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Re: The Hypocrisy by freecocoa(f): 6:36pm On May 09, 2015 |
Ewuro4:How did she put the idea in his head? He said No to it, so why did he have to cheat? If the cheating was sw1nger style(without his wife)then you may have a point, then we may say he doesn't want someone fecking his wife but likes the idea of swinging, so he went and did it behind her back. Instead, he slept with her bestfriend, the affair with the bestie might have been going on before she even mentioned swinging for all we know. How do you know she can't handle it? They may have done it had he said yes. 9 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by 5minsmadness: 6:39pm On May 09, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:I have been here since, and there have been many threads on cheaters that I v commented on. What r u looking to see if I may ask? |
Re: The Hypocrisy by bennyrazz: 6:39pm On May 09, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:our forefathers dey marry between 3- 20 wives, even till date some men have up till 3wives at home, I can give you example? obasanjo, Atiku, aregbesola, el rufai, sanusi etc dem plenty well well. Now show me a woman in Nigeria with more than one husband? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Hypocrisy by 5minsmadness: 6:41pm On May 09, 2015 |
bennyrazz: ![]() |
Re: The Hypocrisy by 5minsmadness: 6:42pm On May 09, 2015 |
cococandy:What? ![]() |
Re: The Hypocrisy by cococandy(f): 6:43pm On May 09, 2015 |
5minsmadness:nothing. |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 6:48pm On May 09, 2015 |
bennyrazz: A piece of advice; Try put your ear for ground to hear gists around you to be aware of what goes on. Read widely. Not just nairaland. Nairaland will take you back to the 18th century. You would be amazed at the sort of taste your fellow men have in women. Whether slippers b.reasts o or slack private part your fellow men dey follow them bumper to bumper. Isnt it the same fallen b.reasts you will svck after your wife gives birth or the same slack pvssy you will see? Na so other men dey reason am too. A lot of married women now are packaging well so other men must look your wife o. The status of a woman doesnt bother men who feel they are polygamous in nature. You call such men local champions? Our politicians local champions? lol. You are truly not exposed. are you a teen? 12 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 6:55pm On May 09, 2015 |
bennyrazz: Chai! What sort of I.Q is this? do you know the topic we are talking about? 6 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 6:57pm On May 09, 2015 |
5minsmadness: I havent seen your comments on them myself. So will wait till another thread comes up. |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Ewuro4: 7:00pm On May 09, 2015 |
freecocoa: -Yes he fûcked up big time doing it with her bestie -Yes he cheated and she can send him packing for life for all I care. He deserved it. My argument was about taking full responsibility for bringing up the idea of sleeping with other party. And pls spare me the educational lectures about swinging vs cheating ![]() So please let's be real here... Marriage is susceptible to any form of damage that moment you introduce any 'weird' ( yes 'swinging' is weird) system into it. E.g I don't eat pork, my husband stopped eating it since the day I met him . The day (9 years after) I announced my approval to pork eating was the week my daughter picked up bacon sausage at the grocery store, my other daughter bought bacon jerky & most importantly my husband now sprinkles bacon bits on his salad. ![]() I put the idea in their heads , yes I took the all blame. P.S .. I don't eat pork till date. 3 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 7:06pm On May 09, 2015 |
whats swinging? I thought they said when u get married, u get so much u get bored of it at the end,so why do peeps still cheat? 1 Like |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 7:07pm On May 09, 2015 |
It looks like you noticed your husband was bored to not only suggesting anal but swinging too. If trully you were not comfortable with your suggestions, then you were not confident, didnt seem to know what you were capable of and misleading your hubby in a way. If he knew you can take swinging (cheating) and not take sleeping with your Bff (cheating) maybe he would have cautioned himself that's if he wasnt cheating already to be bored with you in the first place. Find out why he cheated in the first place, it can give you pointers to the way forward. Since it wasnt a once thing, chances are that he will cheat again if he also love/like your bff, if you forgive easily to make him think no matter what you will forgive again afterall you can't breath without him and funny enough you will easily forgive again after the first. If you must forgive, dont make it quick or easy for him and make the rules, he must see a counselor too. In all dont force your heart. With your bff and not once is too extreme. |
Re: The Hypocrisy by freecocoa(f): 7:10pm On May 09, 2015 |
Ewuro4:Lol, your analogy though. ![]() Your husband has always liked pork but gave it up for you, you didn't put the idea in his head, it was already there, same for the kids, if they didn't like bacon, they won't eat it, everyone gave it up because of you, not because the idea was not there. You and your husband don't like all the same things, it's not everything you suggest to him that he sees through. Why didn't he swing, when she suggested it,if you think that's what his cheating is about, but instead said No? Swinging is different from cheating whether you choose to accept it or not. 8 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 7:15pm On May 09, 2015 |
Please o. Swinging is different from cheating with one's best friend. We shouldnt direct that to mean she is at fault in this. she didnt ask her hubby to cheat on her with her best friend. Swinging is by mutual agreement. He turned it down so that has nothing to do sleeping with her friend. 7 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Ewuro4: 7:15pm On May 09, 2015 |
freecocoa: He gave it up for me just like we gave up other dates/relationships to be together forever. No? ![]() I put the idea in the air the moment I approved it. Simple. Yes they're diff .. On paper ![]() Let's agree to disagree on this one. ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by babygirlfl: 7:24pm On May 09, 2015 |
Cheating is bad enough but an affair is not a one-off thing. It means he was cheating on the op again and again so I don't understand some people saying it's the first time unless you mean the first time he was caught. He did it with your best friend. Hmmmm. It might be a maybe or maybe not to forgive him if he cheats on me but it's a definite NO taking him back if any of these is associated with the cheating. Cheating with a close friend or relative. Making excuses and not being fully sorry. Cheating multiple times. Doing the dirty deed in our home. 2 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by freecocoa(f): 7:27pm On May 09, 2015 |
Ewuro4:Lol, if the idea wasn't there, how did he give it up? You can't give up something you never had in the first place, however, I kinda get what you are trying to say, you are saying he forgot about it and she reminded him. I disagree because he cheated her, in swinging nobody's hurt, he hurt her and that's not an idea you can put in someone's head, you decide to hurt someone on your own, you have the right to choose, it's not a situation without option, he is solely responsible for this, especially because what he did is different from what she suggested. The act might be the same but don't mean the same things. 5 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 7:30pm On May 09, 2015 |
babygirlfl: He has cheated on her before? really? I didnt see that in her post. |
Re: The Hypocrisy by bennyrazz: 7:53pm On May 09, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:common sense is not common for you. Use your head winnntccchh 3 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 8:02pm On May 09, 2015 |
bennyrazz: Hahahahahaha. So clueless!! My belle o. Talking about divorce, e dey talk about polygamy. You smoke weed just now? ![]() ![]() 5 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by babygirlfl: 8:13pm On May 09, 2015 |
Sophyrocks: Usually when people say someone is having an affair, it means it's an ongoing relationship not like a mistake while drunk. The op said he has been having an affair and then in her subsequent posts she said they talk upto three times a day and upto 20 minute sometimes. In my opinion that's means he was repeatedly cheating on her . However this is the first time he has been caught. 2 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by lovinam: 8:21pm On May 09, 2015 |
Idiot bennyrazz: |
Re: The Hypocrisy by bennyrazz: 8:33pm On May 09, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:the weed wey you sell for me abi ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 8:39pm On May 09, 2015 |
bennyrazz: Like your mama abi? NO WONDER!! the one wey your mama dey smoke give you. Una dey share weed together. Issorait. 3 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by bennyrazz: 8:51pm On May 09, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:only person wey no get mama & papa like ur type dey insult other people parents. It's clear you were brought up in an orphanage home ![]() ![]() ![]() 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Hypocrisy by mulanbaba: 8:53pm On May 09, 2015 |
andromida:no we are very open about sex etc so i just wanted to hear his view on it and he definately shut it down. i cant say what i would hev done if he said yes but i was glad he said no. But i was in no way saying he can cheat cos swinging involves both of us doing things with other couples. i was just mentioning it hear to show that i am not a prude at all and i know my hubby is sexually satisfied at home so i dont understand what made him wanna go outside. i am a humble person who submit ti him and treated him like a king and he did treat me like his queen as well so his cheating wasnt expected at all, thats why i am so hurt and shocked i guess |
Re: The Hypocrisy by freecocoa(f): 8:55pm On May 09, 2015 |
Sophyrocks:You dey try, I usually feel some pain in my brain arguing with these type of persons, like my brain be saying "please this is not reasonable, so don't bother". |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 9:00pm On May 09, 2015 |
bennyrazz: Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha. E pain am. Anything else? 3 Likes |
Re: The Hypocrisy by An0nimus: 9:01pm On May 09, 2015 |
mulanbaba:Sorry to digress ma'am but are you Nigerian? |
Re: The Hypocrisy by MistarT(m): 9:02pm On May 09, 2015 |
Madam, Sorry about that, please remember something there's a covenant between you and hubby and until death, you are not to break it , he wronged you yes , please forgive him tell him never to repeat that again, let that woman know she's too small to destroy your home.Please make sure your family is grounded in the word of God and be prayerful, the devil is the director of evil don't be too mundane to ignore spirituality. THE WORLD IS FULL OF TRIBULATIONS BUT BE OF GOOD CHEER , CHRIST HAS OVERCOME THE WORLD.John 16:33 |
Re: The Hypocrisy by Nobody: 9:03pm On May 09, 2015 |
freecocoa: Hehehehe. Seriously i am already having some pains in my brain lowering myself trying to understand his I.Q but as usual i love to make jokes out of everything. ![]() ![]() |
Re: The Hypocrisy by obowunmi(m): 9:11pm On May 09, 2015 |
Love is about forgiveness... Forgive him and move on. Look at Hilary Clinton and her husband. No big deal... 1 Like |
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