Rapmoney:
Be patient while you read this...

If you are a young and ambitious dude still struggling to get to the top, this write-up will save you the stress and pains of the so-called love we have been deceived about for long!

If you still think that there's what is called 'true love' or 'love without money or resources', then you must be living in a fool's paradise!!! (Quote me if you like!)

The truth of the matter is that what people in the past enjoyed as 'true love' no longer exist. Then it was possible for a man and a woman to fall in love based on personal qualities or characters without materialism attached to it! Those were the good old days! Our society has changed and any one who still lives in the past is not better than the village idiot!!!

I have heard people saying often times that love or relationship is not all about money! To me, that's the highest level of trash and rubbish! If you are a young man with ambition, still striving and toiling to make it, you better forget about love and concentrate full-time...I mean 100% on your dreams and life.
It is so frustrating to see some struggling dudes killing themselves over love issues! What a life! Why spend the meagre salary you earn after working for 30 days like a donkey on a girl? She tells you she needs a phone, you struggle to buy it! She says she needs money for hair, you struggle to give her! She tells you she needs to get a nice bag or pair of shoes she saw at a boutique, you struggle to give her! Be rest assured that you will continue to struggle endlessly in your life if you don't desist from such shameful and wasteful act! If you want to know the extent to which materialism has eaten into this so-called love, watch even the younger girls of today! Even those that are below 21 or 22 will quickly run away from you if you can't be giving her upkeep money, money for hair and phone, etc The mature ones? If you don't live comfortably well, sorry, you are on your own!!! Except for those village girls that are not exposed...but seriously, not in the cities of Nigeria.

Before you criticize me on the fact that these women need to live a comfortable life by hanging out with only comfortable dudes, read the topic again! It is surely the same reason why I said young struggling men should forget about love and focus on their lives!!! When you are comfortable, you can have the resources to sustain your relationship because no matter how a woman 'loves' you, the 'love' must surely die if there's no finance to sustain it!

Adams Oshiomole (not handsome) just got married to pretty Lara Forte! Do you think she didn't see all the tall handsome dudes with six-packs before tying the knot with the governor?

Goodevening everyone!

iAmCharis:
Gbam!!

It's even safer to have someone when things are not so well financially. You see, when a man had it made already, chances are he's going to marry someone he wouldn't want to someone he doesn't really know her character. When they know the money is there, they start acting all nice, now what you love in a woman and start feigning your dream woman. Only for you to marry her and realize she's the total opposite. A friend recently told me about a story of her uncle. The man was well loaded before he got married. He took a month leave from work one day and told his wife that he has lost his job. He started acting broke all of a sudden. Can you imagine in less than a month, this woman said she can no longer continue with the marriage. She packed and left her husband. The man even went to see the woman's people but they drove him out.


It's when you've not made it you know those who truly love you.

agarawu23:
nice one rapmoney.

I am in support of your write up But I want us to look it from another angle.

I am not in support of a young hustling guy spending lavishly on a Lady he is yet to marry but that doesn't mean he should not fall in love.(he should apply sense)

If he finally forget about ladies, chase his dream and later succeed, how will he find true love ? (no be our girls of nowadays? Ferrari things )

What if the guy is not destined to be rich? I am sure he will still settle down with one (though she might not be his dream girl)

We have few ladies who don't care if a guy is rich or poor, all they want is true love (bros I still dey find them o )

Adaobi12:
I disagree with your write up. there are a thousand one girls out there, willing to love and swim the red sea with a hardworking broke dude.
As long as he is hardworking, I will stick with him because I know someday Oluwa go reason him matter.

ronald4lif:
Nice one bruv.

I subscribe to your line of reasoning. It is advisable for a guy who's still struggling not to focus on a relationship and fall for the deceit called love. Love without money is not worth it. It gets you distracted from pursuing your goals and drain your scarce resources.

A relationship can't survive without money and that girl you're spending your little money and investing on today could dump your ass tomorrow for your age mates who had their priorities right while you were deceiving yourself with love.

Love won't pay the bills either now or after you're married so why waste your time when you can make something meaningful out of life now. That girl you're spending on will only succeed in ruining you up. It is on record that most relationship arguments and divorces stem from finances and the management of the home. How would you handle that when you don't have money?.

I'm not dismissing the importance of a woman in a man's life but priorities need to be set right. Even if one must embark on a relationship and she keeps demanding for this and that you have to quit it. Don't be manipulated by love. The chances of a woman loving you without money is very slim.

The first question I believe a man should ask himself from a girlfriend who's always demanding money from him is, what if there's no more money?. If you can answer that I believe you would know why she's in the relationship with you.

Mintayo:
If u r in a relationship with a lady who is too demanding even if u r financially buoyant, please quit the relationship, a sensible girl will work to support her man! There are ladies that will stick to a guy come what may, these are no parasitic ladies! To me, it's wrong for a lady to be asking for hairdo money from her man or money to buy Brazilian Hair or unnecessary stuffs!
Love doesn't demand!

castruccio:


Rapmoney na true you talk you spoke my mind but at the same time I think one can still "stand in love" (not fall oo!!) with sense by differentiating the arm robber motors from the average gals out there[b] so as not to enter one chance after you don hama[/b]

castruccio:


Haba Agarawu !!! who tell you say person no de destined to be rich? everyone is, if one work hard and smart at it he will be rich

OrlandoOwoh:

Wetin be the name of the Nollywood movie?

Adaobi12:
I disagree with your write up. there are a thousand one girls out there, willing to love and swim the red sea with a hardworking broke dude.
As long as he is hardworking, I will stick with him because I know someday Oluwa go reason him matter.

agarawu23:
nice one rapmoney.

I am in support of your write up But I want us to look it from another angle.

I am not in support of a young hustling guy spending lavishly on a Lady he is yet to marry but that doesn't mean he should not fall in love.(he should apply sense)

If he finally forget about ladies, chase his dream and later succeed, how will he find true love ? (no be our girls of nowadays? Ferrari things )

What if the guy is not destined to be rich? I am sure he will still settle down with one (though she might not be his dream girl)

We have few ladies who don't care if a guy is rich or poor, all they want is true love (bros I still dey find them o )

Creamz:
You are only saying so because you're trying to be defensive. Many girls are attracted to wealthy handsome or ugly men. But the bottom line is the wealth. Most girls claim to love you and tell you that you are their dream guy. The very moment you are broke, they move unto the next one. They are very use to leaving the treasure and chasing stone.

bakynes:
I agree with the OP 101% because in a country such as Nigeria every Goddamn things is reliant on Money. The basics of life we do not have in Nigeria so love cannot even be built from the Scratch. A typical British person has the basics of life like Housing, water, electricity, gas etc. Even if he doesn't have money the Govt will give him welfare for all that. So it's just the luxuries he won't be able to afford, love can still thrive on the basics of life but a country such as ours if you don't have money no govt will come and give u welfare to take care of basics of life hence love cannot thrive. If you must go into a rship as a struggling man do not put all your heart if she stays she stays and if she leaves you no worries life goes on.

Rapmoney:
There's nothing like a perfect match! If you are lacking financially, there will always be quarrel! U need to live in the present bro. Gone are the days when couple live peacefully even without money! Those were the days of our parents and grandparents! Get that straight!

agarawu23:
oga , no be everybody go get money even if you work from day1 to day 100. destiny is written.

agarawu23:
oga , no be everybody go get money even if you work from day1 to day 100. destiny is written.

Mintayo:

My thought exactly, so if a guy doesn't make it till He is 45, He shouldn't get married?
The write-up is flawed to me too!

TashaPi:


Am tired of you men!! When it is a woman looking for a rich or comfortable man, she is a gold digger but when it is a man it is love. What gives you the right to judge anyone for wanting to be happy the way they want? I loved a fellow student and the year we graduated he married the daughter of a business mogul and now drives a big car and lives in luxury. He says he fell in love with her. So tell me why wont I want to fall in love with a rich man too? I believe any man who today does not understand the need to be financially independent still has a lot of growing up to do! You want her to support you with her hard earned money but you wont support her. You will enjoy the sex and her money, come clean mouth. Abeg go get a job, joor and stop embarrassing yourselves with this rubbish talks. @Mintayo just summed it well, a sensible man (girl) will work to support his woman (her man)!

Misogynist2014:
Like I told justfollowit , it is manly to collect a woman's money. I didn't come to this world to serve a woman, she came to serve me. All I have, she doesn't lack, except for my powerful and mighty dïck. She's got no excuse.

OrlandoOwoh:

Is it not better for one to get married at 45 when he has enough money than to keep changing girlfriends he spends money on but leave him because the money is not enough. Think of the trauma he will be passing through.

pcguru1:
This what happens when kids gain access to free Internet. So what happened to those who are young and getting married. Keep following your mentality am sure you will be one to raise a teenager when you are supposed to retire. This is why I hate nairaland everything has to be battle of the sexes. Someone has a bad experience with a girl or a guy and the rest of us are suppose to take the blame for others. Anyway back to my section. This section is full of it. Adams wedding is his business not mine.

castruccio:


Ok oooo Agarawu I no fit shout at least i know say ma name go de forbes list last last *sips orijin*