emperorchedda:
lol

People like you are the ones that guys use to their satisfaction before dumping your proud asss.

Which guy's mother will accept a FEMALE that regards herself in the same level as the MALE

Even the bible said the MAN is the head...goodluck though

RedBenson:


How about severally coming to sleep and leave the next day? She is still a visitor? She has already started showing bad characters and the guy should know what he's about to delve his hands into, else, he will be the one going to market to buy grayfish, pumpkins and tomatoes and come cook for her and as well as washing her undies for her when they finally get married.

Kingsleyinfo:


Just as I can also replace or add to her as I please

khia:


Wow!! Because she doesn't like doing dishes you call her a hoe, what kind of culture is this?

khia:


A civilised man. The bible said nothing about a woman being a man's slave, helpmate yes, there is a difference and some of you men should learn it.

TheSonOfMark:

Just true-to-type. When confronted with well-articulated facts or compounding questions, you lots resort to being vituperative and hurling scathing invectives. As predictable as clockwork.

Kingsleyinfo:


Bros I personally make it a point of duty to cook for my first time visiting girlfriends. It usually drives home the point of what is expected.

First time even tenth time, as long as she is still in girlfriend zone, my kitchen is a no no for her.

The fastest way to a man's heart is through his stomach I nor dey play rough play reach there.

My problem is that the lady is no longer the typical visitor, she is now a familiar spirit
She should be free to do some chores around the house she plans on living after marriage. Abi the 'fiancee' na just for mouth?

Let me give you another story. I had this friend who was living in the elder brothers house after graduation, and he really enjoys cooking.
The elder brothers fiancee would come and he would cook, while she would be in the room playing romance with the brother.

Now food is ready, she comes out and serves herself and this very humble fellow clears the kitchen.

She didnt see anything wrong with it, even the elder brother didnt see anything wrong with it. He was an easy going person so he felt maybe it's because she was still a fiancee/visitor cos she usually comes from Lagos.

When they eventually got married, that was when this lady really showed this guy her true color. She would buy things from the market and be waiting for this guy to prepare the meals. Now my friend started getting angry, but it was already too late, the lady had been given the impression that he was okay with the arrangement. When he tried to point it out to his elder brother, he took sides with the wife. My friend just adviced himself and moved back to their parents house, before a girl he is quite older than turns him to househelp because he was being nice.

So Bros I have seen this kind of scenario play out before, if the younger brother doesn't make his statement now, he should be ready to keep serving that lady.

No properly brought up lady will finish eating, (am not even saying she should cook o) and leave HER plates in the sink for anyone to wash, let alone a grown man of over 25 years. While she calls herself someone's fiancee. That sp called elder brother needs deliverance.

Personally I would have jokingly talked my younger bro to clear the dishes. I will not subject him to such insults just because I pay his fees, just like I will not compel my fiancee to wash my younger brothers dish, simply because she is a woman.

Everyone must understand his/her place, I don't take rubbish from ladies, fiancee or not.

khia:


A civilised man. The bible said nothing about a woman being a man's slave, helpmate yes, there is a difference and some of you men should learn it.

freecocoa:
You are just a dolt, how can you know? Being single is not a bad thing btw, some people actually are, by choice, grow some sense my friend, it really doesn't hurt.

RedBenson:
A neighbourhood brother was seriously angry with his younger bro this morning when he realised that the plates his fiancee ate with when she visited last night was not washed by his younger brother.

The guy may have purposely refused to wash the plates because he believes it's an insult for a lady (be it his senior or junior) to have eaten from a plate and lacked the basic womanly manners to leave it unwashed.

Since the dude who's a student and well over 25yrs realised that a lady, who should be respecting men would rather try to bring him down to that extent and had thus refused to wash the plates.

This issue actually caused an uproar between the two brothers up to the point the elder brother was telling the younger one "finish your school asap and leave my house...nonsense".

Well, the elder brother later went and washed the plates furiously angry without his sibling. The fact that he even supported the lady on such act is what surprised everyone.

The question is, what RIGHT does a lady (be it a wife or fiancee) have to keep the plates she ate with for her brother in-law to come wash for her? Who should rather do that to who? Smh @women of nowadays. No iota of manners in them again.

suzzy16:
bt wait,does being submissive means a good wife,I think love matters most,cos there re some cases,the wife is over submissive,bt d husband ignore her and still cheat on her

nwadiuko1:
I think that word" visitor" in the Nigerian context does not really mean what you think it means.......well I erm stand to be corrected

khia:



Op you are confusing alot of people, who has the fiance, the elder or the younger brother?

nepp:


What do u expect? In a nigerian home, the boys are taught to take a chill while the girls clean up after them...
Very poor home training..
When I have kids both my son and daughter would learn to cook, clean and be homely it only makes them better people.
Every day of a nigerian daughters life she's constantly being taught on how to please men. The sons are never taught on how to please women.

amokeme:
am just lazy but I do things when necessary.. ( there is a difference btwn being lazy and dirty)
The girl should have washed the plates tho..

khia:



Op you are confusing alot of people, who has the fiance, the elder or the younger brother?

Sophyrocks:


Gbam!! Nigerian females are trained to be handicapped and crippled like babies. Infact parents teach them nothing. When they eventually go to school and live independent lives it becomes a prblem for them to even feed themselves and keep their environment clean. Thats why you see some of them very dirty like pigs. Very bad home training! Look at the result now. They are waiting for imaginary maids to cater to them like handicaps.

Kingsleyinfo:
In the literal sense the FIANCEE is a 'visitor' who came to pay a visit.

Technically, the FIANCEE has gone beyond the 'visitor' tag.

This is clearly a handshake that has gone beyond the elbow.

Wisdom is profitable to direct, personally except the fiancee is way older than the younger brother
she berra get her behind into the kitchen and do the dishes. Jeez what kind of mother brought her up in an African country.

Am even more ashamed for the brother. He should have some shame for himself, just because he pays the brother's school fees
he has lost all reasoning and sense of decency. A guy that couldn't handle an issue with his younger brother wants to get married

Something is already fundamentally wrong here.

I feel pity for women who feel the need to invoke their feminist traits only when it suits their purpose. Those types are the worst kind of hypocrites on earth.

God help my generation.

RedBenson:


Whatever! Your egoistic and unwomanly characters are the bane of your singleness. I've just told the truth. If you like, work to amend it or still stay single where you are.

Sacluxpaint:


Ofcourse as you said, helpmate she should be helping around instead of lacking courtesy, only poisoned feminists' minds will see it as slavery.

freecocoa:
And your point is? Please do well to point out the well articulated facts and compounding questions that I have neglected but instead started being insulting.

Or are you just looking for someone to practice some choice words on?

netizenbuzz:


And i pity men who want to uphold status quo just because it suits their self of entitlement

Kingsleyinfo:


My dear being submissive isn't a recipe for 'not cheating'

Just as dishing out cash doesn't stop a girl from 'cheating on you'

Everything has to be in their right perspective.

We always have this mentality that because I do this or that, I expect this and that. NO!!

Do what you know is right, it doesn't matter if the guy or girl notices it or not, what's more important is do what you know is right.

Call a spade a spade. If you are not respectful, you are not respectful, it has absolutely nothing to do with anybody.

Attitude is everything, including marriage.

Kingsleyinfo:


OK... I agree with your point....

RedBenson:


By all ramifications, it's wrong, very very wrong for a lady to eat and leave the plate for an in-law, a male in-law for that matter to come wash the plate. Dont you have respect for men folks? If you try that, it means you can as well leave the plate you ate for your husband to come wash it while you cross your legs at the sitting room watching nollywood movie. If he agrees to do this, then the next you remind him of your undies that had been soaked for days and need to be washed and get dried.

RedBenson:


How? So men should begin to do women things before you women would see men as rightly raised? Who should wash plates in the real sense? Be sincere to yourself.

amokeme:
I don't like doing dishes .. She might be like me

TheSonOfMark:

Obviously my reputation preceeds me.


He, RedBenson, opined that you are "hopelessly single" premised on your near-misandry assertions and your ultra-feministic views which few men would endure. Instead of stating facts to back your assertions, you went on a name-calling tirade.
Still think I am needlessly picking on you?

christabeli:
You need help. Your perception about women is something else. Your emphasis since you started this thread has been on "Mere woman, Almighty Man". You are an accident waiting to happen except you change.

RedBenson:


The elder bro of course. Nothing to be confused about. It's clearly stated.

spicykev:
Yea, u are one Nigerian that has spoken her mind....I noticed most pple here are just following the crowd, some cannot sit down for a minute and analyze the whole story the guy has put up. its not only a woman's responsibility to ensure peace in a home, its a collective responsibility, ego is something that can reduce someone or deprive people of better opportunities, I have seen it happen.I am not a proponent of arrogance and will never be,am only analyzing a situation from my church mind( lol) all am saying is that there is a way the guy wld have managed the situation and no body wld hear a thing. He could have washed the plates and table his case before the brother properly, everybody wld be happy and he won't be told to leave.....wisdom is profitable to.....

I can't agree less. You HV said it all. I hope some hypocrites will pick a moral from your points.... Just one moral...lol...that won't be asking for too much

freecocoa:
You must be delusional to think I know you or your perceived reputation, wtf?

And what you call well articulated fact is a strangers opinion of me? An opinion he holds as an insult to my person, need I say. What assertions do I need facts to back up? And the names calling was not in response to his insults/derogatory comments?

Are you sure you are alright?

It really must be painful being a haggard spinster at age 43 like Bimbo Akintola. I understand your plight. How's your menopausal pain been? Still jaw-clenching?