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Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by CSTR2: 9:14pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
Nursy:Are the girls "babies" , that they can't take responsibility for their actions? 99"% of the time, the unprotected sex was consensual. Any mumu girl that gives me this excuse in real life will get a full embarrassment. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by VickyRotex(f): 9:16pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
Do I continue with the marriage? : YES Do I accept that it is my destiny to settle down with a lady that has done abortion in the past ? : Do I insist she get pregnant for me before our wedding ? : NO Do I just go ahead and marry her with a positive : YES mindset ? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by zionBB(f): 9:16pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
If guys dat get these girls pregnant marries dem der will nt be all these abortion tale well marry the girl bc is not easy 4 a girl to reveal such a sad experience and abortion cannot hinder her from being pregnant jst pray and make sure ur heart accept her b4 any futher arrangement datz my advice |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by ekiloui(f): 9:18pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
I don't get all this talk about trying u and testing you. It's easy...simply take her for a fertility test. It can be done in any hospital, not expensive and all couples are even advised to do it before marriage. If she can have children proceed with the marriage and if she can't I'll advise you to go for someone who can since you obviously want children. I can't ask you to stay with her if she can't have kids cos it'll lead to frustration and unhappiness. But then, you alone know how strong your feelings are. Best bet OP is that she might still be fertile, abortion only renders women barren if it's not properly done or when complications occur..that's why u hear of some having 9 abortions etc. Do the test and follow your heart |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by carterkelly1(m): 9:19pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
agarawu23:noted sir |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by CaptPlanet(m): 9:19pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
This right here is what pisses me off with people. You get me to come clean with my sh*t because "if I love you" I should do it, only for you to keep your sh*t to yourself till we start talking marriage! What are you trying to do, bait me into that stage so I can't back out? Well, she's you're fiance, you either stick with it or be done with it. Dammed feelings, they get in the way of everything! |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Trustworthiness: 9:19pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
ammyluv2002: I don't think you are getting the message from the op. The guy wants marriage that will produce children not marriage without children. Moreover, you can't asked a man to just carry on his head the damage done by someone else. The only reason the op could be getting such girls without womb or damaged womb is If he as well has done some damage on some other girls and God want to pay him back in his own coin. From what is happening these days, it is high time for girls to know that it is better preserve their virginity untilthey got married and not during courtship. As not all courtship leads to marriage. So, girls don't get yourself lured to sex before marriage because a guy promise to marry you or being desperate. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by 9jatatafo(m): 9:19pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
Simple, take her to a doctor and let the doctor check her womb status and fertility status or you do it your way by planting your seed in her, make sure the seed is a month old and proceed with the wedding. I hail the girl too for opening up. Some girls are dangerous. I have a friend who got married to his girl not knowing that the girl have been married before and she ran away from her first husband. Never told the guy until the bubble burst. Remember that a woman is like a horse any guy can ride on her |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by luckman20(m): 9:20pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
Man no fit water fruit wey God plant |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by gbenga4my(m): 9:20pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
JustBB:I understand your argument dear nd I understand Wat dis guy is saying. Remember we all Av limit to Wat we can handle. It takes a mature mind to handle such without using it against the lady in future. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by ryd3(m): 9:21pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
Hedybee:How much does it cost to influence the test result with a bribe? After all if they can bribe for election... 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by anathemiamia(f): 9:21pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
agarawu23: I'm beginning to think its the guy. How can only he, past and current girlfriend. That statistic is like God's will for him. lol. She might be pranking him sha |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by ifex370(m): 9:22pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by cocokiller1(f): 9:24pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
Bonapart:lol what if it was her den boify dat mounted pressure on her to abort I knw of sum1 her boify threatened to kill if she doesn't abort he evn beats her wenever he meets her she delivered d baby tho nd guy doesn't give a hoot abt d baby mayb later he will but u can't totally call d girl a murderer d boy is worse dan a murderer that's d kind of pressure some girls face coupled with societal pressure b4 nw nobi nw wey baby mamaism dy trend I am not in support of it tho but I can only sympathise wen it's only d girls dat get tagged with names whereas most times d boys contribute evn more so the abortion can take place what do u call sum1 dat traps children in rubber bags? they don't evn get to see d brk of light. moral of the story.....fleee 4rm fornication |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by bejeria101(m): 9:26pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
Trust a woman to mess things up,so you kept this frm him during courtship abi,if he throws you out or doesnt go ahead with d wedding he would be a bad guy abi? Your ancestors bit the wrong side of the apple. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nursy(f): 9:27pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
Hehehe.... That's their business. Sincerely speaking I don't and won't support abortion but I hate it when guys come here to pour all the insults on ladies. Sometimes these ladies who are blinded by love are cajoled into having unprotected sex and then the guy tells u 'I'm not ready to be a father'. Its annoying mehn. CSTR2: |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Ushiefrank(m): 9:28pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
Why will u swear for people if u no spread ur mat would they sleep and ejaculate to form Foetus? Mprex: |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by KAYD007(m): 9:28pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
MRBrownJ:Good to have you back MR BROWNJ! |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 9:29pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
ammyluv2002:What is this one saying? |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Gbengard(m): 9:29pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
Mprex: Lol take am easy na, no vex... dem no fit 4low u na joke again? pretty bae like u |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by bigl: 9:30pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
nwachivis: Guy, deception too much. If she confessed of her own volition, and not that u caught her by yourself, you may forgive and ensure you go for comprehensive pregnancy test. I don't mean just scan o! Do hsg, laparoscopy etc and ensure she doesn't have pid which most times lead to blocked tubes. May God help us guys |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 9:30pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
nwachivis:I feel ur pain. I just wonder why she waited all this while b4 revealing such to U? afterall person wey go marry her go stiill go ahead no matter d circumstance. but i hate make someone wey i dey in relationship wth hide things frm me sha oo. such person fit kill person b dat o. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by RiffRaff: 9:30pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
Before her, u had your standard for the kind of girl you want to be with. Why is everyone sayin "She told him, hence he should pity her and marry her like that?" I dont understand that part. If an abortion is a deal breaker for u, dont marry anybody out of pity oh. Will the girl marry you if you told her u had HIV or Low sperm count? Dont let anybody guilt trip you into marryin a 'Damaged Good'. Its deceptive that she waited till after your introduction to tell you this. just make sure u make up your mind before walking down the aisle with that girl. For those saying is it not a man that impregnated her? Ehen make she go marry the man who give am belle now. Why should the OP pay for another guys mistake? In a world where condom is cheap, she took the hard way of abortion. The OP has a standard he has set for the kind of girl he wants to spend the rest of his life with so he has the right to continue or not if he chooses. Dont let the fear of what will people say scare u... Make your decision by yourself and stick to it. I wish you goodluckman. On the flip side.. If fertility is your problem, here are what you can do: 1. Go to the hospital & run a fertility test. 2. Try getting her pregnant before the wedding and see for yourself. On the flip side.. A. What if she is just joking and trying to test you? Some people have a sense of humour like that.. Marrying a Nigerian Woman is like a wrapped box.. U never truely know what you are marrying into till you get home and open the box. Guys, beware of Naija girls. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by mexyk(m): 9:36pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
ifex370:U mean the girls get pregnant out of the blues? What of the men responsible for it? Men are always quick to give blame to women because they think they are superior. Real men are not sexists. They take responsibility |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 9:37pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
My advice for you is to go and do a fertility test,if the test result shows that her womb has been damaged thereby she cannot conceive a child.. Leave her and look for someone else... You can't marry her out of pity and regret it later in life....don't think of her happiness alone,think about how you will retain your name,sustain your lineage.. You did not ask her to go and be fvking without condom or using drugs... Fvking hoe.... Hoes everywhere My advice for you is to go and do a fertility test,if the test result shows that her womb has been damaged thereby she cannot conceive a child.. Leave her and look for someone else... You can't marry her out of pity and regret it later in life....don't think of her happiness alone,think about how you will retain your name,sustain your lineage.. You did not ask her to go and be fvking without condom or using drugs... Fvking hoe.... Hoes everywhere |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by hansbad: 9:38pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
Op hw many girls av u pregenet ? B4 u judge another person judge ur self first. For her to knw abt ur past wit ur ex and still come up wit it bros she won knw ur mind set. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by kinibigdeal(m): 9:38pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
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Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by mymissingrib(m): 9:38pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
u beta live with it one of every ten ladies is guilty of abortion.Fear Woman |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by pretty050(f): 9:40pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
Op what if she didn't mention it to you? It's God that gives children, some women marry as virgin and still ttc for some time. Follow your heart. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by CSTR2: 9:42pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
Any lady that is stupid enough to get pregnant pre-maritally in this day and age must have some seriously low IQ. I wouldn't want such moronns to pass their genetic material for "retardity" to my children. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by bigass123(m): 9:44pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
ammyluv2002: Madam ammy, with all due respect.. are you asking this guy to enter "one chance" in the name of forgiveness? Later in life if they have issues with reproduction (God forbid) and the guys shares this experience, abeg who will be blamed? People won't even mind the woman anymore, they will blame the man for he has been forewarned. This man shouldn't be forced to pay for another man's sins. You were talking about fertility tests...that is not even a guarantee that she will conceive oh. In this part of the world, a lot of things happen to promiscuous men/women that science can't explain. Those who understand the system know what I'm talking about. The only option as it is if the guy truly loves her is to ensure she gets pregnant and then speed up the wedding process. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by PreciousGem(f): 9:45pm On Apr 22, 2015 |
God is d giver of children don't enter your home with doubt. God is a merciful God there are many women who have done series of abortion yet they give birth when they want to easily and they are those who have not done single abortion or even have sex with a man before marriage yet it would take them years to have their own children with series of prayers and fasting. bros just be grateful to God that's all I can say to u |
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