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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Lordave: 8:50am On May 18, 2015 |
Nnemuka:Don't worry, I'll always stand by you. |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by tucky200(m): 8:51am On May 18, 2015 |
XBLadez: 1 Like
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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by tiredface: 8:51am On May 18, 2015 |
SHE'S A BISEXUAL. YOUR CHOICE SIR |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by menxer: 8:52am On May 18, 2015 |
Bros, we all ve a past, some are darker and dirtier than others. if u know in ur heart u won't be able to digest and excrete what she told u about herself, and still love her with pride, shut down. ![]() |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by NZEGWUAGU(m): 8:52am On May 18, 2015 |
Run please. She's not good for you! If events had not twisted out of her control she would never have told you and I'm sure that love-vendor is doing her as well. For the love-vendor to call you to ask why you have not been talking her on the phone meant both of them are still in good contact. Please run for your life. She is a wh ore 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by francopido(m): 8:52am On May 18, 2015 |
My brother,if u love urself run for ur life. Cos lesbos never change. If at any point in time,u guys have any misunderstanding,she will always go to her lesbian lover to console her and u know what that means. So wise up bro,the ball is in ur court. 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Lordave: 8:53am On May 18, 2015 |
Joel3:Nobody will kill you if you write in your local dialect 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 8:53am On May 18, 2015 |
Everyone has a past mehn so we can't be judgemental,but we mustnt have to deal and suffer the consequences of some peoples past,I'm not looking to find my wife in all these church meeting,women go useless their lives finish,you go come see dem for redeem camp hoping to find a descent guy. Ok na 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by tutucious(f): 8:53am On May 18, 2015 |
The problem is u... Think of ur own past before placing judgement... Everyone has a past including u... But if u cannot live with the information please don't go into the marriage and punish the innocent girl... If God is to judge u I wonder if u will be here typing. Mtcheew |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by free2ryhme: 8:54am On May 18, 2015 |
pukena: Guy try see reason not to |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by TheFilmmaker: 8:55am On May 18, 2015 |
Nnemuka: ![]() *sips petrol* ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by charlesucheh(m): 8:56am On May 18, 2015 |
That's not a past, it's her biological make up. She might still love you oooo and can also rescind. There's what we call "SITUATIONAL CRIME" or rather oppourtunity in criminology, it simply means that, when she's exposed to her lesbians folks, there's a 90% chance that she will go back to the old life. In essence, what i'm suggestion is that she should be rehabilitated(isolated from them) and re-integrated into a her normal sexual life. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by ommo(m): 8:56am On May 18, 2015 |
pukena: I do not comment on peoples' personal life, but, i will break this rule and plead with you to please FORGIVE her. We do so many things in the past we later regret in life and this is one instance. If promise to truly change, you need to help her in that regard. Leaving her might push her back to these acts again. Take this has your own contribution to saving her in particular and the human race as a whole. Marry her is another subject altogether. That is a decision you have to sit down and weigh the consequences before taking, but, please forgive her from the bottom of your heart. We all have our pasts, and we always ask God for forgiveness and He always forgives us. Moreover, she did those things before meeting you, therefore, they are in the past. For the feelings, they will come with time my guy. Thank you |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by dapsin999(m): 8:59am On May 18, 2015 |
eyeview: 1000 likes. You spoke my mind 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Lillee: 8:59am On May 18, 2015 |
My dear brother. Make your choice. Don't marry her if u can't trust her. If u can forgive her and trust her, then marry her and move on. She is not different from most girls that sleep with men only hers was with women. Life is not fair. She is caught so every tom dick and harry is yarning poooh. Hmmm most ladies sleep out with men 4 money and the still are hapily married even wen their husbands were once their customers. Follow your heart. |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 9:02am On May 18, 2015 |
Don't do it bro. We all av our past,hers just came hunting her. Its true what she did was a wrong thing bt the truth is that she seems to have regreted her actions. Moreso,i want to besiege u that their are things u need to know as a man so that u dont fall a prey. Demand meeting that guy in person and make enquiry into the scandal so that they don't use ur head. U might decide hire a secret investigator,that's my field anyway. U need it so as to get to the root of this matter.only if u truly love her like u pose 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by preetyb(f): 9:02am On May 18, 2015 |
Well my adivice to you is, you should break up with her if u knw you cant forgive her now. It will be better for her to move on without you now than to be with u and always feel guilty and ashame. Because unforgiveness will always bring down a relationship or marriage no matter how long and how well it had been. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by xcesswag(m): 9:03am On May 18, 2015 |
Bro.....u've got a past too.....just look past errytin nd take ur wife to d altar......u gotta av a forgiving mind keh.....peace |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by dacillin: 9:04am On May 18, 2015 |
i read with keen interest d OP post n comments of d NLanders. D point is can d OP forgive n forget? U may forgive her now, can u forget in d future. YES! We all have a past bt, a past u cant cope with in d future we dont go there at all. U cant marry out of pity. Let assume, u forgive her now n u marry her, if she misbehave attimes u may use her past to abuse her OR she came home late, uy mind will think she is back in her old way{if u abuse her in marriage will be more fatal than wen u r courting}. OP think abt it very well, can u forgive n forget her past now n especially in d future. Remember, is better to have broken relationship than divorce marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by tommywise: 9:06am On May 18, 2015 |
He is not marrying her past. Show me a man without a past. |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by einsteino(m): 9:06am On May 18, 2015 |
Its ur life sha. for me i cannot meet someone in december and start talking abt marriage in january. people pretend like madt, the only way to find out the true person is to have a long rship. i have dated an angel that turned out to be a demon later 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by yumyspiced(f): 9:06am On May 18, 2015 |
hmmmmm,not easy shaa...plz if you can't leave wit it,just move on,but you said you love her,anyway this is marriage,make the rit decision for urself... |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by einsteino(m): 9:07am On May 18, 2015 |
tommywise: wtf a man that is a gay or self services? Well it is his choice sha. |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by activefibre1(m): 9:08am On May 18, 2015 |
my guy , see in life there is always a pay back for all we do. To me i see this as someone with a scare tha vant be rubed off. So try to be her friend, and cut the relationship. Get someone else. Becos wen you both fight , i wont be surprised if you use her past against her again, just to drive home a point. Trust is dead in this. Pity is not to be excersied in this relationship. Be her friend, help her out, but deep in u , u knw you cant continue. This is the purpose why u came into her life in the first place. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by situationroom: 9:09am On May 18, 2015 |
all this girls forming Oprah Winfrey and Trisha..if the guy was a bad ass cultists or a serial woman beater..Shea Una for run now ur here pretending to understand the past..my guy if u no fit abeg free d babe 4 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Acidosis(m): 9:12am On May 18, 2015 |
Move on, OP. Her past will always distort the relationship. That guy won't stop calling/threatening you. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by scait(m): 9:13am On May 18, 2015 |
she told you about her past, that's sincerity, some others wouldn't. Try investigate her faith, salvation, if it's genuine. Pray to get a direction from God. |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by eyeview: 9:16am On May 18, 2015 |
For all those making excuses that the op has a past too, they should be made to know that unnatural sexual preferences(lesbianism,homosexuals,bestality,paedophiles etc) is not a past. It is a past, a present and a future. Its not like a one-time accident. And it is also worrisome that most girls on this thread are of the stand that everybody has a dark past and secrets. Please, they should change that impression as its the quickest way the devil is getting them to do things they will later regret in life. Its not everybody that has such. I can boldly play out my whole life for my kids to watch and won't be ashamed of it. Always live a life you could be proud of when your kids say "mum,dad I want to live my life exactly the way you didl" 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Namzy(m): 9:16am On May 18, 2015 |
Don't usually give advice but in this case I'll be making an exception.......... Call the blackmailing dude and request for the site to see her pictures and get that over with, think long and hard and decide if you'll continue. I didn't believe her when she said she came to tell you her past life @lunch the truth i believe is the guy was already blackmailing her and she decided to come forward. You gotta see those pics man then decide. Forgiving her past life esp in this magnitude ain't easy forget all those telling you its in the past most wont marry prostitutes when they find out. Let the nature of those pics decide cos they might surface later and begin another phase 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 9:17am On May 18, 2015 |
Just end that relationship immediately. She is deep into that shit even for a website to be mentioned. She wants to 'retire' with you. That's bullshit. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by elantraceey(f): 9:19am On May 18, 2015 |
Like seriously , break up with her? ![]() To me you never loved her, it was just infatuation because if you really did , this will not spoil it, come on who is without mistakes and faults tell me? Is there not something you've done before that you're currently ashamed of? Or have you always being a saint? Love forgives and forget, if you truly love her you'll forget about it and block that guys number. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by arsetalks(m): 9:21am On May 18, 2015 |
I don't want to be in your shoes right now. It is a sad place to be. One thing you should know is, we all have our past and it is only you who can tell if truly she has changed or not. 1 Like |
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