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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 9:22am On May 18, 2015 |
sinaj:hahaha |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Owoplenty(m): 9:23am On May 18, 2015 |
hazydon:she's delivered,so stop pushing the guy hard. |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 9:23am On May 18, 2015 |
Pls note: there is a difference btw a bisexual and a lesbian. If she is a true lesbo, she will never marry. But if some circumstances forced her to marry, you will never have sexual satisfaction together becs she will never really be unto you. Its not wickedness on her part but forces beyond her power. If, however, she is kinky, by which I mean if she is bisexual, she may or may never leave her way. She may even fall in love with you but that will not stop her desire to have flings with other women once there is such opportunities. It all depends on whether you can bear it when she decides to let loose. Mind you, most women are kinky in one form or the other. Go and read a book written by one Nancy titled "Woman on Top" |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by akpamfet: 9:24am On May 18, 2015 |
oyin17: You are the only realistic person here...others Na text book advice... 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by richard870(m): 9:24am On May 18, 2015 |
@Op, Are you saying people's advice is what you need to make such a critical Decision ? |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by focus7: 9:26am On May 18, 2015 |
Op don't break with lady as everyone has a past though some are more despicable, the most important thing is to be sure that it has truly become her past and not that she's pretending. Make all the necessary findings you can about her present life to ascertain she's no longer into act and if your proves it has become a past please her past be and help her to move forward. |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Joel3(m): 9:26am On May 18, 2015 |
Lordave:are you crazy. check the correction. it's as a result of rush mistake and phone typing change if words. corrected. |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by chidinwachukwu(m): 9:26am On May 18, 2015 |
Bro!,I kno you definitely loved her, bc if not you wont have asked for help. But let me tell you,all women are Natural lesbians,and at least 60percent of women are either actively practicing lesbianism,or have done it once in their lifetime.So your girl once a Lesbian is not a problem it's natural for women,But I will advice you to check the website to see hw active your woman is,if she is very very active a lesbian,then you have to look for love elsewhere,immediately she marries you and have kids,she will start it again,an the shame will be on you when people finds out,mayb she wants to hide under you.and why is she communicating with the guy trying to blackmail her? |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by NobleG1(m): 9:30am On May 18, 2015 |
pukena: Your woman is a runs girl. She's a liar and a cheater. Dump her a*ss real fast, or else she'll ruin your life. She's a lesbian (not her fault, she didn't create herself). It can't be cured, in as much as you can't cure being straight. She will always like women and she'll always have sex with women, and there's absolutely nothing you can do about it. Any lesbian or gay who's in a romantic relationship with the opposite sex, does so due to society pressure. Being a lesbian or gay in Nigeria is a punishable crime. Which I believe government should stop. You can't punish people for what they didn't create and can't control. I don't even mind having one as a girlfriend (not wife) because it may result into a hot three*some. I'm just kidding guys! ![]() Seriously, what upsets me is that she's a runs girl and she didn't plan telling you any damn thing about her runs life. If she actually wanted, she would have told you about it earlier or immediately when that call came. Even when you asked her about the call, she sat there and lied to you in your face! That's not the kind of behavior of someone who really wanted to tell you anything. If not for your persistence and the call you made to the guy, you wouldn't have known her runs life. If you truly want to be with someone for the rest of your life, the person deserves to know both your past and present life. By the way, how the hell did you meet her in December and engaged her already in January? What the hell is wrong with you? Why are you in a hurry to marry this woman? Did she push you into it? It's never a good idea to marry someone you just met so quickly. What you just found out about her is a good proof that should discourage men like you against jumping into marraige after you just met someone. Pipe down a bit and think! Nobody was meant for anyone. You can still get a better girl who doesnt have a nasty skeleton in her cupboard, a girl who's compatible with you and one you can still love. Don't listen to people on NL telling you to forgive and take her back. Don't forget that some of them here may be runs girls and boys or may have friends or siblings who do runs. They will naturally defend and support runs people. You can forgive her but don't marry her because you just dodged a bullet my friend. Go and celebrate. 8 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by preetyb(f): 9:30am On May 18, 2015 |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 9:34am On May 18, 2015 |
Hmmm... |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Besto(m): 9:34am On May 18, 2015 |
niggas be acting like if 2hot women shows up for 3some in his bed... he wudn't do the dew... its her past which in no way z ya bizzz... u just dey provoke for no cause.... the only probs i see here z the runs man flashing you.... abi him be gay ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by alexlee50: 9:35am On May 18, 2015 |
My guy, what she did in her past is past.she realized it was wrong and has moved forward in life.you should let her past be, she was not dating you then, and she did not you.she has confessed to you and has shown her willingness to move ahead with you, encourage her.As for the blackmailer, invite him for drinks with, then get the sss or police to arrest him.blackmail is a serious offence and should not be taken lightly. |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 9:39am On May 18, 2015 |
Going through the posts here got me scratching my head. Let me ask, can any of you marry an ashawo? Because na ashawo she be but into women. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 9:39am On May 18, 2015 |
adellam16: If women werent so easy to entice men wouldnt patronize we will look for another sport,women are our kryptonite.it takes the grace of God to turn down women advances.if more women decide to work legitimately,more men will respect them and take them serious. |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Qmab: 9:40am On May 18, 2015 |
Pukena, try s much as possible to make it work if you still love her. It will certainly be tough. But you should try. But if you are the type of person who find it hard to forget after forgiveness, desist from the relationship and let her go. But I'll let you know that human beings are no saints and know one is perfect. I believe if you truly love her, you will help her get past through it. Help her believe that despite her past, she can still be a better person. She can still be loved for the person she has become. If you leave her now, how do you think she will perceive the world afterwards. No one's perfect. And there's no perfection in love. |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by xdos(m): 9:42am On May 18, 2015 |
Most guys neglect a lady with a past only to go for a lady with no future... The truth is that most ladies have in one way or the other engaged in the act of lesbianism especially those who attended all girls school... Truly I see no wrong in continuing with her... The repentant ones are very awesome.. trust me... But if you can't handle it, dont even bother trying to manage it... let go! 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by yakbauer: 9:43am On May 18, 2015 |
This is heavy and very dicy, it's easy for everyone here to run their mouths coz most of em haven't experienced what u just did, even I pray neva to. Tasking you to forgive her is easy, but deep down I'm sure that tot will forever haunt u and if I'm not wrong I'm sure one of those sleepless nights you've had u were tempted to click on that link and watch that video, it's human u r bound to succumb to those fears. No disrespect to the ladies but "all sins are forgivable but not all are forgettable".....if u r sure you'll neva bring this up when u and her have a heated argument, then I think u can still mend this relationship (I really doubt this coz it'll happen like a reflex). But if u will, then bro trust me you'll b doing yourself and her a very big favour by parting ways. I believe a wife is like your grave, u neva know who you'll eventually settle with, if it's meant to b her, trust me even if u catch her in the act, all you'll do is cry and starve but you'll still take her back. Deep down I feel there's a part of your heart that's already taken a stand, u r here to know if it's d right one, well that word "empathy" ain't real, no two ppl can react to d same situation, all we'll do is tell u what we would do if we find ourselves in that situation. In summary PRAY AND FOLLOW UR HEART.... ALL THE BEST 2 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by WFW15: 9:47am On May 18, 2015 |
Thanks for sharing this. The decision to move on or stay is ultimately with you but here are what I would consider if I were in your shoes: 1. Her honesty in sharing her past with you is commendable considering that you have only known her for a few months. Many are married for years and have never found out about their partner's past. I know of a friend who only discovered his wife had a lesbian sexual experience after they broke off an 11 year marriage. She could have lied to you at that lunch. 2. What is Love: Love is when you have known enough about someone like their history, weaknesses and strengths and you still consciously accept them unconditionally or if you accept someone unconditionally regardless of their history, weaknesses and strengths. Therefore, if you truly love her, her past should not change your acceptance of her. 3. I would get in touch with that guy and get all the information he has. It is essential to get all the facts before you decide no matter how unpleasant they may be. If you have lived, you will have a past you are not proud of. You can go on to have a honest and secured relationship with her because she has been truthful with her past and desires to put it behind her. I have no objection to all these advise on deliverance but let's be clear that the Bible says FLEE EVIL DESIRES (2Tim2:22). Deliverance is not deliverance if you don't flee that past. Fleeing is a conscious decision to severe/separate from the past and it appears that is what she is trying to do or has done. Finally, do not let this issue cloud your judgment on all the other good things about her. |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Joel3(m): 9:49am On May 18, 2015 |
she has retired and looking for poor nigga to tie down, this is bulls.hit, and this prove we still have fool in the society just remind me of escort. find quote below
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Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Beface(m): 9:53am On May 18, 2015 |
Namzy:I concord with you completely. She cannot claim it's her past of three (3) years ago and still have contact with her agent (that guy). Assuming it between you and her it would have be easy to deal with but now that it involve another party (the guy blackmailing her) you can't tell what he has in mind. Love is a choice,so you have to decide if you trust her enough to be your wife but you should have this at the back of your mind that you are liable to the consequence of your decision not God! I pray God gives you the wisdom and the ability to stand by your decision. 1 Like |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Lordave: 9:54am On May 18, 2015 |
Joel3:And you want me to believe you? Your case dey head master's office. Anyway, we stand to gain almost nothing for typing in correct English on this type of thread, don't take it seriously, was just kidding. |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by justwise(m): 9:56am On May 18, 2015 |
elantraceey: Love is also about letting her go to be with somebody who accepts her sexuality and way of life, if you love somebody you want that person to be happy, if this lady is a lesbian for real then forget it, she will always fancy another girl even after marriage. People are saying forgive her because its her past...no its not her past, For any girl to like women to the point of being an escort and having a love-vendor then that is not just try-sexual, she is into it. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Z8(m): 10:01am On May 18, 2015 |
pukena: your woman's story doesn't add up!! She wasn't going to tell you that day before the call came in. If she was when you asked who called she would have come clean then and there. "she followed me back to my office. I turned to see her following and wanted to blow up when she calmly said " emmanuel, just know that all ds things happened in the past. am not proud of it but I hv moved on. I came to tell u about it today before d call came in". with that she turned and left" ... that's just reversed psychology designed to make you feel bad for when you did nothing wrong!! The guys now wants to "help" your relationship after all he said in the phone? I smell lies!! lies everywhere!! Nothing wrong with having a past, but lying and hiding it is a problem. 3 Likes |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by aphildam(m): 10:04am On May 18, 2015 |
All was fine until the devil came, the devil is labeled the accuser of the brethen b4 God. If u re truly saved let go of the past (phil 3:13 ....forgetting those things that are behind.....) ...If God does not jugde us based on our past, who are we to jugde. A wonderful scripture i read Romans 5:8--But God commendeth is love 2ward us,in that while we were yet sinners,christ died for us.. if the most high shewed so great grace until who are we to hold judgement against our fellow... 2 corin 5:17 If she's renewed she's new.....because christ made us perfect b4 God.... . FORGIVE THAT YOUR HEAVENLY FATHER MAY FORGIVE YOU.... BE YE PERFECT AS YOUR HEAVEANLY FATHER IS PERFECT |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 10:06am On May 18, 2015 |
If you know u are not ready to cope with her past life dont even think of accepting her back becos somewhere in the future you will definetly bring that issue up in the heat of a dissagreement and that may cause a rift in ur marriage.. Bros, if u knw wan divorce and u no say u no fit forget, hmmmm better let her go now... |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by twosquare(m): 10:11am On May 18, 2015 |
pukena:1 corinthians 13. Pls you don't know what love is yet. Are u a christian? Yet u go to the gathering of the saints and you can't forgive what is in the past? Let's make a wish that God won't forgive u all ur sins! How will u feel? If God can overlook our trespasses, how much what He required from us to forgive and love one another!! Even, the next person u wanna date, u don't even know what she has done. So, I pray thee: if because of that u lose ur enthusiasm, then you don't love her in the first place; u're simply being infatuated! |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by hemmaoshos(m): 10:13am On May 18, 2015 |
You are missing the big picture... You need to investigate the guy, who claimed too have some photo of your lesbian GF.. I promise you, he will surely come back after you both are joined in holy matrimony to screw her badly, over and over again...she is not the devil..love her and take good care of her because she is better than the Angel you don't know... |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by zizirecords(m): 10:23am On May 18, 2015 |
Wow! You just spoke my mind! The OP should dump her very fast! When things get bad in the marriage, she will revert to her old ways. NobleG1: |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by Nobody: 10:26am On May 18, 2015 |
op... all i can say to u about is that... no one is petfect,not even u... we all av our faults in different areas... just know, that trait will always be in her and can come up anytime in the future... u can take for deliverance if you want but it doesnt go away just like that... if u truly love her, just learn to accept whollly as she is... pray for her too. .wish u d bst man |
Re: My Fiance Was A Lesbian. Should I Still Marry her? by keni: 10:33am On May 18, 2015 |
Hmmnn it is well, but ponder on this 1. Nobody wants to open a new bank salary account with a debit balance of 10m, that's what this baggage (The love-vendor & That Website/Link) will do to your marraige. 2. Some of us here or someone that looks up to u as "egbon" will still stumble upon that link one day 3. She might have changed but how do you want to deal issues when the normal marital fights occur in the future 4. Its not a issue of threat she is still cool with the love-vendor that's why he confidently called you. To the single guys here you don't need a link or the love-vendor to find out wide this lesbianism has spread Do this: 1. Go on twitter- See hundreds of ladies who seek other ladies - check their followings & followers and you will be amazed at the number of those that are not even ashamed of it. |
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