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Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by AZeD1(m): 12:37pm On May 28, 2015 |
9jatatafo:Stop spreading the fallacy of everybody has secrets or everybody has a past (when i say past i mean a shady past). Lots of people don't have skeletons in their cupboards, if you do, you should be man/woman enough to own up and admit it. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by dotna(m): 12:41pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi: Great advice. Thanks 2 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by LuvSwollenPussy(m): 12:42pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:True write up but I don't really agree with this point. Faithfulness and conscience are not same. Your repentance isn't complete without confession to d cheated fellow..even God doesn't term that a complete repentance. If repentance was just enough, bill and hillary clinton won't be together today. Bill cheated with a worker in d white house(monica lewisky) but confessed to his wife..of course she was hurt but forgave him afterwards. Later when the trial of his impeachment came up in court, his wife stood by him as opposed to what ppl expected. Many ppl dnt knw their spouse as much as outsiders know them until they get disrespected publicly for their spouse's action I remember my mum used to warn me at tender age that if I do anything wrong I should confess and prepare my mind for the consequence b4 d offended fellow finds out by him/herself. You'll gain more honor dat way..and dat I should bear in mind dat not all offended are simple and forgiving as she is. 6 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by UgChris(m): 12:42pm On May 28, 2015 |
Well said! Some things are better left unsaid. babyosisi: 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 12:42pm On May 28, 2015 |
You do runz in Ibadan and got married in Calabar but chose to keep your Ibadan runz a secret? Is the distance between Ibadan & Calabar that much that you are certain your intended will not find out? We should treat people how we want to be treated, tell him so he knows what he is getting into with both eyes open. I'm a firm believer in sharing info on a need to know basis, your husband does not need to know all your friends' and family's secrets but he needs to know all of yours. If you are going to do the crime, best be prepared to do the time. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by DrGroove(f): 12:44pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:Wonder if ladies who suffer from oral diarrhoes will hear. talku talku. mtcheeew! 2 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by bukatyne(f): 12:44pm On May 28, 2015 |
LuvSwollenPussy: Do you think the outcome would have been same If it was Hilary that cheated? 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by hopeforcharles(m): 12:45pm On May 28, 2015 |
benedictac:Maybe, maybe not, but it's expedient you tell him especially those that can come to limelight anytime because if he founds out. You know the rest depending on the man. I have a trick i use on people, if I am in a place I don't want people to see me and suddenly I saw someone I know I will rush and greet that person to avoid surprises. Same applicable 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Idrismusty97(m): 12:47pm On May 28, 2015 |
Don't also tell him your last abortion shattered your uterus. 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by LuvSwollenPussy(m): 12:47pm On May 28, 2015 |
naijababe:You nailed it just right |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by LuvSwollenPussy(m): 12:48pm On May 28, 2015 |
Idrismusty97: Lolz 2 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Okeycima: 12:52pm On May 28, 2015 |
For those saying that the woman should not disclose her secret to the man.what i have to say to u is that is wrong to disclose all and is bad not to disclose all becos whatever u want to disclose always depend on the man in question and his behaviour towards those stuff.to state ur reasons for not disclosing it to him is that he haven't disclosed his past is wrong and u have to know that THE SANTITY OF ANY MARRIAGE REST ON THE WOMAN 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by nkem123(m): 12:53pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:outright rubbish! especially that number 3.u cheated on ur spouse, and concealed it only to pray to Godfor forgiveness,Is nothing bt a waste of time for ur forgiveness to be complete, u have to restitute by opening up. secondly, before entering a relationship fully ur past matters, u must as a matter of fact open up ur past to ur partner in other to be prepared for karma that will come calling.wether u like it or nt, ur past will come knocking.d better u open up d better, and well prepared for u both to surmount d challenge of d past when it surfaces.many relationship got broken due to things like this, d other person felt betrayed and fooled into a relationship they knew nothing abt their partner, and finally breakout. pls open up, d right partner will still stay with u no matter Hw terrible ur past is. 2 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 12:54pm On May 28, 2015 |
1stCitizen:I couldn't have said it better. 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by tivta(m): 12:56pm On May 28, 2015 |
There is nothing hidden under the sun, better open up before marriage otherwise be prepared for whatever happens. I love my self for ALWAYS been open,thankfully that's what my current girl shares in come on with me. I always make sure I know your past to avoid embarrassment, why? Cause have never done any thing so criminal enough to hide. Men, run away from women who hide things, they can kill... |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by AZeD1(m): 12:56pm On May 28, 2015 |
For all those who think people shouldn't come clean should people reveal their HIV/genotype status to their partners? If yes please state the reason. |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Captainswag225(m): 12:57pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:so what if he finds out from elsewhere? Wouldnt that hurt him more? 2 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by SisterCaro(m): 12:57pm On May 28, 2015 |
BABE3:lol okay if you say so |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 12:58pm On May 28, 2015 |
BABE3:I wonder o! 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by SisterCaro(m): 12:59pm On May 28, 2015 |
tivta:does your woman know all about your past? 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by digitsolution: 1:00pm On May 28, 2015 |
If you cannot forgive and forget it's best you don't probe her. The woman is full of secrets just like the floor bed of the ocean, she is deep and most are full of deceit.... What you don't know wouldn't hurt you so I suggest you let sleeping Dogs lie 1 Share
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Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by LuvSwollenPussy(m): 1:02pm On May 28, 2015 |
bukatyne:Hmm. I keep asking myself too. Only Bill can answer that o..only him knows himself. Hilary showed her virtue-worth especially in a place like the USA where such is uncommon and she got herself honor..kudos to her. 2 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 1:03pm On May 28, 2015 |
InZA, ronald4lif, Evina, Kinglekan Your thoughts. |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 1:04pm On May 28, 2015 |
bellong: Very very go advice. Naija women think say them get sense. Na so one won almost do me, we dey inside relationship were go lead to marriage ohh. Letter on the way I found out one way or the other say she dey cohabits during her schs days, and the stvpid girl dey tell me no sex before marriage dey form holy. She hid everything to dey extend I even confront her tell her say "do you have anything you are hiding from me" she say no she have never do anything. Cut story short, I leave her, she dey cry say her past is past, Guy, my advice be say study the girl you won marry, research her, dig inside her past life, so that you no go regret for life. Useless nigeria women everywhere. Na she weti this op dey talk. 2 Likes |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by ideykwum: 1:05pm On May 28, 2015 |
I don't agree with Number 3! Truth always finds a way to express itself! More so, women of these days have a seared conscience! They do not feel any emotions when they start cheating!! So, your theory is not correct! Once you go cheating, it's very difficult to go back! Don't cross the rubicon! babyosisi: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Mclick(m): 1:06pm On May 28, 2015 |
TooNoisy:thank you 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by abbey621(m): 1:07pm On May 28, 2015 |
Based on the write up I can conclude that the writer is either not married or in a very crappy marriage! Leading researchers have shown that the number one cause of divorce are secrets, some secrets are unraveled in a short span while others are discovered 5 to 20 years down the line, the longer the secrets the more devastating it becomes when the truth is finally revealed. For example: You cheated on your husband, 5 years ago and didn't tell him, since then you've had a child for him, he later discovered the truth somehow somewhere, not only have you betrayed his trust but you've made him question everything he had with you including the paternity of that child! We all humans and we make mistakes but the greatest mistake is to underestimate the value of trust in a relationship. 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Kollyman: 1:08pm On May 28, 2015 |
3 your infidelity .. This is a controversial one,I believe in faithfulness ,let me make that clear first of all.Women being emotional beings feel the guilt of infidelity more than men.It is wrong to cheat,I will not condone it and by Gods grace will never .However,if you happen to err as humans often do and are remorseful, repent and confess to your God and take that secret to your grave. Revealing it can be disastrous and will serve no purpose.Just go and sin no more .If you are a habitual cheat,of course you should seek divorce rather than living in deception.[/quote] Keeping this from your hubby is like seating on a keg of gun powder. If he gets to find out by himself most especially where you were once an Olosho (Hooker), your own don finish. 1 Like |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 1:10pm On May 28, 2015 |
Thank God I know better than swallowing everything I read or hear anywhere. Imagine the advice! 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Nobody: 1:11pm On May 28, 2015 |
I don't know what to say. Meanwhile I was here |
Re: Things Your Fiancé/ husband Is Better Off Not Knowing. by Oriafo123: 1:12pm On May 28, 2015 |
babyosisi:The main purpose to divulge d info shows hw much u TRUST each other. A relationship without TRUST is dead, it is better u end d relationship if u don't trust ur partner. Dis advice goes to both men and women. In other words op u probably have trust issues caused by insecurity as a result of past failed relationships 2 Likes |
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