rudebouy:
Wot do u want out of dis?
Ur son, ur girl, or ur life and sanity?

corisande:
Hmmmm let me call some people to help put mouth for your matter
Babyosisi1/babyosisi
Efemenaxy

steeze:


Thank you for this insightful question.

I want my son, but I do not have the means to raise him or get involved in any court case with the family who would be more than willing to fight me for it.

I thought I wanted my girl, but I can never marry into that family anymore. God will not permit. I believe she intentionally conceived to tie me down, and I gullibly fell for it. She wasn't such a good girl as she initially had me believe.

I want my life and my sanity, I was making progress until I saw the pic of him. And he looked just like me.

I feel so helpless.

steeze:

If you put mouth sef e no go bad

rudebouy:


Den call her and tell her u wanna come see ya son. U dont have to have custody of him. He just nids a father's touch. Babies have emotional nids which include dia fada's cuddle.

Or wd dat cos world war 3?

Ab025:
First thing is, reconcile back with your gal,

secondly, find a way to organise and go through with the marriage with her and never mind whatever insults or curses the mum hauls at you.

Finally, get a job and man up, you ain't a kid anymore but a daddy. You need to live with hour gal and baby as a family.

#Note:, After you marry her, her mum has no more control over her again so don't bother yourself with her present insults and initial gragra

Ab025:
First thing is, reconcile back with your gal,

secondly, find a way to organise and go through with the marriage with her and never mind whatever insults or curses the mum hauls at you.

Finally, get a job and man up, you ain't a kid anymore but a daddy. You need to live with hour gal and baby as a family.

#Note:, After you marry her, her mum has no more control over her again so don't bother yourself with her present insults and initial gragra

innervoice:
@Steeze

Be a man, grab your girl and your son and free them of the girl's mother.

steeze:


Knowing the mom, it might. I've honestly never met a human being like her before. She may feel she is trying to protect the daughter but all she is doing is putting in effect a generational cycle because of what she herself has been through in the hands of men. And you know how some women are once they have a little cash. You can't tell them anything. No man should dare.

The matter plenty jare, just trying to keep it short.

kelvine:
Bro I can relate with your story 100 percent. I wish to have a private chat with you if you don't mind PM me.

rudebouy:


If day wont let u SEE, as in touch and hold ur child alone, Baba abeg move on with ur life oh. Abi sperm don finish for ur body?

No time for stress dis days oh, except u enjoy emotional stress and drama sha.

steeze:


Okay.

tearoses:
Op whose 3 bedroom apartment did you move into?
When you left your MIL's employment did you leave to go to a new job?
Are you working now?
What are your parents/family doing about all this?
Were/are they in touch/have a relationship with your gf before and after the baby was born?
Do you also mean that if you hadnt seen the picture of your baby, you would have just walked away just like that?

aflyingbird:
he is your son , u hv a legal right to be in his life , they can't keep u from him . get a Lawyer if u must . get ur own family n friends involved to support u , show dem u hv pple . her mother wanted to put a wedge between u and d daughter n u let her succeed . frustrating u to d point of moving out was wat she wanted . maybe she was jealous of ur relationship with d daughter but u shoulda kept in touch with her ater u left . d daughter, do u still luv her ? u don't hv to be with her if u don't . never get back because of a child unless u want all of u to be miserable including the poor baby . buh if u still love her , try working it out buh u hv to find a way to get her away from her mother's control . twhat u should do now's talk to her into letting her see ur child . buy diapers, clothes, other things the baby needs n give her when u see her, it will show u care. get a job so u can be giving her something to take care of him every month . ur son needs u in his life , do wat u need to do as a man to stay be in his life

Feranchek:
I still dey find that babe wey go geh belle for me.
Bro, as long as you're responsible, even the court won't deny you access to your boy. I smell doom going back to that family. You've seen more than enough even without being part of the family. Her mum's influence won't change biko. And as for your baby momma, try to be friends with her for the sake of your kid.
God bless you.

brunnette4real:
If the lady is still tied to her mothers apron sstring,not matured for marriage then don't marry her yet.since you are still a fresh grad. Why not be settled first before marriage because marriage and raising a family requires money.
I will advise you be involved in your sons life ,don't talk anything marriage with her just make your observations about her character and be careful of her mom,you are a man now,you have to be wise and apply wisdom with the mother.