MRBrownJ:
i can only apologise if i have done something wrong and understand my mistake.
there is no point in someone apologising if they dont mean it, or just to make someone feel better about themselves.
saying sorry and not meaning it is pointless.

divAnnie:
I agree, what about if your spouse is not in the habit of apologising?

rokiatu:
then you teach them that that is not how things work.
You gotta lower their ego. Don't take that bullshIiiiiiiiiiiit. ..t. even if it means silent treatment play with them till they come to their senses.

dulux07:
Apologizing, when ur not at fault does not make u look weak, infact it a display of courage n maturity.

Imagine u fighting/quarelling with someone who happens to b cause, n few mins later u walk up to the person to say sorry, u jst did one of the most diff things, cos many pple will prefer holding grugdes cos it easier to do.
Always apologize even tho ur not at fault, but dont let ur partner take advantage of that

rokiatu:
If you want to make things right again....you can still do that without apologizing. You don't have to butt lick your partner.
I only apologize when am wrong.

BluePearls:
When im wrong i apologize, thats a mature thing to do. Its stupidity when you take the blame for someone Else's crime/fault, i don't see the maturity in that. When you keep apologizing to your spouse for something he/she did you're not helping your relationship at all, rather you sending it to its early grave. Question is, how long will you keep ignoring the elephant in the room.

izaray:
Seconded, cos some guys reason wit their anus instead of making use of d brain.

divAnnie:
ok, so you believe apologising when you are wrong or not is ideal? LSo when do you know when to draw the line?

ronald4lif:
No one should apologise when they were wronged. Apologies should only be when you offended the person. The saying that he who apologises first even if they were wronged is crap. Anyone who does so will keep repeating the cycle.

One mustn't apologise to make up issues. There are other actions or steps one can take for reconciliation.

izaray:
Seconded, cos some guys reason wit their anus instead of making use of d brain.

dulux07:
How do u make up issues when both of u r not talking to each other

Dygeasy:
From which thread did you land here Sir?

Dygeasy:
Need anybody say more? The right answers have been provided already.

dulux07:

GOOGLE , i was referring to someones comment@ ronald...4lif

ronald4lif:


There are many ways to reconcile an issue without saying I'm sorry. I've had a heated argument with someone which I was at fault and we stayed for 2weeks without saying hi. I just showed up at her place on weekend and knock and that was it. Of course she knew I was remorseful to have even showed up and I didn't have to say sorry.

How about transferring money to her account or making an order of something as little as her favourite meal online to her address, without her consent or knowing.There are many of such moves to take but there's not so much time to narrate them.

divAnnie:
nice one ronald, saying 'I'm sorry' can go a long way though

ronald4lif:


There are many ways to reconcile an issue without saying I'm sorry. I've had a heated argument with someone which I was at fault and we stayed for 2weeks without saying hi. I just showed up at her place on weekend and knock and that was it. Of course she knew I was remorseful to have even showed up and I didn't have to say sorry.

How about transferring money to her account or making an order of something as little as her favourite meal online to her address, without her consent or knowing.There are many of such moves to take but there's not so much time to narrate them.

divAnnie:
I agree, what about if your spouse is not in the habit of apologising?

dulux07:


Nice moves, but based on wat u ve written, u did not say Im sorry with ur tongue, but u actually expressed it, u confronting her first n gettin her favorite. It simply means ur sorry for ur action, i want this to continue.

dulux07:


Nice moves, but based on wat u ve written, u did not say Im sorry with ur tongue, but u actually expressed it, u confronting her first n gettin her favorite. ur still indirectly telling her u r sorry

dulux07:
Apologizing, when ur not at fault does not make u look weak, infact it a display of courage n maturity.

Imagine u fighting/quarelling with someone who happens to b cause, n few mins later u walk up to the person to say sorry, u jst did one of the most diff things, cos many pple will prefer holding grugdes cos it easier to do.
Always apologize even tho ur not at fault, but dont let ur partner take advantage of that

ronald4lif:


You're right to an extend. But you'll agree with me that being remorseful by actions is different from a verbal apology, which usually goes with I'm sorry.