Kingsleyinfo:


Oga madam, nor be me start thread oh....
No I measure my worth by how much Impart on society at large.

I took a course on gender and sex roles, and I can confidently tell you that women are more equipped to handle certain issues than men,
Just as men are more equipped to handle some issues than women.

The fact is i find most women rather emotional than rational, while it isnt such a bad thing, it sometimes ruins discusions where objectivity is called for.

Now back to topic, a supposed fiancee visits her fiance and the brother, and after eating food that could have been prepared by anyone left her own very plate unwashed. The younger brother did not decide not to wash all the plates but simply refused to wash the plate the brothers fiancee used.

So please before you jump on a story go back to the first page. Dont try to be smart where common sense is all that is needed.

If you cant do others, at least do your own, but na lie, these bitter simpletons on nairaland cant just see A even if its as big as a house.

As for insult, trust me, I wasnt trying to, I was just stating an obvious fact. I nor dey like insult people online, try me face to face u go know say i pass basket mouth.

francizy:


Sorry to disappoint you, dssing you adds nothing to my qualifications so it's better leaving you to ponder about your childishness

TheSonOfMark:

'Fleabag' is a common "childish" name to your lots? Intriguing. This has got a curious spin to it. So, in which cave you raised?

Ibsgal:
While I agree that the lady should have washed her dishes, I find the younger brother's reasoning behind not washing them condescending. I can't get over the statement "a lady who should be respecting men would bring him down". Because of unwashed dishes? A woman is not required to respect a man just because he is a man, she should respect him if, and only if, he deserves it.

francizy:


Khiaa

Sophyrocks:


You have not answered my question. I see how you are trying to avoid it. The hypocrisy is glaring. End of discussion.

Sophyrocks:


See its because of what ive seen outside Nl i am saying this. There was this corper dude who was given accomodation by a working class lady. guess who was doing the cooking, cleaning and fetching of water? all because he was given accomodation o. I know this girl and her boyfriend who were living together in school. whenever this girl goes out, this guy goes with her o. to market nko? he follows her. Fetch water nko? he follows her. She was the one who practically fed him sef because his parents had nothing. when i see Nl dudes forming boss and hard men here nagging all day i laugh o.

Adaeze003:
One of the mere men woulda just washed the plate.

Kini big deal...

freecocoa:
I don't even have a problem with a woman spending on a man, but it's just so annoying seeing these ones here acting like they are some sort of demi god because they posses a penis, like who in their right minds reason like these ones? Come and see men with sophistication respecting women and these ones that are yet to have a proper bath are here forming boss, check well now, that one called sonofwhatever does boy boy for one girl.

emperorchedda:
The bible clearly said the man is the HEAD, the head is the leader.

You must respect your leader

Oildichotomy:
Oh really?

And you did this Free cocacola

Kingsleyinfo:


Which question are you so desperately seeking answer to?

Oh the money part... You see I was actually going to answer that, then i felt what the heck, I don't want to look like am bragging.

I care for my fiancee, in more better ways than money can ever do. She is working class and doesnt bug me with, money for hair like some lazy girls do. We know how to have fun and hang out at cool spots when we can find the time. Plus she values my time more, because that is what i have little of. So you see she is a keeper, not like you thats looking for guys to pay her bills. Its called a relationship not a job opportunity.

Kingsleyinfo:


Which question are you so desperately seeking answer to?

Oh the money part... You see I was actually going to answer that, then i felt what the heck, I don't want to look like am bragging.

I care for my fiancee, in more better ways than money can ever do. She is working class and doesnt bug me with, money for hair like some lazy girls do. We know how to have fun and hang out at cool spots when we can find the time. Plus she values my time more, because that is what i have little of. So you see she is a keeper, not like you thats looking for guys to pay her bills. Its called a relationship not a job opportunity.

Betanwa:

Do u have a joystick

Adaeze003:


A million likes for this post. Nigerian parent forget to train their male children.

Back then, it was sensible that the boys went to farm with papa while girls did the chores and cooking but when education came, some people didn't know what to do with their male kids but still ensured that the girls were trained while going to school as well.

That's why some of these brats place themselves on a pedestal and think a girl is meant to serve them.

freecocoa:
Get your mind out of the gutter already, you are pervertedly filthy, it's nauseating. You sound like a retard for reals and you are very dumb atop, what a wasted combination.

I hate misogynists not men, your kind is everything wrong with the world, then you keep shouting spinster like it's a crime to be one, only on NL can one be caught in a conversation with something like yourself(thankfully I don't get to see your archaic face while at it). It would have been easier to just nicely ask that I engage you in a back and forth, instead of talking[/b]about facing facts and whatnot, you are a wimp.

It's 'conversing' and not 'talking'. Reserve the "thank you" for your sister's babydaddy.


Isn't ironic that you - a revived cryogenized gynohumanpid so facially wrinkled and fugly that she has remained faceless- could make allusions to faces?


I bet you even pray to get raped in your hopes of finally getting your inner pubes 'pumped' for free but alas! even bums would smirk their faces in disgust at your miserable carriage. Continue humping on your stuffed pillow; hopefully it'll make you orgasm and releave you of your pent-up frustrations.

netizenbuzz:


Let us be honest. If I was in the lady's shoe I would wash my own plate. Take note however, it is not because it's my fiancee's house. I'd do the same if I visited a girlfriend. What I don't agree with in the op's context however is that he stressed the fact that she's a woman and even used derogatory terms. I'd rather see men call out the op on his choice of words but well, this is Nigeria what else do you expect? Little things like this is why we still have so mich sexism in our country. Just the way a black man doesn't want to be seen less than a white, so is the same with women and men. I'm sure if it was the brother that left the plate and the fiance washed it, no one would barth an eye lid. No wonder a lot of women get disrespected by their inlaws.

freecocoa:
Aren't I just a fine hediot and the dumbest of them all? My case has no bearing to even start with, go play with myself, I am excruciatingly boring.

babygirlfl:


Sophyrocks, thanks for asking this question. So now it's called relationship not job opportunity, why did you not say something like it is called relationship not my maid when you were talking about a fiancee cleaning?

Sophyrocks:


I dnt have to prove anything to you so i dnt care how you see me. I am only concerned about the hypocrisy in your comments. and this particular one has proven me right. You talk about your fiancee taking care of her bills, why demand her to clean up after you still? why expect her to always do dishes for you even when she used the dishes if yu really dnt see anything in doing dishes as you said?

tivta:
Jesus christ. Yet again am not surprised, most girls on nairaland are obviously below 30. Visitor my ass. Am sure I know what part of the country that girl comes from. Lack of proper home bringing. If she put the plates in the kitchen wouldn't her chicken brain have told her to wash the plate? So the younger bro is now a house help abi? She must be a very very dirty woman. The fact you are a finance means you must take charge of maintaining the home. May God not allow reasonable men marry nairaland girls that think like this. What a disrespectful. Generation. God have mercy.

Sophyrocks:


Thank you! He said its not a job opportunity so we therefore can say its nt job for maid opportunity. Thats why i asked why demand a lady who isnt married to you to do dishes when you believe a relationship isnt a job opprtunity for a lady to demand for money. why assign the dishes to someone simply because she is female?

Elprinz:

lol... when does a man "deserve" this respect.
if he does the dishes? or if he lives by himself?

It's obvious the girl will never respect the younger brother no matter how "deserving"

Leaving the plates tells you all the respect he will ever get!!

kelechiMarie:
At first,i thought the girl is soo wrong but then i sat to think for a minute. From the op's post it is clear that the problem is not the dishes but the fact that it's a woman involved. I bet if it was his brother's friends that used the plates he wouldnt mind. If a visitor comes to my house(male or female)i'd clean up after them. For example,if my brother's fiance comes over she might offer to clear the table but i won't let her do the dishes,it's simple ettiquette.
That said,they're just making a mountain out of a molehill(over plates kwanu?). The younger bro sef
As for the op:you obviously have no respect for women and you possess a shallow,myopic level of reasoning

freecocoa:
I don't even have a problem with a woman spending on a man, but it's just so annoying seeing these ones here acting like they are some sort of demi god because they posses a penis, like who in their right minds reason like these ones? Come and see men with sophistication respecting women and these ones that are yet to have a proper bath are here forming boss, check well now, that one called sonofwhatever does boy boy for one girl.

khia:


You don't make any sense!!

Perfect excuse to mask your inability to be cognizant of words of the anglo lingua which are beyond your nadir-like intellience quotient?
Spotting simpletons like you is a stroll in a park.

babygirlfl:


Sophyrocks, thanks for asking this question. So now it's called relationship not job opportunity, why did you not say something like it is called relationship not my maid when you were talking about a fiancee cleaning?

Kingsleyinfo:


Young lady please grow some sense, I dont entertain foolishness.

So it is okay for the fiancee to eat and leave her plate unwashed for someone else just because she isnt a maid?

So who is a maid that will clean her dishes for her?

If you want to compare and contrast, at least try make some sense. Foolishness isnt a title na

emperorchedda:
When the empty vessels speak they use more derogatory terms

For the records I quoted the bible just for Christianity reference I don't believe in it

I pity the unfortunate man that will end up with a mannerless entity like you, you are a disgrace to your kinds.

You can as well get married to 2 men or more since your warped brain believes women are equal to men.

Cretin

khia:



I'm not talking about what your mom does, if you want to use your culture as the guideline to the responsibilities of a woman and a man, do it all the way don't just pick out the things that cater to you.
If a woman's duties is to take care of the home, so be it but don't expect her to go out and work her butt off to help you do your job (providing for the home) when you can't in return help her in the home.

Simply put, do YOUR job (to provide) and let her do her job (the upkeep of the house) and stop being lazy and selfish.

Kingsleyinfo:


Are you really learning how to be sarcastic or this is how your brain functions on a normal day.
So if a lady uses dishes she should leave them for someone else to wash? Just like i should finsih eating in a restaurant and call my gf to pay ba?

Shoro niyen?

Walai na small thing remain I for think say GEJ na your father.