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How Much Of Sex Should A Couple Have? by Demichaels: 10:18pm On May 09, 2015 |
It’s a conflict that comes up in almost every relationship that has managed to last for a year or two (or maybe even just a few months). It causes tension, fights, and hurt feelings. Often both partners feel misunderstood and frustrated. Regardless of their satisfaction level, most couples will eventually have some conflict regarding s*x. Research shows that one of the most common fights couples have centers around s*xual frequency or how often the couple is engaging in s*xual intimacy. Stereotypically this involves a male partner seeking higher frequency than his female counterpart but this is not always the case. Regardless, unmet expectations in the bedroom can trickle over and cause communication problems, a lack of emotional connection, and general instability in the relationship. So how do you counter such negativity? What is the right amount of s*x? Here are some general thoughts to help make sure this issue doesn’t undermine the other parts of your relationship. How much s*x should a couple have? The right answer to this question is that there is no “right amount.” Every couple is different and, more importantly, every person encounters changing life circumstances due to illness, careers, and children (among many other things) that will interact with s*xual desire and availability. There may be times in a couple’s life where having s*x every day would be perfectly possible while at other times it would be a logistical impossibility. Research shows that an “average” couple generally has s*x about 2-3 times per week. However, if you’re worried that you’re under this average I would encourage you to think about your intimacy over the course of several weeks or even several months. Again, every couple will have good and bad weeks in terms of intimacy frequency and there is no magic number that couples need to hit to be “healthy”. How do you avoid negative conflict about s*xual intimacy? For the partner wanting more: Understand intimacy is a two-way street. s*x obviously involves two people. It is very clear from research that s*x is more fulfilling, enjoyable, and satisfying if both partners have a desire for that intimacy. If you are the partner who wants to have s*x more regularly, realize that having s*x every day may not be the enjoyable experience you think it will be if your partner’s desire does not match your own. Be okay with delaying intimacy if your partner isn’t in the mood and avoid taking this as a personal rejection. For the partner wanting less: Understand that your partner is likely seeking connection, not physical gratification. Often the person who wants less s*x views their partner as s*x crazed and overly focused on the physical element of the relationship. It can feel like this is all your partner cares about. It is important for the person desiring less s*x to realize that attempts to engage in s*x are one of the best signs of a healthy relationship and are often coming from a desire for both physical and emotional connection. In our modern world there are plenty of places that people can turn to (online or otherwise) if they are only seeking personal gratification. Your partner’s attempts to be intimate are likely coming from a loving place and a desire to be intimate with you. Treat such attempts as such and be careful about how your reaction might be overly negative or feel rejecting to your partner. For both partners: Talk about the taboo. Even among married couples who have been sexually intimate for many years, s*x can be a taboo topic. In order to engage in healthy communication it is vital that such couples bring issues related to s*x out in the open. If one partner wants to become intimate and the other doesn’t, talk about a “rain check” and have the partner who isn’t in the mood explain clearly why. While it may not sound romantic, scheduling intimacy can be a very practical and useful thing for many couples (especially those with children). Schedule that rain check for the next day and then spend the day flirting and teasing each other. Make it something you both look forward too. Another option may be to take turns being in “charge” of planning and initiating intimacy. Above all else, talk about intimacy and s*x. www.informationng.com/?p=291111 |
Re: How Much Of Sex Should A Couple Have? by sinaj(f): 10:20pm On May 09, 2015 |
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Re: How Much Of Sex Should A Couple Have? by ClassyAdewumi(m): 10:22pm On May 09, 2015 |
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Re: How Much Of Sex Should A Couple Have? by Nobody: 10:23pm On May 09, 2015 |
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Re: How Much Of Sex Should A Couple Have? by Lovebond34(m): 10:24pm On May 09, 2015 |
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Re: How Much Of Sex Should A Couple Have? by Uchan4u(m): 10:33pm On May 09, 2015 |
I believe no amount of sex is too much as far as the couple enjoy it, sexual pleasure should be mutual. None should enjoy it at the expense of the other. if the man wants it five times a day, if the woman is not cool with it then it is too much. but if the woman wants it as much as the man wants it then it is not too much |
Re: How Much Of Sex Should A Couple Have? by tosyne2much(m): 10:37pm On May 09, 2015 |
SEX sha |
Re: How Much Of Sex Should A Couple Have? by ekim004(m): 10:38pm On May 09, 2015 |
as much as they like |
Re: How Much Of Sex Should A Couple Have? by MrsChima(f): 10:54pm On May 09, 2015 |
Once a yrar. |
Re: How Much Of Sex Should A Couple Have? by adewaletb3(m): 10:56pm On May 09, 2015 |
Anytime they feel like |
Re: How Much Of Sex Should A Couple Have? by jumper524(m): 9:40am On May 10, 2015 |
MrsChima:4 watin na u wan make d man commit rape, haba e 3much abeg at least twice a day |
Re: How Much Of Sex Should A Couple Have? by Jayjay0(m): 9:43am On May 10, 2015 |
unlimited |
Re: How Much Of Sex Should A Couple Have? by Nobody: 10:33am On May 10, 2015 |
As many times as yur both in the mood and ready. It shouldn't be prioritise but it shouldn't be underestimated either |
Re: How Much Of Sex Should A Couple Have? by MrsChima(f): 11:14am On May 10, 2015 |
jumper524: He can masturbate. |
Re: How Much Of Sex Should A Couple Have? by jumper524(m): 11:45am On May 10, 2015 |
MrsChima:4 watin na when i get wife, e no beta make i divorce her marry anoda 1 when go give me things. |
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