Oh my gosh!!! I've been crying all through the night and my Bp is terribly high I can feel it...

I really need your help, I know it's all my fault and I did something terrible.

I acted a lie for for so long and I know no reason is good enough...

I've destroyed the trust and love but I want another chance...Oh my gosh!!!

I've lost so many "supposed relationships" when I tell them I'm not a virgin but I don't want to have sex outside marriage anymore and most guys will tell me that if I'm not a virgin, there's nothing to preserve anymore...

I regret it all, please someone should tell me it's not over...

What can I do to prove to him I'm not a liar and a LovePeddler and my sole reason was because I don't want to have Pre-marital sex anymore.

Please, Help...I confessed and now it's over.

Thorpido
Bukatyne
Cococandy
Efemena_Xy
Babyosisi
Evina

Please, I need words from everybody in family section.

move on.. he doesn't love u..

if my gf tells me a hidden truth

i am so sure i can't be mad at her for more than a day. ..

it seems to me like one of those excuses for breaking up.

girl= honey, i lied. i am not a virgin

boy = haaaa.. how could u?.. even my grandma is still a virgin. u must have been sleeping around since u were 5..


take it easy on ur self.. true love is easy.. i can tell u that.

with love nothing is unforgivable

You lied that were a virgin?

Well I'd be mad too if I was him.
But nne you don't owe anyone any apology for your sex life so you didn't have that need to lie in the first place.if you thought you didn't want sex in the relationship, you coulda just said so and let him decide if he wanted that or not.

Tell him why you lied. That you were afraid he would pressure you for sex if he knew you weren't a Virgin. Apologize and be sincere with your intentions of being straight forward henceforth.

If he insists on being mad, move on and pls don't lie next time.
Just be upfront about what you do or don't want and let the next guy make up his mind by himself.

keppyy:
Oh my gosh!!! I've been crying all through the night and my Bp is terribly high I can feel it...

I really need your help, I know it's all my fault and I did something terrible.

I acted a lie for for so long and I know no reason is good enough...

I've destroyed the trust and love but I want another chance...Oh my gosh!!!

I've lost so many "supposed relationships" when I tell them I'm not a virgin but I don't want to have sex outside marriage anymore and most guys will tell me that if I'm not a virgin, there's nothing to preserve anymore...

I regret it all, please someone should tell me it's not over...

What can I do to prove to him I'm not a liar and a LovePeddler and my sole reason was because I don't want to have Pre-marital sex anymore.

Please, Help...I confessed and now it's over.

Thorpido
Bukatyne
Cococandy
Efemena_Xy
Babyosisi
Evina

Please, I need words from everybody in family section.

cococandy:
You lied that were a virgin?

Well I'd be mad too if I was him.
But nne you don't owe anyone any apology for your sex life so you didn't have that need to lie in the first place.if you thought you didn't want sex in the relationship, you coulda just said so and let him decide if he wanted that or not.

Tell him why you lied. That you were afraid he would pressure you for sex if he knew you weren't a Virgin. Apologize and be sincere with your intentions of being straight forward henceforth.

If he insists on being mad, move on and pls don't lie next time.
Just be upfront about what you do or don't want and let the next guy make up his mind by himself.

I was just so tired of guys walking away, I was tired of being single...I know I messed up...

I've said it all to him already but he still does not believe.


Moca
Wedon

kilokeys:
move on.. he doesn't love u..

if my gf tells me a hidden truth

i am so sure i can't be mad at her for more than a day. ..

it seems to me like one of those excuses for breaking up.

girl= honey, i lied. i am not a virgin

boy = haaaa.. how could u?.. even my grandma is still a virgin. u must have been sleeping around since u were 5..


take it easy on ur self.. true love is easy.. i can tell u that.

with love nothing is unforgivable

He was very open to me and he hates lies..

He told me that from the beginning, He said he could forgive a prostitute but not a liar.

You have a point though but how can I be sure he just wants to break up.

keppyy:



He was very open to me and he hates lies..

He told me that from the beginning, He said he could forgive a prostitute but not a liar.

You have a point though but how can I be sure he just wants to break up.

lie get level o..
not being a virgin is nt new info
it can't be as shocking as not having a womb.

Give him time.

He must be thinking you tried to deceive him to like you for a false virginity.
You know how some guys place stock on such things and then one day you just up and tell him it was all a lie. Crumbling the mansion he's been building in the air.

Hmm, frankly I understand him.

But if he doesn't get back with you, believe me you wil be fine. No one is the be all and all of anyone. It will hurt now but you will get over it and hopefully learn from it.

Let those who want to walk away because you don't want to sleep with them walk. You will be better for it because their walking away only affords you the opportunity to meet more serious people. As long as it is your personal decision made for reasons best known to you. It is your body. You don't owe it to anyone whether to have sex with them or not.

Besides sex or the absence of it is not the deciding factor for whether a relationship will work or not.

Just be confident, look the next guy(if this one doesn't stay) and tell them it is your life to handle the way you wish.
Don't apologize for what you want or lie about it.

keppyy:


I was just so tired of guys walking away, I was tired of being single...I know I messed up...

I've said it all to him already but he still does not believe.


Moca
Wedon

It's obvious sex is the single most important factor in all the relationships you've had thus far and it ought not to be like that.
No one likes being lied to and you have the right to stay celibate.

It appears to me that he probably only wanted you for sex hence the reason he can't bring himself to forgive you

Going forward, you need to make yourself attractive in other ways by refining your character and ensure you stimulate discussions that doesn't have sexual undertone

Good luck

This whole virginity issue has been over-flogged and over-rated. Smh!

What is this girl saying this early morning ?

jaybee3:
It's obvious sex is the single most important factor in all the relationships you've had thus far and it ought not to be like that.
No one likes being lied to and you have the right to stay celibate.

It appears to me that he probably only wanted you for sex hence the reason he can't bring himself to forgive you

Going forward, you need to make yourself attractive in other ways by refining your character and ensure you stimulate discussions that doesn't have sexual undertone

Good luck

Thanks for your words...

"It's obvious sex is the single most important factor in all the relationships you've had thus far and it ought not to be like that."

This is totally not true, I must admit that I do scream my opinion on pre-marital sex (Same as my Genotype) on a week of knowing me...



How can I be sure he just wanted me for sex because I think it's more about the lie and the pretence for so long...I was truly cunny (I must admit).

I can recall his position about I lie I said some days back and he was truly not pleased.

Another premarital sex issue?

I am just here to learn

keppyy:


Thanks for your words...

"It's obvious sex is the single most important factor in all the relationships you've had thus far and it ought not to be like that."

This is totally not true, I must admit that I do scream my opinion on pre-marital sex (Same as my Genotype) on a week of knowing me...

How can I be sure he just wanted me for sex because I think it's more about the lie and the pretence for so long...I was truly cunny (I must admit).

I can recall his position about I lie I said some days back and he was truly not pleased.

That's kinda strange that you have 'em kinda convos within a week of meeting someone. It's like you naively believe every man you meet has genuine intention that matches your ambition which then allows you to open up like a running tap.

I'm not asking you to be secretive as i strongly believe in openness but the first few weeks of meeting someone you want something serious with should be spent getting to know them

jaybee3:

That's kinda strange that you have 'em kinda convos within a week of meeting someone. It's like you naively believe every man you meet has genuine intention that matches your ambition which then allows you to open up like a running tap.

I'm not asking you to be secretive as i strongly believe in openness but the first few weeks of meeting someone you want something serious with should be spent getting to know them

Okay...My bad...

MizMyColi:

You betrayed his trust and confidence.
Guys like the cookie a lot and if you're going to keep them off the jar, then it'd better be for reasons that are worth it.

Perhaps you engage in PMS too early on in other r/ships, which causes the guys to "relax" and as such you go through some psychological and emotional trauma of sorts? Wondering where you got it wrong?

Y'know what?
Let's talk in private. I'm sending you a PM...


In the meantime, GET A GRRRIP on your Self!
It's not the end of your world Hannie.

It's because PMS is a sin to me.

*Spreads mat*

keppyy:


I was just so tired of guys walking away, I was tired of being single...I know I messed up...

I've said it all to him already but he still does not believe.


Moca
Wedon

Trust me, the first two responses are all you really need to hear in this situation. You might be hurting yes, but reaffirm to yourself the reason why you made the resolve of abstinence in the first place and irrespective of your situation or predicament, don't put yourself under undue pressure to be in a relationship/with someone just because. Learn to love yourself enough to hang in there till someone well deserving (and respectful of your choices) comes along.

I see a lady desperate to get married.
i see a lady willing to marry anything.

cilifa:
I see a lady desperate to get married.
i see a lady willing to marry anything.

maybe and maybe not
the babe is too emotional attached to the guy in other words she is in love but on a false premise

different strokes for different folks wouldn't even near a girl once I know she is a virgin would keep my distance about dating friendship is OK but dating a virgin is a no no why would I don't have any moral right to do so
except when am ready to marry her then I would considered dating them
babe move on if he refused to see reasons but in your next relationship no need for lies tell ppl who they are if they like you good if they don't very good
don't be pressured into relationship or marriage

my girlfriend also told me she is a virgin I just Lol and shut up, I know she is lying but let her continue, as far as she no be my only chick and I don't spend excessively on her I no worry but the day I go serious chuck the girl and find out that she is lying, her red card go big like sign board



I don't know why some girls like lying share, you forget the truth bounces out someday, I hope some girls would learn from this op



my dear you deserve what is happening to you now, I repeat you deserve it 100%

keppyy:


I was just so tired of guys walking away, I was tired of being single...I know I messed up...

I've said it all to him already but he still does not believe.


Moca
Wedon

U sound very desperate gal.
Loosen up.
Never ever build a relationship pack of lies.
This is applicable to both sexes.

keppyy:



He was very open to me and he hates lies..

He told me that from the beginning, He said he could forgive a prostitute but not a liar.

You have a point though but how can I be sure he just wants to break up.

Same here. When I really like someone I prefer coming out clean from the get go. Hurts real bad when that is betrayed. The guy might forgive you but will become overly cautious around you and what you say.

Talk to him and if he doesn't bulge leave it to fate. If it will be, it will be.

Cococandy has said it all.Give it some time and he may cool off and come back.if he doesn't you have to move on.Tell yourself there's someone better out there and that is really the man you deserve.

Be straight up with whoever you choose to date.You don't have any apology to offer for choosing to stay off sex till you marry.There are guys who will accept that(and you need to be able to sieve out the ones not worthy).

Also don't get desperate and unnecessarily clingy.There's a man for you.

I do feel sorry for you but in all honesty this is all your fault. seeing things from a guys point of veiw, you can lie about alot of things, but virginity ? It's a no-no , you are not just denying him of the cookie, you are also making a fool of him, those nights he had to fight the urge or even jeck-off just to keep the relationship going. then you wake up one morning, and tell him its all a lie .

I've lost so many "supposed relationships" when I tell them I'm not a virgin but I don't want to have sex outside marriage anymore and most guys will tell me that if I'm not a virgin, there's nothing to preserve anymore...

This is either a lie or you are attracting the wrong kind of people.
*What kind of life do you live?
*How do you dress?
*Do you collect-collect from your "supposed" intending boyfriend?
Check your life, cos how can you tell me that all the guys you meet tells you that there is nothing to preserve in non-virgins .that's not believable.

Thanks to you all...

I'm too weak to type now but I appreciate all your messages...

Thank you so much...

Moving on...

write2obi:
I do feel sorry for you but in all honesty this is all your fault. seeing things from a guys point of veiw, you can lie about alot of things, but virginity ? It's a no-no , you are not just denying him of the cookie, you are also making a fool of him, those nights he had to fight the urge or even jeck-off just to keep the relationship going. then you wake up one morning, and tell him its all a lie .


This is either a lie or you are attracting the wrong kind of people.
*What kind of life do you live?
*How do you dress?
*Do you collect-collect from your "supposed" intending boyfriend?
Check your life, cos how can you tell me that all the guys you meet tells you that there is nothing to preserve in non-virgins .that's not believable.

Don't misunderstand the word "meet"...I meant guys that I must have liked to venture into a relationship with...

I dress descent and I don't depend on a man's money...

I don't know what to say but I know it's all my fault, lesson learnt.

I'm leaving it to fate, I totally accept it's all my fault...A lie is a lie and can never be justified.

I'm not desperate but I really do like him...

Thinkin back to all my stories and lies I had to say to cover it up, I do understand how he feels and would definitely act the same way if not worse.


I guess the only solution to this dilenma I'd to let fate decide.

keppyy:
Oh my gosh!!! I've been crying all through the night and my Bp is terribly high I can feel it...

I really need your help, I know it's all my fault and I did something terrible.

I acted a lie for for so long and I know no reason is good enough...

I've destroyed the trust and love but I want another chance...Oh my gosh!!!

I've lost so many "supposed relationships" when I tell them I'm not a virgin but I don't want to have sex outside marriage anymore and most guys will tell me that if I'm not a virgin, there's nothing to preserve anymore...

I regret it all, please someone should tell me it's not over...

What can I do to prove to him I'm not a liar and a LovePeddler and my sole reason was because I don't want to have Pre-marital sex anymore.

Please, Help...I confessed and now it's over.

Thorpido
Bukatyne
Cococandy
Efemena_Xy
Babyosisi
Evina

Please, I need words from everybody in family section.

Hi dearie,

You need to be calm now

I gather you lied to someone about your virginity to avoid pre-martial sex.

How did you get busted? Will determine the way forward.

Please relax

Modified:

Went through the thread.

Babe, wanting to be celibate before marriage and wanting to be in a relationship without definite timeline of marriage are two parallel wants.

If you propose to get married in 2yrs time, when the urges come, you are saying it is just two years away... I can wait.

No timeline? Both of you would just find yourselves on the bed... you know all those Satan made me do it paroles

That said, it is very very very wrong to lie to a guy you are involved with .about your virginity. He will find out and feel you are hiding worse things. Anyways, the past is past.

I do not know If This guy would come back or not.

First: forget about relationships for now If you really want to be celibate. You can hang out with friends when you feel the need of human companionship.

Try building yourself up to who you want to be. Think of How you want to achieve your goals and take steps towards them. Also work on your self esteem. Nobody is our Alpha and Omega.

Now is not the time for a rebound relationship If he leaves. You might become too open too early.

Loneliness is different from being alone. I think you are lonely which can still occur even in a relationship or marriage. You need to be able to keep yourself company before entering another relationship or continuing with This guy.

Goodluck