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Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Julinze: 11:55am On Apr 23, 2015 |
Op,some girl can be pregnant for u nd abort it without letting u knw to avoid u not marrying dem,u r lucky she tld u abt her past,dats d reason y u hv to marry her cos she loves u so much. Dnt brag u 've not impregnaneted any gal before cos it's not a gud sign,both of u needs fertility test 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by pak: 12:00pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
ammyluv2002: Based on some people's ethical, moral and religious convictions - abortions are seen as murder. Yes, we have all sinned but not all has committed murder ! |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Francmakua(f): 12:00pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
ammyluv2002:Tell them. I wonder who impregnat these ladies. You will do what ever you want to do, disvirgin many girl, cause many to commit abortion, then, at last you want to settle down with a saint. SORRY |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by pak: 12:01pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
frodobee: You're so on point, it might soon even become 'how many abortions has she had before' |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Joe4real1988(m): 12:11pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
YUNGLURD:u jst displayed ur foolishnes.... If u insist no sex without condom, will d guy kill u.... Abortion adict like u |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nursy(f): 12:18pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
because I type from fone I didn't have the patience to explain this. Thanks Diamonddamsel: |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Mikwus(f): 12:56pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
nwachivis: Yes! we all desire to have children, but is this the only reason or the major reason for marriage Well, oga OP, you can see a doctor or several doctors. There is no need to start experimenting. Go to a renowned gynecologist and both of you should have fertility tests carried out on you. The doctor can tell you if her uterus is damaged and the extent of damage, i.e if any oo. Not all abortions cause damage to the uterus You could go ahead and marry a virgin and she will not bear you children, so who are you to judge or question these issues. For you to love in the first place means you are ready to be with her and forget her past. Have you found out the circumstances surrounding the situation at that time? It is men like you that would frown at her had it been she had that child. You've sworn you've never gotten a lady pregnant.............Are you so sure? Some ladies won't tell you but they will go ahead and have an abortion. Even if you have never gotten anyone pregnant, how sure are you that you can father a child? Why make it seem as if ladies are the only ones that can be called infertile? Moreover, this could just be a test. At your leisure please listen to or read Omolara Kudayisi's story (shatteredglassng.com) Tread carefully on this matter Peace |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Uxtin: 1:33pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
she should ve open up before now. what a messed up! |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Kisses4rmDxtanx: 1:36pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
I wld hv suggested fertility test b4 marriage bt wht if d baby's spirit she aborted is very high nd is ready 2 hunt her of producing more babies? because not all children die silent, i mean u guyz shd also seek 4 God's help. Having sex wt her b4 marriage, getting her preg 2 God we all knw is not proper as well bt if u claim u luv her u'll definitely let LOVE LEAD. See yaah |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by frodobee: 2:01pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
pak: Seriously, one is getting to the point of resignation. It is that bad. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 2:19pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
nwachivis: The cases you mentioned is quite sorrowful. No matter what happens, know for a fact that with God all things are possible. They can still give birth, i believe that some who find themselves in this case have been able to have an issue. Those two women were honest to have told u this. No doubt if they have repented of their sins, and have made changes in there lives, God will forgive them. But they may suffer the consequences of their past mistakes, which may or may not be childlessness. The decision to either marry any of them is YOURS to make. IF your decision is to marry her, have it in mind that you MAY not have issue. That realistic mindset will help even if she finally has an issue. If on the other hand u can't bear childlessness, can u be confortable to adopt? if not, it might be better not to enter into that marriage, for u may regret it. And marrying out of pity is dangerous. if you think that leaving her is the best (ie u can't endure staying without a kid), do not judge her cos of her past. This I will advise though: Marriage is not all about kids. if u hinge ur happiness on kids, u may be disappointed cos even a virgin does not simply mean she can have an issue. She may not. Happiness results from doing God's will, not on having issues. am not sayingan issue does not bring joy, it does. but God's will breeds lasting and true joy. luk 11:28 Manoah was a happy man even before an issue that took yrs to come. read judges 13 |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by twinee(f): 2:21pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
agarawu23:. There are lots of ladies that got married has virgins but are still barren till date, meanwhile the said runs girl that later settled down for marriage are blessed with Batalions of children. So whoever is blessed is blessed.... 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by MRBrownJ: 2:35pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
@ MrsChima @ Deehvahrzz, i am the one who should ask you which world you live in that you think that we shouldnt look at someone's past to evaluate them? bwaaaaaah. what anyone has done in their past is part of who they are today, you MUST use that to evaluate them and build a r/ship on solid grounds. you cant possibly build a great future with someone, while hiding from him something you did that he is against. let me ask you this: - if i suddenly tell you a few days before marriage that i was a child molester, a rapiist or that i've killed my 2 ex wives out of drunken rage. would you really NOT sit down and re-evaluate your stand in this r/ship? - if i suddenly tell you a few days before marriage that i have kidnapped a few children and ate their organs, done money rituals to become who i am today, and that baba ijebu has still not been settled. would you really NOT sit down and re-evaluate your stand in this r/ship? - if i suddenly tell you a few days before marriage that in the past i was a male prostitute selling my aaass to underground gay ogas at the top in lagos, without using condoms. would you really NOT sit down and re-evaluate your stand in this r/ship? what i am trying to make you understand is that, what she did is wrong (in his mind), and from the day he discovers what she has done in her past, that man would not be able to look at her the same way.... its now a different person in front of him (a gal that did something he is against). so this is why he has to re-evaluate! r/ships crash everyday so this one aint any better. any woman who thinks that her past is irrelevant to her future, is fooling herself royally. your past will always be connect to your present and you future, and sometimes there are consequences if a lady dreams of having a child, and discover just before marriage that her future hubby has low sperm count, then she must re-evaluate and decide if she wants to continue or not in the r/ship.... she has all the rights to do so. so now, some virgins are barren OR some runz gal who had a few abortions got married and had 5 kids, so men shouldnt have an opinion on the past of the woman they are about to marry?!?!?!?!?! 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 3:10pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
blym:From ur reply to me, its glaring that you don't see pass ur nose. is it all potent men that can get a woman pregnant? so many man today become impotent as a reason of any form of accident, so thier wives should divorce them abi? Dat any married couple has kids centers on the grace of God, nat by the sharpness of your sperm or by ur wife being a virgin. i am not in support of abortion and i av never done it all my life, The bible says thou shall not judge, but not only are u judging, u are also passing judgement, are u GOD? a man marries his virgin wife and she gets pregnant in the first month of the marriage , after three months and a misscarriage happens, due to complications from the miscarriage , her womb was injured during evacuation dat she has to undergo surgery for the womb to be removed, which medically means she is barren. so wat should d husband do divorce her ponder over that. cheers. just knw dat u are alive today is by his grace. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by pak: 3:36pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
MRBrownJ: Don't mind all these people who talk without thinking. Past is past so I should marry someone I just discovered to be a serial killer ? 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 4:16pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
mizlynda:. . Aint judging anibody. . Opps, dnt get me wrong, didnt tell u am condemning gals, or ladies ova dis issue, i only made mai comment base on reality nt 'hope'. . Attyms u've 2 face reality yoruba will say 'olorun kokin sey oba ika' he creatd all in hz image wit err'tyn in its rytful place, abortion shudnt b done on any circumstance, u're definitely a murderer if u do. . Stop being d' s.u'ish typ and face reality. . Lemme digress a lil, wen an illiterate hopes 2 bcum a lecturer base on hope, or marry an hiv patient coz God cures.. . Smh |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by saintaustine(m): 4:27pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
Talking About Abortions, Why Are the Ladies At The Receiving End. Why Don't We Also Blame The Guys, Because If Their Semen Don't Get There, Definitely There Would Be No Need For Abortion. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 4:39pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
blym:Abeg no let ur head fall oh, its obvious u only read d op's story but you dont understand it, so no matter what i write, u will still not understand my point, but then everyone is entitled to an opinion, so that's your and this is mine and FYI i am not the s.u'ish type.. Enjoy the rest of ur day. Odabo. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 4:48pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
mizlynda:dnt let ur head fall! Is dat really needed? Huh? Kindly expatiate wat i cudnt fathom! Knw ur type buh cwiously u dnt nid d insults it's childish. . Just prove ur points sensibly nt provoke oda's. . Peace. . |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Youngpo413: 4:56pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
Mprex:yea blame ladies assuming you ladies sticks to no sex before marriage,all this abortions wouldnt had happened and men will marry earlier. Instead they are busy jumping from one bed to another sampling different dickssSs. Guys nowadays are even helping their ministry by fuckkking and dumping them anyhow. Cheap things. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Youngpo413: 5:05pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
preetyb:ladies should learn to say and stick to it,or are they forced? Hornyyyy things! 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by MRBrownJ: 5:39pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
pak: well said! sadly, thats because many people out there are not willing to accept the consequences of their actions.... and think they can erase all the shiit they have done in the past (like it never happened). nonsense! saintaustine: sir, you did not follow the discussion well... abortion is not a crime and everybody has the right to decide if they want to have one or not, the dilemma is to accept that maybe some people will not want to associate with a lady (or man) because they had one. if a lady finds out that her man is impotent she has to decide what she wants to do, and, not going through with the marriage should be one of the decision she could take. its all down to each and everyone of us to decide what we can and cant accept. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 5:42pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
blym:And where did i insult you u wrote SMH and i begged you not to allow the head fall and u took it personal, Mr u cant know my type bcus you dont even me. u av ur opinion and i have mine , the oda post u called me a churchee and i swallowed it, naw i ask u nat to allow ur head fall and u started crying, and FYI, u were the first to quote my write up without me even mentioning ur name in my write up. abi shey oti gbagbe ni |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Youngpo413: 5:49pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
onyiiella:the reason why I must marry a virgin,I can't imagine having the likes of your cousin as a wife....I'll rather remain single for life,tufiakwa.... I pity her husband sha,cos I know he is not aware,no same man will marry such. She should also pray her past is hidden forever. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Owliver(m): 5:50pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
@Nwachivis you mean she waited till you did introduction before saying this? That lady can kill a man. Oh I forgot she already killed(aborted). She is evil. *spits on thread* |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Youngpo413: 6:18pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
ammyluv2002:another reason I MUST marry a virgin,atleast I,ll be assured that her pucy and womb are still fresh....no time for over used pusy and semi damaged womb due to countless abortions. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by ammyluv2002(f): 6:22pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
Youngpo413:Are you a virgin? 1 Like |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Daresh(f): 7:11pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
pickabeau1: Yes I do. School fees na die |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by pickabeau1: 7:28pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
Daresh: lol.... i can imagine however they make life worhtwhile |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by Nobody: 8:16pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
mizlynda:its nt a crime to quote u or is it? Coz no insult ws meant. . 'crying' u meant dat really? Such puerille acts r worthless doesnt speakwell of u. . U 4gt ur comments? Miss/Mrs, just chillax, u're nt gonna lyk me been on ur case. . I dnt knw u, may i? C'mon we ain't hia to pickup a fyt. . |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by MrsChima(f): 8:29pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
MRBrownJ: You wrote all of that and STILL haven't said anything that convince me that someone can FORCE you to choose to deal with someone because they didn't disclose what they have done on the past BEFORE THEY MET YOU. Not one person on this thread including you can tell me you have disclosed EVERYTHING in your past to the person you are in a relationship with..I know for a fact NO ONE HAS. In that case we all have been deceitful because NONE OF US disclosed everything we have done in the past! The world I live in is not fiction and a bunch of unrealistic bullshit. |
Re: Please Help Me..... She Openned Up To Me After Our Family Introduction. by MrsChima(f): 8:37pm On Apr 23, 2015 |
pak: You don't have to marry someone that you don't want to marry but know this just like you won't marry a serial killer neither does a person want to marry a dumb ass. You have flaws and issues as well. I bet you won't disclose everything you have done unpleasantly. Keep it real. |
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