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Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by MrsChima(f): 4:20am On Apr 23, 2015 |
MRBrownJ: What she has done in the past is her business....she is not his wife yet and she doesn't owe him shit. Making a choice not to tell someone you had an abortion is not deceit. IAgain...if he ends up marrying someone else who never had an abortion and she NEVER conceived then WHAT? Divorce? Infifelity? That's bullshit. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by tanidabi: 4:52am On Apr 23, 2015 |
nwachivis: Sincerely I blame the two of them for opening up to u,have u ever impregnated a girl before cos while am not justifying their abortions,don't forget that a woman can't impregnate herself,someone got her pregnant.The decision is urs but u guys shld cut some slack abeg,i have met virgins who still never get belle five years down the line, sometimes also infertility may be an issue with the man's sperm,sincerely I feel u shld let go cos it's obvious u will run away at the appearance of any challenge,people have aborted three times and have four children,people have married as virgins and still praying for children.I think a lot of men do not deserve to know the truth sincerely cos they just can't handle it.Don't think u are doing her a favour by marrying her,marriage is good but women are becoming to realise that if it does not work life will continue,the choice is yours,i think evry man shld know that once they are marrying a non virgin they shld prepare their minds, na man dey give woman belle what if the person that impregnated her insisted on d abortion and she just was confused,she did not know what to do.Make up ur mind oga,if u break up with her at least she now knows she won't tell the next guy say she did abortion.Let him who has not sinned throw the first stone people |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by tanidabi: 4:59am On Apr 23, 2015 |
YUNGLURD:Guys too shld stop putting women in d family way when they are not ready for d responsibilty,this is a matter thet ahld be collectively solved by both sex,women shld focus on maling der life better and men shld please Zip up abeg,and that includes serious relationships cos if u get belle nd d man no wan marry u no matter d love he has been professing u go turn single moda overnite |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by deltateam: 5:17am On Apr 23, 2015 |
ammyluv2002: What's this one saying? |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by MRBrownJ: 5:40am On Apr 23, 2015 |
MrsChima: Mrs chima, i dont know what is your idea of a r/ship but in the "real" world, it's all about CHOICES. everyone has the right to decide what they desire/require for their lives. see how you want to FORCE this man to settle with this (possibly) damaged cargo. this lady has to live with the consequences of her action, and part of that is accepting that some men do NOT want to settle with women who has had abortion in the past. deceit is hiding the TRUTH from someone, and waiting until later to divulge her past. if he decides to marry someone else and she cant conceive then thats his problem because that would be a decision HE took, and not one he was forced into by a deceitful partner. why are you hell bent on making abortion something that EVERYONE should be ok with?! divorce has always been a good choice in such matter. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 5:40am On Apr 23, 2015 |
ammyluv2002:Thunder na em go faya that bi*ch wey go wan deceive me. Its best you tell me the truth & let me forgive n forget than you deceive me..... I will not forgive you 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Zikkie(f): 6:03am On Apr 23, 2015 |
In my opinion, I would advise that u go ahead with the wedding. Would u rather prefer a woman who would lie to u about her past just so that u hear what suits you? Do u know how many women married even as virgins and are still unable to conceive? .. If u love her as you claim, go ahead and do the needful, free your mind of the fear of childlessness lest it takes effect in your life. Keep an open mind, pray and work towards being an ideal father and husband, and watch God bless your home |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by MrsChima(f): 6:13am On Apr 23, 2015 |
MRBrownJ: I don't know what world YOU live in but he was NOT forced to proposed to her...he CHOSE to propose to her. There is no LAW in Nigeria that said men are forced to props and/or marriage. Period. It is a risk you take just like everything else. It is a risk you take to have unsafe sex it is a risk you take when you meet someone online it is a risk you take letting a doctor perform surgery on you unconscious. the list goes on and on...there's no such thing as selective choice...you are "forced: to choose in some areas and you made a choice in some areas. Thats the most psychotic shit I have ever heard! if I meet someone and he chose not to disclose how many sex partners he had in the past is not a deceitful thing in my book and it's his business. Anything life and death is out of respect should be disclosed but not personal information that has nothing to do with you. If there is a medical condition or illness that has been CONFIRMED of infertility then she should disclose it to him. Abortion is not a CONFIRMED infertility illness and no doctor in the world is perfect....even a highly skilled doctor can Bleep up a womb. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Qualer: 6:20am On Apr 23, 2015 |
ammyluv2002: You!!! |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by MrsChima(f): 6:27am On Apr 23, 2015 |
I also want to add that too many men blame women for their choices and women does it as well. However, too many men will not take accountability for their actions or choices. "She made me do it" seems to be a catchy phrase for many. If you don't leap before you jump and don't seek spiritual support in making your choices these blunders do come up! No one will share all of their past to anyone and you shouldn't make a big deal about something that has nothing to do with you but you are not by forced to be with anyone you don't want to be with. Whatever choices you make is yours to make and own up to! |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Deehvahrzz(f): 6:33am On Apr 23, 2015 |
agarawu23: Dat was a mean this to say. She aborted before doesn't make her apereajase. She aborted for a man remember. And how is d lady even sure d man has not used all his baby able efficient spermatozoa to do free gift. I think ladies should take their men to the hospital for a proper check up before committing their lives to them. Men r d ones with d highest apereajase proportion. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by beblessed(f): 6:38am On Apr 23, 2015 |
kendrick9:...imagine your line of reasoning. am sure you are in your teens. runs girl indeed. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Deehvahrzz(f): 6:43am On Apr 23, 2015 |
MRBrownJ:Mr BrownJ. Whatever you have done in the past before meeting someone you want to marry is your business. Because you r marrying someone, they don't own your past. They r involved in the future you are building together. How many men come out to say 5 girls aborted for me before? If I tell u about my past, it's not because you have a right to know. It's not an obligation. Have you heard of women who were virgins and couldn't give birth? So if a man has a low sperm count the wife should divorce Him? I don't think it's fair to call people names based on delicious they made when you didn't exist in their life. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 6:48am On Apr 23, 2015 |
tsmith: ![]() |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by ammyluv2002(f): 6:52am On Apr 23, 2015 |
Viciyus:Well, you can insult me from now till next generation i don't care as in it doesn't remove a single hair from my body especially coming from you and you know why? You're just a child and i don't take kids seriously so you can go to CNN too na u sabi. So go on child okay. Hahahaha ![]() |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by ammyluv2002(f): 6:55am On Apr 23, 2015 |
Qualer:Yeah? |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nyceguy92: 7:04am On Apr 23, 2015 |
nwachivis: Really, it is no big deal that a lady has had an abortion. Most do, at least once, and you won't know unless you are told. Your fiancée opened up to you because she loves you and does not want to allow the incident to burden her mind as your wife. If she is in general good health and has her menses regularly, you have nothing to fear, trust me. The effect of abortion, especially on fertility, is a bit exaggerated mainly because the imagination is always of some guy in a ghetto environment with crude, blunt instruments. There is no need to get her pregnant as a test of fertility. It is uncivilised. I happen to know many women, now with kids, whom circumstance pushed to terminate their pregnancies once or more. If you love her, please go ahead and marry her. You may regard this as a semi pro opinion. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by onyiiella(f): 7:05am On Apr 23, 2015 |
my dear having children in ur marriage is not about how decent your wife was or how rough, I have seen a man that got married to a virgin and till now they have no child of their own. I have a cousin that did abortion upto15 times, infact the last one was the worst of them all because she bleeded for close to a month, she got married last year and gave birth to her first baby this 2015 January. continue with ur marriage and forget the abortion stories you have heard. the choice is yours. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Clemzy16(m): 7:12am On Apr 23, 2015 |
Emmyk:wish I was in ilorin so I could tune in to the programme.. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by kraftykc(m): 7:24am On Apr 23, 2015 |
Hedybee: THIS! Run a fertility test on her boss. While you are at it get one for yourself, give yourself peace of mind. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by kraftykc(m): 7:27am On Apr 23, 2015 |
onyiiella: Naaaaah nigah, it don't work that way. I can honestly say the stupidest thing a girl can tell me is that she had an abortion, I mean I am pretty liberal and flexible in my thinking but I will not stomach that one. If OP doesn't like abortion babes, then he should dump this girl too. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Emmyk(m): 7:28am On Apr 23, 2015 |
Clemzy16:Eyah. Anyways, I will collect the drama after it has been produced, just that it won't come with people's comment. You get? |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by emperorlero(m): 7:33am On Apr 23, 2015 |
ammyluv2002:God bless you |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 7:44am On Apr 23, 2015 |
ammyluv2002: Hahahahahha ![]() ![]() Fish brain. So you know say I be child abi? to show you say sense no dey head. Keep it up. Yeaaaaaaah I am a child of God ![]() ![]() |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Daresh(f): 7:52am On Apr 23, 2015 |
nwachivis: OP do you really love your wife? I'm talking real deep intense love that the you just want to be with her and none other? Or is it a case of let me just marry for marrying sake and have kids o jare? The truth is, if you really love her, all these things wouldn't even matter. Love does not pick and choose, it loves no matter what. If you don't love her despite it all, I advice you to end it. Having children or not would not make you happy. Infact children cause tension as they drain family resources. If you don't love her, let her go. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Daresh(f): 7:56am On Apr 23, 2015 |
agarawu23: FYI , women have been aborting since time immemorial. My husband grandmother tried to abort his father over 65 years ago. Remeber they are aborting pregnancies put there by men, so don't go judging women. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by pickabeau1: 8:01am On Apr 23, 2015 |
Daresh: do u have kids,,, |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by peterjero(m): 8:01am On Apr 23, 2015 |
ammyluv2002:I wonder who dey give the girls belle sef, abi no be guys again. Men are actually the worse problem, they impregnate the girls they deny or say no money for wedding the girl go abort am because if they end up keeping it the same guy won't marry them and another man won't marry her saying she's a tokunbo. Men are just children abeg. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by lilykach02(f): 8:06am On Apr 23, 2015 |
[color=#006600][/color] Hedybee:Even with the so called fertility test self, its not an assurance. That na why nowadays, u see a lot of married couples looking for children 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by imitor4us(m): 8:09am On Apr 23, 2015 |
ammyluv2002: nice talk!! |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by alterswerve(m): 8:17am On Apr 23, 2015 |
ammyluv2002: *Yimu.. How many taims hav yhu aborted? Oya, lie |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by mbulela: 8:21am On Apr 23, 2015 |
frodobee:Your worry is legitimate but slighty ignorant. You only need to go to sti clinics in the general hospital around you and see the crowd.unprotected sex is still rife and thriving. Abortions and baby mamas are just natural results. |
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