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Re: The Hypocrisy by 5minsmadness: 2:45pm On May 09, 2015 |
mulanbaba: OP pls don't let this issue scatter your home pls! People have been envious of your marriage since and through the foolishness of your husband they have found a hole in the fence! Pls you and you alone have the power to close that fence, you alone have the key to close the door of perdition that has been opened. Pls he is miserable without you abeg pls let this matter rest. We are waiting for whatever conditions you want and he will keep to them biko. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 2:50pm On May 09, 2015 |
5minsmadness: Did They force him at gun point to cheat on her? Does he even realize the gravity of what he has done Men sha . . . Please tell the guy that there is God ooom I know OP is a kind woman and will forgive him. But he needs to learn that his actions have consequences, and be prepared to live with them. 3 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 2:53pm On May 09, 2015 |
bukatyne: I'm no longer surprise my sister. I have seen and heard it all. No wonder people pity you when you have a female child and celebrate when its a male. 3 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by bukatyne(f): 3:09pm On May 09, 2015 |
Wedon: We will get There someday. |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 3:13pm On May 09, 2015 |
@mulanbaba why did you suggest swinging? for a happy marriage with a lot of kinky sex going on it seems odd to me especially as he refused swinging then went ahead to have an affair with your friend. If you find my question invasive don't answer forgive my asking just that I feel curious. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Hypocrisy by bukatyne(f): 3:16pm On May 09, 2015 |
5minsmadness: Please keep quiet. Please I am begging You were just saying women are weaker because they do not take rresponsibility for their actions. Are men weaker here too? I wished Satan slapped anyone who roped him into What he has no idea about. The devil made the husband chike the best friend; made the bestie agree; made them pick a arena for f.ucking; made thehhusband remove his clothes; made the husband sleep with the bestie; made them continue till the OP caught them I am very sure the jealous and wicked people sent the Devil to the husband ba? Please Please 9 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by ifyalways(f): 3:23pm On May 09, 2015 |
@OP, you said u suggested "swinging" but he kicked against it. Hmmmn Are u hurt cos he cheated with your BF or u hurt cos he cheated? It seems to me like u subtly encouraged your hubby to " cheat" abi what else could be your reason for suggesting swinging I'm not blaming you, just saying. Don't push for something u can't handle. If he's apologised and is truly sorry, I say forgive him. All the best. 5 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by 5minsmadness: 3:27pm On May 09, 2015 |
bukatyne: bukatyne i will not engage you on this thread for personal reasons. feel free to carry the day here. I have not mentioned the devil or the devil's work in this thread. I have placed the blame squarely on the husband and am pleading for liniency. if you wish you can twist my words here anyhow you want. I promise you i will not respond on this thread. take care. 2 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 3:31pm On May 09, 2015 |
5minsmadness: Chai! this guy! So can you take this your advice if you found out your wife cheated with your best friend? SMH. Op, you found the right word to use for this issue; HYPOCRISY. 3 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by 5minsmadness: 3:35pm On May 09, 2015 |
Wedon: She is. she is very kind and accomodating and the husband was exceedingly foolish in this his misadventure. She is the victim here and not at fault in anyway. |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 3:37pm On May 09, 2015 |
OP, i can not say i understand what you are going through as i have not been through such, but i'm sure it must hurt real bad. If you didn't have kids, i will say, take a trip and try to clear your head for some days. Can your mum or any close relative come over to help with the kids? So you can even have sometime to sort yourself out? You can not afford to be 'useless' with your kids around and you should not leave them entirely to your maid. The worst thing you will do to yourself is to listen to those people you call your friends who want to make you feel like you are the one pushing your hubby out. You did all you could, was the best wife to him and the best mother you can be to your kids, yet he strayed. If your throwing him out will mean "pushing him into the arms of the other ladies", then so be it! Know that these ladies are not in your shoes. Only you know how hurt you are, so no one can dictate to you how to act out your frustration. Cry if you must, curse if you wish, scream all you can. . . Do whatever you think will help you exhale, but please, don't hurt yourself. What will that achieve? You leave your beautiful kids for this wicked world to take care of? Your hubby will marry another woman who will most likely not care for them the way you would. Forgiving your husband is solely your prerogative. The decision to take him back or not is entirely yours to make. He honestly deserves any measures you mete out to him, except of course physical abuse. There is really no need going to report him to his family or his friends as that won't solve any problem. Do get yourself tested for STIs, just incase. . . Dear Lord, may your children not lose themselves in this thing called marriage. Amen! 5 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by 5minsmadness: 3:38pm On May 09, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:"This advice" simply means the yam and the knife is in her hands. she can do and undo. Hubbie made a mistake and is extremely sorry for it. |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 3:47pm On May 09, 2015 |
mulanbaba: Oh dear! Humans are very wicked. Chai! I already told you what i would have done if it were to be me. I dnt think i will look at my husband as tthe same man i married any longer. He would just appear to be one of those men on the streets. my threshold for tolerating this is non existent. I no fit commit murder abeg. Please do whats best for you and your kids. Your parents will eventually have to hear this. I dnt think you can hide it for too long. And please get yourself tested for any std. Although this might nt be related but NEVER intoduce SWINGING into your marriage in the name of spicing things up if you want its foundation to remain strong. There are vices that are detrimental to marriages and swinging is one of them. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 3:56pm On May 09, 2015 |
5minsmadness: Nope. Your advice doesnt sound that way. Yu made statements as 'Give it a rest' implying that its a minor thing she can just stitch off like it never happened. Your comment implied that its so easy to forgive a spouse who cheats with a best friend. Guy, just admit you will send your wife parking immediately once you find out. |
Re: The Hypocrisy by bennyrazz: 4:21pm On May 09, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:talk is cheap. Women should divorce their cheating husbands. It is only a foolish man that sleeps with married woman cuz there is nothing beneath there to enjoy. The whole juice as turned sour even her bosoms naa sleepers. If she doesn't care about her husband getting another wife, why is she ranting here? stop talking, work the talk. How is she even sure her next husband would not turn out worse? Womanizer, batterer, smoker etc |
Re: The Hypocrisy by 5minsmadness: 4:21pm On May 09, 2015 |
Sophyrocks: If that is how that advice sounded to the female mind then i humbly apologise. What happened is virutally unforgivable. he slept with her best friend. (That on its own was super dumb in itself...best friend can easily turn around tomorrow and tell wife even if she hadnt found out through his phone) Op's marriage has been an inspiration to many. Many would be happy, even gleeful to see it finally fall. Hubbie made a mistake and is extremely sorry. he is completely at fault. And now others are cashing in on the couple's misfortune. the vultures are looming waiting to pick the bones. No matter how hubbie tries, it is only with wifey's permission that this marriage will be salvaged. it doesnt make the matter "minor" in any way. It is a big deal. If wifey is hurting then hubbie caused it and will be willing to do anything to take that hurt away. all she has to do is give permission. 2 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by 5minsmadness: 4:24pm On May 09, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:@bolded; for a first time offence? no i wouldnt. But then this is not about me. is that what you would do? |
Re: The Hypocrisy by bennyrazz: 4:24pm On May 09, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:cheating with gateman, gardener, houseboy abi |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 4:25pm On May 09, 2015 |
Errrm , pls what is 'swinging' 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 4:30pm On May 09, 2015 |
bennyrazz: So who says thwere has to be a second husband You men think the world revolves around you, that a woman cannot suvive without a husband! Well that's where you are wrong. I will rather stay a single mother for the rest of my life than stay with a cheater. And if you think men don't desire married women, you must be living in delusion. 13 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 4:30pm On May 09, 2015 |
bennyrazz: Like i said, its the Op's call. You didnt read her post. She needed someone to talk to. Same way men act when their wives cheat too. They always lament and want to talk to someone. We have read similar stories from men who lamented and what advice do you all give them? No be divorce? Infact this thread would have gotten to 20 pages by now if it were to be a man in this issue. You all would have told him to send his wife parking. So why is it an issue if a woman decides to divorce her husband? Why are you pained that a woman might want to divorce? It seems divorce hurts you men than it does to women. You all are so afraid of women divorcing y"all. If your wife cheats on you with your best friend, what makes you think the next woman would be better than your wife since women cheat nowadays? 6 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 4:31pm On May 09, 2015 |
5minsmadness: Liar liar pants on fire . . . I don't know any nigerian man who would stay with a cheating wife. I doubt if you'll be the first. 6 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by bennyrazz: 4:33pm On May 09, 2015 |
bukatyne:women are their greatest enemies, imagine the op's friend was even the one dividing her friend's home. And husband's friend that was sent to wife to beg too is even suggesting a divorce to wife? what a world. To me o, the problem with this marriage as to do with keeping unfriendly friends. Wife's friend is interested in her husband, husband friend too is interested in husband's wife. How funny? The devil knows what he's doing. 1 Like |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 4:33pm On May 09, 2015 |
bennyrazz: Look at you! They have gone higher class now. Men in higher places, politicians, name it. Its your fellow married men they cheat with now o. As you dey eye another man's single chick, one married man dey eye your wife. 5 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 4:34pm On May 09, 2015 |
5minsmadness: LIAR!!!!! LIAR!!! LIAR!!! Chi mooo.. Which kind lie be this? 3 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 4:35pm On May 09, 2015 |
bennyrazz: There it is . . . 'The Devil'!!! Smh. |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 4:48pm On May 09, 2015 |
Wedon: Are you really Ujujoan? |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Ewuro4: 4:53pm On May 09, 2015 |
You suggested swinging?? Ahh... You opened a zoo gate for a curious monkey You're this depressed for cheating, what if he gambled with family's life savings?? Pick yourself up madam, and take care of your children. You're right, the hypocrisy in our society boogles mind. Give him a second chance and explore your fantasies together. 1 Like |
Re: The Hypocrisy by ifyalways(f): 4:58pm On May 09, 2015 |
J Wedon:Hubby and wife consenting and swinging on one or more other couples " jangilova" lol Organised sex orgy, free for all, strictly for married couples. You bannng my wife, I bannng your hubby while u watch and vice versa. |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Ewuro4: 5:00pm On May 09, 2015 |
Wedon: Sleeping with other couple. |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Ewuro4: 5:03pm On May 09, 2015 |
Your kinkiness pass my jurisdiction Too selfish |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 5:15pm On May 09, 2015 |
ifyalways: Huh? See me thinking it's one of those positions. . . |
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