Hello NLs, this is going to be one long story, mainly because I don't know what to leave out, but I will try to keep it as brief as possible.

I have this friend I have known for four (4) years now, we were both sent on a course abroad with some others, during this period we have been to three different countries and has become close over time. This guy is 35 which makes him 7yrs older than I am, so irrespective of the fact that we are friends I still respect him as my elder, which is why I don't know how to advice him without sounding disrespectful.

Sometime early last year he started having issues with his girlfriend he has been dating for years, they both had plans of getting married once he his done with his course. He found out that she was cheating on him with a neighbour which she admitted to, she pleaded with him saying it was because he has been away for so long and she didn't know what came over her, she asked for forgiveness and promised it wont happen again. My friend is a very gentle guy and really nice, so it wasn't difficult to forgive her and act like it never happened.

We had plans to visit Nigeria mid last year, so he started doing shopping for her. This is a guy that if you open his wardrobe you can count the number of shirts in it, not more than 6, but he has bought clothes that filled a case for her, even to the least undies and I usually tease him about it. 2 months to our visit his girlfriend came up with one of the most ridiculous stories ever, she said she had a dream, and that in one of the countries we went to my friend had a baby there, and that he his planning to marry that woman, she went has far as providing a name. My guy tried calming her down that none of that is true, but she wont have it. They eventually broke up leaving my guy in a bitter state, we had to shift our visit by another 2 months.

In his attempt to get over his ex, my friend started a new relationship with a girl he meet on Facebook. They have been Facebook friends for a while but never had a serious conversation until now, he started chatting her up, looking for a relationship which she agreed. The girl is an actress, she gave him names of some of her movies which we both watched on Irokotv, nothing big, just a small time actress. Less than 2 weeks into their dating, I accompanied him to a moneygram centre where he sent 500 pounds to her, I didn't know she was the one he was going to send the money to till he started filling out the form, I was surprised and had wanted to advice him against it. But I didn't know how, it is his money after all. He said she needed a phone as her old phone is really bad, she ended up buying a Samsung S5 or so, and sent him a picture of it.

Not long after that, she said her mom is sick and in the hospital for an eye surgery, she sent him pictures of her supposed mom in an hospital with bandage over her eyes, I just couldn't help but tell him this girl is taking him for a maga. I told him the girl is an actress and the pictures could be from one of her movie scenes, but my guy wont have it. he went behind my back, I say behind my back because we usually stroll down to the moneygram centre together. He sent her about N150,000.

It was now the month we were to visit Nigeria, he called up the girl and told her of his visit, she said she is in Enugu for a movie but will be in Lagos with him when he's in town. She asked him if he could provide her with a flight ticket to Lagos, she gave him a name and number of someone she says helps buy her tickets, my guy went and sent the money for the flight to the person.

When we finally arrived Lagos, your guess is as good as mine, this girl never showed up. He came with the clothes that was meant for his ex for her also, he called and called without a response. We spent 5 days in Lagos, he eventually rang up a long time female friend, spent the remaining days with her and handed her the gifts, am sure he would have lied that he bought it for her.

Ever since, he has been going from one girl to another, spending money frivolously on them. He seems desperate for a wife, as he plans on marrying as soon as he gets back to Nigeria fully. He just sponsored a girl's mom's birthday, the whole thing is eating me up on the inside. I have tried talking to him, told him he's falling maga for this girls, but he wont have it, he even feels because of his age he knows better.

How do I help him from ruining himself? I have underlined desperation as the major course.

c as I de sweat to read ur story.

Now that the War has Ended.
What shall we do with the Tools?

Forget d magaa jaree wen doz babes don finish shaving his head him eye go come neat.

Refer him to this forum. If after reading some stories here and his mindset or his actions towards these girls still remain the same then the guy needs deliverance.

A man at 35 should ve sense nau. Op leave him alone, by d tym he don run out of cash he eye go clear dat tym

U dnt hav to continue keepin quiet bro. Keep on reprimandin him. Until he receives sense

sinaj:
c as I de sweat to read ur story.

Sorry.

phrancys001:
Forget d magaa jaree wen doz babes don finish shaving his head him eye go come neat.

I wish I could, but I cant, we are too close.

pretydiva:
A man at 35 should ve sense nau. Op leave him alone, by d tym he don run out of cash he eye go clear dat tym

That's my fear, him running out of cash. He sure needs every money but he is spending it carelessly.

Cutehector:
U dnt hav to continue keepin quiet bro. Keep on reprimandin him. Until he receives sense

That's what I have been doing, but sometimes he sounds like am trying to tell him how to live, or like am calling him a fool. I have said it calmly and I have been harsh. We have even had a face off because I told someone else of what's going on.

I want to pass by but just changed my mind. U can tactfully take some money from him to invest for him. Do u go to church? U need to pray more for him @ dis time and keep talking to him in a more loving way

2dice:
Now that the War has Ended.
What shall we do with the Tools?

Was there any Nigerian military president that made that quote ' Now that we have finished the war what shall we do with the tools' ? ?
I have heard it quite a few times but I don't know d history behind the words. I'd love to be enlightenened bro

haryomikun:

Was there any Nigerian military president that made that quote ' Now that we have finished the war what shall we do with the tools' ? ?
I have heard it quite a few times but I don't know d history behind the words. I'd love to be enlightenened bro

i heard it from a song ...dont knw where it was originated from...google might be of help tho

Marry him so that you will be his financial secretary

2dice:

i heard it from a song ...dont knw where it was originated from...google might be of help tho

Khayyy. Thanks bro