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Dnt worry, An incident wil happen dat wil change ur life forever... Its jus around d corner. It might b a very great embarassin situation dat wil push ur self esteem to its breakin point and u wil hav no oda option but to jus b confident... Dats d only method I knw dat has worked. I wud advice u to get urself in awkward situations as much as u can... Stare at ur brother, stare at him! There's nthng he wil do to hurt u, start from there

Physical appearance is just 10% of who you are
A man is only has confident has what he projects towards others
Your shyness if caused by ONLY your brown spots on your teeth can be corrected by teeth whitening, any good dermatologist can carry out the procedure successfully for you but you have to be warned 90% of the time when people get rid of body defects they felt was the root of their shyness it turns out to be false
My advice to you is this
-Try to see a dermatologist to take care of your brown teeth problem
And Most importantly its time you start projecting a confident guy towards others, look for things you are good at and be the best at them , being the best at things would increase your confidence level
-One important lesson in life is that we all belong to our own league, No league is more important than others just different attributes
Everyone is Special, that is a proven fact. You might not know it but you are special to so many people

One of the main things that leads to extreme shyness and low self-esteem is masturbation. If you are involved in such or watching porn pls keep off it destroys both psycologically and spiritually.

That being said, try to be less self-conscious, focus your attention more on things happening around you than on yourself. Try to free yourself more around your peers but don't let them influence you negatively, compliment people around you on their clothes, achievements and on occasions like their birthdays.

Don't let anyone convince you that joining a cult or getting a girlfriend will make you flow with the flow, trust me if you have a brighter focus in life then these things will compound your problems because you seem to be a very sensitive person.

My advice is, make God your friend, draw closer to him and he will draw closer to you, study his word steadily and ask him for the grace to overcome your fears because if you don't tackle this problem now you might loose many opportunities in life as a result of it and pls don't overlook this, it's not something you can just outgrow.

Empressgifted:
One of the main things that leads to extreme shyness and low self-esteem is masturbation. If you are involved in such or watching porn pls keep off it destroys both psycologically and spiritually.

That being said, try to be less self-conscious, focus your attention more on things happening around you than on yourself. Try to free yourself more around your peers but don't let them influence you negatively, compliment people around you on their clothes, achievements and on occasions like their birthdays.

Don't let anyone convince you that joining a cult or getting a girlfriend will make you flow with the flow, trust me if you have a brighter focus in life then these things will compound your problems because you seem to be a very sensitive person.

My advice is, make God your friend, draw closer to him and he will draw closer to you, study his word steadily and ask him for the grace to overcome your fears because if you don't tackle this problem now you might loose many opportunities in life as a result of it and pls don't overlook this, it's not something you can just outgrow.

'One of the main things that leads to extreme shyness and low self-esteem is masturbation'. I don't believe this.

@ Op, check ur temperament, u're most likely to be phleg or mel, fear is d cause of shyness or low self esteem, shy people are fearful people, I'll advise u to roll with real men, they will instil some sense of boldness into u, u just need to be bold.

But work on ur temperament, so u don't end up as a weak man...

Empressgifted:
One of the main things that leads to extreme shyness and low self-esteem is masturbation. If you are involved in such or watching porn pls keep off it destroys both psycologically and spiritually.

That being said, try to be less self-conscious, focus your attention more on things happening around you than on yourself. Try to free yourself more around your peers but don't let them influence you negatively, compliment people around you on their clothes, achievements and on occasions like their birthdays.

Don't let anyone convince you that joining a cult or getting a girlfriend will make you flow with the flow, trust me if you have a brighter focus in life then these things will compound your problems because you seem to be a very sensitive person.

My advice is, make God your friend, draw closer to him and he will draw closer to you, study his word steadily and ask him for the grace to overcome your fears because if you don't tackle this problem now you might loose many opportunities in life as a result of it and pls don't overlook this, it's not something you can just outgrow.

WHAT!!! You gotta be kidding me with your first paragraph. Oh God in heavens. So your conclusion is that every shy person or person with low self esteem MASTURBATES

You need to be examined and you saying it with all confidence. Oga o.

Please if you have been saying this to people abeg stop am. If only you know the damage you must have caused or made their problems worse.

@ op please read the book WHY YOU ACT THE WAY YOU ACT/DO by TIM LAHAYE. You will be a melancholy or a combination of Melancholy and phlegmatic. That book will expose you to a lot about your personality and to deal with it.

Please note that its no big deal and you will be fine, a lot of people are going tru and have gone tru same so its no new thing under the sun. Good luck.

Learn to dress rightly and if a Christian, please involve yourself more in lead roles during church activities. Don't be scared of anyone's appearance too. I pray God help you to overcome it. God bless Nigeria.

Please check my signature too. Thanks.

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WHAT!!! You gotta be kidding me with your first paragraph. Oh God in heavens. So your conclusion is that every shy person or person with low self esteem MASTURBATES
You need to be examined and you saying it with all confidence. Oga o.



Maybe you should calm down and reread my post(that's if you did before quoting me).

I said 'one of the main things' and not 'the only thing' so I don't in anyway insinuate that all shy people are masturbators so please calm down and try to assimilate my previous post before calling the name of God in vain.

I said 'if' the op is involved in such he should quit. Note 'IF'!

[quote author=Empressgifted post=33301527][/quote]masturbating has nothing to do with esteem and yes, I think he should get a girlfriend. she can help him regain lost confidence

lofty900:
masturbating has nothing to do with esteem and yes, I think he should get a girlfriend. she can help him regain lost confidence

I won't argue with you on this, I just gave my advice to the op and so did you, it's left for him to choose wisely and I pray he gets the help he needs.

Op are you a Christian? If you are, u should consider ushering in church.

Man if u can't look at your bro? Who else can you look at and up to for advice? This option of ushering has helped a lot of people. Think about it man

Op like other posters said see a dentist. Your teeth will be white again.

I think the brown spots have contributed greatly to your low self esteem. Once corrected, try to believe that you are as good as the people around you. Try to dress well and when talking to people don't be conscious ..pretend that you are alone.
All the best.

LadyX:
Op like other posters said see a dentist. Your teeth will be white again.
I think the brown spots have contributed greatly to your low self esteem. Once corrected, try to believe that you are as good as the people around you. Try to dress well and when talking to people don't be conscious ..pretend that you are alone.
All the best.

Well said!

klark3:

'One of the main things that leads to extreme shyness and low self-esteem is masturbation'. I don't believe this.

@ Op, check ur temperament, u're most likely to be phleg or mel, fear is d cause of shyness or low self esteem, shy people are fearful people, I'll advise u to roll with real men, they will instil some sense of boldness into u, u just need to be bold.

But work on ur temperament, so u don't end up as a weak man...

Shy people aren't always fearful.

@poster... Read up Tim Lahaye's book 'why you act the way you do' it should help in correcting that.

Op the problem is not your teeth. Even after whitening your teeth, you will still have insecurity issues. The problem is how you view yourself. Maybe you feel that you are not good enough and you allow that to over power you, that is the reason why you can not make eye contact while talking to your brother, boss and colleagues. As someone above has said, try to put your self in awkward situation. With time you will overcome it. It a continuous process. Least I forget, pray to God to help you.

Are you are middle child?

Op I had this same issue or similar issue called LSE. I was tall, handsome and extremely reserved in school but then I couldn't muster up courage to flow with my mates, I couldn't even talk to girls or answer questions confidently in class. My dentition wasn't and still isn't perfect till date and it affected me a lot and I went to a school filled with a lot of fresh/rich kids so I was constantly comparing myself with them.

But then towards the end of school I started reading books abt building ones self esteem and I started putting it to use. My favorite book was "7 habits of highly effective people" by Steven Covey. I read others too and practiced. I learnt to change my mind set, I even changed my wardrobe.i started dressing better and I started growing confidence from within. I could go on and on but OP it takes time but its quite achievable. There's been a lot of difference in my life since then and I don't even remember how it feels to have LSE.

OP u can join a public speaking group, u should also go out a lot during weekends and hang out with people. Talk to strangers too, say hi to random people and smile. Compliment people and watch them smile, u can always fix ur teeth at clinics. Then read a lot of self help books on "self confidence".. Sorry if my epistle was too long..

I was once like you,very shy person till the day I teacher embarrassed me for inability to answer a cheap question.

since that day no turning back.

how did I do it? I was determined to face my fear,against all odds.

ignore the spot on your teeth, and try to appear neat and smart,if you don't.

nobody can make you feel inferior,except you allowed them. be yourself always.

hey guys, I just wanted to drop 4 simple steps on improving self confidence...https://www.teachalearner.com/self-confidence-improvement/

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Will you keep kwayett! ��

I am a very shy person too but I try as much not to let it affect my job. Get a mirror and practice, imagine you are speaking to thousands of people or you are hosting a meeting. Sometimes record yourself giving speech. Try to engage in conversion with people. Always read and be current with the trends of the day, politics, sports or entertainment. Always find something to talk about with random people, that way it will help you build your confidence

Vibesking, don't let your physical outlook define you. Majority at that age have that esteem of not been good enough.

Portray who you have always wanted to be both in your character and choice of word. Trust me, with time you will overcome it.

Just remember people will try bring down either by their words or actions against you; just see it as another way of being a better version of yourself.

You will be amazed as to how you will overcome such pragmatism

MissSweet:
Vibesking, don't let your physical outlook define you. Majority at that age have that esteem of not been good enough.

Portray who you have always wanted to be both in your character and choice of word. Trust me, with time you will overcome it.

Just remember people will try bring down either by their words or actions against you; just see it as another way of being a better version of yourself.

You will be amazed as to how you will overcome such pragmatism

Thanks

Vibesking:
Hello people,
am currently 19, working and schooling.
I have a big problem and that has to do with self esteem.. Am very shy when around people.
I can't even make eye contact with my brother. whenever my eye crosses his, I quickly move my face to another direction.
Same goes to outsiders, I can't look at my boss or my colleagues without me having some awkward feelings to look somewhere else. When am in a gathering and I'm to speak, I stutter regularly and I try not to make eye contact.
Am ok physically, tall and definitely not ugly, but I do have some brown spots on my incisors, they've been there since I was a child due to the red liquid drugs my mom used to give me back then as a child. I've tried getting rid of it but no much success.
To be honest, am usually very cautious about how I speak to people cus of this spots on my teeth, and I hardly laugh not to get it exposed, Just a lil smile.
Though my mom and brother have told me not to give it much thought.
That aside, my main issue is my self confidence, am not bold as I ought to be as a man. Am just always indecisive and somewhat uneasy....
Pls help.

Even people living with disabilities are bold and proud of themselves

Be a gentle that you are and learn to improve on how to stand your mates

You don't have to be Insultive to achieve that

Be a man and be brave, if you can't handle fellow men because of your low self esteem, you can never handle a woman

As for your mark in your denton, open up yourself and smile, anyone that loves you will accept it that way

Vibesking:
Hello people,
am currently 19, working and schooling.
I have a big problem and that has to do with self esteem.. Am very shy when around people.
I can't even make eye contact with my brother. whenever my eye crosses his, I quickly move my face to another direction.
Same goes to outsiders, I can't look at my boss or my colleagues without me having some awkward feelings to look somewhere else. When am in a gathering and I'm to speak, I stutter regularly and I try not to make eye contact.
Am ok physically, tall and definitely not ugly, but I do have some brown spots on my incisors, they've been there since I was a child due to the red liquid drugs my mom used to give me back then as a child. I've tried getting rid of it but no much success.
To be honest, am usually very cautious about how I speak to people cus of this spots on my teeth, and I hardly laugh not to get it exposed, Just a lil smile.
Though my mom and brother have told me not to give it much thought.
That aside, my main issue is my self confidence, am not bold as I ought to be as a man. Am just always indecisive and somewhat uneasy....
Pls help.

Hi
Reading your post, honestly we both have the same thing in common.Shyness,low self esteem,same age bracket,teeth stain, inability to maintain eye contact and good looking also.
I know it's been long since you posted this so how did you go about it? Help me as I'm in this situation too

Well!
This is how I overcame mine and this is my first time of sharing this with anyone online or offline

Point one - always appear neat and smart, in general make sure your appearance is on point and minimal, good hair cut, neat wears to work and off work.


Point two - when you are having conversations with people, at every 10 -15 seconds make sure you look into their eyes, try this with five different people and with time you will get use to it.

Because, if you do not start now, you may not be able to have smooth conversation with your spouse if need arises.

Just apply for marketing job with a bank. They will cure your shyness sharp sharp