But calling off the relationship on this instance alone is not justifiable.

To buttress my point, I'm also speaking from experience...... You can term me touch n go.... I have had to tie my wound coz I wAnt no more babies n I am not a fan of contraceptions due to other associated health risks.

PS: I'm too old n matured to respond to side or snide comments.

Oga why not move on,she is sincere with you.If a woman tells you the truth,she loves you.Please dont react so that you will drive true love away.

Ur so on point

ammyluv2002:
Guys sha *smh*

Tell them the truth before marriage ......problem
Hide the truth till after marriage ......problem


Most Guys are so difficult to please ie guys like the poster

Dude, pls stop looking for excuses and settle down with somebody. Most ladies pretend and lie a lot and you're lucky to have met a lady who isn't a liar

God is the giver of children! I'm not saying kudos to the lady but you shouldn't judge her from her past/mistakes. We are all human so why not just forgive her and tell her to ask God for Mercy and move on with your wedding plans

Mprex:
Op prolly that lady is just trying you. What lady in her right mind would tell you that after hearing your story.


Maybe she is just bieng sincere


all thesame, i will advice you to go on with the marriage


all those guys shouting ladies and abortions on this thread, thunder fire you JTs


whether those ladies took in through sachet water

So another mans problem should be the Husbands life burden because her and her ex were careless?

U can walk out of d relationship if and only if u have never! never! slept wit a woman in ur life before.Spoil other girls n marrry a saint isn't always possible.

Bro marry her like that since you both love each other. Besides whats the population of ladies out there who haven't aborted or even done worse. Remember the real bad gals are so good at it they don't get pregnant!

Like others have rightly said, running a fertility test is the best shot u can give. If the test shows she can conceive, Wat else are u waiting for? Just make sure u join her in prayer for forgiveness and u r gud to go. All the best

cocokiller1:
yh
so d op should jst take his bride 4 checkup nd den go ahead with d marriage
him no go tell me say him never bleep b4

if I was the op, i won't marry her....
She's a murder...
Why didn't she keep the baby. Wat dis the bay do wrong... the baby was innocent

mandate2004:
U can walk out of d relationship if and only if u have never! never! slept wit a woman in ur life before.Spoil other girls n marrry a saint isn't always possible.

Girls are not smiling

85% of women today have committed abortion. we have no choice than to live with it.



when women commit crime and indulge in q
all kind of vices ,it is deem acceptable. speaking against it show dat u are immature but when men commit crime it is unacceptable.

You can quit the affair since that seems to be your pastime after your girls confess their abortion stories to you or you forgive them with love. 99% of those girls you see on the streets have performed an abortion or use abortion pills in their lifetime. Too bad we find it extremely difficult to forgive one another.

The issue is almost all girls have done abortion.

Bonapart:
if I was the op, i won't marry her....
She's a murder...
Why didn't she keep the baby. Wat dis the bay do wrong... the baby was innocent

Murderer or not in as much her womb isn't spoilt, let him go ahead. God appreciate a repented sinner. Let him who live without sin be d ist to cast the stone.

#Team virgin finders