Rapmoney:
I know majority of Nigerians too lazy to read but it pays to most times

Below are some common fallacies most Nigerian guys have been pressured and deceived over the years to believe . You might hold a different opinion from these but emerging 'trends' and 'happenstances' in our society clearly point to the fact that these common beliefs no longer hold weight and logic and therefore, may be seen as nonsense!

1) #You can only find someone who truly loves you when you are still struggling#: Bullcrap! Nonsense! So we were told while we were younger! Now, we know better . It is as good as saying 'only poor men find real love'. Imagine that!!! It means 2Face Idibia must have married a bad wife; a woman who doesn't have real love for him because he met her after he attained fame! How fallacious this sounds! Whether you like it or not, there are classes in our society and one should strive to attain the class he feels he wants his would-be wife to come from . I just feel people who still hold this opinion are suffering from a psychology that promotes inferiority complex! Finding a good wife or a woman that truly loves you has nothing to do with struggling! If you are comfortable and finds a woman that is as comfortable as you and in your class, would you say she's after your wealth?

2) #Even if there's no money, when we give birth, children will bring blessings#: Don't allow anyone deceive you, folks. Yeah, blessings come but do not put the life of somebody's daughter at risk and endangering the lives of the tiny legs you would produce because you don't have enough to cater for them!!! Even Jesus Christ, in the Bible(the synoptic gospels), admonished Christians to calculate the cost of something before embarking on it, else the enemies mock the person that he couldn't maintain what he started (call me Pastor Rapmoney ) Truth be told, it would take the grace of God to maintain peace and ensure fidelity in a home that lacks money in these modern times!

3) #Beautiful women have bad attitude#: We can as well say 'ugly women have nice attitude No one is perfect! What you might admire in someone could be different from what the next man would admire in them. Who says a woman cannot be beautiful within and in the outside? It doesn't mean you should place all your bets on big buttocks, pointed boobs and pretty face but I tell you today, marrying a woman who is very presentable doesn't make you a fool or criminal! I love beautiful women

4)#A man should set a woman up financially#: Another bunkum!!! Marriage involves two people who are emotionally, psychologically, spiritually and financially mature! I strongly believe that ladies should as well be financially ready before they get married. It is not just a man's thing. If he goes out to win the bread, you as the woman, should also go out to win the akara. You would attract more respect by such from the man. Men hardly misbehave when they are aware that their wife is financially strong too . It is better to marry a woman that has acquired her degree or into one profession, business, trade or occupation than to get married to a woman who does nothing, sits and folds her hands, waiting for a man to come and marry her in order to take away her burden! Are you getting married to a human being or a burden?

5) #Money is not all; what matters is love#: This is what most girls use to deceive guys on social media, including Nairaland. I always say it that it is only on NL and other social media that girls are quick to say this trash! Most girls can't practise it in real life. They only say this to create what I call 'social media good face' . Same girl that says this online will operate in the opposite offline. Don't let them fool ya fellas!!! . Don't believe this! If you believe this, then you will surely believe anything. It existed in the past...not now. The society has transformed to something else and it is either you follow up or get left behind; simple truth! Make good money and you won't even have time to listen to such trash!!!

A word is enough for the wise!

Good day folks!

KAPOVee:
nice write-up

Itzmodella:
I hope your fellow niccurs sees this

chowlade:
u r on point

Princecalm:
the annoying part is that guys will still knowingly/unknowingly fall for this.

ronald4lif:
Another banger from the stables of rapmoney.

I agree with number 2. There are a lot of couple you see struggling and doing menial jobs that can hardly fend for themselves but keep breeding kids basking in the euphoria that these kids are blessings from God. The challenges and conditions these kids go through while growing up is sometimes unsavoury for even animals. Some end up hawking wares on the streets because their parents couldn't fund their education. Yet they say they are blessings. Two people fxck each other and produce kids that they can't take care of and say they are blessings from God. Why not stop fxckin' and breeding if you are not sure of providing them with the basics of life?.

At your number 4 point yes they should have some financial leanings and stability before marriage too, no matter how little their earnings are. It would go a long way to alleviating the financial burdens on the man. But I don't think it should be a problem for a man to set up a business for his wife. Every responsible man should be able and proud to that. Not a problem.

On the 5th point I will just

Rapmoney:
I see u bro! Though, I didn't say it is wrong if a man opens business for a woman but what I am against is women sitting idly, waiting for a man to come and set them up

Rapmoney:
That's why this thread is necessary

naijaboiy:
I totally agree with you Op for the first time.

ronald4lif:


Yes, I get the point now. Guy, it would shock you to know that there are some women who are too lazy to even wake up in the morning and go to a shop to sell their wares. Some believe that the role of a woman are confines in taking care of the kids, cleaning and cooking.

Don't you know many women who are graduates idling at home without a job everyday around you?. Do you think their hubby don't want to fund a business for them or if they even care of engaging themselves in anything meaningful?. Some don't care.

prettythicksme:
Nice write up op but i dont want to agree with u on dat cos money is very good ooo u cant understand!Bleep love without money

Rapmoney:
Locum cicartum!!! Wonders shall never end! First time na ijaboiy is in agreement with me!

Yea! Especially that number two.

It's very ridiculous,,honestly.

Itzmodella:
This your modus operandi is getting boring!!
Why cant you just make your point and move on? Must you write long epistles to pass your message across?

Why is his mode of expressing himself or passing a message hitting your nerves?

Itzmodella:
This your modus operandi is getting boring!!
Why cant you just make your point and move on? Must you write long epistles to pass your message across?

Rapmoney:
Same thing here mami I know money is good hence my advice