We can also tag this topic: "Saying NO to sex makes you more "Killing", or "More Valuable", or "More Classical". Etc. But that's by the way.
(Before you start, this write up is not for lazy people who can't read all through).
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I know many ladies are wondering what does this article hold or how possible this is, but let me start by letting you know that this is a "BOYS-THING", so you are not meant to understand fully, but believe me when I say, as a young man or should I say "boy" who has many friends, (the good, bad and handsome), I know things about boys and girls, and this is something about boys I think ladies don't know...
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And this is it; A "No-To-Sex" Lady is the only type of girl Guys Respect and Want the most. If I were talking to my sister, this is truth I will make her understand...
As a guy, as a man, whenever we hear a lady says "NO-to-sex" in a r-ship, we go 'GAGA' for that lady. I don't mean lesbians or girls who are forming hard to get, believe me, guys know all those tricks when ladies are forming "hard-to-get". I'm talking about single ladies hoping for a good future husband, or hoping to be appreciated more by their Bfs or guy friends. Now listen, When a guy hears a pretty and well endowed lady say "NO-to-sex till marriage", That lady only stepped up her game, and the first thing that comes to the guy's mind is "did I hear that correct?", and this is what attracts us to such ladies. (You mustn't know about this, because no Predator tells his Prey about his plans). To Reasonable guys with focus and ambition, the feeling of "SHE'S BIGGER THAN WHAT I THOUGHT" starts growing in the their minds. Mind you, 70% of guys are reasonable, they are only being greedy. (My Reason): When you portray yourself as a "Cheap" material, a guy will always want to take advantage of you, not because he wanted you totally, but because he sees another girl in you that he can make us of, maybe for the next couple of months.
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Now lemme tell you a short story about a lady friend of mine back then in the University. Her name was Susan. (BBM: The Virtuous lady)
Susan was not the most beautiful lady in campus, nor in the department, but when Susan walks, everyone stops and looks, When she comes around, everyone wants to know what she has to say, When she talks to a guy, the world sees that guy like "Obama" for the day, her composure makes most guys in the class want to say "Hi" to her, remember, she wasn't the most beautiful girl in campus, yet she was the most attractive to all of us guys, she was friendly, She was neat, when I say neat, I mean NEAT, she dressed very clean and CLASSIC, yet, guys were not able to approach her even for laughter. And why was this? She created a standard, she had a class, she made it so, and only the brains and gurus in the class could approach her for anything casual or crucial. The news alone about the neatest and highly esteemed susan with a "NO to sex" r-ship till marriage made her Queen Elizabeth of our dept.
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Now, I want to ask you ladies a question, #how many of you are using an "i-phone 6 now#, Few I guess, but tecno reaches your hand almost everyday, right?. Now that is what VALUE has caused. Ladies, its true that "Body No Be Wood", but that is why oneday, you'll get married. The truth still remains this way: A Girl is like a Product, you have to have a Class, Dignity, standard, Self respect, before you can be Attractive to EVERY GUY. Value yourself, and guys will value you.
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When you, as a lady regard yourself as someone above "Sex B4 marriage", you only place yourself above every other girl, other girls of "Boyfriend today---Fast food tomorrow----sex next tomorrow". (Believe me, boys are already used to this type of ladies and are tired of seeing them, they are only being greedy). You have to stand out from the crowd, beat the imagination of every guy about ladies and sex.
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You don't have be a "Reverend Sister" to make this happen. Be beautiful, Dress neatly, look amazing, bold and charming, you are a young lady I guess, and you'll see that "A Gold fish has no hiding Place". Look presentable and step up your life value by saying NO-to-Sex, you'll only make men fall in love with you the more. When I say "Men", I don't mean small boys with Big bodies who chase girls because of what's under the skirts. I mean "MEN", Guys with Focus, Goals and Ambition, Responsibility. Though Its unfortunate how many girls of today will throw away "CLASS for SWAG" all in the name of BIGGER BOYS IN TOWN, in 10 years time, watch where you'll be with those "Bigger boys in town".
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Now ladies, remember this, It takes a MAGNET to attract another MAGNET, you CANNOT attract a man of substance and value when you are VALUELESS. Among 100 girls, you cannot be ATTRACTIVE, or highly esteemed or regarded by Guys/Men when you are like every other girl out there, every other girl they've met before.
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To be Attractive/highly placed, you have to be different from others, matured in your dressing, clean and neat, principled, friendly, and to crown it all, be a VIRTEOUS LADY, (too classic to be slept with by any man), be ABOVE what others cannot control..."Premarital Sex". This alone makes you "Miss Independent", and nothing kills a guy FASTER than seeing a good-looking woman with Self Esteem and Regard.
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Forget what some boys will say or do when ladies are around, guys who pretend they don't care when a girl says "NO" always feel belittled by their actions, and its always worse when the lady is Good looking or very Presentable. (your dressing ALWAYS matters). Its just the fact. Guys can go crazy when they see a girl who thinks her body worth more than gold, and yes, who wouldn't want to own a "Valuable Asset", and this alone makes her more attractive, even without make ups.
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Ladies, to attract that guy or man who you think has a class beyond you, or is a king, or a "High Standard Gentleman", to make him fall on his knees wanting you to himself, OR to find a perfect R-ship where the man will value you totally, YOU MUST NOT POUT YOUR MOUTH, POUTING MAKES YOU LOOK "STUPID"(sorry to say, but this would be a topic for another day), you should be like Susan, you must be a VIRTEOUS WOMAN, good looking and principled, you must be the kind of woman every man wants.
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Now NOTE these 2 things..
1. Being ATTRACTIVE isn't about make-ups, you only look good with make ups, but when your personality is High, you become attractive. Guys will only come for you with rubbish reasons when all you have is Nice MakeUps. Your attraction catches a man's heart when you have a reputation and ego, and not your Marykay.
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2. Being a virtuous woman doesn't mean you should start dressing like -Mary Amaka, or carrying bibles left-and-right, NO, its not all that.
Being a Virtuous woman means being principled, Neat, Dressing fashionably, creating a standard, bigger than "what-any-boy-can-just-have", bigger than Sex, and believe me, NOT ONLY WILL GUYS GO 'GAGA', EVEN GOD GETS ATTRACTED TO YOU, And you know what that means!!!.
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Ladies, Make up your minds today, and step up your game,
Re-brand yourself, No guy is worth your body except your husband, except you want a ---"Time No Dey, Make We Just Marry" Husband. MAGNET ATTRACTS ONLY MAGNET and this alone has made you "More attractive",
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Too all the beautiful African Queens reading this, God bless you.

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I hope this would make front page for my other sisters to see too.

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Seun , lalasticlala

No to sex just gets me pissed off! But still like them that are not loose.

Yea! but at the end of the day i am not settling for a man "with Focus, Goals and Ambition, Responsibility" in the world's sense. That's superficial for me. Hardworking and responsible men, i appreciate but what is foremost is that he must know The Lord that i know.

I appreciate your effort and time to put this out here for us. It only shows how concerned and well meaning you are.

I will also want to say that Christian ladies should in all our doings, not keep the focus of attraction on us but on Christ. Yes and very, important we should be neat, have good carriage, be principled, be good looking, have good dress sense,etc but if we affirm and teach in all honesty that we are only God's vessels then we should remain just that.

I am overjoyed when a guy sees Christ in me more than he sees me. LOL If all he cares for is me me me, i wouldn't want to have much dealings with him. Strange? yes to worldly women but not to Christians.

We cant get people saved by "pricing" ourselves but by pointing them to Christ if we say we are Christians and care for men's souls else, we are nothing but worldlings who are only seeking praises and glory for ourselves from men through rare means.

Just seyin

NOTE: AM OPENED TO QUESTIONS AND ASSISTANCE.
PM ME IF ANY...

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Well said an2elect2, seriously, u spoke very well, but this article was made to make the topic mild, not like a preach, but a motivational talk, its a view of "abstinence from sex" from a socio and educative point of view.
If I had written from a "Biblical/moral" perspective, you and I already know that youths won't want to listen, but a few. I therefore wish to ask, how many young ladies believe in prayeing and fasting, let alone "Seeing Christ in themselves"?? Very few, so in otherwords, writing from a biblical sense wouldn't make any meaning to many out there,
Thank God for ur belief.
Gods grace to U dear...


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I Am lazy, summary please

sirr:

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Well said an2elect2, seriously, u spoke very well, but this article was made to make the topic mild, not like a preach, but a motivational talk, its a view of "abtenance from sex" from a socio and educative point of view.
If I had written from a "Biblical/moral" perspective, you and I already know that youths won't want to listen, but a few.
Gods grace to U dear...

Okay. I knew this already even before posting. The truth is that the biblical view will always supersede socio, educative or any other kind of views. That's the hard fact, sirr. Being a Christian, all my approach is scriptural based whether any body likes it or not. And of course people wouldn't like it that way but that's the only way they can be saved and i remain true to my God having clear conscience.

Thanks for the reply.

An2elect2:

Thanks too.

this is the best thread I have seen on nairaland so far. I really wish I could push this thread to front page.op,nowadays its ladies that are even interested in sex not guys.I am a no no no kissing guy tLkess of sex guy.that's why the girl I wanted to marry left me because she coudnt cope in a no sex relationship.

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misreal:
this is the best thread I have seen on nairaland so far. I really wish I could push this thread to front page.op,nowadays its ladies that are even interested in sex not guys.I am a no no no kissing guy tLkess of sex guy.that's why the girl I wanted to marry left me because she coudnt cope in a no sex relationship.

My brov, its almost everywhere, I've lost 3 r-ships all because of same reason, but I know soon, we'll find our best companion. Thanks bro, and One love

sirr:

My brov, its almost everywhere, I've lost 3 r-ships all because of same reason, but I know soon, we'll find our best companion. Thanks bro, and One love

my brother,I have given up the search already.I don't want to get my heart broken oh..what is even the hype behind sex?

misreal:
my brother,I have given up the search already.I don't want to get my heart broken oh..what is even the hype behind sex?

Hahah, pls don't give up the search, there are still some few good ones, I know this. God will show U.

sirr:

Hahah, pls don't give up the search, there are still some few good ones, I know this. God will show U.

hmmmmmm...

To ur tent o Israel. TO be logical, a girl's "no to sex" usually makes guys want to sex her the more. It basically just increases demand in the face of a constant supply. Especially if these guys just wanted sex in the first place. However a christian brother if in love will and should respect the female in question whether she be a hoe or not. But personally I feel its nice to see some girls stand above the fray with good principles while still being desirable and modest.

Believe me it's nice when guys speak like this.

I'm sincerely glad that people like this still exists.

Nice one op.

Thanks

Sensible post.

Optimall, misscastle
Thanks alot

Op Thank you very much. your article just helped me in a way you won't understand. God bless you for me.

we know all these.

nice thread

MsBliss:
Op Thank you very much. your article just helped me in a way you won't understand. God bless you for me.

Thanks so much dear, and God bless U too

good one op

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I love this..so encouraging..The most interesting part is that it's coming from a guy..nice one op

millyajay:
I love this..so encouraging..The most interesting part is that it's coming from a guy..nice one op

Thanks

nice one sirr say NO to sex b4 marriage protect the future,it's in our hands

Nice one OP

DocAdray:
Nice one OP

Thanks dear. Hapi sunday

DocAdray:
Nice one OP

Thanks dear. Hapi sunday

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